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By *g99 OP   Couple
over a year ago

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Mrs dg has asked me to be more authoritive in the bed room, just wondered if anyone has any tips?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speak firmly when telling her to get up and make you a coffee

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By *hell and jWoman
over a year ago

Worksop

tell her what you want and if she not obey show her how hard you spank her mmmmm she will so lov it x x make her do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Make sure you talk about limits, and what she wants - does she want you to verbally control her (name calling, having her obey your requests)? to physically restrain her (tie her up, blindfold her) ? to smack/thrash her (ass smacking, flogging, slapping)?

Is she likely to try and push you and get bratty - discuss punishment if it is appropriate. will she be a willing sub and give control over or does she want you to earn it.

talk about it lots and find out what you are comfortable doing to her and what she is comfortable receiving.

There are so many facets to it you need to find what works for you - being 'dom' is such a broad term

If her curiosity has been piqued by the 50 Shades books - sign up to one of the fetish/bdsm websites and look into what D/s Play is REALLY about together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And remember that it is her that has the power - she is just letting you use it....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And remember that it is her that has the power - she is just letting you use it...."

Surely they don't top from the bottom, do they....?

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you know what I mean!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you know what I mean!!!!"

Allegedly Matt, allegedly....

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Say no more squire say no more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't broadcast on here that I am naturally sub (basically because the last thing I want is a load of wannabe doms trying to get me to be their sub! Just not going to happen!) but one thing I would say, as someone fairly experienced in D/S play, that it is very important to ensure that you build up slowly. The likelihood is that she will want to build up slowly with pain/power play. Use a safe word, one that is totally not what you would say in equal play. My favourite one that I've used in the past is banana. Its not what I would normally shout out during foreplay or sex so its a good one!

As Matt said, she is the one with all the power, she is handing it over to you. Enjoy! Dom/Sub play is very kinky and one of my favourite things to do sexually!

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By *g99 OP   Couple
over a year ago

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Thanks for the helpful tips guys Xxx

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham

Another good tip is to use the 'traffic light' method of dealing with boundaries.

Using the word 'green' means all is ok and the sub is still in their comfort zone. Calling 'amber' means it's ok to continue but boundaries are being pushed and the sub is close to their limit.

'Red' obviously means stop immediately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"tell her what you want and if she not obey show her how hard you spank her mmmmm she will so lov it x x make her do it "

My advice to the OP would be to listen to all the advice on this thread except this quote which is spectacularly failing to understand the dynamics of D/S.

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