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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We took a 3 year break. We have come back and I the male half does not feet it’s about us. We have had arguments regarding the site and the socials we have been to. It’s gone to the extent I even checked her phone and found something I didn’t like and she accused me of no trust.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

Yes. If its causing arguments then yes

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

If you’ve got any worries at all then I’d say you shouldn’t be here.

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By *jfrenchMan
over a year ago

Stockport

Yes. If you are on here as a couple then BOTH of you have to be not only 100% committed but also 100% comfortable with being on here.

If you're not that then walk away.

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By *aseMan
over a year ago

Gourock

Probably loads on here in the same situation

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By *oobaaMan
over a year ago

South Shields

If you are starting to check her phone then I would say the trust has been broken.

Most importantly though...talk to her about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you are having arguments and feeling like you have to check her phone then yes it is time to back away from here..... only be on here if you are BOTH comfortable with it.... xx

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Yes you are a couple so it should be about shared experiences. If one of you no longer feels it is for them or it is breeding resentment and discord within your relationship then you need to have a conversation to sort it out and make decisions about your future.

When we joined fab we set our boundaries. Some have moved, some have been discarded but the first boundary we set was that when one of us stays they want to stop swinging we both stop swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

checking the phones shows you have no trust , id say its time to talk to her and give up swinging x

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Yes, you should stop. This is meant to be fun, and not a problem for your relationship.

As the saying goes: When the fun stops, stop.

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids


"We took a 3 year break. We have come back and I the male half does not feet it’s about us. We have had arguments regarding the site and the socials we have been to. It’s gone to the extent I even checked her phone and found something I didn’t like and she accused me of no trust. "

Agree with the others totally.

Don't let this site come between you.

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By *ex-BombsCouple
over a year ago

Flitwick

It sounds as if the trust is already gone sadly, this has to be a joint enjoyed venture not just to please the other that’s never gonna end well, best of luck

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland

I wouldn’t say giving up would be the solution, there’s trust issues so I’d deal with them first.

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By *ebwizMan
over a year ago

Clevedon

After several years on here, ive done what i wanted to do. The wife stopped some time ago so i think for us its a natural progression to calling it a day.think she will be happier too with me not doing anything on here now. Stay for forums and club info but feel as im getting older to concentrate more on me and her going forward as a couple as thats whats important, so im not meeting anymore now. Never worth risking a relationship over.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'd say you need to take a break and sort the issues you have.

If there are any cracks in a relationship, swinging definitely isn't the best thing.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We took a 3 year break. We have come back and I the male half does not feet it’s about us. We have had arguments regarding the site and the socials we have been to. It’s gone to the extent I even checked her phone and found something I didn’t like and she accused me of no trust. "

What did you find that you didn't like OP?

When it comes to swinging if 1 partner isn't feeling it then both should stop. Your relationship is by far the most important thing.

KJ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes 100%. If it’s causing issues that you can’t talk through it’s time to step away and maybe even reevaluate your relationship and what you both want from it. Honest discussion should be ongoing no matter how difficult the conversation is

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Yes if you feel the need to check her phone then op you definitely should not be here

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

If it's effecting the relationship being here having trust issues seems like more concentration needs to be put on the relationship so both understand your reasoning for being here so talk about everything sensibly

Good luck

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

If my husband and I were having issues like that we would definitely take a break from the site or at the very minimum have a long chat about what's causing the arguments & leading to distrust

Your relationship is far more important than a few hours of fun

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I think you shouldn't need to be asking us. Stop. Talk.

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By *onlywishiMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Think you need a good sit down and reassess why your here and if it’s what you both still want just take your time and set your boundaries again if your happy to continue but your relationship should always come first and you’ll have lots of time in the future to come back should you change your mind

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By *rincess PhoenixWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

You need to have a long discussion about if both of you want to continue. Re-assess your boundaries

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

op, what do you think of all the helpful posts here. TIA.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the trust as gone..you are in trouble.. your relationship will need work to rebuild..a swinging site is probably not the right place for you both at this time.

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North


"We took a 3 year break. We have come back and I the male half does not feet it’s about us. We have had arguments regarding the site and the socials we have been to. It’s gone to the extent I even checked her phone and found something I didn’t like and she accused me of no trust. "

I think you know the answer don’t you.

“When the fun stops, stop”

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By *ap d agde coupleCouple
over a year ago

Broadstairs

Absolutely stop in our opinion

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By *ophie199Couple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I think you shouldn't need to be asking us. Stop. Talk. "

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We took a 3 year break. We have come back and I the male half does not feet it’s about us. We have had arguments regarding the site and the socials we have been to. It’s gone to the extent I even checked her phone and found something I didn’t like and she accused me of no trust. "

Shes right! You checked her phone!

You dont need to know the general consensus to this question, its caused arguments, a lack of communication and you broke her trust. Stop now, talk talk and talk and steer clear of swinging either for a very ling toime together or for good. Its not for you both x

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