FabSwingers.com forum: Got a message....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

....earlier from a single lady on a couples profile saying how she liked the sound of my profile and wanted to have a chat and swap some pics. I had a look at her profile after reading the message and liked the sound of hers too so i message her back saying basically that yeah i liked her profile and would like to have a wee chat and attached a face pic. I signed out and came back to check my mail a while later and noticed that she has now blocked me! Do people just do that on here? I'd have though the polite thing to do would be to send a message back saying "sorry your not my type" or something along those lines especially when she made the first contact. Has anyone else had anything like this? Rant Over!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"....single lady on a couples profile"

contradiction in terms?

Some use block if you're not their type to make sure you don't contact again, or that when they search, they don't contact you. It saves them time and in some cases re-inventing the wheel and going through it all again in six months time. Right or wrong... it's questionable, but it does save time.

Onwards and upwards!

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Cheers for the advice there, i would have just thought a simple no thanks or something would have sufficed. As you say though onwards and upwards

Just needed a wee rant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not ANOTHER one of these posts. It's getting boring. She didn't fancy you, get over it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ps yeah she mentioned that she was now single but just carried on using the couples profile?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not ANOTHER one of these posts. It's getting boring. She didn't fancy you, get over it."

I was simply asking advice, I don't care if she fancied me or not, just asking if anyone else had the same problem. Cheers for your input though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single lady on a couples profile ?

If her old man saw the exchange if messages maybe he blocked you ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Single lady on a couples profile ?

If her old man saw the exchange if messages maybe he blocked you ?

Good point, she did say she wasn't with him anymore but you never know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cheers for the advice there, i would have just thought a simple no thanks or something would have sufficed. As you say though onwards and upwards

Just needed a wee rant

and it's not even thursday yet

lol

Good luck on your searches

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You might have found that she carpet bombed a few people at same time to satisfy her needs there and then. By the time you signed in she was done, and you're just another on the list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Didn't see the last message - she could have said that she was now single though ? Doesn't measn she is !

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Cheers for the advice there, i would have just thought a simple no thanks or something would have sufficed. As you say though onwards and upwards

Just needed a wee rant

and it's not even thursday yet

lol

Good luck on your searches

Wolf

It must be those Monday blues!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You might have found that she carpet bombed a few people at same time to satisfy her needs there and then. By the time you signed in she was done, and you're just another on the list. "

Yeah thats true also, Just another brick in the wall

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By *peedypeteMan
over a year ago

derby

There are some lovely honest and polite people on here, there are also a lot more ignorant rude and timewasting folks. The secret is finding the good ones and thats what tends to make the hunt worthwhile.

I have met lots of friends over the years, and its a case what u want from it. if you are a single woman you will still get meets however you treat folks, but single men very different as this post originator has unfortunately found.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There are some lovely honest and polite people on here, there are also a lot more ignorant rude and timewasting folks. The secret is finding the good ones and thats what tends to make the hunt worthwhile.

Yeah it's a shame, but it's all water under the bridge eh. Rejection is just part of life and if you dwell on it then your gonna get nowhere!

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By *efreeMan
over a year ago

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Don't worry about it mate, you need to develop a thick skin to get anywhere on here, just be glad you got a message at all and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's still crap though. I know people are entitled to use the site how they see fit... And post rude messages on forums... But the rudeness of some people is really getting quite old.

Op, glad you're taking it well. You sound a cheerful chappy so you'll be fine. Ignore the ignorant people. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah it's a shame, but it's all water under the bridge eh. Rejection is just part of life and if you dwell on it then your gonna get nowhere!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"....earlier from a single lady on a couples profile saying how she liked the sound of my profile and wanted to have a chat and swap some pics. I had a look at her profile after reading the message and liked the sound of hers too so i message her back saying basically that yeah i liked her profile and would like to have a wee chat and attached a face pic. I signed out and came back to check my mail a while later and noticed that she has now blocked me! Do people just do that on here? I'd have though the polite thing to do would be to send a message back saying "sorry your not my type" or something along those lines especially when she made the first contact. Has anyone else had anything like this? Rant Over!!"

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I started chatting to this lady, who wanted to meet, so agreed to travel to barnsley and was going to pay for the hotel as well as she can not accomodate and does not want to travel, she then let me down as she had to babysit!!!

A couple of days later, i emailed her to ask if she wanted to meet, she said that she had something in place , fair enough, so arranged to go to isis with another couple, then she emailed me to say that her meet fell through and wanted me to go meet her, i politely declined giving reasons that i had arranged something else so it would not be fair to let them down, she replied saying no worries, a few minutes later i was blocked!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Cheers for all the positiveness folks

much appreciated, i'm feeling the love! Lol

I'm quite a thick skinned person anyhoo and just fancied a rant lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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Yeah man thats pretty crap, especially if you agreed to travel there to meet her! I suppose there will always be people who are on here willing to bullshit other folks but what is it they say about karma? Lol

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By *obletonMan
over a year ago

A Home Among The Woodland Creatures

My best blocking story happened a few years ago.

I Contacted a single woman who's profile seemed to show we had loads in common - she replied back and agreed with my summation but pointed out that she had a rather full roster of playmates and was not looking to meet anyone new for the time being, but that I was welcome to drop her a line every month or so in case things changed.

So we continued to exchange the occasional message over the next few months, until one day with impeccable timing I sent her a message at the exact same instant that she posted a rather angry status message complaining about folks not bothering to read her profile etc - only to find myself blocked.

On reflection, putting "Its That Time Of The Month Again!" as the title of my message was probably not the smartest idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

joined a few weeks ago n not had no look at all not even a cha? need some help and advice please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not ANOTHER one of these posts. It's getting boring. She didn't fancy you, get over it."

Ehhh......... how come when a woman comes on here moaning about something, it's ok and she gets messages of sympathy and support.

But when a guy does it.............????

The forums are supposed to be about sharing and discussing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens all the time on here . Just dont let it get to you , to be honest she was a stranger so its not like your loosing much there . Some folk do it to save time or maybe her partner has seen your profile and they decied you not for them or she got cold feet or it is in fact a man who knows . As for woman posting and getting sympathy ....I agree to a degree . You see profiles along the lines of slut needed hard fuck or something like that then complain when they get a million messages . to be honest if your a woman on here you could have fuck all on your profile and still be getting a million messages a day . Its just the way it is on here , the woman can afford to their time be picky etc etc and the guys all seem to be willing to slag each other off or make themselves look good in the hope that they might get a sniff of something kind of sad in a way . Anyway good luck and dont let it get to you .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont worry guys, we are all in the same boat on here. Every time I send a polite message nine times out of ten it gets deleted, and then I get blocked! Theres some very ignorant people on here! But theres also some nice ones to that ive made friends with!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she knows or recognised you

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By *he-Hosiery-GentMan
over a year ago

Older Hot Bearded Guy

"Dont worry guys, we are all in the same boat on here. Every time I send a polite message nine times out of ten it gets deleted, and then I get blocked! Theres some very ignorant people on here! But theres also some nice ones to that ive made friends with! "

..it's a case as always, of separating the wheat from the chaffe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not ANOTHER one of these posts. It's getting boring. She didn't fancy you, get over it.

Ehhh......... how come when a woman comes on here moaning about something, it's ok and she gets messages of sympathy and support.

But when a guy does it.............????

The forums are supposed to be about sharing and discussing.

maybe because so many guys post moaning threads about not getting their dicks wet every day that some people finally decide to say something?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys are ten a penny on here so the girls can be as fussy or bitchy as they want because right behind you is another guy who also wants her.

It's a bit shallow but this is a swingers site and you would want to pick the good looking ones to bring down the numbers, then see of their personality matches their looks.

Simples.

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

"Guys are ten a penny on here so the girls can be as fussy or bitchy as they want because right behind you is another guy who also wants her.

It's a bit shallow but this is a swingers site and you would want to pick the good looking ones to bring down the numbers, then see of their personality matches their looks.

Simples.

Thank goodness the reality is not quite as simple as that - a lot of couples/ women actually look for a bit of personality first as there is more to attraction than jsut looks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Guys are ten a penny on here so the girls can be as fussy or bitchy as they want because right behind you is another guy who also wants her.

It's a bit shallow but this is a swingers site and you would want to pick the good looking ones to bring down the numbers, then see of their personality matches their looks.

Simples.

Thank goodness the reality is not quite as simple as that - a lot of couples/ women actually look for a bit of personality first as there is more to attraction than jsut looks "

I'm sorry you were saying something about reality?

Read this thread, eat your words, lmfao.

http://m.fabswingers.com/forum/lounge/122179

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

link doesn't seem to work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not ANOTHER one of these posts. It's getting boring. She didn't fancy you, get over it."

It doesnt matter does she fancy him or not, being polite cost nothing, specially when you get a profile that says so many rules and demands and they just cant make them self to reply, they expect a lot but not even trying to give anything back....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"link doesn't seem to work "

It's a thread in the lounge forum called "looks or personality"

A lot say they go for both but admit they go for looks first. Which makes sense when there are so many guys on here.

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

"link doesn't seem to work

It's a thread in the lounge forum called "looks or personality"

A lot say they go for both but admit they go for looks first. Which makes sense when there are so many guys on here."

missed that one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had the same. A woman on couples profile added me and was commenting on my face pic and said she liked it, (which I thought was strange) after a few messages from her, I accepted the request. A few days later, she had deleted my mails and also deleted me.

Maybe it's actually a guy on a couples profile and just a pic collector

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had the same. A woman on couples profile added me and was commenting on my face pic and said she liked it, (which I thought was strange) after a few messages from her, I accepted the request. A few days later, she had deleted my mails and also deleted me.

Maybe it's actually a guy on a couples profile and just a pic collector"

What is wrong with picture collectors? All they have to do is google "porn" or "sex" click on images and boom one million dirty pics for them to look at without wasting people's time. Silly feckers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Happens all the time on here . Just dont let it get to you , to be honest she was a stranger so its not like your loosing much there . Some folk do it to save time or maybe her partner has seen your profile and they decied you not for them or she got cold feet or it is in fact a man who knows . As for woman posting and getting sympathy ....I agree to a degree . You see profiles along the lines of slut needed hard fuck or something like that then complain when they get a million messages . to be honest if your a woman on here you could have fuck all on your profile and still be getting a million messages a day . Its just the way it is on here , the woman can afford to their time be picky etc etc and the guys all seem to be willing to slag each other off or make themselves look good in the hope that they might get a sniff of something kind of sad in a way . Anyway good luck and dont let it get to you .

What he said!

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