FabSwingers.com forum: Advice

By *avrick180 OP Man
over a year ago

Pontypool

Just looking for a bit of advice il been talking to a old friend and me and her are thinking of making a go of things do I tell her I'm on here or do I just say something when we chatting to try and find out if she's into swinging aswell

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By *entleman JackMan
over a year ago

Loughborough

Why not hide your profile for a while, and see how it goes with your new friend!

If it doesnt work out then you can restore your profile at that time........

Dont freak her out before your love affair has even got off the ground!

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By *avrick180 OP Man
over a year ago

Pontypool

OK cheers mate was going to drop a hint to her to see if she's into it aswell

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"Just looking for a bit of advice il been talking to a old friend and me and her are thinking of making a go of things do I tell her I'm on here or do I just say something when we chatting to try and find out if she's into swinging aswell "

Not sure how active you have been here but I would suggest starting off with transparency.

Now if you have only logged on here to chat etc then don't see why you should mention upfront but if you have been active then you should tell her early on.

If you think your lifestyle choices can affect her decision to make a go of things with you then don't be selfish and tell her.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

I’d hide it whilst your still single, but if you plan to get into a relationship with someone you should tell them.

No point in dragging it out if it’s non negotiable to you.

If she wants too, then great. If she doesn’t- well then you’ve got to know what you want more IMO.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

"I’d hide it whilst your still single, but if you plan to get into a relationship with someone you should tell them.

No point in dragging it out if it’s non negotiable to you.

If she wants too, then great. If she doesn’t- well then you’ve got to know what you want more IMO. "

And it might change her interest in you if she knows the truth too. Which then it’s only fair she knows x

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Always be honest about who you are , what you enjoy and what you want in life.

Tell her the truth if she's interested, she's interested. If she's not, she's not. If you're prepared to stop If it's not for her, let her know. If you are not, also tell her. If it ends there it ends. If it goes on, great.

Relationships only work when your 100% honest with each other.

We are, have been together nearly 26 years and happily enjoying the lifestyle for 25 of them.

Good luck.

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

I'd personally tell fer sooner rather than later

You've already got an established friendship so feelings could develop pretty quick making it harder to break up if you drop the fab bombshell a year down the line and she's not into it

Before you say anything think about if your happy to walk away from the fablifestyle if she's not into it

If you are happy days if your not you've got your answer already, another negative of waiting to tell her about fab is, she may suspect you've been seeing other people during your time together

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

If your wanting to continue to swing or want swinging as part of a future relationship then yes a somepoint soon. Especially if you have a fairly established friendship I think she'd be hurt to find out you've been keeping this from her moving things forward (it's a bit different from a first date with a stranger). Just tell her about it and be open and honest about it. Answer any of her questions and see what she says. It may be a red line, it maybe something to agree someone boundaries over or agree cessation (if your ok with stopping) or it maybe something she is quite open to. Either way you need to be honest because she is also a freind and honesty is a vital cornerstone of a relationship (and vital if you do end up swinging together). Even if it is a no I'm sure you will be valued and respected for your honesty and openness on the matter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are serious about her then delete your profile,and if it all goes well and later you can mention a website you used to be on before you met,and maybe set up a couple account,anyway good luck with the new relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't tell her as this is not everyones cup f tea, at the start anyway.

As someone else said, if you are "serious" and don't intend to take the piss, delete and forget this place until both of you want this or not.

To many cheats on this and other dating sites, not referring to you.

Good luck and I hoep you get good sex on top as good sex is usally a result of getting on

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By *andy IanMan
over a year ago

cheshire/Preston

Find out if she is interested in swinging first. Don’t tell her to much to soon

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Find out if she is interested in swinging first. Don’t tell her to much to soon"

Sounds a bit manipulatey that does. Why not tell her and let her make an informed decision? It ain't like he's saying he'll leave this all behind, he wants to know if she would be willing to join.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Your best bet is to be honest and upfront. However you must be aware that revealing yourself as a swinger might make her run to the hills. It's a choice only you can make, but if you plan to continue to swing then you should broach the subject sooner rather than later.

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