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By *squid OP   Man
over a year ago

Hertford

I'm interested in going to a local swingers club for the first time soon.

I've read all the reports on local clubs to me and so I'd like to go to either Vanilla Alternative or Our Place 4fun.

I'm not going expecting anything to happen, but happy to go with the flow. However, I think the experience would be a lot more fun if I go with a woman.

Are there any ladies out there that would like to to be accompanied by a sane, decent, respectful guy that is interested in seeing what is out there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm interested in going to a local swingers club for the first time soon.

I've read all the reports on local clubs to me and so I'd like to go to either Vanilla Alternative or Our Place 4fun.

I'm not going expecting anything to happen, but happy to go with the flow. However, I think the experience would be a lot more fun if I go with a woman.

Are there any ladies out there that would like to to be accompanied by a sane, decent, respectful guy that is interested in seeing what is out there?

"

Can't see a women who your not in a replationship with (i.e. your partner) or at the very least good friends with (with / without benefits) taking you up on this tbh.

If your a single male then the best thing is to just put on your big boy pants and go as a single male.

Good luck though buddy

KJ

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By *squid OP   Man
over a year ago

Hertford

Surely the whple point is to take mu big boy pants off!

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

It's going to be difficult OP for you find someone to go to a club with having a 4 week old profile .You may have more success by going to some of the swinger socials and meeting people there who are regular club goers and ask to go with them having made their acquaintance.

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

Just go by yourself OP. X

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

OP, I'm an old cynic; is this just to get in cheaper?

Whether you go alone or accompanied, I'm sure you'll have an amazing time - good luck.

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

Go on your own as not may ladies will take you not knowing you

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford


"OP, I'm an old cynic; is this just to get in cheaper?

Whether you go alone or accompanied, I'm sure you'll have an amazing time - good luck."

We looked at that at the VA. Char has a "friend" and we wondered if he could take my place as the male half of a couple, but they take ID and although Char would be one half of a couple on her own, her friend would still be charged as a single guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm interested in going to a local swingers club for the first time soon.

I've read all the reports on local clubs to me and so I'd like to go to either Vanilla Alternative or Our Place 4fun.

I'm not going expecting anything to happen, but happy to go with the flow. However, I think the experience would be a lot more fun if I go with a woman.

Are there any ladies out there that would like to to be accompanied by a sane, decent, respectful guy that is interested in seeing what is out there?

"

After reading your bio you don't come across as lacking the confidence to go anywhere alone, and certainly not afraid to push your envelope. Your request seems a puzzle. I am sure that between being a pilot and having your own business and travelling you have plenty to make introducing yourself interesting. For the sake of compassion I would drop the bit about having an alcoholic wife being the reason you are here though, along with the preference for a red head with freckles. Perhaps the wrong site for you on this one.

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By *edantic SheilaWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"I'm interested in going to a local swingers club for the first time soon.

I've read all the reports on local clubs to me and so I'd like to go to either Vanilla Alternative or Our Place 4fun.

I'm not going expecting anything to happen, but happy to go with the flow. However, I think the experience would be a lot more fun if I go with a woman.

Are there any ladies out there that would like to to be accompanied by a sane, decent, respectful guy that is interested in seeing what is out there?

After reading your bio you don't come across as lacking the confidence to go anywhere alone, and certainly not afraid to push your envelope. Your request seems a puzzle. I am sure that between being a pilot and having your own business and travelling you have plenty to make introducing yourself interesting. For the sake of compassion I would drop the bit about having an alcoholic wife being the reason you are here though, along with the preference for a red head with freckles. Perhaps the wrong site for you on this one.

"
Agreed

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"I'm interested in going to a local swingers club for the first time soon.

I've read all the reports on local clubs to me and so I'd like to go to either Vanilla Alternative or Our Place 4fun.

I'm not going expecting anything to happen, but happy to go with the flow. However, I think the experience would be a lot more fun if I go with a woman.

Are there any ladies out there that would like to to be accompanied by a sane, decent, respectful guy that is interested in seeing what is out there?

"

Honestly mate, the clubs aren't 'all that'. While I agree you will get better noticed in the company of a female, and people will want to get to know you because you are, it won't work unless the two of you are friends. Choose a club which won't sting you for a membership fee on your first visit, and give it an hour. If it's not working for you, at least you gave it a go, and there's always a pub on the way home. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just go on your own, I only meet in clubs now, gave up meeting here years ago. Most women would need to get to know someone well to accompany a guy to a club, finding someone willing to take the chance on a stranger when they can just go on their own are slim.

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By *aseMan
over a year ago

Gourock

Grow a set

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Hey mate.

Clubs are a great concept for meeting like minded people. The VA is a very friendly club that will have some great nights that will allow you in as a single male.

The hardest part is walking through the door and the rest will come easy enough if you are polite and able to hold a conversation.

There is nothing wrong with going it alone as it will quite challenging to find a partner at this time.

Good luck and go for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Beat advice I can give is just go to the club make friends there and go with “her” next time

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

Definitely go solo, I can't imagine anything more awkward than spending an evening at a club with a guy id never met before, plus it will be difficult to engage with other singles of couples once you are in there as you have no shared background

Say one of you wants to stay at the bar the other wants to be a voyeur, or say one of you takes a liking to someone and wants to go off and chat

Buddying up to go to a club is a really bad idea unless you already know each other, plus if I can attend a club solo so can you

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I took a newbie to a club before and I wouldn't do it again.

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By *ackandtheunicornCouple
over a year ago

liverpool

Most decent clubs have some kind of basic verification systems in place to stop people turning up as fake couples.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Most decent clubs have some kind of basic verification systems in place to stop people turning up as fake couples."

How could clubs check ? Not everyone is on Fab and some genuine couples don't live together

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By *anilla switchWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire


"I'm interested in going to a local swingers club for the first time soon.

I've read all the reports on local clubs to me and so I'd like to go to either Vanilla Alternative or Our Place 4fun.

I'm not going expecting anything to happen, but happy to go with the flow. However, I think the experience would be a lot more fun if I go with a woman.

Are there any ladies out there that would like to to be accompanied by a sane, decent, respectful guy that is interested in seeing what is out there?

After reading your bio you don't come across as lacking the confidence to go anywhere alone, and certainly not afraid to push your envelope. Your request seems a puzzle. I am sure that between being a pilot and having your own business and travelling you have plenty to make introducing yourself interesting. For the sake of compassion I would drop the bit about having an alcoholic wife being the reason you are here though, along with the preference for a red head with freckles. Perhaps the wrong site for you on this one.

"

Have you tried ‘plenty of fish naughty’? You might be more successful on there.

Lots of ladies who would jump at the chance of a pilot, own plane, own business. From my experience, it dosen't really matter what you own/pocess on Fab. People are more interested In personality.

I have jack shit, a bit of confidence and siill go to clubs on my own. Managed to make friends along the way too

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By *aked2sumCouple
over a year ago

Coast

As anyone got a winning lottery ticket I can have ?

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By *anilla switchWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire


"As anyone got a winning lottery ticket I can have ? "

Oh yes, here have mine!

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Have mine...from last week

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm interested in going to a local swingers club for the first time soon.

I've read all the reports on local clubs to me and so I'd like to go to either Vanilla Alternative or Our Place 4fun.

I'm not going expecting anything to happen, but happy to go with the flow. However, I think the experience would be a lot more fun if I go with a woman.

Are there any ladies out there that would like to to be accompanied by a sane, decent, respectful guy that is interested in seeing what is out there?

"

You sound like you’d make a good sugar daddy tbh

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By *ud and BryanCouple
over a year ago

Boston, Lincolnshire

Go on your own.

You will find it much more fun than going with someone you don't really know, you're more likely to score, you'll make new friends, and generally have a great night.

Go with a stranger and you'll be shunned/ignored by others, stressed about when/if you'll be leaving together/whether people will guess you're not a real couple etc.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith


"Go on your own.

You will find it much more fun than going with someone you don't really know, you're more likely to score, you'll make new friends, and generally have a great night.

Go with a stranger and you'll be shunned/ignored by others, stressed about when/if you'll be leaving together/whether people will guess you're not a real couple etc."

I'll be honest with you here; I've been to Chams, No.3, and Club f as 'a couple' with female play partners, and it's quite depressing seeing the difference of reception from other club goers, to when I've been as a solo guy. As a couple you get this amazing experience where people approach you, and speak to you first lol, as opposed to the 'Moses parting the waves' phenomenon I, the same person, but on my own, can display

But I've never been to the Attic....

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock


"Most decent clubs have some kind of basic verification systems in place to stop people turning up as fake couples.

How could clubs check ? Not everyone is on Fab and some genuine couples don't live together"

I've heard some keep records of members coming with new guests, I guess if a male or female member was attending with different people reguarly they could question it but like you say how would they prove it

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex


"Most decent clubs have some kind of basic verification systems in place to stop people turning up as fake couples."
What is a fake couple? Instead of setting up systems to sniff them out, it would be easier to find out and resolve the reason why they think their systems are being sidestepped

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