FabSwingers.com forum: Blocking after meet

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know people react differently after first meet but never understand those who seem to enjoy the meet but then block. Guess must be their way of saying no repeats but it's still annoying.

Though slightly better than being ghosted after a meet. Though does make you wonder why you arranged the meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will meet allsorts on here, both good and bad. If you enjoyed the meet, excellent and try to remember the good bits. Just try not to let it get you down as there are a lot of timewasters on here.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Think it depends on the meet. We have never blocked straight after a meet but we have blocked people we have met but it is normally because they have annoyed us or done something that we subsequently disapprove of.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

perfectly normal and if thats how they do thing then its correct ..

nobody owes anybody anything ....

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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago

Gleam Street

You arrange the meet not knowing whats going to happen on it... personally, I just say no ta to future encounters if Im not feeling it after said meet, but folk probably just block to avoid awkwards convo's (nah, you were rubbish) or possible abuse...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Appreciate people don't owe anyone anything but still find it strange behavior but little can do about it

Try to choose better next time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would never block after a meet I think that so wrong.. but each to ther own

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By *oobyHotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Thurrock

To be honest I wish I'd blocked a few people straight after the meets

I've always made it clear most of my meets are one offs, I say it before a meet and I say it again during the meet

I find people here can be very clingy once you've met them like you owe them a second meet, god help you if you advertise a meet without asking them first if they'd like a second session..

Even if it's been a good meet sometime you just know there won't be a round 2 so to save things like the scenarios above blocking straight after the meet seems like a good idea

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By *eeps and TattiesCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

We have blocked a couple of people after meets etc in the past. Main reason would be the meet didn’t go well, and we felt that blocking the people involved would stop any negativity.

One example would be someone showing up having taken drugs before arriving, which to me is a big no no, ended up asking them to leave after a few minutes. I don’t need them coming back to us and the easiest way is to block.

We have had people say to us in the past that jealousy or stalkish behaviour has led them to block people as they have questioned why they are meeting certain other people - it’s none of anyone’s business who or why.

Normal Friendly meets we wouldn’t block but we wouldn’t always meet them again.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

Our first meetings are alwayus social only so if things don't go well then we haven't lost anything. We would certainly block anyone we felt had lied to us though.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"We would never block after a meet I think that so wrong.. but each to ther own "

You say that but sometimes things just don't work out. For example the male of a couple once just got up and walked out in the middle of a meet because despite us making plain it was just a social meet he kept inviting us back to their house to play and when we firmly said no he just got up and left.

On another occasion we had a social where the guy talked constantly and obnoxously about himself and how much he avoided doing any work whilst "sticking one to management". His wife never said a word even when we tried to engage with her.

Needless to say we never met either of these couples again and both were put on our block list.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only had one meet via this site - never blocked but can see your point op.

There are many on here that may not be telling the whole truth and the blocking them would be spot on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is rude and unnecessary behaviour.

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By *hocCock1Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"It is rude and unnecessary behaviour. "

Definitely

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
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over a year ago

Central

Fabs block is fairly unique and used by each of us uniquely. We all want different things too and it's reasonable and practical to have no further contact, once 1 side doesn't want it.

Take each contact and meet as it comes, as this is a no strings environment. Assess your own needs and strategy if you find this potentially wrong for you.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

My first meet blocked me on here years ago.

Years later, he sent me a message apologising and asking to meet again.

I accepted his apology, but told him I wouldn't meet again.

Seems to be common on fab sadly op.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is rude and unnecessary behaviour. "

its really not ... people block for all sorts of reasons nobody does it ''just'' to be rude ... its a fab tool to be used its there for a reason ... and it works ... so saying its rude and unnecessary behaviour without knowing why ermmm well guess thats rude to maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it funny that couples, for example, are looking to try anything, with anyone,a aged 18- 99, but cannot type words to the effect of, thanks... but no thanks, or, we've met someone we like etc..

An attractive young couple contacted us, they were younger than we had in mind (young doesn't appeal to me, i prefer older.more relaxed and more interesting)

But too polite to not interact, if only breifly, found we were blocked.

I think I would only block someone if they wouldn't take a polite hint, or they had written an opinion on a forum that I didn't agree with.

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