FabSwingers.com forum: Is my profile that bad?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So been on here roughly 3 years and had no joy at all. When I message I am polite and respectful and yet I hardly get replies and little if no interest in my profile. If anyone can advise/critique( don't be a dick) that would be great. Thank you.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

Your bio doesn’t say anything about you really. It’s functional but there’s nothing to really draw you in. You also can’t accommodate, which without an explanation as to why often makes people think you’re married.

Your pictures are pretty much solely cock focused, I’d add some in of other parts of your body and try create more of a balance.

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

In brief.. your photos are mainly focused on your briefs or cock.

It's dull and unnecessary. One dick pic is all you need. Try some more teasing poses, clothed with a hint of what is hidden.

The fact you can't accommodate can make people wonder if you are attached and therefore put people off.

The drugs reference will not appeal to everyone.

Your profile doesn't say much about why people should chose you over the other 50 messages they have received, you need to make the text more interesting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I tried the tell us about yourself part and it proved to be clunky and less effective than it currently is.....can't seem to find the happy medium. Thank you for your feedback. ??

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By *willfindyouWoman
over a year ago

Not looking to meet new peeps.

420 would = no

Cant accom = married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes it is that bad

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Have revised profile to be more palatable. Thanks for feed back.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

It looks ok now, the username would put me off, but that's just me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"420 would = no

Cant accom = married

so now hes taken it down ?? no one will have that choice if they want to meet a drug user or not ? this is why im so againts profile advice all it does is help them hide the real them ...

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

Women won’t message you to ask you questions. They’ll just move onto the next profile thats more inviting. There are so many men on here you really do have to have an excellent, witty, charming, funny, sexy profile to do well.

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By *ittle-Miss-Cunty-1Woman
over a year ago

Your basement, Cuntsville

"420 would = no

Cant accom = married

Can't accom could be because he has kids at home, lives with friends, work related etc, does not necessarily mean he is married.

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By *entakuruMan
over a year ago

Exeter

"Women won’t message you to ask you questions. They’ll just move onto the next profile thats more inviting. There are so many men on here you really do have to have an excellent, witty, charming, funny, sexy profile to do well. "

Saying that, I occasionally click through to the profiles of men who have been verified by women or couples I'm interested in - checking out the competition, so to speak. Actually the vast majority of them are fairly concise - text is minimal, doesn't try too hard to sell the person. Pictures are often nothing but genital pics or the odd close-up of a tattoo or whatever. Yet these people still get meets and veris. So I assume their opening messages must be dynamite!

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By *hropsGuy69Man
over a year ago

telford

Veri’s speak a thousand words …

Get yourself to clubs and mingle and make friends and your profile veris will grow … that would be my advise ..

The ref to 420 puts me off on female profiles so maybe would put fems off too ….

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

Personally I think you need to network and socialise through the FAB forums, chat rooms. Head to social events and clubs.

Put yourselves out in the swinging community.

FAB isn't that always easy to get direct meets from messages. Better to use it as a resource and networking platform first and foremost.

Put the effort in. You will get noticed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe lose the leather briefs?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe lose the leather briefs?! "

I agree with this. They don't do you any justice.

Also, the statement "Plus Size Welcome" maybe revise it slightly.

Seems like a good profile though

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By *eresa_cdslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Bodmin

Lack of experience shines through most of these profiles and why so many block messages from "single" men.

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By *ad_Bod_ToddMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire

I'm loathe to keep doing this. I shouldn't really be standing in my Tesco uniform handing out vouchers for Asda!

I'm gonna have to work out how to monetise my good nature!

OP:

1. State what you're looking for.

2. State what you can offer.

3. Clearly state why you are not able to accommodate. "I live with family" is NOT specific enough. People will think "Yeah, his wife and kids!" It might be something like 'temporarily living with my parents following a relationship breakup' or 'I'm electronically tagged'. Whatever it is, you need to explain why, so that people don't think of the (wrong) reason themselves.

IMHO:

That's a LOT of private photos. Within that lot there must be one or two that are a little different? Your current public ones are fairly similar.

Keep the ass photo, ditch the 'speedos' one and definitely get rid of that one with the towel over it. I keep thinking that under the towel you've stuck your winky in a vacuum cleaner!

Stick a joke in your profile. Just Google one if you don't know any. I've known that work for some people.

Hope this helps?

Very best wishes to you OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe lose the leather briefs?! "

This

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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago

Stoke area

A big improvement from the original profile. Like the new dressed photos, but i do think you could lose some more of the dick pics.

Over time you can always add some other photos and more detail to your text, but it looks better and reads better than your original profile.

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