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By *herryblossom_BJ OP   Woman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

In light what's going on in the news about women's safety. How do women feel about meeting strangers online?

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By *tarkersandcrutchCouple
over a year ago

TELFORD

I'd meet in public first. I'm a good judge of character but you can't be too careful.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Even before what's recently happened I'd never have met anyone from the net anywhere but in a club

Nothing has changed, the same safety concerns I had before still apply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so glad me an K only play together as I don't drink I'm 100% aware and focused on her safety.

We recently meet a single guy together at there place but we had played once pre covid in a club and kept in touch since so a lot of trust, rapport has been built up.

Even in clubs you need to have your wits about you as some guys don't listen to no, stop the first time its said and a forceful no back off is needed. Sadly a few also try to remove condoms when the woman isn't looking, I've caught a guy taking the condom off before trying to enter another woman in the club bare and pulled him on it.

Even if it was something we were into (we are not) there's no way I would agree to K going to a guy off fans house or hotel room its just way to dangerous sadly.

The horrors stories from single women friends are just to numerous , from guys not been able to get it up become angry, agressive, guys not allowing the lady to leave and demanding more, no stopping when they are been to rough and causing physical damage to the lady through to incidents where the lady fought their way out to an exit.

I'm also aware that going home on a one night stand / hook up will have just as much chance as it going wrong as it would on a swinging meet.

Also just my opinion but I do think fab is (especially since covid) attracting many guys with poor social skills, issues and beliefs common in the incel movement, who haven't been able to meet women through normal life means and see fab as a meat market of free prostitutes, they have zero respect for the women and if someone does arrange a quick meet with someone like this then it has a high chance of going wrong.

KJ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My views haven't changed. I'm not sure why they would? There have always been dodgy people about. I've always only ever met someone when I feel I've got to know them enough to feel comfortable. This can take months of chatting. I only meet in hotels and hubby always has contact with the guy and knows where I am.

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

North West

Social in public first. After that someone knows where I am and his car reg

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)


"

I'm so glad me an K only play together as I don't drink I'm 100% aware and focused on her safety.

We recently meet a single guy together at there place but we had played once pre covid in a club and kept in touch since so a lot of trust, rapport has been built up.

Even in clubs you need to have your wits about you as some guys don't listen to no, stop the first time its said and a forceful no back off is needed. Sadly a few also try to remove condoms when the woman isn't looking, I've caught a guy taking the condom off before trying to enter another woman in the club bare and pulled him on it.

Even if it was something we were into (we are not) there's no way I would agree to K going to a guy off fans house or hotel room its just way to dangerous sadly.

The horrors stories from single women friends are just to numerous , from guys not been able to get it up become angry, agressive, guys not allowing the lady to leave and demanding more, no stopping when they are been to rough and causing physical damage to the lady through to incidents where the lady fought their way out to an exit.

I'm also aware that going home on a one night stand / hook up will have just as much chance as it going wrong as it would on a swinging meet.

Also just my opinion but I do think fab is (especially since covid) attracting many guys with poor social skills, issues and beliefs common in the incel movement, who haven't been able to meet women through normal life means and see fab as a meat market of free prostitutes, they have zero respect for the women and if someone does arrange a quick meet with someone like this then it has a high chance of going wrong.

KJ"

^^^ All of this with bells on...

Unfortunately the egotistically self entitlement element has made woman even more careful about what they do were the go..

Woman have become prisoners in society...

To be taught from an early age that you must look over your shoulder at every turn and fear every man is not a way to live.

It is not for women to learn.

It is the men of the world that need to learn. Men of the world need to understand that women fear them and that it is not right.

Men need to call out bad behaviour.

Men need to stand up to those men who are the asshole and dicks to women.

A woman should not have to fight and pled her case to be believed that she was assaulted, groped, r.a.p.e.d to another man, another woman, door steward, police, doctor, hospital.

They should believe her from the start. She should be supported from the start.

Woman should not need to fear the repercussions of wearing what ever the fuck they want. Being individual. Standing out.

I could continue and rant on and on about this....

We live in a very fucked up world....

Side note :- woman also need to stop bitching and fighting amongst themselves. It is men that has created the media that has created

The envy, the guilt, the jealousy, the brain washing and the in fighting.

Woman at stronger than men.

Men know this. Men fear this. Men will to anything in their power to belittle and keep women beneath them.

I was once a man. I learned the truth. I am now a man and a feminist.

And if you are a man looking at all this going. This is all Rubbish.

Take a deep in ward look at yourself and the men and woman around you..

If you can not see it. You are blinded by the social conditioning that has made you the person you are...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only meet people at clubs usually, or if I'm meeting them elsewhere it's either a public place or I make sure they know hubby's home (unfortunately I know that in the instance that someone ignores me saying no, they're more likely to listen to him throwing them out).

I also test the waters early on by being firm about my boundaries, or asking them to slow down or be more gentle with foreplay. If they don't listen at that point then we don't fuck.

I've always got at least a vague escape plan in mind, which is why I prefer repeated meets where I can build some trust with that person and fully let loose.

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By *aidForSharingWoman
over a year ago

Lancashire

There are plenty of cases of women falsely accusing men of sexual assault or ra-e. It's innocent proven guilty in this country.

And women need to think about the mixed messages they expose men and boys to from an early age. My son respected women till he went to university. Boys see porn from a very young age.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"There are plenty of cases of women falsely accusing men of sexual assault or ra-e. It's innocent proven guilty in this country.

And women need to think about the mixed messages they expose men and boys to from an early age. My son respected women till he went to university. Boys see porn from a very young age."

What changed when he got to uni?

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I haven't met in a while now, and not sure if that will change any time soon.

But I always met in a public place first, and people were made very aware that nothing would happen on that meet. I've walked away from several social meets that just didn't feel right.

If they lead onto another meet, I would always take their registration number and text a friend the information. Along with hotel room number and any other info. I would arrange a safety text. My safety text was always bad, I would send something like 'small dick, crap meet.' Then they would know I was OK. If someone is holding me hostage, they'd make me send a positive text. So if my friend received that positive text they knew something was wrong and would follow whatever plan we'd put in.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

One rouge copper.

It’s happened. It will happen again. Do you stop walking down the street when it looks like rain, for fear of being struck by lightning? The changes are probably the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One rouge copper.

It’s happened. It will happen again. Do you stop walking down the street when it looks like rain, for fear of being struck by lightning? The changes are probably the same. "

Rouge? Was he wearing make-up during the attack? Honestly, these cross dressers get worse

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By *lamorousBeautyLondonWoman
over a year ago

London


"

I'm so glad me an K only play together as I don't drink I'm 100% aware and focused on her safety.

We recently meet a single guy together at there place but we had played once pre covid in a club and kept in touch since so a lot of trust, rapport has been built up.

Even in clubs you need to have your wits about you as some guys don't listen to no, stop the first time its said and a forceful no back off is needed. Sadly a few also try to remove condoms when the woman isn't looking, I've caught a guy taking the condom off before trying to enter another woman in the club bare and pulled him on it.

Even if it was something we were into (we are not) there's no way I would agree to K going to a guy off fans house or hotel room its just way to dangerous sadly.

The horrors stories from single women friends are just to numerous , from guys not been able to get it up become angry, agressive, guys not allowing the lady to leave and demanding more, no stopping when they are been to rough and causing physical damage to the lady through to incidents where the lady fought their way out to an exit.

I'm also aware that going home on a one night stand / hook up will have just as much chance as it going wrong as it would on a swinging meet.

Also just my opinion but I do think fab is (especially since covid) attracting many guys with poor social skills, issues and beliefs common in the incel movement, who haven't been able to meet women through normal life means and see fab as a meat market of free prostitutes, they have zero respect for the women and if someone does arrange a quick meet with someone like this then it has a high chance of going wrong.

KJ

^^^ All of this with bells on...

Unfortunately the egotistically self entitlement element has made woman even more careful about what they do were the go..

Woman have become prisoners in society...

To be taught from an early age that you must look over your shoulder at every turn and fear every man is not a way to live.

It is not for women to learn.

It is the men of the world that need to learn. Men of the world need to understand that women fear them and that it is not right.

Men need to call out bad behaviour.

Men need to stand up to those men who are the asshole and dicks to women.

A woman should not have to fight and pled her case to be believed that she was assaulted, groped, r.a.p.e.d to another man, another woman, door steward, police, doctor, hospital.

They should believe her from the start. She should be supported from the start.

Woman should not need to fear the repercussions of wearing what ever the fuck they want. Being individual. Standing out.

I could continue and rant on and on about this....

We live in a very fucked up world....

Side note :- woman also need to stop bitching and fighting amongst themselves. It is men that has created the media that has created

The envy, the guilt, the jealousy, the brain washing and the in fighting.

Woman at stronger than men.

Men know this. Men fear this. Men will to anything in their power to belittle and keep women beneath them.

I was once a man. I learned the truth. I am now a man and a feminist.

And if you are a man looking at all this going. This is all Rubbish.

Take a deep in ward look at yourself and the men and woman around you..

If you can not see it. You are blinded by the social conditioning that has made you the person you are..."

Thank you.

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By *winkleFairyCouple
over a year ago

UK


"There are plenty of cases of women falsely accusing men of sexual assault or ra-e. It's innocent proven guilty in this country.

And women need to think about the mixed messages they expose men and boys to from an early age. My son respected women till he went to university. Boys see porn from a very young age."

Could you share some sources that show there are “plenty of cases” of false accusations? Because the official statistics from the CPS estimate that false allegations make up 0.62% of cases.

Also what are you referring to when you talk about women exposing men and boys to mixed messages?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are plenty of cases of women falsely accusing men of sexual assault or ra-e. It's innocent proven guilty in this country.

And women need to think about the mixed messages they expose men and boys to from an early age. My son respected women till he went to university. Boys see porn from a very young age.

Could you share some sources that show there are “plenty of cases” of false accusations? Because the official statistics from the CPS estimate that false allegations make up 0.62% of cases.

Also what are you referring to when you talk about women exposing men and boys to mixed messages?"

This

Also why did he respect women until he went to University??

KJ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive only met in clubs for a long time now.

Last time I arranged a social away from a club, the guy followed me in his car afterwards for about 30 minutes. I just drove a random route till he got bored. He messaged later to tell me he wanted to claim a kiss once I got home (not someone from here). Just damn creepy

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"One rouge copper.

It’s happened. It will happen again. Do you stop walking down the street when it looks like rain, for fear of being struck by lightning? The changes are probably the same. "

You know what it might be time for? An open and honest conversation with your female friends and relatives where you ask questions about how many times they've been assaulted, or fearful of assault, touched inappropriately etc and actually listen to their answers.

You'll soon learn lightening has struck almost every single one of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One rouge copper.

It’s happened. It will happen again. Do you stop walking down the street when it looks like rain, for fear of being struck by lightning? The changes are probably the same.

You know what it might be time for? An open and honest conversation with your female friends and relatives where you ask questions about how many times they've been assaulted, or fearful of assault, touched inappropriately etc and actually listen to their answers.

You'll soon learn lightening has struck almost every single one of them.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One rouge copper.

It’s happened. It will happen again. Do you stop walking down the street when it looks like rain, for fear of being struck by lightning? The changes are probably the same.

You know what it might be time for? An open and honest conversation with your female friends and relatives where you ask questions about how many times they've been assaulted, or fearful of assault, touched inappropriately etc and actually listen to their answers.

You'll soon learn lightening has struck almost every single one of them.

"

Sadly most have been struck by that lightning more than the once as well

KJ

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham

The biggest indicator of a man’s respect for women is not his relationship with his mother, it’s his peer group in adolescence and his ability to think for himself.

Safety? I’m most likely to be harmed by a committed partner who lovee me, every woman on fab is. Two women a week are murdered by their partners and we are most likely to have consent violated by someone we trust.

Trust your instincts. If someone ever says or does something that makes you feel uncomfortable, put your clothes on and walk away. Keep your location turned on, and make sure you put your meets in your phone calendar and their addresses in your contacts. Increases the odds of prosecution if an incident like that occurs.

But seriously. Never be afraid to walk away. You can try again another day.

Do not take your clothes off until you see how they handle disagreement or hearing the word no. If they shout you down or in any way disrespect your right to your own opinion, walk away. No orgasm is worth the risk.

IMO it’s worth running a clare’s law check on anyone you’re considering playing privately with, unless you know they have a DBS,

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I'm not looking to meet anymore.

The physical has been an issue a few times even after making it quite clear it would be social only, reading their veris etc.

The mental is more damaging for me though, the lies, attempted manipulation etc. I'm put off sex completely.

I may still attend clubs in the future.

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By *inkyKittyWoman
over a year ago

Swindon


"One rouge copper.

It’s happened. It will happen again. Do you stop walking down the street when it looks like rain, for fear of being struck by lightning? The changes are probably the same. "

It’s not just one rouge copper!! Just because he killed her doesn’t mean that hundreds of women still don’t get attacked!!

I’ve had it at least twice on here!! It’s a sad fact that women need to be careful when on this scene!

I am with a lot of people here, where they say only meet in a club, have a get out plan or even trust your gut!

I know it’s awful, as women we must protect ourselves as there are men out there who can’t control themselves! So keep being safe and only do things that you feel comfortable with!

For me, I too only meet in clubs and never drink to excess. I know how I’m getting home and know my surroundings. I have a change of clothes with flat shoes in my bag.

On occasional single meets, I check their profile out and the people they have met, do some good research! Make sure I’m comfortable before think I want to play with that person!

It’s always unnerving to find new players, and there are some great people out there! If you have a shred of doubt, leave it!

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"The biggest indicator of a man’s respect for women is not his relationship with his mother, it’s his peer group in adolescence and his ability to think for himself.

Safety? I’m most likely to be harmed by a committed partner who lovee me, every woman on fab is. Two women a week are murdered by their partners and we are most likely to have consent violated by someone we trust.

Trust your instincts. If someone ever says or does something that makes you feel uncomfortable, put your clothes on and walk away. Keep your location turned on, and make sure you put your meets in your phone calendar and their addresses in your contacts. Increases the odds of prosecution if an incident like that occurs.

But seriously. Never be afraid to walk away. You can try again another day.

Do not take your clothes off until you see how they handle disagreement or hearing the word no. If they shout you down or in any way disrespect your right to your own opinion, walk away. No orgasm is worth the risk.

IMO it’s worth running a clare’s law check on anyone you’re considering playing privately with, unless you know they have a DBS, "

I was thinking about the Clares Law thing the other day. That would only work providing they do give their real name etc. Many think that's too much to ask for and will have concerns you're a bunny boiler. Catch 22, coz we all wanna feel safe, including the men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not looking to meet anymore.

The physical has been an issue a few times even after making it quite clear it would be social only, reading their veris etc.

The mental is more damaging for me though, the lies, attempted manipulation etc. I'm put off sex completely.

I may still attend clubs in the future."

Good move, this sites full of perverts

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley

No different to at a bar. You might be able to see their face but they could still be the nicest person in the world or a serial killer. It’s the law of averages though… there’s far less rapists and murderers out there than there are normal decent people. You can never know, you just have to keep safe in any way you can and make sure someone knows where you are. That should be the case for any individual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Completely agree with the comments here.

The number of friends who have experienced some form of abuse/intimidation from men is shocking.

Women wonder which is the safest route home, take taxis, carry keys in hand etc… things most men never even consider. It’s naive or ignorant to think women have the same level of safety as men. But… don’t give me some leaflet on keeping MYSELF SAFETY!!! Educate the men - the problem is here. Not with me.

I have a mother hen group of Fab females and we share profiles, locations and time. Check in. Check out. We also warn about profiles!

Mostly clubs though as that’s where I feel safe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No different to at a bar. You might be able to see their face but they could still be the nicest person in the world or a serial killer. It’s the law of averages though… there’s far less rapists and murderers out there than there are normal decent people. You can never know, you just have to keep safe in any way you can and make sure someone knows where you are. That should be the case for any individual."

Do feel you’re more likely to toss (excuse pun) a bias die on here compare to a pub, just by the very nature of the site.

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By *elkieWoman
over a year ago

Durham


"The biggest indicator of a man’s respect for women is not his relationship with his mother, it’s his peer group in adolescence and his ability to think for himself.

Safety? I’m most likely to be harmed by a committed partner who lovee me, every woman on fab is. Two women a week are murdered by their partners and we are most likely to have consent violated by someone we trust.

Trust your instincts. If someone ever says or does something that makes you feel uncomfortable, put your clothes on and walk away. Keep your location turned on, and make sure you put your meets in your phone calendar and their addresses in your contacts. Increases the odds of prosecution if an incident like that occurs.

But seriously. Never be afraid to walk away. You can try again another day.

Do not take your clothes off until you see how they handle disagreement or hearing the word no. If they shout you down or in any way disrespect your right to your own opinion, walk away. No orgasm is worth the risk.

IMO it’s worth running a clare’s law check on anyone you’re considering playing privately with, unless you know they have a DBS,

I was thinking about the Clares Law thing the other day. That would only work providing they do give their real name etc. Many think that's too much to ask for and will have concerns you're a bunny boiler. Catch 22, coz we all wanna feel safe, including the men."

Yup. Hence clubs - my local, F, has my back, and was over at Townhouse the other day which also feels safe.

Thing is, the world, including the swinging scene, is full of amazing men who are ok with not just one but several socials before play, and building friendships slowly in the club. If someone doesn’t have time for the two of us to build trust, that’s ok, I have a doxy.

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk

I always insist on a public social and if I let every thing that happens in the news get to me I would end up a hermit doing nothing, I'm just going to carry on being me and not being intimidated by being female

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I've always done a public social first, I'm lucky that I have a partner on here too, so he would always know where and who I'm meeting.

I think it's a big risk as a single women, to invite someone to yours or go to theirs first meet.

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By *lamorousBeautyLondonWoman
over a year ago

London


"The biggest indicator of a man’s respect for women is not his relationship with his mother, it’s his peer group in adolescence and his ability to think for himself.

Safety? I’m most likely to be harmed by a committed partner who lovee me, every woman on fab is. Two women a week are murdered by their partners and we are most likely to have consent violated by someone we trust.

Trust your instincts. If someone ever says or does something that makes you feel uncomfortable, put your clothes on and walk away. Keep your location turned on, and make sure you put your meets in your phone calendar and their addresses in your contacts. Increases the odds of prosecution if an incident like that occurs.

But seriously. Never be afraid to walk away. You can try again another day.

Do not take your clothes off until you see how they handle disagreement or hearing the word no. If they shout you down or in any way disrespect your right to your own opinion, walk away. No orgasm is worth the risk.

IMO it’s worth running a clare’s law check on anyone you’re considering playing privately with, unless you know they have a DBS, "

This is so true. If strangers on the street would be the ONLY danger we had to worry about... No, it is far from the case and the public harrassment and violence is just the tip of the iceberg. The most likely person to assault or coerce a woman is someone she knows. Personally, the news did not affect my strategies to keep myself safe - I still use the same ones as usual.

The fact that I have to have multiple strategies makes FS fairly ineffective for me to use on my own. I have not been in an intimate situation on my own with anyone I met via FS - except when the scenario involved my play partner and he was my safety assurance and I had a chance to relax and be intimate without any worry. Both of these men were lovely however I needed that extra guarantee that I will be completely safe in order to be in a sexual situation with them. Another option I use is going with the person to one of the clubs I go to after the initial date(s).

So yes, all those "fancy a fuck?", " feeling spontaneous?", "I will be staying at a hotel in your area tomorrow" are useless spam to me and not viable options (aside from just being plain stupid).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women haven't been safe walking home alone at night in dogey areas. There are too many weirdos and creeps about and this isn't something new.

If you want to meet a strange man in your own you have house your best judgement. You could have someone you k now call to check up on you or tell them the hotel you are staying at or something.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I've said before...women on here should stop whining and fuck more...same for couples, stop being so up-yourselves and get fucking...clubs...lower your prices, make it easier to gain entry to your wonderful establishments...keep these perverts etc off the streets. You're all doing ok, but could do alot more to help

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
over a year ago

Cambs

For me I Always meet for a social in a public place, always when my other half can come get me if I feel unsafe, always verify who I'm meeting beforehand.

Stay safe lovelies xxx

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By *lamorousBeautyLondonWoman
over a year ago

London


"As I've said before...women on here should stop whining and fuck more...same for couples, stop being so up-yourselves and get fucking...clubs...lower your prices, make it easier to gain entry to your wonderful establishments...keep these perverts etc off the streets. You're all doing ok, but could do alot more to help "

Hm, I wonder why there is not more "fucking" going on? What could possibly be the reason?

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex


"One rouge copper.

It’s happened. It will happen again. Do you stop walking down the street when it looks like rain, for fear of being struck by lightning? The changes are probably the same.

You know what it might be time for? An open and honest conversation with your female friends and relatives where you ask questions about how many times they've been assaulted, or fearful of assault, touched inappropriately etc and actually listen to their answers.

You'll soon learn lightening has struck almost every single one of them.

"

I did exactly this (asked every women of my acquaintance) about three years ago and I was shocked by the responses. On the first occasion I was thinking that my friend was overreacting and the instances were isolated. On talking to others I realised that everyone of them had encountered unwelcome advances or touches or had things said to them in their every day lives that went beyond what what us men would have hitherto said was just "harmless flirting in an appropriate setting". Things happen to women because they are women which leave them shaken and vunerable and it is us men collectively who are to blame and it's up to us individually to recognise it and think first.I urge you to speak to women friends and daughters; ask and believe what you are told.

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By *lamorousBeautyLondonWoman
over a year ago

London


"One rouge copper.

It’s happened. It will happen again. Do you stop walking down the street when it looks like rain, for fear of being struck by lightning? The changes are probably the same.

You know what it might be time for? An open and honest conversation with your female friends and relatives where you ask questions about how many times they've been assaulted, or fearful of assault, touched inappropriately etc and actually listen to their answers.

You'll soon learn lightening has struck almost every single one of them.

I did exactly this (asked every women of my acquaintance) about three years ago and I was shocked by the responses. On the first occasion I was thinking that my friend was overreacting and the instances were isolated. On talking to others I realised that everyone of them had encountered unwelcome advances or touches or had things said to them in their every day lives that went beyond what what us men would have hitherto said was just "harmless flirting in an appropriate setting". Things happen to women because they are women which leave them shaken and vunerable and it is us men collectively who are to blame and it's up to us individually to recognise it and think first.I urge you to speak to women friends and daughters; ask and believe what you are told. "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As I've said before...women on here should stop whining and fuck more...same for couples, stop being so up-yourselves and get fucking...clubs...lower your prices, make it easier to gain entry to your wonderful establishments...keep these perverts etc off the streets. You're all doing ok, but could do alot more to help "

wow. Cant tell if you're telling a dark joke or serious.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Reading a couple of posts above, you can't just request a Claire's law disclosure on anyone. You have to have a valid reason for requesting the disclosure, just looking at meeting them from a sex website is unlikely to be a valid reason.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Ee need to take as much care as possible, using tools and other people as support.

Meeting in places with public CCTV is useful. Recording details of meets, having others know what you are doing, checking on you and other things are helpful and are a deterrent to sone who may want to behave wrongly.

Some no shows may be because they can't stomach the risks for their anonymity. It's a price worth paying.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"As I've said before...women on here should stop whining and fuck more...same for couples, stop being so up-yourselves and get fucking...clubs...lower your prices, make it easier to gain entry to your wonderful establishments...keep these perverts etc off the streets. You're all doing ok, but could do alot more to help "

We often fuck a lot, just with the right people. Some men are ever so right not to be getting in on the fun.

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

My biggest issues have been with people I knew and on my own home. So I don't really have an issue with "strangers".

Always have a social in public, no alcohol involved at any point of any meetings.

I no longer let anyone pick me up in their car, nice offer but low effort and really not safe.

Always send my friend a photo of who I'm meeting and tell them where we'll be, how long etc.

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset


"As I've said before...women on here should stop whining and fuck more...same for couples, stop being so up-yourselves and get fucking...clubs...lower your prices, make it easier to gain entry to your wonderful establishments...keep these perverts etc off the streets. You're all doing ok, but could do alot more to help "

And right there is a massive red flag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As I've said before...women on here should stop whining and fuck more...same for couples, stop being so up-yourselves and get fucking...clubs...lower your prices, make it easier to gain entry to your wonderful establishments...keep these perverts etc off the streets. You're all doing ok, but could do alot more to help

And right there is a massive red flag."

Don't worry sugar, I won't be meeting anybody, never have, never will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't wish to paint a picture of myself as the 'perfect guy' by any means, but the recent events re Sarah Everard and Sabina unfortunately once again highlight the extreme dangers and attitudes that women face every day, and shouldn't have to in today's society..

At 64yo I've been around the block a bit I guess, and when it comes to marriages and relationships, girlfriends etc. Some of my best mates in life have been female (straight and gay, some who I've lived with), and with no sexual connection or involvement whatsoever. On two seperate occasions it was girlmates who put a roof over my head when my marriage, and some years later a relationship, went pear-shaped for me - Why did they invite me into their homes? Because they knew me so well, and knew they could trust me completely (as any woman could) and even if we'd been drinking or having a smoke on occasions, they knew that I wouldn't be 'coming on' to them, or forcing myself onto them. It's all about total respect for women, and unfortunately out of all the women I've known or been in relationships with, the majority have suffered r**e or sexual assaults at some point, and sexual harrasment in the workplace has seemed all too common..

Without wishing to jump onto the 'anti-police bandwagon'either, and especially at present (and my god I've had some bloody negative experiences with'em in the past too!), an ex-partner of mine worked as a cleaner at Sussex Police Headquarters many years ago, and was r***d by two coppers at a private party..and she wasn't prone to bullshitting or exaggerating either, but blamed herself for being d*unk! On another occasion and whilst working at the HQ still, she attended a function at the police social club and was subjected to vile abuse and ridicule by coppers for most of the evening, frequently groping her against her wishes and despite her objections, telling her that she was 'dressed like a whore' and 'You're a fucking prostitute' amongst other things. Needless to say, she left her job immediately after that, also telling me that it would have been pointless to complain to anyone in authority there.

A good friend's wife also worked on the switchboard at the Police HQ years ago, and suffered a complete breakdown after being subjected to constant sexual harrassment over a long period of time there, and the subsequent 'complaints procedure' she undertook was a farce, with officers covering each other's backs, and them having support from more senior officers too, and accusing her of giving them the 'come on' also.

As much as I can't help looking at women that I find hot and attractive when I'm out and about, some guys attitudes need to change with regard to women. Only two days ago I was waiting for ages to cross a busy bit of road, with a young woman standing next to me. As a builders van was about to pass, the guy in the passenger seat was attempting to stand up in the cab and shouted something whilst simulating wanking to her... I looked for her reaction - 'I get that all the time, I get used to it' she said.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

I think this shows us that socials don’t prove anything in terms of safety.

I’m all for people doing it if they feel more comfortable, for example a build up to a meet, but it really worries me how many woman do socials first and then drop their guard because they’ve met that person before in a pub so think it’s safer.

I don’t do socials at all, try to meet in clubs preferably. If not, always a hotel. Booked in my own name, with my car on site and someone knowing where I am. Always a face time first so you know the pictures match.

Other than that, I guess it really is down to trying to be sensible and using your judgment.

It’ll never be risk free x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As I've said before...women on here should stop whining and fuck more...same for couples, stop being so up-yourselves and get fucking...clubs...lower your prices, make it easier to gain entry to your wonderful establishments...keep these perverts etc off the streets. You're all doing ok, but could do alot more to help "

Blocked! Damnnnnn!

Was going to start the fucking

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By *asteregg01Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"As I've said before...women on here should stop whining and fuck more...same for couples, stop being so up-yourselves and get fucking...clubs...lower your prices, make it easier to gain entry to your wonderful establishments...keep these perverts etc off the streets. You're all doing ok, but could do alot more to help

Blocked! Damnnnnn!

Was going to start the fucking "

Nope, looks like his account has been suspended by admin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As I've said before...women on here should stop whining and fuck more...same for couples, stop being so up-yourselves and get fucking...clubs...lower your prices, make it easier to gain entry to your wonderful establishments...keep these perverts etc off the streets. You're all doing ok, but could do alot more to help

Blocked! Damnnnnn!

Was going to start the fucking

Nope, looks like his account has been suspended by admin "

Who was it????

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By *wan64Woman
over a year ago

Glasgow

You have to be careful I don't meet until I get to know someone always safety first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In light what's going on in the news about women's safety. How do women feel about meeting strangers online?"

When I have played as a single female- before I paired up with my partner in crime, always met for a social in a neutral place away from home life, tell someone you know already in the scene where you are off too for safety and make sure they have decent recent veris. If they keep hiding their veris and/or won’t show their display summary - why - they need to show you they are safe and genuine.

SXx

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Fab is a long game for us. We'd rather build good connections and have regular meets, so we tend to chat for a while. That was no different when we were singles on here.

I would never meet anywhere other than neutral territory; hotels booked/checked in first (so knew the room was free of surprises); have someone on call who knew where I was going and who I was meeting; never gave out my phone number or personal details, including my real name; ensured no one saw me leaving/returning to my car; checked out veri's on here and spoke to others I trusted if necessary; I trusted my gut - any hint of a red flag and everything was off. I never met at clubs as it's not somewhere I was comfortable going on my own. We do go now, obviously it's different and much easier as a couple.

Doing your homework and prep doesn't protect you entirely, it's just about making everything as safe as you can make it.

C

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