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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi. We've had several people and it has been mostly single men and occasionally MF couples. We've chatted for a while and arranged to meet in a few days time and exchanged numbers. Then things have gone silent and there has been no meet and they have clearly blocked us as they no longer have been reading our mail. So recently we were arranging with a man to meet on Monday afternoon for a social and he gave us his number. This was agreed on the preceeding Friday. We sent him a message to say we would be in touch. He did not apparently read this message else marked it as unread by 10AM on the Monday morning when we wrote another message asking if he was going to be meeting. We had no response until we got back around 11PM on Monday night and we had missed him by less than an hour. His first said that he was busy with his children all weekend which was of no consequence to the meeting and with work on the Monday and we wondered why he bothered to agree to meet if he was at work. His next which we received at the same time asked why we did not phone or text. We responded asking why he had not responded to our earlier message of Monday and Friday. The conversation has since halted. We felt that his approach to open up with questions as to why we had not called following what seemed to be an excuse was not worth the energy. So the question is this:

Does this count as being stood up or as a user failing to keep a meet and if so or not should we report this kind of behaviour or is it us being over sensitive?

TIA

r&K

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

If you have agreed the time, date and place, requiring no further agreement or communication, then it would be deemed a no-show, from my perspective.

Sensibly, you decided to communicate by phone in advance. He didn't make any effort, which is really poor poor, whatever the excuse.

It sounds like he was projecting pn to you, exactly what he'd been guilty of.

I always have an agreed communication plan from them, so if they fail to fulfill their obligations that they have designated, then I am forewarned that they are unreliable.

Too many don't take their responsibilities seriously, in how they affect others. It can be difficult and expensive to arrange things, including getting kids looked after, transport, hotels booked etc. Some behave like they have no responsibilities in life, for who they may affect or harm.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley


"Hi. We've had several people and it has been mostly single men and occasionally MF couples. We've chatted for a while and arranged to meet in a few days time and exchanged numbers. Then things have gone silent and there has been no meet and they have clearly blocked us as they no longer have been reading our mail. So recently we were arranging with a man to meet on Monday afternoon for a social and he gave us his number. This was agreed on the preceeding Friday. We sent him a message to say we would be in touch. He did not apparently read this message else marked it as unread by 10AM on the Monday morning when we wrote another message asking if he was going to be meeting. We had no response until we got back around 11PM on Monday night and we had missed him by less than an hour. His first said that he was busy with his children all weekend which was of no consequence to the meeting and with work on the Monday and we wondered why he bothered to agree to meet if he was at work. His next which we received at the same time asked why we did not phone or text. We responded asking why he had not responded to our earlier message of Monday and Friday. The conversation has since halted. We felt that his approach to open up with questions as to why we had not called following what seemed to be an excuse was not worth the energy. So the question is this:

Does this count as being stood up or as a user failing to keep a meet and if so or not should we report this kind of behaviour or is it us being over sensitive?

TIA

r&K"

He should have let you know and it's pretty poor behaviour. Not sure what, if any, action admin would take if you reported him though. His word against yours?

Did you ever see him on camera and did any of your chats with him get dirty? Some guys just want that then post fake/old pics and promise to meet in order to get their wank material for as long as they can. They then suddenly disappear just before meeting.

The same applies to some 'couples' accounts which are actually being run by single guys or men whose partner doesn't know anything about it. These people disappear as soon as you ask to either speak to or see both of them on cam.

There's not much you can do about people not turning up except resolving to have an enjoyable evening whether or not they do. That's how we've done things for a long time now. We assume the worse and if the guy shows up and is what he claimed, then that's a nice bonus.

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

Just to add, in our experience, chatting over a good period (weeks rather than days) whilst avoiding all dirty chat/camming soon puts off the wankers.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Always report wankers

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

He might have genuinely been busy but still only takes a few minutes to respond to any messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like he maybe thought you'd lost interest as he'd given you his number but you didn't contact him via it so he's possibly thinking the same as you've been thinking when he didn't respond to your message here. Miscommunication maybe?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won’t porn chat as I tend to fine if the other person wants that then that’s what they’re on the site for. Try my hardest not to generalise but just too difficult to fathom out who’s genuine when the male organ is doing the thinking, much easier to stick to normal flirty chat and socials now.

And yep my answer to the first message is it’s a definite no show and you will have others but you do start to get a sixth sense for them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you everyone for your responses. After reading what you all have to say we shall report him as a no-show. We clearly haven't developed that sixth sense just yet and hopefully we will get it soon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like a time waster as opposed to being stood up really. If there's no willingness to talk on the phone or something beforehand then block them and move on.

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By *upidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Yorkshire


"Hi. We've had several people and it has been mostly single men and occasionally MF couples. We've chatted for a while and arranged to meet in a few days time and exchanged numbers. Then things have gone silent and there has been no meet and they have clearly blocked us as they no longer have been reading our mail. So recently we were arranging with a man to meet on Monday afternoon for a social and he gave us his number. This was agreed on the preceeding Friday. We sent him a message to say we would be in touch. He did not apparently read this message else marked it as unread by 10AM on the Monday morning when we wrote another message asking if he was going to be meeting. We had no response until we got back around 11PM on Monday night and we had missed him by less than an hour. His first said that he was busy with his children all weekend which was of no consequence to the meeting and with work on the Monday and we wondered why he bothered to agree to meet if he was at work. His next which we received at the same time asked why we did not phone or text. We responded asking why he had not responded to our earlier message of Monday and Friday. The conversation has since halted. We felt that his approach to open up with questions as to why we had not called following what seemed to be an excuse was not worth the energy. So the question is this:

Does this count as being stood up or as a user failing to keep a meet and if so or not should we report this kind of behaviour or is it us being over sensitive?

TIA

r&K

He should have let you know and it's pretty poor behaviour. Not sure what, if any, action admin would take if you reported him though. His word against yours?

Did you ever see him on camera and did any of your chats with him get dirty? Some guys just want that then post fake/old pics and promise to meet in order to get their wank material for as long as they can. They then suddenly disappear just before meeting.

The same applies to some 'couples' accounts which are actually being run by single guys or men whose partner doesn't know anything about it. These people disappear as soon as you ask to either speak to or see both of them on cam.

There's not much you can do about people not turning up except resolving to have an enjoyable evening whether or not they do. That's how we've done things for a long time now. We assume the worse and if the guy shows up and is what he claimed, then that's a nice bonus.

"

We're a couple but often at different ends of the country during the week so sadly can't always get on video calls together BUT our verifications speak for themselves that we are a GENUINE couple.

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

It takes 30 seconds and 3 words "can't make it" better than not knowing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't realise you could report someone for a no show. What happens with that? I mean, to the profile that gets reported? How does anyone know except the people involved whether the person did or didn't show up?

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman
over a year ago

lancashire


"Hi. We've had several people and it has been mostly single men and occasionally MF couples. We've chatted for a while and arranged to meet in a few days time and exchanged numbers. Then things have gone silent and there has been no meet and they have clearly blocked us as they no longer have been reading our mail. So recently we were arranging with a man to meet on Monday afternoon for a social and he gave us his number. This was agreed on the preceeding Friday. We sent him a message to say we would be in touch. He did not apparently read this message else marked it as unread by 10AM on the Monday morning when we wrote another message asking if he was going to be meeting. We had no response until we got back around 11PM on Monday night and we had missed him by less than an hour. His first said that he was busy with his children all weekend which was of no consequence to the meeting and with work on the Monday and we wondered why he bothered to agree to meet if he was at work. His next which we received at the same time asked why we did not phone or text. We responded asking why he had not responded to our earlier message of Monday and Friday. The conversation has since halted. We felt that his approach to open up with questions as to why we had not called following what seemed to be an excuse was not worth the energy. So the question is this:

Does this count as being stood up or as a user failing to keep a meet and if so or not should we report this kind of behaviour or is it us being over sensitive?

TIA

r&K"

Maybe his bottle went? even if it had he could have just quick messaged to say he couldn't make the meet, don't worry too much about him though.

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

We have never ever stood anyone up in 23 years be it meeting as a couple or playing solo.

Certainly had a few no shows in our time though. Plenty don't bother to come to socials we have hosted. Single guys being the worst offenders....invite 15, get 1 show up sort of thing but couples and single ladies can do the same as well. Those folks just get blocked now and never get invited again.

Can respect at least being told before hand because everyone has a life outside of fab or personal issues but leaving others standing, taking up space at a event you're never going to attend or whatever..its just bad form and selfish.

Had plenty of people lose their nerve and that's fine (at least you are telling us) but once had one person message us as we where leaving the house that they where not coming because "they had forgotten the football was on". Best of fab tight there

Fab does have it share of time wasters, wannabes and pretenders. Thankfully it's something we have gotten good at spotting now and hosting socials has given us real people to network with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's happening regularly, perhaps have a think about your due diligence process

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

To be honest you can't rely on Fab messaging when you are meeting someone. We've had it happen a few times where someone we were meeting tried to message us but there was no phone signal in the pub we were waiting at and Fab was banned by the pub wifi.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To be honest you can't rely on Fab messaging when you are meeting someone. We've had it happen a few times where someone we were meeting tried to message us but there was no phone signal in the pub we were waiting at and Fab was banned by the pub wifi."

Use a VPN then filters on wifi don't matter.

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By *irtySekretsCouple
over a year ago

Filthy Desires Upon Trent

It happens unfortunately for many reasons.

A tiny percentage of no shows have genuine reasons not to turn up.

An even fewer percent will actually message stating why.

The majority either like the fantasy of it but bottle it when the time comes

Or once they have had a little wank, the urge goes away.

Our way of stopping the former is not to get explicit in messages and not to send dirty photos/videos.

It’s a very effective filter. xxxxxxx

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

Block and move on. It’s all bollocks until it actually happens.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

If I had a pound for every time someone suggested meeting, then went quiet, I’d be rich.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"To be honest you can't rely on Fab messaging when you are meeting someone. We've had it happen a few times where someone we were meeting tried to message us but there was no phone signal in the pub we were waiting at and Fab was banned by the pub wifi.

Use a VPN then filters on wifi don't matter. "

It's a lot easier to just use WA

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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Unless you actually agreed on a time and place to meet, you turned up and they didn't, I'm not really sure how it could be classed as being stood up

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By *limeyoMan
over a year ago

Oswestry

Yep it’s the same old, and it’s not just men that are guilty of it, many women too.

They get off on the thought of meeting but have no intentions of meeting.

All my meets that have worked it’s been a conversation on the phone quite quickly or at least texting

I reckon 80% of people on the site are just here for the online kicks

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