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how do you get from chatting to playing??

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By *aryfairy2 OP   Couple
over a year ago

leicester

hi plp!

we would like some advice

we have been clubbing quite a few times now, and even tho we talk to people, it never goes any further??

how do we progress to playing??

(if were interested)

thanks hopefully in advance!!

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Hmmm this is difficult because im one of those people who has to be hit over the head with a hammer to realise that someone fancies me

Im much happier if the other people are a bit more assertive in that way,but Rob is much more assertive and if he knows that I like someone he will invite them to play if they hav'nt already made it clear they would be happy to do so

We hav'nt been turned down yet and this method seems to work for us xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends where we are... If at theirs its harder cause were guests as such so we tend to leave things to them..but if they seem as though they may be keen but hesitant cause of nerves.. we just say who fancies some fun then lol..

If at ours... I (Mike) assuming we all want to play and the signals are there as a bit of a leader sometimes just go to fetch a drink and come back semi naked lol.. either gets them going or gets them gone lol..

Ju will often do the same or if the girls seem in the mood takes the other fem by the hand and takes her away lol... telling us to give them time to get friendly....

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By *aryfairy2 OP   Couple
over a year ago

leicester

UUUMMMM!!

Think i need to clarify what we mean within the club enviroment itself.

but thanks for the tips very handy to know!!

we have had no problems getting playing outside of the club.(as i can be quite to the point!!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if we were in a club.. and really really wanted to play with someone and seemed to get along nicely, we'd just say I think.. We have only ever played once in a club and thats what we did... just giggled and asked like silly kids lol.. good though!

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

I was talking about a club environment xx

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By *aryfairy2 OP   Couple
over a year ago

leicester

all good tips but anymore???

think one problem we might encounter is we prefer seperate room?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"all good tips but anymore???

think one problem we might encounter is we prefer seperate room?"

Well you kind of answer your own question...

You ask how to get from chat to play.. Well when chatting why not just bring into the chatting what you both prefer etc.. and see if they seem compatable.. if they do then just say.. shall we go and try that now..

Seems simple from here lol.. Honest x

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By *aryfairy2 OP   Couple
over a year ago

leicester

thanks that's good advice!!

: )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just came across this tread and thought we wud reply ...even though it's a bit late in the day lol

when we meet with people within the first 5 minutes (in our opinion) we know if we want to play with them or not.I am quite lucky as my bloke is very forward and always ends up telling the other cpl that we are interested or not ....more or less giving them the green light in a way ...once you find that ppl know where they stand then we find the night is easier to progress

though it can be abit uncomfortable if u come across a red light ..lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

join the club no what u mean

so many on my list are only wanted 2 be chatted with

but i want play with them

but it happn soon enough when ther good an ready i suppose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"join the club no what u mean

so many on my list are only wanted 2 be chatted with

but i want play with them

but it happn soon enough when ther good an ready i suppose "

When we go to a club, we mainly go for my benefit - for the single males. A good tip someone once gave me, although may seem a little forward, is to slip a condom into the hand of the "intended" to show you are interested. He will either follow up on that or not and then you know where you stand. (haven't done it yet however)!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

now why has that never happened to me as a single guy in a club.. that sounds like such a good idea..Eye contact and body language is my style and if i think the couple or lady is interested I strike up a conversation.. and later ask. will you like to play sometime ?

always works. polite and gives the other party free room to say yes or no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you get from Chatting to Playing you ask?

Well, have looked on the A-Z for you (lazy buggers could have done it yourselves)... If you take the road from Chatting, go via Smiling, on to the roundabout at Touching, then eventually you should end up at Playing!

*Note of caution*

Just be aware that some men like to park round the back, so if your rear entrance is ungaurded when you reach playing, beware!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

never been 2 a club yet

no 1 to go with

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