FabSwingers.com forum: Easing in a newbie

By *bear OP Man
over a year ago

Guildford

Hi there fellow swingers!

I have been casually seeing a very open minded woman, she is bi curious and is interested in the swinging lifestyle. I could do with some advice to ease her into it and not get overwhelmed, she wants me to to be very much involved, so not sure if to go down the club route or to try and meet a experienced couple that would be up for a social and a play if the feeling is right.

Any advice would be much appreciated. I've always been a single guy playing with couples and singles, so want to make sure she is comfortable and enjoys herself.

Thanks in advance

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By *ad_Bod_ToddMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire

If it was me I'd choose the club route. I'd ensure that it's a club that has no 'dress down time'. Essentially something that looks, feels (and for the most part actually is) like a nightclub.

You can just enjoy it as a nightclub experience or wander around playrooms exposing yourselves to as much (or as little) as you're BOTH comfortable with.

I guess to you OP it feels a bit like you've won the lottery? I'm sure that it would to me and many others as well. Just don't blow it all at once!

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By *bear OP Man
over a year ago

Guildford

Thanks for the advice Dad_bod_todd!

Yeah it's still early days so don't want to rush anything.

As long as she enjoys herself that's all that matters

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Agreed clubs are a great way to get a feel for the scene, the possibilities and most importantly the people in it. It's really reassuring when you discover people on the scene are just ordinary people from all walks of life and all shapes and sizes. Experiencing the human element socially is a great ice breaker. Decide what sort of club night you want. One with just other couples (and often single females) or one with a fair few single guys. Maybe look for a club/night that is less pressured in terms of dress. Then just go. Tell the club its your first time, they will show you around and point you in the right direction. Then simply socialise and explore at your own pace. No pressure to do anything just go with that feels right

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Ask her what she wants and doesn't want.

If she's a clubber, who wants to dance then Penthouse playrooms, is just like a nightclub.

If she wants something small and intimate, like a Hollister shop (MK Centre is what I'm thinking of) then the very classy Purple Mamba in Nottingham, springs to mind.

Otherwise if she is a nudist/naturist the Eurekas has some amazing grounds and has an outside pool too. If you can catch the sun before it vanishes.

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

The thing here is that without knowing the lady, it's impossible to say whats best.

You really only have a few choices.

1) Club route (which you're not sure about) and all the various flavours they come in.

2) Meet a couple (Which will require creating a couples profile).

3) Attend an organised Social evening.

Ultimately, if shes really curious, tell and show her the options. Sit and review local club pages, show here profiles on fab etc. Show and tell basically and let her decide.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she’s keen, perhaps a couples profile and she can ask her own questions on here.

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By *ewCoupleHXCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

"If she’s keen, perhaps a couples profile and she can ask her own questions on here.

This is very important in our eyes, you instantly improve your chances of meeting other couples.

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