FabSwingers.com forum: Been called a slut again

By *wencat OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Once again yep I am having a moan sorry before I start I got another random message from someone I don't even no all it said was ( You look like a slut ) I know I shouldn't get mad but I do and yes I blocked the very nice man what is it with some people they feel they need to throw these comments around at people they don't no and never will I find it very sad why even bother at all I would never do anything like that to anyone grrrrrrrrrrr

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are just idiots, pure and simply I guess the only thing you can do is block him like you have.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

he might have meant slut in a fun and cheeky way but just didnt articulate himself very well. Btw maybe try taking some photos without your tongue sticking out?

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By *wencat OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

he meant it believe me and nothing wrong with my tounge out don't mean I am slut cheeky yes good fun make u laugh yes slut no that's once again stero typing I think ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love sluts and when I use the word it is for someone that I genuinely like BUT would never call anyone that until I knew that they felt the same! Otherwise it us insulting. When you have both got to know each other then names are fun. I hope no one would call me a slut untill they knew if it was true and that I like

oh and I love the cheeky tongue not the slightest bit slutty x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I would have taken it as an ill chosen way of being a bit cheeky and trying to get noticed out of all the other mail men send. Certainly wouldn't let it upset me so much, unless he'd put 'oi you fat slut come fuck me now!' Then I'd be pissed

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By *wencat OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

yes I fully agree been called a slut by someone I chatted to is different as I know it's all in jest and I would take it as that and Mabe a kiss after the slut calling or a smiley face would been better maybe I did take it the wrong way but still didn't feel very nice I think I keep my tounge pics for my friends from now on lol

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By *onnoisseur100Man
over a year ago

Woking-ish

I really don't understand how any one can see your profile and get slut from it! I'm assuming you haven't changed it recently.

Some ladies like being a slut, that's great, I'd like to meet you.... lol but it's their choice! We can just about tell you don't like the term, so why would anybody use it as a discription of you.

It just goes to show, that for the human race to be described as intelligent, it clearly doesn't mean every member of it is!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nicky often gets called a horny slut. And we get lots of comments about the pics in a north end shirt with her sucking cock. She looks a slut in the footy shirt etc etc. She doesn't gins it degrading or gets upset about it. As poster above states unless they get quite personal and nasty take it as a compliment. I don't understand how swingers are so tender over such trivial things when we all fuck other peoples partners lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's not a term that I would ever personally use with anyone other than very close friends and even then only in a jesty way if they've been putting it about a bit of late.

It's not a term I would be comfy with using towards any member on here, let alone one I would perhaps hope to meet at some point.

Recognising traits or a look in someone that suggests they might be game for some adult fun is one thing, labelling it and using it in an opening address is something else.

I think some guys simply see someone they fancy and their imaginations run away with them whilst composing a message.

The net result is rarely well received.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" I got another random message from someone I don't even no all it said was ( You look like a slut ) "

All I can deduct from your profile pic is that you're a big titted Blonde with a nice tan

Ignore the tossers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people are just idiots, pure and simply I guess the only thing you can do is block him like you have."

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By *layfull pairingCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Im a slut. ... Im cool with it. . . Lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv never called a woman that in my life and wont start now. The fella must be a idiot .

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By *wencat OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

" I got another random message from someone I don't even no all it said was ( You look like a slut )

All I can deduct from your profile pic is that you're a big titted Blonde with a nice tan

Ignore the tossers "
big titted blonde with a tan is true though

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By *wencat OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

" I got another random message from someone I don't even no all it said was ( You look like a slut )

All I can deduct from your profile pic is that you're a big titted Blonde with a nice tan

Ignore the tossers "
big titted blonde with a tan is true though

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By *wencat OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

maybe I over reacted but I still did not like it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"maybe I over reacted but I still did not like it "

I guess it comes down to peoples different interpretation of a swinging site though, as some would label any woman on a sex site as a slut but guys never get any negative press over it, just the women.

He possibly thought in his own twisted world that he was giving you a compliment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't like being called a slut by total stranger and would have done same as you. Perhaps it was a joke or his way of being cheeky but if it offended or made you feel uncomfortable then you did right thing blocking him.

I get called lots of names but only by close playmates who I know respect me and it's just them being playful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot of women on here like being called a slut - I don't personally

Good way of ing out which men are worth meeting and which ones are not though lol

If they call you a slut in a message and it's not even in a cheeky way then I would cross them off my to do list x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"he might have meant slut in a fun and cheeky way but just didnt articulate himself very well. Btw maybe try taking some photos without your tongue sticking out?

Sorry no one has the right to call anyone a slut whether in jest or meaning it.

In the bedroom ok but not in a random message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not a term that I would ever personally use with anyone other than very close friends and even then only in a jesty way if they've been putting it about a bit of late.

It's not a term I would be comfy with using towards any member on here, let alone one I would perhaps hope to meet at some point.

Recognising traits or a look in someone that suggests they might be game for some adult fun is one thing, labelling it and using it in an opening address is something else.

I think some guys simply see someone they fancy and their imaginations run away with them whilst composing a message.

The net result is rarely well received."

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"A lot of women on here like being called a slut - I don't personally

Good way of ing out which men are worth meeting and which ones are not though lol

If they call you a slut in a message and it's not even in a cheeky way then I would cross them off my to do list x"

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Too much wanking over porn has led some people to believe thats how to address all women on here

I think they soon find out its not though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe they had read "The Ethical Slut" beforehand, and thought you'd understand they didn't mean it in the pejorative sense?

Or maybe they're just a muppet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have also been called it, and yes my username has that word in it, but I also find it not acceptable for people who do not know me to call me it.

It is offensive, I'd not send a guy on a first message, oh well you look like you have small willy

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By *wencat OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

thanks to all your comments on here u always make me feel better thank u all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just looked in on you, only one pic but you look pretty good to me, ignore the idiots its how they get there kicks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Politeness costs nothing

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By *ontana31Man
over a year ago

renfrew

"I love sluts and when I use the word it is for someone that I genuinely like BUT would never call anyone that until I knew that they felt the same! Otherwise it us insulting. When you have both got to know each other then names are fun. I hope no one would call me a slut untill they knew if it was true and that I like

oh and I love the cheeky tongue not the slightest bit slutty x"

well said m8!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hi,

yes these things happen,

i was messaged today by a scottish guy saying he would love to fxxx a english slut,

i dont really mind someone saying that to me in the throes of sex, but not really nice as a random message.

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By *atinaBabeCouple
over a year ago

casa caliente

horrible word to call an lady def u are right to b offended u should call him looser bastard xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks like a lot of blokes writing "oh yeah I would never do that, i'm such a decent bloke, hope you read my post, and message because I such a decent bloke......"

Frankly it is a swinging site, they guy sent a message you didn't like, block move on.....

One bloke sent me a picture of his cock in a bum once, I nearly left the site, I was so upset.......

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By *wencat OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Just looked in on you, only one pic but you look pretty good to me, ignore the idiots its how they get there kicks

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Thank u and I put my other pics for friends now there were no naked ones though

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By *wencat OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Looks like a lot of blokes writing "oh yeah I would never do that, i'm such a decent bloke, hope you read my post, and message because I such a decent bloke......"

Frankly it is a swinging site, they guy sent a message you didn't like, block move on.....

One bloke sent me a picture of his cock in a bum once, I nearly left the site, I was so upset......."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have every right to be offended. If something offends you then is an offence. Name calling can be a turn on, personaly i prefer "filthy bitch" but only when i know the woman and shes ok with it. You did the right thing hun just delete and block. Your bound to get guys like him on here at the end of the day its a swinging site, i was advised to join, by a female friend, to improve my sex life so thinking ye will get a fuck it will be full of horny women gagging for it. Well that didnt happen did it. But with that in mind i can see why guys would/could just think its that easy and ok to come onto you like that

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By *wencat OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

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By *wencat OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

was going to say to the person who reminded me it's a swinging site I know and as for move on I have and thanx to everyone else's opinion seems I weren't the only one who be offended

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"was going to say to the person who reminded me it's a swinging site I know and as for move on I have and thanx to everyone else's opinion seems I weren't the only one who be offended "

It would have offended me too chick, has happened to me mid conversation, instant goodnight for me xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Once again yep I am having a moan sorry before I start I got another random message from someone I don't even no all it said was ( You look like a slut ) I know I shouldn't get mad but I do and yes I blocked the very nice man what is it with some people they feel they need to throw these comments around at people they don't no and never will I find it very sad why even bother at all I would never do anything like that to anyone grrrrrrrrrrr "

no way!!!! im a slut and you certainly do not look like me! tell him to get some glasses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Noone has the right to call anyone a slut....but everyone has their opinion and after all this is a swinging site...so each is their own judge. Just ask yourself if you would be happy if your daughter was on here? Enough said...I wish you well

Keep smiling X

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By *wencat OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Noone has the right to call anyone a slut....but everyone has their opinion and after all this is a swinging site...so each is their own judge. Just ask yourself if you would be happy if your daughter was on here? Enough said...I wish you well

Keep smiling X"
if my daughter wanted to come on here that's her choice hun we are all adults children call each other names and some grown ups it seems

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By *orset manMan
over a year ago

Bournemouth

One mans slut is another mans princess- anyhow you look nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh for goodness sake how rude! Some people just don't know how to converse!

Good on you for using you rright to block in it's most appropriate capacity!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Keep smiling X. True enough ....and you seem and look nice :hummmn Fair point x. if my daughter wanted to come on here that's her choice hun we are all adults children call each other names and some grown ups it seems "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah don't blame you, we hate the word "Slut", it always makes us think of a dirty (not in the good way) scruffy woman.

Don't mind Tart though, we think of those as a sexy, up for fun woman who is also nice to eat!

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that's terrible. No-one has any right to post derogatory comments like that in a message. I feel sometimes I have to hang my head in shame as I'm part of the male race and we can be typified to behave like that (yes, I can be very verbal with meets but I only ever go down that particular road of calling someone that if they have first asked me too)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From your profile I think u look like a fun loving sexy lady who is a bit naughty but wouldnt call you a slut. I think to just mail someone and call u a slut is wrong.

Ps love too make u my slut some time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"he might have meant slut in a fun and cheeky way but just didnt articulate himself very well. Btw maybe try taking some photos without your tongue sticking out?

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By *aturasqCouple
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

"he might have meant slut in a fun and cheeky way but just didnt articulate himself very well. Btw maybe try taking some photos without your tongue sticking out?

Is that why the doctor always asks me to stick my tongue out and shines a torch down my throat ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always? Every time you go, or just when you have a sore throat issue?

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By *wencat OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"he might have meant slut in a fun and cheeky way but just didnt articulate himself very well. Btw maybe try taking some photos without your tongue sticking out?

Agree with the tongue thing, one or 2 pics is fine, but to have most of your gallery (most not all) with your tongue out, is kinda like a man with all cock pics... One or two is cute... Not critising, just can maybe see where a man could misconstrue an open mouth and tongue out as a 'cum in here' pose!"
well I am sorry I don't see it like that at all its a fun thing not sexual at all it makes my mate's laugh and we all do it maybe just take em off If that's what men think

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

Best way of dealing with this is not to take it to heart. You are not going to please all of the people all of time time - so these things will happen. It's not nice, but it happens.

Hugs

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By *wencat OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Best way of dealing with this is not to take it to heart. You are not going to please all of the people all of time time - so these things will happen. It's not nice, but it happens.

Hugs"
thanks u are so right I have moved my pics onto my friends only best I think x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We weren't sure whether to be offended last week when two seperate people offered us cash for sex therefore suggesting we were prostitutes . . . Should we be equally offended?

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