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By *entalg93 OP   Man
over a year ago

doncaster

Morning everybody, just after some advice if possible. I’ve been on here a couple of weeks and not having any success. I’ve managed one cam session with a member which was amazing. But I’m seriously struggling for views and replies.

Any ideas on if there’s anything I need to change

Thank you all

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I think it's not very friendly to say "I tend not to judge people but if you're a twat, you're a twat".

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Your profile isn't bad and it's important that it reflects you.

For your own wellbeing, it's important to have realistic expectations here.

Having info that people need is helpful, with the opposite potentially being a distraction. Ideally you won't fancy every woman, so perhaps consider clarifying who you're looking for a little. Likewise what you're offering.

If you could show your body, it would give us the information to decide whether we find you attractive and you'd not need to highlight it in the text, as you're already listed as curvy.

It usually takes months for a single man to get established, and the virus has dampened things still.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's better than a profile that has no pic and a has a boring, lazy blank profile. Why would anyone want to meet or chat to someone who can't even do the basics.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

You've got to be way more patient and allow for more ti.e than just 2 weeks, though having a cam session in that time is still probably more successful than at of other guys on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think your profile gives us a pretty good idea of who you are.

You just need to be patient. Read the profile of those who catch your eye and tailor your first message to attract them.

Opening lines like :

Wow

Hi

Wuu2

Hey

How are you

Can I ask you a question

Are all pretty much non starters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When messaging people, especially women, put something very eye catching in the header, (hi, hello, wow etc etc don't work) use something like Donald Trump!, Lemon Drizzle Fannyflaps, Farage is A Bender, Strawberry Turds... Trust me, it will get seen and more than likely opened, it will also help your message threads to be seen further down the line as their inbox gets fuller and fuller

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By *nvincible ButterflyWoman
over a year ago

LEEDS

Been here for 2 weeks and already had a cam session with someone is pretty good for a single guy!

Fab us a numbers game. There's hundreds of men to 1 single female or couple so you need to stand out somehow.

I'd be put off by the fact that you've said you are respectful, but then said you'd call someone a twat if you think they are one. You contradict yourself a little bit there.

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By *nvincible ButterflyWoman
over a year ago

LEEDS


"When messaging people, especially women, put something very eye catching in the header, (hi, hello, wow etc etc don't work) use something like Donald Trump!, Lemon Drizzle Fannyflaps, Farage is A Bender, Strawberry Turds... Trust me, it will get seen and more than likely opened, it will also help your message threads to be seen further down the line as their inbox gets fuller and fuller "

I'd definitely open a message with the header "Farage is a bender" lol

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"When messaging people, especially women, put something very eye catching in the header, (hi, hello, wow etc etc don't work) use something like Donald Trump!, Lemon Drizzle Fannyflaps, Farage is A Bender, Strawberry Turds... Trust me, it will get seen and more than likely opened, it will also help your message threads to be seen further down the line as their inbox gets fuller and fuller "

For free doughnuts apply here,would more likely get my attention

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When messaging people, especially women, put something very eye catching in the header, (hi, hello, wow etc etc don't work) use something like Donald Trump!, Lemon Drizzle Fannyflaps, Farage is A Bender, Strawberry Turds... Trust me, it will get seen and more than likely opened, it will also help your message threads to be seen further down the line as their inbox gets fuller and fuller

I'd definitely open a message with the header "Farage is a bender" lol"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When messaging people, especially women, put something very eye catching in the header, (hi, hello, wow etc etc don't work) use something like Donald Trump!, Lemon Drizzle Fannyflaps, Farage is A Bender, Strawberry Turds... Trust me, it will get seen and more than likely opened, it will also help your message threads to be seen further down the line as their inbox gets fuller and fuller

For free doughnuts apply here,would more likely get my attention"

Well. Now you're going to get offers of Doughnuts from every angle lol, Your inbox is going to be like a gangbang in a crispy creme van

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

It's a shame that after only three weeks you feel your profile is stale.

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By *entalg93 OP   Man
over a year ago

doncaster


"It's a shame that after only three weeks you feel your profile is stale. "

It’s only because I’m new to this scene and not 100% sure what to expect. Plus my confidence is non existent ????

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I am trying to be constructive when I say this but if your confidence is nonexistant then maybe this site isn't the best one for you. Have you tried other dating sites ?

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

OP.

To be honest, you've only been on here for 3 weeks!!

You're a mere beginner. Did you expect women to be falling at your feet? It's not an Instant Shag site!

It can take months, even up to a year to get success and that was before COVID! Now, some people aren't meeting yet and others are being choosy.

It's a numbers issue, with 100's of other guys in your area all seeking the same, so the ladies can take their time.

You have to effectively "sell" yourself, to get noticed. Say what you want in a meet plus what you can contribute too.

As for pics, ditch the dick pic to Private or Friends then add in a facial pic without sunglasses, a torso pic too helps.

Get into the Forums, to Socials in your region or even get to clubs. It's all about being recognised.

Patience, Perseverance and lots of time are key to your success, which is matched by your input.

Good Luck.

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By *entalg93 OP   Man
over a year ago

doncaster

Thank you for your input. And yeah I’m a mere beginner haha! I’ve been on a couple forum posts and tried looking for things local to Doncaster such as clubs etc but haven’t been helped in that regard. Any help for clubs/socials would be much appreciated

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Your two forum posts have both been asking for profile advice. Maybe try joining in with some of the chats or games ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As others have mentioned, it takes a while.

I’ve been on here well over two years in total and have had a total of four meet opportunities; one I didn’t want to take in the end, one I couldn’t make as it was too short notice, one that we just an open offer and the person left before anything happened and one that fell apart halfway through trying to arrange it.

It’s a very slow process. It takes more than a couple of weeks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" I think it's not very friendly to say "I tend not to judge people but if you're a twat, you're a twat". "

This line would get you blocked if you messaged me

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By *itsAndTangentsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Quite like the if you're a twat, you're a twat comment.

As always, different strokes for different folks!

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