FabSwingers.com forum: Practical profile advice please!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Kind profile advice please!

Been on and off fab for a few years but never had any luck at all really! I live in a big city so in theory I’d have thought I’d have done better on here and other sites!

I’ve tried my best to change the range of photos and to send nice polite messages but yeah! I’ve taken on advice such as removing photos of me and my partner and increasing the number of face photos. I’m not terribly bad looking so don’t know why I get no responses / lots of “you’re not my type”/“no Asians” messages! I’m aware that I’m not everyone’s type (shorter than what people like, not particularly muscly and am quite awkward at first in person) but I’m working on those (at least the latter two!).

Please please please no horrible comments, I’m not on here for a roast! Just some practical profile advice please! What can I change?

Thank you!

-M

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

2 out of 6 pics are of your cock but you have none of your body. Many people will want to know if they find you attractive, which will be face, body and personality for many.

It's not a bad profile but you're perhaps somewhat light on detail.

The more that you can make it extremely different to a 'man wants sex' profile - which yours isn't, I hasten to add - the easier it is for others to decide if you are a good match.

Consider clubs to increase your contact with others too.

Good luck!

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Your age range is 18-35, how many women in the Birmingham area, do you think join a swingers site ?

I wouldn’t think there’d be many and the few on here will be inundated, even from guys miles away trying to meet them.

It’s not the easiest site to meet younger women,no matter what is on your profile.

Good luck Op as I think you’ll need it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your age range is 18-35, how many women in the Birmingham area, do you think join a swingers site ?

I wouldn’t think there’d be many and the few on here will be inundated, even from guys miles away trying to meet them.

It’s not the easiest site to meet younger women,no matter what is on your profile.

Good luck Op as I think you’ll need it.

Thank you! I could extend my age range to 55 maybe?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"2 out of 6 pics are of your cock but you have none of your body. Many people will want to know if they find you attractive, which will be face, body and personality for many.

It's not a bad profile but you're perhaps somewhat light on detail.

The more that you can make it extremely different to a 'man wants sex' profile - which yours isn't, I hasten to add - the easier it is for others to decide if you are a good match.

Consider clubs to increase your contact with others too.

Good luck! "

Thank you! That’s so kind

I have been thinking about going to clubs (with my partner as that’ll make things much easier!). I’d upload a body photo but I know I’m ridiculously unattractive at the moment!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi Annavrin, well I really like your profile, you’re very handsome and sexy and you have an amazing dick. The only parts of your profile I don’t like is where you say you’re straight and you only say you’re looking for women because that tells me you probably wouldn’t be interested in me but I still have a bit of hope as I have had quite a few sexy conversations with men on here who’s profile say they’re straight and looking for women so I’m hanging onto that shred of hope and if you’re one of the straight men who would like to chat with me then feel free to message me anytime.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

2 of the same dick pic. Mix it up a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"2 of the same dick pic. Mix it up a bit."

I would be happy to look at 200 of the same dick pic when it’s a pic of such an amazing dick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"2 out of 6 pics are of your cock but you have none of your body. Many people will want to know if they find you attractive, which will be face, body and personality for many.

It's not a bad profile but you're perhaps somewhat light on detail.

The more that you can make it extremely different to a 'man wants sex' profile - which yours isn't, I hasten to add - the easier it is for others to decide if you are a good match.

Consider clubs to increase your contact with others too.

Good luck!

Thank you! That’s so kind

I have been thinking about going to clubs (with my partner as that’ll make things much easier!). I’d upload a body photo but I know I’m ridiculously unattractive at the moment!"

So your in a relationship? You don’t state that in your profile. Is your partner aware that your on here? Are you looking for women with her consent?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

" I have been thinking about going to clubs (with my partner as that’ll make things much easier!). I’d upload a body photo but I know I’m ridiculously unattractive at the moment!"

Your partner obviously doesn't find you "ridiculously unattractive" so what makes you assume other women will ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"2 out of 6 pics are of your cock but you have none of your body. Many people will want to know if they find you attractive, which will be face, body and personality for many.

It's not a bad profile but you're perhaps somewhat light on detail.

The more that you can make it extremely different to a 'man wants sex' profile - which yours isn't, I hasten to add - the easier it is for others to decide if you are a good match.

Consider clubs to increase your contact with others too.

Good luck!

Thank you! That’s so kind

I have been thinking about going to clubs (with my partner as that’ll make things much easier!). I’d upload a body photo but I know I’m ridiculously unattractive at the moment!

So your in a relationship? You don’t state that in your profile. Is your partner aware that your on here? Are you looking for women with her consent? "

Yeah, totally with her consent (can prove this!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"2 out of 6 pics are of your cock but you have none of your body. Many people will want to know if they find you attractive, which will be face, body and personality for many.

It's not a bad profile but you're perhaps somewhat light on detail.

The more that you can make it extremely different to a 'man wants sex' profile - which yours isn't, I hasten to add - the easier it is for others to decide if you are a good match.

Consider clubs to increase your contact with others too.

Good luck!

Thank you! That’s so kind

I have been thinking about going to clubs (with my partner as that’ll make things much easier!). I’d upload a body photo but I know I’m ridiculously unattractive at the moment!

So your in a relationship? You don’t state that in your profile. Is your partner aware that your on here? Are you looking for women with her consent?

Yeah, totally with her consent (can prove this!)"

Would be wise to update your profile stating this

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"2 out of 6 pics are of your cock but you have none of your body. Many people will want to know if they find you attractive, which will be face, body and personality for many.

It's not a bad profile but you're perhaps somewhat light on detail.

The more that you can make it extremely different to a 'man wants sex' profile - which yours isn't, I hasten to add - the easier it is for others to decide if you are a good match.

Consider clubs to increase your contact with others too.

Good luck!

Thank you! That’s so kind

I have been thinking about going to clubs (with my partner as that’ll make things much easier!). I’d upload a body photo but I know I’m ridiculously unattractive at the moment!

So your in a relationship? You don’t state that in your profile. Is your partner aware that your on here? Are you looking for women with her consent?

Yeah, totally with her consent (can prove this!)

Would be wise to update your profile stating this "

I have done that (and have done that on fetlife) but I then get inundated with messages asking about if she can join, from people who just want to play with her. It’s exhausting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd extend your age range. Believe me there are plenty of much older women out there who like younger men such as yourself.

And actually, a 60 or 70 year old pussy tastes and smells exactly like a 21y old pussy, and gets nearly as wet

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"2 out of 6 pics are of your cock but you have none of your body. Many people will want to know if they find you attractive, which will be face, body and personality for many.

It's not a bad profile but you're perhaps somewhat light on detail.

The more that you can make it extremely different to a 'man wants sex' profile - which yours isn't, I hasten to add - the easier it is for others to decide if you are a good match.

Consider clubs to increase your contact with others too.

Good luck!

Thank you! That’s so kind

I have been thinking about going to clubs (with my partner as that’ll make things much easier!). I’d upload a body photo but I know I’m ridiculously unattractive at the moment!"

Your body is what most potential partners will want to have a good sense of, before they consider you as a possible prospect.

It's wise to think that if in doubt, women won't. Your challenge is to let others develop their confidence in you, as a good likely match to their needs. The more that you can do to improve their confidence in you, the easier it becomes for them to consider replying to your messages.

It might boost your ego to get replies but the ideal is to have replies from people who know the deal. If they know your physique and what you consider your weak points and are happy with this, then they are worth more than those who wouldn't be matched with you, had they known the reality.

As I said in my first post, removing any uncertainties they may have about you being matched, is the ideal approach. 1 cock pic should be enough for most, if you balance that with those things that they will want to be confident about you.

Perhaps your partner could help to clarify what women are likely to want, before they are more able to know, that you could be a good match. If in doubt, people skip to the next message.

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By *lan157Man
over a year ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

"Your age range is 18-35, how many women in the Birmingham area, do you think join a swingers site ?

I wouldn’t think there’d be many and the few on here will be inundated, even from guys miles away trying to meet them.

It’s not the easiest site to meet younger women,no matter what is on your profile.

Good luck Op as I think you’ll need it.

Thank you! I could extend my age range to 55 maybe?"

I don't think you should change the age range of those you are looking for OP since you are going to think twice about actually meeting someone who is not your first choice age and this might cause issues in practice .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

saying you will change your age range makes you sound desparate tbh, and you obviously want to meet women of a similar age to you, as to your partner, you need to put it on your profile, and put that she doesnt play but is happy to confirm shes happy for you to by phone, and as said some better pics would help alot

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By *heonixRaven 777Woman
over a year ago

Guildford

"saying you will change your age range makes you sound desparate tbh, and you obviously want to meet women of a similar age to you, as to your partner, you need to put it on your profile, and put that she doesnt play but is happy to confirm shes happy for you to by phone, and as said some better pics would help alot"

I am sorry but I feel that's the choice of the OP partner to make on how she wishes to represented on the OP profile. While she may be happy with OP being on the site, I don't feel it's fair to assume she will want to be contacted. She has a choice to her wishes as well, and those should be respected too.

OP I believe you should list the age range of the people you actually want to meet, your location has a thriving scene and community with many fabulous events.

I really feel you would be better exploring the events scene and it's a great way to meet lots of different people.

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