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By *eo Lane OP   Man
over a year ago

Barnet

Wonder if I can gain some guidance - I’m a horny 40 year old man who loves sex knows how to please a women but have in a year not been able to attract anyone for a meet let alone to chat to in order to send pics - I’m new to this but want to meet like minded people/couples that I can spend time with and have a laugh and fun as well as being comfortable in whatever that leads to but not sure what doing or not doing any advice welcome x

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Can I point you towards a post in the lounge from Mekel talking about first messages. His advice on the opening post is very good.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Have you considered having some sort of profile pic rather than a silhouette ?

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

The last year has kind of been messed up by a global plague.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

A lot of people will delete a message unread from a silhouette

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

OP, you have been on here for over a year, so aren't new.

However, you need to be aware that as a single man, you're very much one of hundreds, all trying to meet a much smaller number of single ladies and couples looking for men.

Your profile needs to sell you...

Think of it as your shop window. As it stands, your shutters are down and it appear closed... few would venture in to see if there's anything tempting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The site is overrun with horny guys who love sex.

The trick is making your profile stand out from the rest.

Do you think yours does?

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Tonbridge

You don't just get to say "I want" and miraculously it all happens for you. Horny men greatly outnumber women and couples on here, so they get a lot more choice. They are going to choose the best profiles - the ones with the best galleries and the best text, the ones where the guys come across as interesting, engaging and respectful - because those are the guys people want to hang out with.

My advice to everybody on here is to take an honest look at their profile and the messages they send and ask themselves if they are coming across as somebody who people would like to meet, or if they are just relying on the fact that people on here want to have sex and conclude that no effort is needed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Several years on here, and the sex has been through club meets or organized parties. I've chatted with some ladies on herebut almost in a friendly way than leading to a sexual hook up. As previous posts said heavily weighted on here with guys, but need profile photo at least.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Like others said op, many delete messages from blank shadows, so make a private pic into a profile pic.

Covid has had a massive effect on meets for 18 months, so it's been hard for everyone.

Sell yourself, why are you here, what are you offering meets.

Get involved in the forums and try a club or social now they're restarting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Several years on here, and the sex has been through club meets or organized parties. I've chatted with some ladies on herebut almost in a friendly way than leading to a sexual hook up. As previous posts said heavily weighted on here with guys, but need profile photo at least. "

As a female, my personal feelings towards your situation is that almost every single picture is a close up of your dick. Where's the personality? Who are you? How do you dress? What do you like doing? For most of us we don't see a dick and need it. We want the person behind it.

At least that's my personal opinion.

-C

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By *XXDREAMMan
over a year ago

sudbury

Get yourself a profile pic hide the ones that are straight up of your cock and leave a little to the imagination and give a little more of a tease vibe to your profile then you’ll have people talking to you to get an idea of the rest rather than giving it all away off the bat

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I don't know how many other women feel like this but any mention of being a horny person and highly sexed etc turns me off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know how many other women feel like this but any mention of being a horny person and highly sexed etc turns me off.

"

Agreed!

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

OP... are you really "open to anything" ?

That one phrase would put me off.

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By *edantic SheilaWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"I don't know how many other women feel like this but any mention of being a horny person and highly sexed etc turns me off.

"
This

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

You need a profile picture. Lots of people won’t respond to a silhouette. I’d say don’t have your penis as your profile pic either, that puts a lot of people off.

Your profile has to really sell what you’re offering. People are really unlikely to message you to find out more when there are so many other profiles that tell them so much more. They’ll just pass you by.

If you’re relying solely on Fab and not going to clubs or anything, then your profile and communication have to be exceptional. And you need a thick skin because you’ll get turned down and ignored a lot.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There


"I don't know how many other women feel like this but any mention of being a horny person and highly sexed etc turns me off.

"

It instantly makes me feel like he’s not looking for anything mutual, just looking for someone who’ll provide a service to satisfy him.

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By *XXDREAMMan
over a year ago

sudbury

Thanks for clarifying that is intact as bad as it sounds hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know how many other women feel like this but any mention of being a horny person and highly sexed etc turns me off.

"

Me too.

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By *astille79Man
over a year ago

Sussex

Being a smoker can reduce your options too. Think of this place like the board game Guess Who? Silhouette, cock pics, smoker…things like that reduce the limited pool

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By *urvytreatWoman
over a year ago

somewhere nice

I’ve just looked at your profile and yawned!

You’re not even smiling in your face pic and the cock pic is run of the mill. You’re here because a females recommended it, blah blah blah

New face pic needed, some body shots, make the cock pic friends only. Rewrite your bio saying about you, what you’re into, what you’re looking for. Can you travel or accommodate? Do you do clubs? Do you do socials?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is what we look for a single males:

Pics on profile, not just one of their cock so purple it might drop off

Well written profile that tells me something about you

Prepared to meet socially first

Can managed more than: hi/hey/how are you?

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Wasn't there some kind of global pandemic thing going on over the last year...think it might have been some sort virus thing......

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