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By *veragecouple321 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leamington Spa

Does anyone else suffer from this or is it just me?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always get them!

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By *9alMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

I think everyone does a bit but it can add to the excitement to be a bit nervous

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By *veragecouple321 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leamington Spa

I think it's got slightly worse since being locked down for so long?

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

Gentle nerves are part of what make it all fun and worth doing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do but its mostly happy nerves and part of the excitement. Just remind yourself you don’t have to do anything that your uncomfortable with and always have the right to cancel or stop any meet at any time if your not happy so you have nothing to be nervous about. If they’re worthy of your time then they’ll be friendly, polite and do their best to put you at ease, though there probably a good chance they’re just as nervous x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if there weren’t any nerves anymore, it’d be time to stop.

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By *veragecouple321 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Leamington Spa

Thanks for the responses was just wondering if it was normal and apparently it seems to be, any helpful tips greatly appreciated, I'm fine once it all starts it's just the run upto it that gets me.

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By *urvySub87Woman
over a year ago

Near Wellingborough

I suffer terribly with my nerves, that's why I'm not a big fan of meeting new people. I like to keep my circle small lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pre nerves make it fun and exciting full with anticipation

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By *r and Mrs SexploitCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd

We always get a little nervous. I think it's got easier over the years.

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By *rincess!555Woman
over a year ago

Windsor

Meeting someone new is very nerve racking. I don't tend to meet too many people though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still always get them! Xx

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By *elpful and caringMan
over a year ago

Scarborough

Yes I get very nervous which I think is partly nervous excitement but mainly my conscience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (mr) get them the wife doesn't seem to be nervous at all t&g

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By *jorkishMan
over a year ago

Seaforth

Meeting for the first time yes and for some strange reason some more than others. Remember once my foot shaking on the pedal when driving.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will have them tonight to the Annex for about five minutes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes I get very nervous which I think is partly nervous excitement but mainly my conscience. "

Exactly this

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By *ainbowCheesecakeCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

We went to Jaydees for the first time at the weekend. No intention other than to enjoy each others company. Still spent half hour in the car sat outside getting ourselves mentally prepped to walk in!!

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By *apnDomMan
over a year ago

London | Belfast

Not at all, I have nerves of steel. I think it's because most other people just rarely do things that puts them out of their comfort zone, so meeting someone new is kind of unnerving to them.

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By *uminsiderMKMan
over a year ago

St Austell

The nervous anticipation of what's to come is all part of the excitement!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always get nervous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I got really nervous on my first meet, my GF kept saying to get on with it, I’ll be fine. Once we got into it though I was okay

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By *reeAdventureTimeCouple
over a year ago

Western MA

Just meet them at the door naked. It's less awkward and saves time...

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By *andKBCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

I do!!

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"Does anyone else suffer from this or is it just me?"

It's completely normal, we have them too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always do. I judge myself a bit too. Which is daft cos I’m

Not doing owt wrong.

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By *ornynorfolkguyMan
over a year ago

North Norfolk

I’d be concerned if I didn’t.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

I think we are less nervous about going out to a club as we know what to expect.

But that first approach is always an area of uncertainty as you never know how others will react to you trying to initiate contact.

Once you know the answer, E.g. Hi or fuck off (OK no one has ever said fuck off.)

Then the nerves pass. I think the trickiest thing is when you say hi but the conversation quickly runs dry. It makes it harder to judge whether they are into you or not.

But we tend to just move on. It's a bit like speed dating in that way.

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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield

I always find it makes me nervous meeting people in any context, and worry or overthink things, or judge myself afterwards too.

Going to clubs no longer makes me nervous but I'm probably more nervous about approaching people there than I would be on a pre-arranged meet. And the more I find someone attractive, the more nervous I get, the more I judge myself,...

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow


"I think we are less nervous about going out to a club as we know what to expect.

But that first approach is always an area of uncertainty as you never know how others will react to you trying to initiate contact.

Once you know the answer, E.g. Hi or fuck off (OK no one has ever said fuck off.)

Then the nerves pass. I think the trickiest thing is when you say hi but the conversation quickly runs dry. It makes it harder to judge whether they are into you or not.

But we tend to just move on. It's a bit like speed dating in that way. "

Is this what I have an issue with as well the say hi you chat then it’s like are they up for playing. Normally if I say they can spank my bum normally is a good indication

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By *ubzero99Man
over a year ago

County Durham

I never have convo problems like

However nerves is a bad thing at start my knob tends to disappear somewhere

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By *lasVe4asWoman
over a year ago

The East End


"Thanks for the responses was just wondering if it was normal and apparently it seems to be, any helpful tips greatly appreciated, I'm fine once it all starts it's just the run upto it that gets me."

I get them! More so when getting ready for a meet, I take my time and get into feeling of what might happen, take a minute to appreciate that I’m going to be looking fabulous, I’ve chosen an outfit that works for me, not anyone else and then own it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, nervous on first meets. Makes that first meet more intense but also makes subsequent meets more relaxed and better in a different way.

Always a bit nervous walking into a club though!

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Depends on the meet.

We used to get nervous but not much anymore. Depends if it's a "first" we are doing or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before Covid, I never really got nervous anyway though but if I was to meet now I think I would be nervous because I've not met anyone for a few years x

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By *um6a9funMan
over a year ago

Messy End

Always have a few nerves, adds to the excitement though.

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

A frisson of anxiety is stimulating; anything beyond that detracts from the experience.

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By *eepitonwaxMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I was over them but had my first meet post covid lockdowns on Saturday and they were back. Quickly dissipated though as they were really nice

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By *he Ring WraithMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I must be odd then; but no not nerves more excited anticipation.

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By *ehind closed curtainsCouple
over a year ago

East Midlands

I always have a mixture of nerves and excitement. If I stopped having those feelings then personally I think I'd stop swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else suffer from this or is it just me?"

Oh god no. Babe is usually v calm, but Tigger here gets the jitters almost always.. what if?????? All that adolescent stuff lol . Absolutely fine once met or playing....just those nerves ...

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By *rcadian110Couple
over a year ago

Barnsley

We do, especially if we are hosting. That one of the reasons we insist on a social first. That way we can all get to know each other, flirt by message after and then have a more comfortable playdate together. Still get butterflies and hope we live up to expectations tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a meet a few weeks ago and when I met the lady for some reason. I couldn't stop shaking. Literally had to use her couch to grip on to I was shaking so much. She was kissing me wondering wtf. After a few minutes we went upstairs and she undressed me. Onc I saw I wasn't to nervous to porform I calmed down. Happily third meet tomorrow.

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By *j_maleMan
over a year ago

Melton Area

I get super nervous, verifications really help me feel reassured though.

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside


"Does anyone else suffer from this or is it just me?"

It's part of the fun.

Once they stop, we'll pack it in.

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

No I tend not to because I’ve been chatting to them so long

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By *exandthesuburbans83Couple
over a year ago

EASTBOURNE

Yep mrs much more than Mr gets nerves. Also not just about the sex aspect but about the social chemistry as that's important to us. However, a couple of drinks and once the chat starts flowing its a lot easier. Its why Mrs fantasy is more just randomly meeting others like us than planning as the planning involves nerves.however, randomly meeting swingers when not at a specific event it hard (but we have done it before).

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I love the pre meet nerves. I only get them now when I see their car pull up.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

I get them everytime, even with people I've met before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the rush and excitement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Isn’t pre meet nerves part of the whole experience!

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By *harlotteBigBoobsWoman
over a year ago

Hull

I get butterflies and the usual his he gonna like me in the flesh thoughts, x

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By *oob suckerMan
over a year ago

woking


"We went to Jaydees for the first time at the weekend. No intention other than to enjoy each others company. Still spent half hour in the car sat outside getting ourselves mentally prepped to walk in!! "

I’m too nervous to go to clubs!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We went to Jaydees for the first time at the weekend. No intention other than to enjoy each others company. Still spent half hour in the car sat outside getting ourselves mentally prepped to walk in!! "

How did it go?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else suffer from this or is it just me?"

Yeah I love that feeling of meeting someone I don’t know it’s such a turn on

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By *orth-A-SquirtCouple
over a year ago

Kent

I think we have things round the wrong way, we enjoy clubs and don’t really get many nerves but haven’t had the courage to meet another couple outside of clubs.

We have the ‘what if they’re not attracted to us’ and fear the awkwardness

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