FabSwingers.com forum: Nights out

By *oungcoup69 OP Couple
over a year ago

hidden garden

How to you bring up the topic you are interested in someone on a night out? As a single it was quite easy to do but how do you approach the subject as a couple without the other person thinking you are a weirdo? We both love the idea of finding someone naturally in the wild but we also realise that this lifestyle isn't for everyone so we don't want to offend or scare anyone off haha! Has anyone ever managed to pull this off in a normal club etc? If so how did it happen?

By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

It's a mixture of being able to read the atmosphere and being brave enough to be open and Frank. We're not scared of people thinking We're weirdos. Anyone who been around us 5 minutes would have probably gathered that. Get to know them a bit. If you suspect the situation is going well and it feels right we normally just sort of blend into the conversation what we do, that we're swingers. Their reaction to that normally will then show you if there is any going forward or not. If they're interested they'll want to know more etc, or share about them selves. Then slowly turn up the flirting and see where it goes. If not, then it's just a fun fact and you generally carry on as before. Even if it's not their thing doesn't seem to cause offence, most adults these days are pretty cool about it.

Just be warned if they don't have experience of swinging they may not be in a good place or experienced in dealing with some of the potential put falls.

By *oungcoup69 OP Couple
over a year ago

hidden garden

Hey! Thanks for the response! We have dropped it into conversation before but was met with "I don't think we could ever do that etc" but I guess we probably read the situation wrong haha! We are new at this ourselves haha!