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By *azey47 OP   Man
over a year ago

winchester

Hi everyone,

So this will be hard to understand for a fair few people, but it's something we've lived with and have talked about/grown up with.

My Partner is A-sexual, we have a loving relationship, and we have no securities/things we can't talk to each other about.

We've come to the conclusion that because she isn't interested in sex at all, we could have a look around this scene, maybe meet up together, or I'll go to individual meets, depending on how we progress.

I was just looking to hear peoples thoughts on it.

I'm straight, so looking for single females or a couple that are okay with me just being straight, and want to have some fun!

Cheers,

H

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Hi everyone,

So this will be hard to understand for a fair few people, but it's something we've lived with and have talked about/grown up with.

My Partner is A-sexual, we have a loving relationship, and we have no securities/things we can't talk to each other about.

We've come to the conclusion that because she isn't interested in sex at all, we could have a look around this scene, maybe meet up together, or I'll go to individual meets, depending on how we progress.

I was just looking to hear peoples thoughts on it.

I'm straight, so looking for single females or a couple that are okay with me just being straight, and want to have some fun!

Cheers,

H"

Hi pal didn't you get enough advice last time you posted this ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I green arrowed him and there is no other time he's posted this?

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By *azey47 OP   Man
over a year ago

winchester

I don't think I've posted about this before?

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"I don't think I've posted about this before?"

My sincere apologies then was another guy who posted similar as yourself might still be able to find the tread

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By *exy4youxxWoman
over a year ago

Pontefract


"Hi everyone,

So this will be hard to understand for a fair few people, but it's something we've lived with and have talked about/grown up with.

My Partner is A-sexual, we have a loving relationship, and we have no securities/things we can't talk to each other about.

We've come to the conclusion that because she isn't interested in sex at all, we could have a look around this scene, maybe meet up together, or I'll go to individual meets, depending on how we progress.

I was just looking to hear peoples thoughts on it.

I'm straight, so looking for single females or a couple that are okay with me just being straight, and want to have some fun!

Cheers,

H"

Hmm ok now im confused are you saying you and your partner looking for fun as your down as a single male and no mention of a partner so I'm not really sure what advice your looking for

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By *rsTrellisWoman
over a year ago

Cambridge

It sounds like a really pragmatic solution to mismatched sex drives.

Maybe consider a few sessions with a (sex-positive) sex and relationship therapist. They might be able to give you some pointers and help you set up really good communication.

Read “The Ethical Slut” and listen to a podcast called Savage Lovecast (the first five mins is political, the next hour is a sex/relationship phone in, but he often addresses mismatched libido)

All the best. X

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

Forgive me for being cynical OP, but you’re 8 months into Fab and this looks to be the first time mentioning your partner. It seems a bit odd and not a great start.

If you really do have a consenting partner who will potentially be going on meets with you then you need a couples profile and your dynamic needs to be set out on your profile so people know what they’re getting into. If you stick with your single profile then j think you still need to explain that you’re attached and playing away.

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By *orkshrCplCouple
over a year ago

Ripon


"Forgive me for being cynical OP, but you’re 8 months into Fab and this looks to be the first time mentioning your partner. It seems a bit odd and not a great start.

If you really do have a consenting partner who will potentially be going on meets with you then you need a couples profile and your dynamic needs to be set out on your profile so people know what they’re getting into. If you stick with your single profile then j think you still need to explain that you’re attached and playing away. "

This entirely x

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Why would your partner want to meet, or anyone want to meet her, if she is asexual?

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

I think the green arrow posts referring OPs other introductions.. but yes this is the first time he is intoeicding the angle that he is attached .. perhaps he wasnt able to follow the advice from before without acknowledging his attachment status

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

As others stated, it's worthwhile stating that you're in your relationship, with those circumstances. You could also have a couples profile, to explore together.

The red flag for many is a man who cheats, so you will need to assure them that you aren't in this category.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Hi everyone,

So this will be hard to understand for a fair few people, but it's something we've lived with and have talked about/grown up with.

My Partner is A-sexual, we have a loving relationship, and we have no securities/things we can't talk to each other about.

We've come to the conclusion that because she isn't interested in sex at all, we could have a look around this scene, maybe meet up together, or I'll go to individual meets, depending on how we progress.

I was just looking to hear peoples thoughts on it.

I'm straight, so looking for single females or a couple that are okay with me just being straight, and want to have some fun!

Cheers,

H"

I think your best bet is probably to meet as a single man. Your partner could possibly have a quick coffee with you and anybody you intended to meet just to verify that you have permission. I genuinely can't see the benefit to anybody of you meeting as a couple though. How would your partner be involved? An asexual person wouldn't want to be sexual with anybody.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Hi everyone,

So this will be hard to understand for a fair few people, but it's something we've lived with and have talked about/grown up with.

My Partner is A-sexual, we have a loving relationship, and we have no securities/things we can't talk to each other about.

We've come to the conclusion that because she isn't interested in sex at all, we could have a look around this scene, maybe meet up together, or I'll go to individual meets, depending on how we progress.

I was just looking to hear peoples thoughts on it.

I'm straight, so looking for single females or a couple that are okay with me just being straight, and want to have some fun!

Cheers,

H

I think your best bet is probably to meet as a single man. Your partner could possibly have a quick coffee with you and anybody you intended to meet just to verify that you have permission. I genuinely can't see the benefit to anybody of you meeting as a couple though. How would your partner be involved? An asexual person wouldn't want to be sexual with anybody."

His partner could always be a cuck if not playing a part and never know could change things

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Hi everyone,

So this will be hard to understand for a fair few people, but it's something we've lived with and have talked about/grown up with.

My Partner is A-sexual, we have a loving relationship, and we have no securities/things we can't talk to each other about.

We've come to the conclusion that because she isn't interested in sex at all, we could have a look around this scene, maybe meet up together, or I'll go to individual meets, depending on how we progress.

I was just looking to hear peoples thoughts on it.

I'm straight, so looking for single females or a couple that are okay with me just being straight, and want to have some fun!

Cheers,

H

I think your best bet is probably to meet as a single man. Your partner could possibly have a quick coffee with you and anybody you intended to meet just to verify that you have permission. I genuinely can't see the benefit to anybody of you meeting as a couple though. How would your partner be involved? An asexual person wouldn't want to be sexual with anybody.

His partner could always be a cuck if not playing a part and never know could change things"

Being asexual isn't something that changes.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


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His partner could always be a cuck if not playing a part and never know could change things"

Being a cuck is sexual though.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"

His partner could always be a cuck if not playing a part and never know could change things

Being a cuck is sexual though."

And could bring the desire to want to explore since it's a medical condition.that Can only be self cured if it's such a way to describe. Being a cuck could be,but are those who get more Satisfaction from watching then taking part.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"

His partner could always be a cuck if not playing a part and never know could change things

Being a cuck is sexual though.

And could bring the desire to want to explore since it's a medical condition.that Can only be self cured if it's such a way to describe. Being a cuck could be,but are those who get more Satisfaction from watching then taking part."

Asexuality isn't a medical condition as far as I'm aware.

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By *azey47 OP   Man
over a year ago

winchester

Ahh we were thinking about exactly this, but she may get involved with women kissing/light touching, just nothing done to her, so it maybe a case of we both do stuff to other people, and me, but not to her if that makes sense.

It's definitely a complicated one, but something we are looking into.

H

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By *urvyBi-84Man
over a year ago

Lancs


"

His partner could always be a cuck if not playing a part and never know could change things

Being a cuck is sexual though.

And could bring the desire to want to explore since it's a medical condition.that Can only be self cured if it's such a way to describe. Being a cuck could be,but are those who get more Satisfaction from watching then taking part."

Being asexual isn’t a medical condition, it is simply a description of someone with very low or no sex drive. True asexuality cannot be ‘cured’ just as homosexuality cannot be ‘cured’.

Certain medical conditions can cause people to lose their sex drive, but that doesn’t seem to be the case here. My advice to OP would be possibly some relationship counselling to make sure everything is good and, if you both agree to opening the relationship up, setting and agreeing some rules and boundaries within which you can play with others. I’d also add it to your profile so that people know about it up front.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone,

So this will be hard to understand for a fair few people, but it's something we've lived with and have talked about/grown up with.

My Partner is A-sexual, we have a loving relationship, and we have no securities/things we can't talk to each other about.

We've come to the conclusion that because she isn't interested in sex at all, we could have a look around this scene, maybe meet up together, or I'll go to individual meets, depending on how we progress.

I was just looking to hear peoples thoughts on it.

I'm straight, so looking for single females or a couple that are okay with me just being straight, and want to have some fun!

Cheers,

H"

Your situation is as old as time itself.

You want sex, your wife doesn't and isn't interested, so you're looking for clarifacation to get what you want.

I would concentrate more on why your other half doesn't want sex with you, than you looking for sex elsewhere.

Sort that issue out and you could be both happier, hornier and possibly looking together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone,

So this will be hard to understand for a fair few people, but it's something we've lived with and have talked about/grown up with.

My Partner is A-sexual, we have a loving relationship, and we have no securities/things we can't talk to each other about.

We've come to the conclusion that because she isn't interested in sex at all, we could have a look around this scene, maybe meet up together, or I'll go to individual meets, depending on how we progress.

I was just looking to hear peoples thoughts on it.

I'm straight, so looking for single females or a couple that are okay with me just being straight, and want to have some fun!

Cheers,

H

Your situation is as old as time itself.

You want sex, your wife doesn't and isn't interested, so you're looking for clarifacation to get what you want.

I would concentrate more on why your other half doesn't want sex with you, than you looking for sex elsewhere.

Sort that issue out and you could be both happier, hornier and possibly looking together."

Agreed

I may get dashed for this but I've know a few woman with incredibly low to non existence sex drives that in the past quite frankly have had poor, selfish lovers.

It's amazing what can happen when a lover / partner makes you the centre of thier universe both in sex and life.

Dedicating your self to learning your partners body inside and out at a pace she is comfortable with. Constantly strive to learn and adapt, always with the aim of her pleasure. Every woman is different learn every milimetre of your lady, how your touch and where can potentially work for her etc. Become the best lover that you possibly can.

Many years into our marriage I take immense pleasure finding new techniques to give K pleasure and make her cum. (and she does to me)

If all of the above fails then at least you know you have tried everything and she may truly be asexual.

Often though selfish hop on hop off 1 stroke lovers have offered so little it becomes no suprise a woman's desire for sex becomes non existence.

I've know a number of woman who spent years not interested in sex at all but once they found a lover who was dedicated to both THEM and the art that love making they became very sexual active.

KJ

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi everyone,

So this will be hard to understand for a fair few people, but it's something we've lived with and have talked about/grown up with.

My Partner is A-sexual, we have a loving relationship, and we have no securities/things we can't talk to each other about.

We've come to the conclusion that because she isn't interested in sex at all, we could have a look around this scene, maybe meet up together, or I'll go to individual meets, depending on how we progress.

I was just looking to hear peoples thoughts on it.

I'm straight, so looking for single females or a couple that are okay with me just being straight, and want to have some fun!

Cheers,

H

Your situation is as old as time itself.

You want sex, your wife doesn't and isn't interested, so you're looking for clarifacation to get what you want.

I would concentrate more on why your other half doesn't want sex with you, than you looking for sex elsewhere.

Sort that issue out and you could be both happier, hornier and possibly looking together.

Agreed

I may get dashed for this but I've know a few woman with incredibly low to non existence sex drives that in the past quite frankly have had poor, selfish lovers.

It's amazing what can happen when a lover / partner makes you the centre of thier universe both in sex and life.

Dedicating your self to learning your partners body inside and out at a pace she is comfortable with. Constantly strive to learn and adapt, always with the aim of her pleasure. Every woman is different learn every milimetre of your lady, how your touch and where can potentially work for her etc. Become the best lover that you possibly can.

Many years into our marriage I take immense pleasure finding new techniques to give K pleasure and make her cum. (and she does to me)

If all of the above fails then at least you know you have tried everything and she may truly be asexual.

Often though selfish hop on hop off 1 stroke lovers have offered so little it becomes no suprise a woman's desire for sex becomes non existence.

I've know a number of woman who spent years not interested in sex at all but once they found a lover who was dedicated to both THEM and the art that love making they became very sexual active.

KJ "

Exactly right.

Finding the connection and chemistry with each other is vital.

The discovery plays a big part in any relationship, as well as changing tastes in sexual preferences and desires.

Patience is a virtue and the best way forward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *adysueandneroCouple
over a year ago

witney


"Why would your partner want to meet, or anyone want to meet her, if she is asexual?"

I was thinking the same thing.

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