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By *A5-1975 OP Man
over a year ago

warrington

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By *A5-1975 OP Man
over a year ago

warrington

I have just read

http://www.fabswingers.com/forum/support/118865

I have not done anything myself, but am considering visiting a club, although I am shy/nervous/excited. Would the same advice be relevant to a first time guy visiting a club ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What does the extra S represent?

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

The advice would be similar.

Just remember as a single male you have a lot of barriers to break. More than a woman obviously.

Be friendly, welcoming, and have a smile on your face. Talk to both of a couple, not just the female half. Don't walk around with a permanent hard on, wanking it every time you pass a woman or couple.

Don't get d*unk, or stand cheering on the football. One club I attend has the football on the big screen, and it really annoys me.

The one big annoyance for me at a club is the crocodile line of single men that follow me everywhere, this is especially fun if there are stairs at the venue, because you can usually go back down when the guys are still going up following you, they just don't know what it is they are following. So I guess I'm saying, don't follow the crowd, make your own fun.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

It's very similar.

Try not to follow people like a little lost puppy...

If the club you're going to has a social area then socialise! Make eye contact, smile and chat. If you don't know what to say then say that it's your first time and you're nervous - it's one of the few places you can ask do you come here often!

When talking to couples talk to both of them, not just her or him but directed at her tits!

Ladies put effort into how they dress so nice compliments are always welcome - but don't get leery! Nice tits is always a step too far as a first comment.

The guys who get invited to play are usually the ones who have got chatting and made connection in the social part of the night.

If you do spectate on play then keep a respectful distance and don't interrupt - if they want you to join in it will usually be a clear beckon. If you're not sure they mean you then just ask.

Don't touch without an invite - remember that cuts both ways, I've seen handsy women get kicked out of clubs too.

If you're not interested then say so politely but definitely. But don't write people off because you don't fancy them, regulars know each other and talk. If you get known as someone who can't be bothered to be nice to those you don't fancy then the ones you do could start ignoring you!

Don't expect to play every time you go. If you don't expect it it's a bonus.

And the alcohol thing holds true too - one might relax you but too many could make you an embarrassment or might affect your performance.

Good luck.

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By *A5-1975 OP Man
over a year ago

warrington

"What does the extra S represent?"

typing mistake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What does the extra S represent?

typing mistake"

Oh right. Superfluous then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't add much more to the excellent advice the two ladies have offered above really. As I never go to a club as a single bloke, only with friends as a cpl, maybe I can offer something as someone who sees both sides of the club scene?

Don't do the walking wank thing. It makes you look desperate and only up for a shag and nothing else. There is far more to a Club than 'just a shag'.

Never expect anything and be prepared to find ways to have a great time without sex. Yes it IS possible and I have done it.

Never ignore a 'No Thanks'. No means No means No. Period. End of. Just smile and walk away. And never go back later 'just to make sure'. You may end up being shown the door!

Don't follow people. It is annoying and again makes you look desperate.

A club is like this site in many ways. You have to make yourself attractive (dress, hygiene, attitude) and stand out a bit from the crowd. It is you that has to make the effort not the couples or ladies! Be friendly not overpowering or too keen but don't be afraid to make your interest known after all you are paying someone a compliment. Conversation is a much underrated thing and it always surprises me how some blokes just wander up to a lady or couple and just offer a hard cock and never say a word!

I have been going to clubs for over 8 years now and I love that 'scene'. I hope you have as much fun as I have had.

Good Luck!

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