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"we often wink to show interest, and if they wink back we follow with a message, saves righting a long message to someone who isnt interested, we find it a good way to say hello" This, I agree with | |||
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"It is beyond us why people wink us, we have on our profile that we don't even check them. For the exact reason OP says. We used to reply but 99% of the time we never got a reply. We like a thought out message, it shows people can put an effort into what they do on here. To many fantasists " Totally agree. I can totally understand why many consider winks to be lazy and I very rarely send inks these days - sometimes if there's a winking thread in the forum I might I find a message is a much better way to express interest - because you can pick up specific things. I have had winks before, and like the OP says, when you respond with a message you get ignored. | |||
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"we often wink to show interest, and if they wink back we follow with a message, saves righting a long message to someone who isnt interested, we find it a good way to say hello" I agree with this totally, once a wink back has been received it's like a sign they have looked at your profile and saying OK send me an interesting message, much better than sending a blind message. | |||
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"we often wink to show interest, and if they wink back we follow with a message, saves righting a long message to someone who isnt interested, we find it a good way to say hello" Ah so THIS is the rule! Dam I thought it was a hint for a message or connection… don’t know I was supposed to wink back #nowiknow | |||
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"we often wink to show interest, and if they wink back we follow with a message, saves righting a long message to someone who isnt interested, we find it a good way to say hello" Agree with this post. | |||
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"I recently received a wink from a couple but my follow up message was ignored. What is the point of winking if you are not saying 'hello'?" I wink at a person(s) if I look at the profile and/or pictures and see myself naked in bed having sex, it's pure and simple. Doesn't mean I am GOING to have sex, just means I find them attractive enough to think in those terms. I then expect a nice message in return. Sometimes it's a great message and years down then line they're still sex partners. More often it's a "Wanna fuck" type of half a liner then they wonder why they didn't get a reply. Yes it IS a bit arrogant of me to not write the first "nice" message fully admit to that. X | |||
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"I recently received a wink from a couple but my follow up message was ignored. What is the point of winking if you are not saying 'hello'?" I can understand the frustration... but maybe they changed their mind! It happens I'm afraid.... | |||
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"we often wink to show interest, and if they wink back we follow with a message, saves righting a long message to someone who isnt interested, we find it a good way to say hello" this | |||
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"we often wink to show interest, and if they wink back we follow with a message, saves righting a long message to someone who isnt interested, we find it a good way to say hellothis " Exactly this | |||
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"we often wink to show interest, and if they wink back we follow with a message, saves righting a long message to someone who isnt interested, we find it a good way to say hello" This works for us also | |||
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"we often wink to show interest, and if they wink back we follow with a message, saves righting a long message to someone who isnt interested, we find it a good way to say hello" I agreee entirely with this | |||
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"Blokes love a wink - esp when 95% of messages get ignored. Single women / couples hate it because they want to be wooed, not gawped at. Am i right!?" I'm guessing you are right. From a single blokes view it's easier that writing a decent personal message that's ignored or even worse not read. It's disappointing they aren't used more, I'm sure there could be some way that messages could only be exchanged if two parties had winked each other. Would cut out a lot of time wasting for people like me and would stop a lot of the 'hows you' or 'fancy a fuck' type messages that couples and single women complain about | |||
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"I recently received a wink from a couple but my follow up message was ignored. What is the point of winking if you are not saying 'hello'?" Happened a few times to me too and from single ladies Fustrating | |||
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"Blokes love a wink - esp when 95% of messages get ignored. Single women / couples hate it because they want to be wooed, not gawped at. Am i right!?" Nope I met a FB through winking first | |||
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"Blokes love a wink - esp when 95% of messages get ignored. Single women / couples hate it because they want to be wooed, not gawped at. Am i right!? Nope I met a FB through winking first " He must be in your area , lucky him .. | |||
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"I state in my bio that I don't respond to winks so I assume that when I do get one it's someone just showing appreciation for my profile... Which as always good! Couples or singles will usually reach out via message if they're interested or have a question.... Hopefully anyway - otherwise I've missed some opportunities! " Far more likely that they didn’t bother to read the profile in my experience……. I almost never respond to or even look at winks. Still think they’re a lazy way to make contact. I do always respond to messages that go beyond the standard one-liners though even if we’re not interested. Think it’s quite rude not to respond if someone has clearly made some effort to read the profile and craft a decent message… | |||
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"Blokes love a wink - esp when 95% of messages get ignored. Single women / couples hate it because they want to be wooed, not gawped at. Am i right!? Nope I met a FB through winking first He must be in your area , lucky him .." Yep he was at the time | |||
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"Winks are a waste of time in my book, hence I don’t reply to them in any form of communication." Agreed! I never look at mine. | |||
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"we often wink to show interest, and if they wink back we follow with a message, saves righting a long message to someone who isnt interested, we find it a good way to say hello" Yes, we agree. We do the same | |||
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"We would wink to show initial interest, if we get a wink back then we will message. Saves wasting anyones time" This works for us as well. If their profile is 100% looking for the same as us then we’ll most likely start with a message. A wink from us means we’d like to know more. | |||
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"we often wink to show interest, and if they wink back we follow with a message, saves righting a long message to someone who isnt interested, we find it a good way to say hello" Exactly this | |||
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"I dont understand why people turn off the thing where they have viewed your profile. Who cares if you've had a look? Problem ive always felt is noone wnats to message first. Bit silly considering its a social network to make friends. " I used stealth mode so nobody has to feel uncomfortable about me looking at them. It’s just courtesy. | |||
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"I recently received a wink from a couple but my follow up message was ignored. What is the point of winking if you are not saying 'hello'?" Just move on...! | |||
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"I dont understand why people turn off the thing where they have viewed your profile. Who cares if you've had a look? Problem ive always felt is noone wnats to message first. Bit silly considering its a social network to make friends. I used stealth mode so nobody has to feel uncomfortable about me looking at them. It’s just courtesy. " Not sure whats worse, the feeling of no one looking at your profile and feeling hella ugly Or what you just said. Got me thinking | |||
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"We would wink to show initial interest, if we get a wink back then we will message. Saves wasting anyones time This works for us as well. If their profile is 100% looking for the same as us then we’ll most likely start with a message. A wink from us means we’d like to know more. " Agree with above | |||
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"we often wink to show interest, and if they wink back we follow with a message, saves righting a long message to someone who isnt interested, we find it a good way to say hello" This also why we like winks | |||
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"we often wink to show interest, and if they wink back we follow with a message, saves righting a long message to someone who isnt interested, we find it a good way to say hello" agree with this | |||
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"I don’t look at my winks, I take it as they liked my profile but not enough to make contact so I leave them be. Don’t think I’ve ever winked at anyone myself " This | |||
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"I recently received a wink from a couple but my follow up message was ignored. What is the point of winking if you are not saying 'hello'?" I have been saying "Hallo" and even much more but not getting any response till now so "Wink" has been created to say that person who send you a Wink is interested about you and would like to have some chat, if you Wink back it means that you interested too and also looking forward for some chat. Than for sure you will receive a msgs from this person. I don't understand why people don't use it does Winks as they could save many anoing situations. | |||
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"Winks are a waste of time in my book, hence I don’t reply to them in any form of communication." It is very nice idea of fast and easy 1st contact actually. | |||
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"Winks wouldn't be so useless if "courting" here wouldn't be such a hassle in general. But it is, too high expections and still looking for mister perfect. I think some people have the wrong expectations... Anyways. Because of that winks just get ignored because they're "low effort", and the message you send regarding their wink might just be lost among the messages in their inbox." I always look at winks and friend requests - like a heads up to view their profile. If after reading theirs it isn't for me. Then no major problem.... Must be other people who do the same! | |||
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"we often wink to show interest, and if they wink back we follow with a message, saves righting a long message to someone who isnt interested, we find it a good way to say hello" This! sometimes it works sometimes it doesn’t! | |||
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"We use winks to people we like the look of, and if we receive one back we take it as reciprocal. Then we follow up with a nice message. Winks to us, are like a nice smile across a bar or a club..." this | |||
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