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By *ereforthefun1 OP   Couple
over a year ago

derby

Me and the Mr are looking at going to our first club on Saturday and are excited but nervous. Do any of you lovely people have any advice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go expecting to have fun with each other and if anything else happens, it's a bonus. And be chatty. Have a great time! M X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just remember you dont have to play, just treat it as a night out with like minded people, if you all get on then go as far as you like, above all have fun

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Visiting Blackpool

Communicate with each other what you'd like to do, also what you wouldn't. Go for walks around the club, say hello to people, give the odd compliment. If it's your first night, maybe play with each other (it will feel exciting), anything else is a bonus. Don't drink too much.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm very nervous to being a big guy im worried ladies won't be interested and ill be left sitting on my own

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By *ez1987Man
over a year ago

Great Harwood, Blackburn

Treat it like a night out in a pub and not a club, have boundaries in place beforehand, mingle with people and ask the host/owners fir a tour of the place.

Have fun enjoy the night out and if anything extra happens it's a bonus

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Check the rules for the club and night, so if it’s dress down in the play areas ensure you follow those rules. Wear something comfortable but ensure you have something to wear that makes you feel sexy, changing of clothes is quite normal in clubs.

Be a voyeur, look around and watch others, if someone encourages you to join them, then why not.

Don’t be afraid to say no or even ask someone to leave you alone, it’s rare but if it happens again, speak to management.

Most of all just enjoy, go hoping to play but don’t worry if nothing happens, that does happen

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

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"I'm very nervous to being a big guy im worried ladies won't be interested and ill be left sitting on my own "

Go expecting nothing is all we can say. Many couples don't get any interest so you have an idea from that.

If you can't go with that mentality then best not go.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Be sure to let the club know its your first time on entry. Most clubs will then give you a tour round, explain everything, give you some top tips and answers your questions. Also sometimes you find some members of staff have a great feel for people, know their regulars well and may introduce you to people. Also make best of this opportunity to ask questions.

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By *ereforthefun1 OP   Couple
over a year ago

derby

Thank you everyone for your advice

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By *weetnjuicycoupleCouple
over a year ago

nottingham

Some great advice there, especially the go to just have fun urselves and no pressure- very biased but we’d say Chams in Birmingham- there this Saturday whoop whoop xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where abouts is it x

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up


"Treat it like a night out in a pub and not a club, have boundaries in place beforehand, mingle with people and ask the host/owners fir a tour of the place.

Have fun enjoy the night out and if anything extra happens it's a bonus "
this totally

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By *hrisandleahCouple
over a year ago

corby

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By *hrisandleahCouple
over a year ago

corby

Set boundaries, don’t force yourselves to play with someone just because your there. We’ve had great nights at clubs playing on our own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Me and the Mr are looking at going to our first club on Saturday and are excited but nervous. Do any of you lovely people have any advice?"

I've never been to one either. I would love to know how you find it.

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By *ereforthefun1 OP   Couple
over a year ago

derby


"Me and the Mr are looking at going to our first club on Saturday and are excited but nervous. Do any of you lovely people have any advice?

I've never been to one either. I would love to know how you find it. "

If we go we will let you know ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How did it go?

Mrs C

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By *ereforthefun1 OP   Couple
over a year ago

derby


"How did it go?

Mrs C"

We didn’t go in the end we didn’t feel ready. Went and got some new outfits from Ann Summers and me and Mr C had some fun at home

Thanks for asking x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Me and the Mr are looking at going to our first club on Saturday and are excited but nervous. Do any of you lovely people have any advice?

I've never been to one either. I would love to know how you find it. "

You have a few decent club's near you . You should go and have a laugh with no expectations. I love the club's and have met some wonderful people on my fab journey

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By *ereforthefun1 OP   Couple
over a year ago

derby


"Me and the Mr are looking at going to our first club on Saturday and are excited but nervous. Do any of you lovely people have any advice?

I've never been to one either. I would love to know how you find it.

You have a few decent club's near you . You should go and have a laugh with no expectations. I love the club's and have met some wonderful people on my fab journey "

We will at some point thank you ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How did it go?

Mrs C

We didn’t go in the end we didn’t feel ready. Went and got some new outfits from Ann Summers and me and Mr C had some fun at home

Thanks for asking x"
hi we went to xtasia sat nite, we had popped there to see what was like when only open for socials & we liked what we saw! So sat was our 1st time when open properly we are new to all this so was just social for us still at mo but friendly people & really friendly staff! Can recommend for when you are both ready just like us go at your own pace & enjoy journey together

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By *ereforthefun1 OP   Couple
over a year ago

derby


"How did it go?

Mrs C

We didn’t go in the end we didn’t feel ready. Went and got some new outfits from Ann Summers and me and Mr C had some fun at home

Thanks for asking xhi we went to xtasia sat nite, we had popped there to see what was like when only open for socials & we liked what we saw! So sat was our 1st time when open properly we are new to all this so was just social for us still at mo but friendly people & really friendly staff! Can recommend for when you are both ready just like us go at your own pace & enjoy journey together "

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By *izzibeth9Couple
over a year ago

Loughborough


"How did it go?

Mrs C

We didn’t go in the end we didn’t feel ready. Went and got some new outfits from Ann Summers and me and Mr C had some fun at home

Thanks for asking x"

We love going to clubs mostly for the social side of things, there is never ever any pressure to actually play with anyone else, and we now actually just view it as a night out rather than heading into town!

If you ever want to try a club again but not too sure, drop us a message and we'd be happy to meet with you beforehand and go together. If it's a club we already know we can show you around, if it's not then we can be newbies to it together!

C xx

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By *ereforthefun1 OP   Couple
over a year ago

derby


"How did it go?

Mrs C

We didn’t go in the end we didn’t feel ready. Went and got some new outfits from Ann Summers and me and Mr C had some fun at home

Thanks for asking x

We love going to clubs mostly for the social side of things, there is never ever any pressure to actually play with anyone else, and we now actually just view it as a night out rather than heading into town!

If you ever want to try a club again but not too sure, drop us a message and we'd be happy to meet with you beforehand and go together. If it's a club we already know we can show you around, if it's not then we can be newbies to it together!

C xx"

Thank so much we will let you know. We are hoping to go to the unseen lounge social are you going?

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By *ugRollersCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

I would say if you are going to a club don’t sit miles out the way of others .... the amount of times we’ve been now and people sit out the way it’s very hard to get people to engage in social chats if they don’t look like they want to be near others. It will make your night more fun if you sit and mingle with whoever is there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Where abouts is it x"

Hiya sweet noticed your message in this thread....

Have a look at the Club Reviews on the Home page of this site....

You can see all in your area ....

Hope that helps x

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