FabSwingers.com forum: Married man

By *rivervader OP Man
over a year ago

bolton

What’s every bodies views on a married man looking for women or couples to meet not had sex in years due to work away all week when come home at weekend wife doesn’t want to know is there any ladies or couples that would

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Uh oh....incoming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh dear

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Op you might find that married men meeting without their partners knowledge get the short end of the stick on here. Married women meeting without their husbands knowledge however will be treated very differently.

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By *uv2kissMan
over a year ago

fenland

Good luck.

But generally males playing away are the lowest of the low.

Women playing away are embracing their sexuality.

Double standards ?

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By *ex-BombsCouple
over a year ago

Flitwick

Nope never agreed with cheating regardless of the reason, if it’s not working leave! I say that as someone who was cheated on and would never be a part of condoning those actions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope definitely avoid

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By *ex-BombsCouple
over a year ago

Flitwick

"Good luck.

But generally males playing away are the lowest of the low.

Women playing away are embracing their sexuality.

Double standards ? "

Don’t agree with anyone cheating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t agree with anyone cheating. There was a thread on here recently about how women tend to often lose their libido in long-term relationships and thrive on novelty, so maybe the solution to your dead bedroom is to let her play away or (even better) end the relationship so you can both get what you want!

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By *riving_Home_For_MimiWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

Never. Don't like cheats.

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By *ausage1970Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

"Op you might find that married men meeting without their partners knowledge get the short end of the stick on here. Married women meeting without their husbands knowledge however will be treated very differently."

And there is the hypocrisy of FAB.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The my wife doesn't understand me ploy! Yawn!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good luck.

But generally males playing away are the lowest of the low.

Women playing away are embracing their sexuality.

Double standards ? "

Unfortunately this isn't a real double standard due to the demographic that cause the disparity.

Women who are cheating have an appreciative audience of 100s of men who will do and say anything to even get near a woman, especially one who clearly doesn't mind cheating. Cheating men however are just part of the huge pool of men available to women who can be as selective as they want, including not having to fuck lying, cheating twats!

For some of us cheating is just pure cuntishness, and there isn't an excuse for it, no matter what the situation at home is, or how hard it would be to break up.

If you're not happy, pull on your grown up pants and either make it better or leave so you've both got a chance to be happy with other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And there is the hypocrisy of FAB.

How ironic. The hypocrisy of fab is actually men saying women shouldn't be so picky while lowering their own standards thinking they'll get lucky with someone. It's the equivalent of minesweeping at 2am in a small town nightclub. If you're not picky, you'll pull eventually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like cheats so obviously I don't meet married men. The last thing any woman needs is the hassle x

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Some will meet you, some won't op

I wouldn't meet anyone on here behind their partners back, as I'd hate it done to me.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

For me, I be mega put off with you haven't had sex in years... does that mean you only last 10 seconds in bed?

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

tbf there's tons of cheating husbands and boyfriends on fab... I constantly get them sending me messages in my inbox so I don't think you should personally take all the flack for cheating

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Be open about yourself on your profile fella, and let others decide for themselves. “If you build it, they will come……”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And there is the hypocrisy of FAB.

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By *inkerbell67Woman
over a year ago

Clacton on sea essex

Theres pleanty of married couples cheating on here its not just the men ,if there is no sex in the marriage then they will stray ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What’s every bodies views on a married man looking for women or couples to meet not had sex in years due to work away all week when come home at weekend wife doesn’t want to know is there any ladies or couples that would"
I understand your plight. My wife has a long term illness and cant physically get aroused or enjoy sex. She is ok with me playing, but not at home and says she dosnt want to know about it, yet despite this I'm called a cheat, and told she should verify any meet, to prove shes ok with it, despite not wanting to know. Why should I leave her just because we dont have sex ? It really is a double standard on here for most women. There are plenty who will cheat on their husbands. Stay the course my friend

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By *rivervader OP Man
over a year ago

bolton

"For me, I be mega put off with you haven't had sex in years... does that mean you only last 10 seconds in bed?

No actually I last for ages that was the reason she went off it she wanted to get it over quick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not for u, be it woman or man, we dont meet married people unless we can chat on the phone with the other partner first, we dont want to be apart of a couple splitting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good luck.

But generally males playing away are the lowest of the low.

Women playing away are embracing their sexuality.

Double standards ?

Unfortunately this isn't a real double standard due to the demographic that cause the disparity.

For some of us cheating is just pure cuntishness, and there isn't an excuse for it, no matter what the situation at home is, or how hard it would be to break up.

If you're not happy, pull on your grown up pants and either make it better or leave so you've both got a chance to be happy with other people. "

this all the way, if you are playing then there is obviously something missing from your relationship

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By *rivervader OP Man
over a year ago

bolton

"Good luck.

But generally males playing away are the lowest of the low.

Women playing away are embracing their sexuality.

Double standards ?

Unfortunately this isn't a real double standard due to the demographic that cause the disparity.

For some of us cheating is just pure cuntishness, and there isn't an excuse for it, no matter what the situation at home is, or how hard it would be to break up.

If you're not happy, pull on your grown up pants and either make it better or leave so you've both got a chance to be happy with other people.

this all the way, if you are playing then there is obviously something missing from your relationship"

Yea some good sex

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By *aseMan
over a year ago

Gourock

If you have over 9 inches, it doesn't matter if your married or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Good luck.

But generally males playing away are the lowest of the low.

Women playing away are embracing their sexuality.

Double standards ?

Unfortunately this isn't a real double standard due to the demographic that cause the disparity.

For some of us cheating is just pure cuntishness, and there isn't an excuse for it, no matter what the situation at home is, or how hard it would be to break up.

If you're not happy, pull on your grown up pants and either make it better or leave so you've both got a chance to be happy with other people.

this all the way, if you are playing then there is obviously something missing from your relationship

Yea some good sex"

That's not a great selling point is it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This...

Good luck OP least you're honest on your profile..

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By *ussybagderMan
over a year ago

Salford

It's no body business

If u say u married to any woman or couple there is 99%chance u will be blocked n never have meet again

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By *rivervader OP Man
over a year ago

bolton

"Good luck.

But generally males playing away are the lowest of the low.

Women playing away are embracing their sexuality.

Double standards ?

Unfortunately this isn't a real double standard due to the demographic that cause the disparity.

For some of us cheating is just pure cuntishness, and there isn't an excuse for it, no matter what the situation at home is, or how hard it would be to break up.

If you're not happy, pull on your grown up pants and either make it better or leave so you've both got a chance to be happy with other people.

this all the way, if you are playing then there is obviously something missing from your relationship

Yea some good sex

That's not a great selling point is it!"

Ur right but it’s the honest answer so if u didn’t have sex what would u do?

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By *mwirralMan
over a year ago

wirral

Just hire an escort occasionally

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Even if people get beyond the morals of meeting a married man then there’s just the hassle of cancellation by the man.

We only meet ‘single’ guys but sometimes they’re married and lying. You spot the ‘cannot accommodate’ signs or the sudden cancellations because ‘something came up’. This can happen with anyone but it’s much more common for married guys. Married guys are much more likely to leave you sitting in a hotel room due to cancellation. In our experience anyway.

For that reason you’ll find many people can’t be bothered with the hassle of married guys.

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By *itsAndTangentsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

"Even if people get beyond the morals of meeting a married man then there’s just the hassle of cancellation by the man.

For that reason you’ll find many people can’t be bothered with the hassle of married guys. "

Pretty much this.

If you don't say you're married nobody would know but the married people tend to out themselves with the simplest of asks.

Can't cam, can't chat in the evenings, can't accommodate, constantly rearranging, won't give out a phone number etc.

It's not worth the hassle normally

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By *hrough the looking gla55Couple
over a year ago

Epsom

No judgment here but if it’s just the sex and the relationship is otherwise solid have a conversation with her.

We all have certain needs but is it worth the risk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ur right but it’s the honest answer so if u didn’t have sex what would u do?"

End the relationship! I’ve ended relationships from a lack of sex before.

I find many men don’t want to leave though, because they’d miss the home comforts of having a wife

Just put on your big boy pants and free both of yourselves. Maybe her libido will come back without you around, and you can see all the women you want.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

Women who cheat just get on with it, no drama, whilst men start threads about being ignored because they're cheating. It's the entitlement and blaming the wife that I find off putting.

If a man can be so disrespectful about his wife doesn't bode well with how he'd treat me. These types of men are telling you what they are: I believe them and avoid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not judging you, but I do feel you want your cake and eat it. If you work away all week then expect the wife to be wanting sex at weekends then your being unfair, maybe if you spent time communicating to her, 3ngaging in bedroom chat over the phone sex texting, building up the excitement so when you get home there is real want for sex. So rather being in here and being demoralised by being refused because your married, put excitement back I to your marriage, look at what made you both happy in the beginning, if there is nothing there then you should both be adult enough to finish and find something else.

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By *heerymanMan
over a year ago

stoke

Isn’t it interesting that for a swinging site that people can get so puritanical about the marital status of an individual .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Isn’t it interesting that for a swinging site that people can get so puritanical about the marital status of an individual . "

Think you have missed the point, swinging with your partner /spouse is acceptable, swinging without is not so good and no one wants to be that person who is havi g sex behind someone's back it is not morally acceptable for some people.

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By *tingly ByronMan
over a year ago

In a town Fab forgot

Some will be put off, some won't.

Some women hate it, some women prefer it.

Ultimately, be honest and allow an informed choice.

Swinging isn't (for me) just about sex. I think if you're only looking for sex without connection your wait may be a long one.

Good luck.

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By *orl1971Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Isn’t it interesting that for a swinging site that people can get so puritanical about the marital status of an individual . "

You really don’t get that swinging is about communication and sharing experiences with your partner. It brings couples closer in our experience.

Cheating is about hiding things from your partner and can split couples up.

Just because couples swing it doesn’t mean they don’t respect honesty and respect within a relationship and judge people according to how they match up to those values.

Nothing to do with being puritanical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Isn’t it interesting that for a swinging site that people can get so puritanical about the marital status of an individual . "

Demonstrating you have no idea what swinging is about! Swinging is just a type of hedonistic activity. Hedonism is about openness and experiences, living and loving life and those you share it with.

Cheating is a dishonest, lazy, and pathetic way of dealing with a relationship. It isn't open, honest, or involve sharing or positive experiences. Sadly there are a lot of people joining the scene who think 'swing' means 'fuck' but with lower standards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personal view…. We wouldn’t with either a M or F just because it isn’t nice for the one that doesn’t know and we wouldn’t want to be caught in the middle of something. There are always tells when someone is married and they’re fibbing about it too so just be honest. Some prefer it, some don’t.

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By *rivervader OP Man
over a year ago

bolton

"Personal view…. We wouldn’t with either a M or F just because it isn’t nice for the one that doesn’t know and we wouldn’t want to be caught in the middle of something. There are always tells when someone is married and they’re fibbing about it too so just be honest. Some prefer it, some don’t."

I have been totally open on here from the start

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

WoW lots qualified in marriage guidance on this thread....

Think the OP is after sex

Takes a while for everyone single, married etc to find a playmate...

Just be patient OP.....

I mean, are you in any rush....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been totally open on here from the start"

Wasn’t having a dig. Live and let live and all that

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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago

London

Mate, let me close this (because you're not going to get past the general consensus):

I've been there. I know your pain. It's not always a matter of "she doesn't understand". Sometimes it is just that you are or have become very different people (maybe even only sexually). I did end up going my own way eventually and I am not suggesting that you do like everyone else seems to be suggesting. I had to wait for my children to become teenagers before I separated as I felt that was a better time than when they were younger.

So just don't make a big deal of it. I see you are being honest rather than lying about it, which in itself I think says a lot about you.

But if you really want to be honest and be on this site, then just make yourself appealing and hope for the best.

However, if you are just after "easy" sex rather than the lifestyle, then I suggest you try dating apps and the world outside in general. You will actually have more fun and luck that way.

But saying what you said in your thread opening, you WILL get judged because, well, people are judgemental, including myself.

Good luck

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

I have been totally open on here from the start"

Shame that you can't be just as open with your wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago

London

I have been totally open on here from the start

Shame that you can't be just as open with your wife."

It's not always that easy. I have had to intervene between friends who were open with each other but just wouldn't/couldn't adapt. Same happended with me.

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By *herryblossom_BJWoman
over a year ago

Oxfordshire/Hampshire

"Mate, let me close this (because you're not going to get past the general consensus):

So just don't make a big deal of it. I see you are being honest rather than lying about it, which in itself I think says a lot about you.

But if you really want to be honest and be on this site, then just make yourself appealing and hope for the best.

However, if you are just after "easy" sex rather than the lifestyle, then I suggest you try dating apps and the world outside in general. You will actually have more fun and luck that way.

But saying what you said in your thread opening, you WILL get judged because, well, people are judgemental, including myself.

Good luck"

My friend in similar position but why is she denied sex and having her life just because she got to pretend to play the happy wife for another 12 years to a self centred idiot? Leave. I know kids can be resilient and strong if you support them to be.

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By *ougie321Man
over a year ago

Milford Haven

Plenty places to go to if your desperate, this not being one

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

I have been totally open on here from the start

Shame that you can't be just as open with your wife.

It's not always that easy. I have had to intervene between friends who were open with each other but just wouldn't/couldn't adapt. Same happended with me."

We know it isn't easy. But the unknowing partner deserves the same freedom of choice that the cheating partner has used.

If both can't adapt, then they separate. At least then it is a fair choice made by both partners.

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

I'm sure that organisations like the Catholic have plenty of advice available on such matters.

Meanwhile, why not start a sister site called 'Fab Cheaters' where users all know where they stand?

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By *rivervader OP Man
over a year ago

bolton

I have been totally open on here from the start

Shame that you can't be just as open with your wife."

I have and she just says she gone off it

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By *oldyoudown41Man
over a year ago

caledonian

Everyone’s got something going on in life outside of fab , I’m sure things will pick up for you OP .

Take some remarks with a pinch of salt , I was in a similar situation years ago and now it’s a distant memory and living life to the max

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

I have been totally open on here from the start

Shame that you can't be just as open with your wife.

I have and she just says she gone off it"

So she knows that you are on here?

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

"I'm sure that organisations like the Catholic have plenty of advice available on such matters.

Meanwhile, why not start a sister site called 'Fab Cheaters' where users all know where they stand?"

Sounds like a good idea. A sister site for those who are cheats not swingers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure that organisations like the Catholic have plenty of advice available on such matters.

Meanwhile, why not start a sister site called 'Fab Cheaters' where users all know where they stand?

Sounds like a good idea. A sister site for those who are cheats not swingers."

Not a bad shout fabswingers and fabcheaters as the 2 are completely different things.

We have met couples who unknownly met / played with a married man at there house. His wife got in his phone / fab account she had the duped couples photos address everything. Funny enough in her hurt and despair her hate was aimed at the couple no the hubby would lied to all the parties.

In the end the police stepped in. Why the fuck would decent, honest, adventurous swingers want that type of damage and drama in their lives

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By *coptoCouple
over a year ago

Côte d'Azur & Great Yarmouth

Funnily enough, the two guys we invite for some mmf fun (yes, I’m a “cuck hubby”, but he who cums last cums hardest) are both married. Frequency depends on our having an empty house coinciding with their getting a “pass-out”.

No hassle with our being pestered by pushy and desperate single guys (it’s happened), and if their wives find out, well, that’s their problem, isn’t it?

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I have been totally open on here from the start

Shame that you can't be just as open with your wife.

I have and she just says she gone off it"

Maybe make it clear you don't want to live without sex and ask if you can have her permission to seek it elsewhere.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

Whilst true for some, there’s a lot of us that won’t meet anyone not behaving ethically in the lifestyle.

It’s two fold. What we’re doing requires trust, how can we trust people so willing to deceive. Of course the second part is that we don’t want the wronged partner coming for us!

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

In all honesty, our opinion doesn't matter. We wouldn't feel comfortable with it, but ultimately it's your business.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been totally open on here from the start

Shame that you can't be just as open with your wife.

I have and she just says she gone off it"

I’ve gone off sex in every relationship I’ve been in. For a long time I thought I was asexual. But every time I’ve ended a relationship my libido has come racing back. Personally I think more women should be aware that we need variety - or just not to be in long term relationships with men

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By *izzy69Man
over a year ago

London

"I'm sure that organisations like the Catholic have plenty of advice available on such matters.

Meanwhile, why not start a sister site called 'Fab Cheaters' where users all know where they stand?

Sounds like a good idea. A sister site for those who are cheats not swingers."

Isn't that just Ashley Madison and Adult Friend Finder?

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

If you feel the need to ask an opinion on this I’m gonna bet you already know most people’s answer hahahaha!

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By *rivervader OP Man
over a year ago

bolton

If you feel the need to ask an opinion on this I’m gonna bet you already know most people’s answer hahahaha! "

Just thought it would be a good topic to chat on lol

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids

If you feel the need to ask an opinion on this I’m gonna bet you already know most people’s answer hahahaha!

Just thought it would be a good topic to chat on lol"

When you say you love someone, are you meaning your wife??

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

We've met a couple of married guys and aren't going to judge anyone on why they're here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for us we wouldn't meet a woman or a man that are married

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been totally open on here from the start

Shame that you can't be just as open with your wife.

I have and she just says she gone off it

So she knows that you are on here?"

She might be on here for all he knows....

You never know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been totally open on here from the start

Shame that you can't be just as open with your wife.

I have and she just says she gone off it

Oh I like that honesty and think you've highlighted something there. How interesting

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

If you feel the need to ask an opinion on this I’m gonna bet you already know most people’s answer hahahaha!

Just thought it would be a good topic to chat on lol"

Depends if your easily offended i think! Haha

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

I have been totally open on here from the start

Shame that you can't be just as open with your wife.

I have and she just says she gone off it

Wanting more than one partner or “variety” is fine... just be honest about it haha! And end it if not, which sounds like you do

nothing wrong with that

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

If the OP is always away maybe his wife has been fucked silly all week and needs a rest at the weekends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If the OP is always away maybe his wife has been fucked silly all week and needs a rest at the weekends

There you go, she may be getting it more than him....

Ohh the irony

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

"If the OP is always away maybe his wife has been fucked silly all week and needs a rest at the weekends

There you go, she may be getting it more than him....

Ohh the irony

bet he hasn't thought of that. He's just all me, me, me hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope definitely avoid"
avoid you ?

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By *erbyshire BobMan
over a year ago

derby

Before I retired not only did I spent a lot of time away from home, my wife was also not very interested in sex so yes, I've played around in the past and, if I was to meet a willing lady, still would.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If the OP is always away maybe his wife has been fucked silly all week and needs a rest at the weekends

There you go, she may be getting it more than him....

Ohh the irony

bet he hasn't thought of that. He's just all me, me, me hahaha"

Tbh how do really know the conversation between partners. She might of given him permission.

If that's the case why should he tell us and would anyone believe him anyway....

He can't win on here....

Good luck I say.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just read a similar thread by a woman. There are less people criticising her,and more support, or so it seems. Ok for her but not for him ? Double standards I think

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston

Seems that way for married men with or without permission

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems that way for married men with or without permission "

certainly does dosnt it.

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By *orth_hantscplCouple
over a year ago

camberley

I’m surprised nobody has suggested going to a club, we have never checked on the marital status of any guys or women that we have met that way.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

"I’m surprised nobody has suggested going to a club, we have never checked on the marital status of any guys or women that we have met that way. "

I still check, but it’s easier to lie there isn’t it.

I met a guy in a club who said he was single, wasn’t, got caught and I had the lovely job of telling her where I’d met him!

Wasn’t cringe at all haha

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Just read a similar thread by a woman. There are less people criticising her,and more support, or so it seems. Ok for her but not for him ? Double standards I think "

Yep. It seems to be accepted on fab.

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By *rivervader OP Man
over a year ago

bolton

"Plenty places to go to if your desperate, this not being one"

Who mentioned being desperate I didn’t it was only a question

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By *rivervader OP Man
over a year ago

bolton

"If the OP is always away maybe his wife has been fucked silly all week and needs a rest at the weekends

That’s what I was thinking

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By *rivervader OP Man
over a year ago

bolton

"If the OP is always away maybe his wife has been fucked silly all week and needs a rest at the weekends

There you go, she may be getting it more than him....

Ohh the irony

bet he hasn't thought of that. He's just all me, me, me hahaha"

Not really if u read some of the posts I said that already

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I’m surprised nobody has suggested going to a club, we have never checked on the marital status of any guys or women that we have met that way. "

I have been questioned and chastised in a club, for being married and playing away

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"Just read a similar thread by a woman. There are less people criticising her,and more support, or so it seems. Ok for her but not for him ? Double standards I think "

Welcome to Fab

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I'm sure that organisations like the Catholic have plenty of advice available on such matters.

Meanwhile, why not start a sister site called 'Fab Cheaters' where users all know where they stand?

Sounds like a good idea. A sister site for those who are cheats not swingers.

Isn't that just Ashley Madison and Adult Friend Finder?"

There’s also another where you can find illicit encounters…….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd never knowingly meet with a married man, why not just discuss with your wife, if you can't have respect for the person you love to be honest then I don't see how you could for a meet. Just my opinion. Sorry

Mrs

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids

"I’m surprised nobody has suggested going to a club, we have never checked on the marital status of any guys or women that we have met that way.

I have been questioned and chastised in a club, for being married and playing away

We are polite to single guys in a club, if they chat we will chat back.

However if they drop in the conversation that they are married and playing away, then the conversation is over.

No offence to anyone personally, but we don't find dishonesty an attractive trait.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Is it with the knowledge of your partner? You’ll find greater acceptance if it is. Otherwise you are also in the phenomenally huge band of men looking alone here for sex partners, where they have enormous choice to pick from you all. Fully single men will be the typical preferred pick for most.

Review the avalanche of posts from men who struggle to get anyone to meet.

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By *ave1963BarnsleyMan
over a year ago

Barnsley

Not by me they won't Nicecouple561. For me honesty is of the utmost importance. I would never knowingly play with anyone who's playing away.

Just to be clear, that doesn't mean I pass any judgement on those who do play with people in that situation. Their choices are not my responsibility.

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

"I'm sure that organisations like the Catholic have plenty of advice available on such matters.

Meanwhile, why not start a sister site called 'Fab Cheaters' where users all know where they stand?

Sounds like a good idea. A sister site for those who are cheats not swingers.

Isn't that just Ashley Madison and Adult Friend Finder?

There’s also another where you can find illicit encounters…….

So what we can't figure out is why on earth are cheats on here when there are all these other sites??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure that organisations like the Catholic have plenty of advice available on such matters.

Meanwhile, why not start a sister site called 'Fab Cheaters' where users all know where they stand?

Sounds like a good idea. A sister site for those who are cheats not swingers.

Isn't that just Ashley Madison and Adult Friend Finder?

There’s also another where you can find illicit encounters…….

So what we can't figure out is why on earth are cheats on here when there are all these other sites??"

Sadly a lot of ignorant people think 'swinger' means not fussy and will fuck anyone. The number of times we've seen ' well why are you on here if you won't fuck' messages. Usually from single males, which iS a shame as it does spoil it for the good ones

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

"I'm sure that organisations like the Catholic have plenty of advice available on such matters.

Meanwhile, why not start a sister site called 'Fab Cheaters' where users all know where they stand?

Sounds like a good idea. A sister site for those who are cheats not swingers.

Isn't that just Ashley Madison and Adult Friend Finder?

There’s also another where you can find illicit encounters…….

So what we can't figure out is why on earth are cheats on here when there are all these other sites??

Very true. Brainless idiots normally.

Another sign of these sad times.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I'm sure that organisations like the Catholic have plenty of advice available on such matters.

Meanwhile, why not start a sister site called 'Fab Cheaters' where users all know where they stand?

Sounds like a good idea. A sister site for those who are cheats not swingers.

Isn't that just Ashley Madison and Adult Friend Finder?

There’s also another where you can find illicit encounters…….

So what we can't figure out is why on earth are cheats on here when there are all these other sites??"

Fab is cheaper to use, and has far more people looking for no strings fun. I used IE (very successfully), but it hammers men financially, and for me personally, there were very few women locally. AFF was rubbish, and I never used Ashley Madison

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids

"I'm sure that organisations like the Catholic have plenty of advice available on such matters.

Meanwhile, why not start a sister site called 'Fab Cheaters' where users all know where they stand?

Sounds like a good idea. A sister site for those who are cheats not swingers.

Isn't that just Ashley Madison and Adult Friend Finder?

There’s also another where you can find illicit encounters…….

So what we can't figure out is why on earth are cheats on here when there are all these other sites??

That says it all really.

But Fab is a swinging site and cheating is not swinging.

And cheating married guys get all offended when they post on here looking for support for their dishonesty, and they start moaning and whining.

Self-inflicted really, isn't it??

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By *rivervader OP Man
over a year ago

bolton

"I'm sure that organisations like the Catholic have plenty of advice available on such matters.

Meanwhile, why not start a sister site called 'Fab Cheaters' where users all know where they stand?

Sounds like a good idea. A sister site for those who are cheats not swingers.

Isn't that just Ashley Madison and Adult Friend Finder?

There’s also another where you can find illicit encounters…….

So what we can't figure out is why on earth are cheats on here when there are all these other sites??"

Not once did I mention cheating I only asked a question u jump to the wrong conclutions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure that organisations like the Catholic have plenty of advice available on such matters.

Meanwhile, why not start a sister site called 'Fab Cheaters' where users all know where they stand?

Sounds like a good idea. A sister site for those who are cheats not swingers.

Isn't that just Ashley Madison and Adult Friend Finder?

There’s also another where you can find illicit encounters…….

So what we can't figure out is why on earth are cheats on here when there are all these other sites??

That says it all really.

But Fab is a swinging site and cheating is not swinging.

And cheating married guys get all offended when they post on here looking for support for their dishonesty, and they start moaning and whining.

Self-inflicted really, isn't it??"

I didnt read anywhere that the OP was moaning and whining

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids

"I'm sure that organisations like the Catholic have plenty of advice available on such matters.

Meanwhile, why not start a sister site called 'Fab Cheaters' where users all know where they stand?

Sounds like a good idea. A sister site for those who are cheats not swingers.

Isn't that just Ashley Madison and Adult Friend Finder?

There’s also another where you can find illicit encounters…….

So what we can't figure out is why on earth are cheats on here when there are all these other sites??

Not once did I mention cheating I only asked a question u jump to the wrong conclutions"

Wrong conclusions??

"Yes I’m married and wife don’t know I’m on here"

Doesn't that sound like cheating to you OP??

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids

"I'm sure that organisations like the Catholic have plenty of advice available on such matters.

Meanwhile, why not start a sister site called 'Fab Cheaters' where users all know where they stand?

Sounds like a good idea. A sister site for those who are cheats not swingers.

Isn't that just Ashley Madison and Adult Friend Finder?

There’s also another where you can find illicit encounters…….

So what we can't figure out is why on earth are cheats on here when there are all these other sites??

That says it all really.

But Fab is a swinging site and cheating is not swinging.

And cheating married guys get all offended when they post on here looking for support for their dishonesty, and they start moaning and whining.

Self-inflicted really, isn't it??

I didnt read anywhere that the OP was moaning and whining "

Please have another read. We didn't say the OP, we simply said cheating married guys.

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By *rivervader OP Man
over a year ago

bolton

"I'm sure that organisations like the Catholic have plenty of advice available on such matters.

Meanwhile, why not start a sister site called 'Fab Cheaters' where users all know where they stand?

Sounds like a good idea. A sister site for those who are cheats not swingers.

Isn't that just Ashley Madison and Adult Friend Finder?

There’s also another where you can find illicit encounters…….

So what we can't figure out is why on earth are cheats on here when there are all these other sites??

Not once did I mention cheating I only asked a question u jump to the wrong conclutions

Wrong conclusions??

"Yes I’m married and wife don’t know I’m on here"

Doesn't that sound like cheating to you OP??"

Talking to folk isn’t cheating I haven’t met any body so no I ain’t cheated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure that organisations like the Catholic have plenty of advice available on such matters.

Meanwhile, why not start a sister site called 'Fab Cheaters' where users all know where they stand?

Sounds like a good idea. A sister site for those who are cheats not swingers.

Isn't that just Ashley Madison and Adult Friend Finder?

There’s also another where you can find illicit encounters…….

So what we can't figure out is why on earth are cheats on here when there are all these other sites??

Not once did I mention cheating I only asked a question u jump to the wrong conclutions

Wrong conclusions??

"Yes I’m married and wife don’t know I’m on here"

Doesn't that sound like cheating to you OP??

Talking to folk isn’t cheating I haven’t met any body so no I ain’t cheated"

Your profile says you're looking to meet people because you miss sex!

Is that just an intended ice breaker conversation?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure that organisations like the Catholic have plenty of advice available on such matters.

Meanwhile, why not start a sister site called 'Fab Cheaters' where users all know where they stand?

Sounds like a good idea. A sister site for those who are cheats not swingers.

Isn't that just Ashley Madison and Adult Friend Finder?

There’s also another where you can find illicit encounters…….

So what we can't figure out is why on earth are cheats on here when there are all these other sites??

Not once did I mention cheating I only asked a question u jump to the wrong conclutions"

I believe you may have dug a hole too big to back peddle out of!

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By *wifterMan
over a year ago

lancaster

Oh dear OP, you have really got the Fabs bigots going on this one. Everyone has their own reason for being on here and who is anyone to judge others without knowing them and their circumstances.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh dear OP, you have really got the Fabs bigots going on this one. Everyone has their own reason for being on here and who is anyone to judge others without knowing them and their circumstances. "

If you don't want people's honest opinions, don't ask for them!

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"I'm sure that organisations like the Catholic have plenty of advice available on such matters.

Meanwhile, why not start a sister site called 'Fab Cheaters' where users all know where they stand?

Sounds like a good idea. A sister site for those who are cheats not swingers.

Isn't that just Ashley Madison and Adult Friend Finder?

There’s also another where you can find illicit encounters…….

So what we can't figure out is why on earth are cheats on here when there are all these other sites??

That says it all really.

It does say it all, you’re quite correct; Fab has more matches local to me, and has no gender-biased pricing structure (nobody mention swinger clubs at this point either…….)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own...I was once a cheater on here. But I got my arse into gear & left him!

It's not the cheating that bothers me it's the usual sob story & bitching that does

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By *panddaCouple
over a year ago

West Mids

"Oh dear OP, you have really got the Fabs bigots going on this one. Everyone has their own reason for being on here and who is anyone to judge others without knowing them and their circumstances. "

Go on then, please enlighten us.

Under what circumstances is it ok to dishonestly cheat and lie??

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By *imale38Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

"For me, I be mega put off with you haven't had sex in years... does that mean you only last 10 seconds in bed?

No actually I last for ages that was the reason she went off it she wanted to get it over quick "

Ill meet your mrs for some fun then. Be over within a min.

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By *dysseusukMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

"Oh dear OP, you have really got the Fabs bigots going on this one. Everyone has their own reason for being on here and who is anyone to judge others without knowing them and their circumstances.

Go on then, please enlighten us.

Under what circumstances is it ok to dishonestly cheat and lie??"

When your partner has alcohol, gambling and mental health (depression) problems that requires all your dedication and energy to maintain a happy home and protect and provide for your partner and child, knowing that leaving would destroy both their lives, but now and again you need a little bit of love yourself to give you the strength and respite to cope. Every person’s circumstances are unique. We cannot all lead perfect relationships and sometimes staying in someone’s life to take care of them every day but finding a little time now and again fir your own needs, is braver and less selfish than leaving them with nothing but their own demons particularly when children are a part of that decision. Life isn’t always as simple as truth and lies.

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By *leasure4leisureMan
over a year ago

south

I am married but play alone

We don’t both meet socially amd my wife always knows

Is this “cheating ?”

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

"Oh dear OP, you have really got the Fabs bigots going on this one. Everyone has their own reason for being on here and who is anyone to judge others without knowing them and their circumstances.

Go on then, please enlighten us.

Under what circumstances is it ok to dishonestly cheat and lie??

We wonder how many of the cheats on here are in this position?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only you have walked in your shoes, life isn't as black and white and we would all like to think. Let those without sin cast the first stone. Not often I paraphrase the Bible!

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

"Only you have walked in your shoes, life isn't as black and white and we would all like to think. Let those without sin cast the first stone. Not often I paraphrase the Bible! "

Why cheat?

Love and cheating do not go hand in hand.

Love means honest and respect.

Cheating means dishonesty and disrespect. Not the way you would treat someone you say you care for, is it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm sure that organisations like the Catholic have plenty of advice available on such matters.

Meanwhile, why not start a sister site called 'Fab Cheaters' where users all know where they stand?

Sounds like a good idea. A sister site for those who are cheats not swingers.

Isn't that just Ashley Madison and Adult Friend Finder?

There’s also another where you can find illicit encounters…….

So what we can't figure out is why on earth are cheats on here when there are all these other sites??"

Erm isn't there charge higher than a fiver....?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Only you have walked in your shoes, life isn't as black and white and we would all like to think. Let those without sin cast the first stone. Not often I paraphrase the Bible!

Why cheat?

Love and cheating do not go hand in hand.

Love means honest and respect.

Cheating means dishonesty and disrespect. Not the way you would treat someone you say you care for, is it?"

Your judge and jury comment won't make any difference... His account will still be here and he'll still look for a sexual partner...

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By *rivervader OP Man
over a year ago

bolton

Each to their own...I was once a cheater on here. But I got my arse into gear & left him!

It's not the cheating that bothers me it's the usual sob story & bitching that does

Was no sob story Egan asked why I simple told them I didn’t lead with it just simply ask a question

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By *rivervader OP Man
over a year ago

bolton

"I'm sure that organisations like the Catholic have plenty of advice available on such matters.

Meanwhile, why not start a sister site called 'Fab Cheaters' where users all know where they stand?

Sounds like a good idea. A sister site for those who are cheats not swingers.

Isn't that just Ashley Madison and Adult Friend Finder?

Yea it normally gets a reaction

There’s also another where you can find illicit encounters…….

So what we can't figure out is why on earth are cheats on here when there are all these other sites??

Not once did I mention cheating I only asked a question u jump to the wrong conclutions

Wrong conclusions??

"Yes I’m married and wife don’t know I’m on here"

Doesn't that sound like cheating to you OP??

Talking to folk isn’t cheating I haven’t met any body so no I ain’t cheated

Your profile says you're looking to meet people because you miss sex!

Is that just an intended ice breaker conversation?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Different people are judging them men from the women. The women can afford to not choose the attached men as there are plenty of single men to play with. The men have less to choose from so are less likely to turn down a woman for her marital status. It's a matter of practicality not hypocrisy.

I think in general that cheating comes with a heavy price to pay and that you could find yourself embroiled in a mess. I avoid but it's not my place to judge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd definitely NOT meet a Married Man...there's a few reasons why I wouldn't.

I respect another's marriage vows

I want absolutely nothing to do with a cheating married man & I would never be an enabler for a man to cheat

Also I most definitely do not want a Crazed Wife on my back

But also I would detest to being an instigator who would cause a broken home where children are involved

Saying all that I totally cannot understand how or why one person can expect another to live a totally sexless life

It's so messed up. & The amount of sexless marriages and relationships on here is unreal

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By *cooby5555Man
over a year ago

galway

I am in same situation as op work away from home for weeks at a time wife not interested in sex with me bought subject up here got blasted for being a cheat came home few months later to find wife and her friend fucking two polish guys to this day she doesn’t know what I saw now I mostly play with bi married guys less hassle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am married but play alone

We don’t both meet socially amd my wife always knows

Is this “cheating ?”

No this isn't cheating, this is honesty and respect, you've both discussed it, your not going behind backs, it's not deception.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No we think they are both equal-cheating is disgusting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own...I was once a cheater on here. But I got my arse into gear & left him!

It's not the cheating that bothers me it's the usual sob story & bitching that does

Was no sob story Egan asked why I simple told them I didn’t lead with it just simply ask a question"

I wasn't getting at you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd never knowingly meet with a married man, why not just discuss with your wife, if you can't have respect for the person you love to be honest then I don't see how you could for a meet. Just my opinion. Sorry

Mrs "
oh we are pious today aren't we

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes got it in one

Very convenient take on morality with many folks on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am in same situation as op work away from home for weeks at a time wife not interested in sex with me bought subject up here got blasted for being a cheat came home few months later to find wife and her friend fucking two polish guys to this day she doesn’t know what I saw now I mostly play with bi married guys less hassle "

I hope they brought a selection of good preserved meet products with them, sine of those polish sausages etc are superb.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Isn’t it interesting that for a swinging site that people can get so puritanical about the marital status of an individual . "

I used to meet married men. I changed when they cancelled at the last moment: wife needed them to go Tesco's, kids playing up and they were needed at home. One man bought me a gift, shower gel and perfume he wanted me to use (the brands his wife used) so I didn't leave a scent trail. Couldn't mark them in any way. One asked if he could stay longer as he couldn't go home too early his wife would be suspicious...it wasn't fun for me, so no married men! Fuck all to do with being puritanical.

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Pulls up a chair popcorn ready

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

....

Saying all that I totally cannot understand how or why one person can expect another to live a totally sexless life

It's so messed up. & The amount of sexless marriages and relationships on here is unreal

probably a fairly accurate comparison with real life outside the fab arena.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

....

Saying all that I totally cannot understand how or why one person can expect another to live a totally sexless life

It's so messed up. & The amount of sexless marriages and relationships on here is unreal

probably a fairly accurate comparison with real life outside the fab arena."

I agree that no one should be expected to live in a sexless relationship if that’s not what they want, but often it seems like the person who is unhappy with no sex is also reluctant to leave. No, you shouldn’t force a spouse to stay if they want sex and you’re not willing to give it. But also the spouse should be brave enough to leave.

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

Mrs oh we are pious today aren't we"

There is nothing pious about not wanting to have time for dishonest people.

Are you by any chance cheating and take offence?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Pulls up a chair popcorn ready

Hope you caught up with the reading. It did have it's moments

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

....

Saying all that I totally cannot understand how or why one person can expect another to live a totally sexless life

It's so messed up. & The amount of sexless marriages and relationships on here is unreal

probably a fairly accurate comparison with real life outside the fab arena.

looking at this from the other angle why should the person who wishes the relationship to remain sexual leave, why not the person who no longer wants sex?

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

A number of people seem to be missing the point that marriage or other cohabiting relationships aren't always built on having sex together but can just as easily be for reasons of economics or companionship and can still be close enough that rubbing the other's nose in one's own peccadilloes can be insensitive and inappropriate.

In a hell of a lot of cases, to suggest that because the relationship is sexless, one partner should leave a partnership which works on other levels is ludicrous.

There would appear to be an excessive amount of almost pharisaic virtue signalling going on on Fab swingers when topics like this come up!

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

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Saying all that I totally cannot understand how or why one person can expect another to live a totally sexless life

It's so messed up. & The amount of sexless marriages and relationships on here is unreal

probably a fairly accurate comparison with real life outside the fab arena.

looking at this from the other angle why should the person who wishes the relationship to remain sexual leave, why not the person who no longer wants sex?"

Doesn't matter who leaves.

Be honest about it is all we say.

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

"A number of people seem to be missing the point that marriage or other cohabiting relationships aren't always built on having sex together but can just as easily be for reasons of economics or companionship and can still be close enough that rubbing the other's nose in one's own peccadilloes can be insensitive and inappropriate.

In a hell of a lot of cases, to suggest that because the relationship is sexless, one partner should leave a partnership which works on other levels is ludicrous.

There would appear to be an excessive amount of almost pharisaic virtue signalling going on on Fab swingers when topics like this come up! "

The point behind this is not leaving, it is about honesty.

Companionship or not. Will the cheated partner still choose to keep that relationship knowing that they are being cheated on?

Surely they deserve to have that choice? ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d rather someone left me than cheated on me. I can get over a breakup, I’m not sure you ever truly get over being cheated on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Saying all that I totally cannot understand how or why one person can expect another to live a totally sexless life

It's so messed up. & The amount of sexless marriages and relationships on here is unreal

probably a fairly accurate comparison with real life outside the fab arena.

looking at this from the other angle why should the person who wishes the relationship to remain sexual leave, why not the person who no longer wants sex?"

Oh I agree, they should both split up! In my experience, whenever I’ve lost my sex drive and thought I was asexual, it’s come roaring back once I end the relationship!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a hell of a lot of cases, to suggest that because the relationship is sexless, one partner should leave a partnership which works on other levels is ludicrous.

There would appear to be an excessive amount of almost pharisaic virtue signalling going on on Fab swingers when topics like this come up! "

I mean, fair. I just have found personally that being single is fabulous compared to being in a relationship with someone I don’t want to have sex with. I’ve lost my sex drive in every LTR I’ve had.

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

"I’d rather someone left me than cheated on me. I can get over a breakup, I’m not sure you ever truly get over being cheated on "

Agree totally.

Thing is, on here the cheats have decided that their unknowing partners have any rights to make their own choices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a hell of a lot of cases, to suggest that because the relationship is sexless, one partner should leave a partnership which works on other levels is ludicrous.

There would appear to be an excessive amount of almost pharisaic virtue signalling going on on Fab swingers when topics like this come up! "

Likewise there's a lot of faux enlightenment on here.

Lots of swingers dislike the dishonesty and drama that cheating brings. Lots don't care and will carry on regardless. I don't think the people who post asking for approval to cheat are worth advice, they've already decided to be here.

I'm entitled to dislike people for acting like despicably, and no amount of 'woe is me' from a cheater will change my mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hope you've got a 'feel' for this place now OP ....

All the best matey

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By *ugRollersCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

I feel like this guys post has gone from being all one way to another and now it’s just going on about whether a sexless relationship should stay in tact.

It’s a hard one isn’t it. As I don’t know how I’d feel if hubby stopped wanting sex with me.... would I feel I had to seek it elsewhere without his knowledge ... and then feel bad for doing so? Or if I did should my hubby accept that because he hasn’t offered me it before that ... I don’t know ...

But what I do know is that if you do go with someone else ... can you live with knowing you’ve done it and can go back to your wife feeling more satisfied and still be in the same position ... because going with someone won’t change that situation. If I were you I’d talk to her about your feelings and see what she says first before you explore anything on here or elsewhere.

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london

In a hell of a lot of cases, to suggest that because the relationship is sexless, one partner should leave a partnership which works on other levels is ludicrous.

There would appear to be an excessive amount of almost pharisaic virtue signalling going on on Fab swingers when topics like this come up!

Likewise there's a lot of faux enlightenment on here.

I'm entitled to dislike people for acting like despicably, and no amount of 'woe is me' from a cheater will change my mind."

Also why do cheaters flock to swing clubs/swingers Lolol.. thinking all of us will sex (greet) them with open legs..ermm arms. Like damn, we have standards and ethics too. I think they should just go utilize the service of sex workers, straightforward, less drama and no judgement. *shrugs*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honestly mate, you should just talk to her about it. Not about cheating/being on here, but about your concerns. Having read this forum it sounds like you have no idea why the sex has dried up, and the only way you can resolve that is to find out what the issues are.

I’d bet there is a lot of decent advice on how to broach this subject on the internet if you’re worried about the conversation.

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By *ausage1970Man
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

In a hell of a lot of cases, to suggest that because the relationship is sexless, one partner should leave a partnership which works on other levels is ludicrous.

There would appear to be an excessive amount of almost pharisaic virtue signalling going on on Fab swingers when topics like this come up!

Likewise there's a lot of faux enlightenment on here.

I'm entitled to dislike people for acting like despicably, and no amount of 'woe is me' from a cheater will change my mind.

I have been in the scene for long enough to remember swingers clubs that hired sex workers to encourage men. Single men do pay extra to get into clubs ensuring the facilities and the business can survive. If they relied on couples and single women they would go bust and also think why single women get preferred rates to go to a club.....

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

It's near incredibly hard for single guys on here in general, but dishonest cheats will be almost impossible.

See it this way, if you don't have any respect for your own partner, then your hardly going to have any for randomers you hope to meet on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are those who will be happy to meet you and those who won't. My personal view is - be honest on your profile about being married so people you're contacting can make an informed choice. Don't take to heart the stick you'll get on the forums and personal messages. The folk can be very judgemental on here instead of leaving others do their own thing. Do what is right for you and hope you'll find what you're looking for.

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By *exysuzi and Mr.SCouple
over a year ago

CONISTON .Stoke Suburbia. Staffs. BARMOUTH. The Lakes (Monthly)

In a hell of a lot of cases, to suggest that because the relationship is sexless, one partner should leave a partnership which works on other levels is ludicrous.

There would appear to be an excessive amount of almost pharisaic virtue signalling going on on Fab swingers when topics like this come up! "

I've had to get Google dictionary to translate this for me. Some big words there hun llolololol xxxxx It's made me giggle, cheers for that

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By *usie pTV/TS
over a year ago

taunton

Whats on with all these single guys on here they should be out finding a wife and leave the women looking for the odd bit of extra excitement to sex starved married guys lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"... work away all week when come home at weekend wife doesn’t want to know "

Shouldn't you be making a fuss of your wife in those two days? Do you call her in the week to say hello and tell her how much you miss her and love her? Or, do you expect her to go from 0 to 60 the minute you turn up? It's very easy for someone in her situation to feel rather used and very unsexy. Get a job nearer home.

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By *edtimefunMan
over a year ago

Northampton

You have a very low opinion of men cheating without even considering the reasons and basically telling someone to end the relationship even if everything else in the marriage is good. You as a couple choose to swing for additional sexual fulfillment which is obviously needed by you both... what would either of you do if the other was totally against this and one of you really needed to do it .. end your marriage???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You have a very low opinion of men cheating without even considering the reasons and basically telling someone to end the relationship even if everything else in the marriage is good. You as a couple choose to swing for additional sexual fulfillment which is obviously needed by you both... what would either of you do if the other was totally against this and one of you really needed to do it .. end your marriage???"

You're suggesting that what you're doing is justified? Your lack of empathy or possibly understanding is staggering. You seem happy with the validation you're quietly getting by DM from other cheats so why bother fighting your corner here. You're only convincing people how deplorable your behaviour is.

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By *edtimefunMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I disagree and you can't understand .. fir people to swing then you need sexual fulfillment outside just the two of you, I need that also but my wife doesn't, you're just fortunate you both have similar needs, I wonder which one of you would stray if one if you really needed to swing and the other didn't???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I disagree and you can't understand .. fir people to swing then you need sexual fulfillment outside just the two of you, I need that also but my wife doesn't, you're just fortunate you both have similar needs, I wonder which one of you would stray if one if you really needed to swing and the other didn't???"
strangely neither of us, as we'd resolve the issue together. Your desperate requirement for validation and blind attachment to your version of reality are unusually obtuse.

I'll leave you to ruin your family's lives in peace.

With thoughts are with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For most on here swinging isn't because of a need for something we're not getting, it's about sharing and enhancing the experience together. So the opposite of what you're here for.

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By *edtimefunMan
over a year ago

Northampton

So what does a married guy do that wants to enhance his but his wife has very little interest .. just give up on that aspect of his life?,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So what does a married guy do that wants to enhance his but his wife has very little interest .. just give up on that aspect of his life?,"

Try harder. Judging by your response on here, it's likely you're the problem.

Have you considered that lying to your wife and having your focus elsewhere will be sending really clear signals.

It's really not hard. Be a better human being.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So what does a married guy do that wants to enhance his but his wife has very little interest .. just give up on that aspect of his life?,"

If it's a relationship deal breaker, maybe you have to look at the relationship.

I know my marriage didn't last, and her lack of desire for sex was a big factor. I've been happier since we separated.

It only got worse as things went on, the rest of the relationship was great. But it was a deal breaker.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say talk it through, and if there is no resolution without cheating, you have to question the whole thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So what does a married guy do that wants to enhance his but his wife has very little interest .. just give up on that aspect of his life?,"

If you turn that around.... What should a wife do if her husband has given up on her and is lying and cheating for his own satisfaction? What should a daughter do when she finds out her dad is cheating and breaks up her family so he can 'enhance his life'?

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By *edtimefunMan
over a year ago

Northampton

I have by no means given up on my wife, we have a great life, just this one part that has become very important for me but not for her.

Don't worry though, having looked at your pictures I wouldn't bother you anyway!!

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

"I have by no means given up on my wife, we have a great life, just this one part that has become very important for me but not for her.

Don't worry though, having looked at your pictures I wouldn't bother you anyway!!"

She might want to give up on you if she knows the truth though, but your taking that choice away from her by being deceitful. Literally no excuse for it. And no need to get personal about people commenting on a post they where their opinions were asked for lol.

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By *edtimefunMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Apologies but they were getting personal towards me. There are a lot of married people on this site both men and women, most won't admit to it on open forums though, I know it doesn't make it right but we all have our needs and we only have one life and believe or not although I'm doing what I'm doing I try to be a good husband in all other ares xx

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

"Apologies but they were getting personal towards me. There are a lot of married people on this site both men and women, most won't admit to it on open forums though, I know it doesn't make it right but we all have our needs and we only have one life and believe or not although I'm doing what I'm doing I try to be a good husband in all other ares xx"

Think everyone just needs to do what they want and not worry about others lol.

Don’t wanna meet married, don’t. Wanna cheat, they’ll do it anyway, not gonna listen to randomers online are they haha.

People are always gonna lie... can’t control others actions

These threads always get heated lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don't need to keep justifying yourself Bedtime....

They can't control who talks to you privately!

Any abuse in your DMs report.

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By *edtimefunMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Lol .. no one has the right to tell someone else how to run they're lives, especially if they're not aware of any circumstance .. take care xx

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By *edtimefunMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Thank you .. xx

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