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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Any tips on organising first meet? We are a soft swap couple .would like to meet a couple socially with no commitment to anything.see how night goes. Advice welcome??

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By *ameasyou1234Couple
over a year ago

Nottingham

What is soft swap? Are ther individual versions? Or is there a universal definition?

Tips.. Arrange a meet for a drink for only a chat after lots of messaging. Then part ways and if ok message and arrange another meet. If you kick it right off on the first meet up to you be open know and communicate limits and know your other half

Easier to stop early if it isn't right than for something that is damaging to happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tbh we wouldn't meet you,your profile is all about what you want,not what you have to offer,oh and get rid of the stupid warning bit,it isn't true and is meaningless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just make yourselves clear from the outset that you want to have a drink and a chat first and then if there's a mutual attraction you'll be happy to take it further. You can arrange to meet in a bar close to home then if you want to make a sharp exit you can... if you go to someones house or vice versa it can feel more awkward to end things prematurely.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

If you are looking for a couple to watch you have sex is that soft swap ? Where is the swap ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A club might be the best bet seen as you are only looking for someone to watch you have sex. As the female half of a couple I personally wouldn't be interested in that scenario at all. Like someone else said your profile is all about what you want

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By *itsAndTangentsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

Yeah you've gotta be careful there op, soft swap is generally defined as swapping but just for oral / hands.

It sounds more like you're looking for some kind of mutual voyeurism.

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Starting off as only doing soft swap and stuff does seem like the most sensible way to go.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

We would advise you go to a club.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for the replies

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

Just be really clear about what you and expect, tell them it’s your first meet and it’s a social and most won’t mind at all .

Don’t be embarrassed or bothered about doing what’s right for you two! That’s what it’s about.

And ignore the above comments about your profile lol, no need to purposely be rude you weren’t asking to meet them lol!

Enjoy xx

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull


"Tbh we wouldn't meet you,your profile is all about what you want,not what you have to offer,oh and get rid of the stupid warning bit,it isn't true and is meaningless

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Just read your profile and yours is exactly as you say OPs is..just what you want and not what you can offer.

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By *dRocMan
over a year ago

St Helens


"Just be really clear about what you and expect, tell them it’s your first meet and it’s a social and most won’t mind at all .

Don’t be embarrassed or bothered about doing what’s right for you two! That’s what it’s about.

And ignore the above comments about your profile lol, no need to purposely be rude you weren’t asking to meet them lol!

Enjoy xx"

Well said Layla. Ignore the comments about your profile. Just take your time talk to people and have fun

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By *ovelaughliveCouple
over a year ago

Oldham


"Tbh we wouldn't meet you,your profile is all about what you want,not what you have to offer,oh and get rid of the stupid warning bit,it isn't true and is meaningless

Just read your profile and yours is exactly as you say OPs is..just what you want and not what you can offer. "

We thought the same! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just meet for a drink in a pub, that's what we do, no pressure on either front then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is fine. Your not selling yourselves. It is about what you want on your profile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just be really clear about what you and expect, tell them it’s your first meet and it’s a social and most won’t mind at all .

Don’t be embarrassed or bothered about doing what’s right for you two! That’s what it’s about.

And ignore the above comments about your profile lol, no need to purposely be rude you weren’t asking to meet them lol!

Enjoy xx"

Exactly this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Soft swap is everything except penetrative sex. I'm surprised there are still people who don't know this

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West


"Soft swap is everything except penetrative sex. I'm surprised there are still people who don't know this "

OP, we’re not all like this I promise!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Soft swap is everything except penetrative sex. I'm surprised there are still people who don't know this

OP, we’re not all like this I promise!

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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield

Arranging to meet at a club or other location where you can enjoy yourselves if it falls through is generally good advice, that way if they don't turn up you've not really lost anything. With the best will in the world, there are still no end of stories on here of 'genuine' people not turning up to meets for whatever reason.

The comment about getting rid of that daft "warning" is sound advice for anyone though. It's nonsense, the site's T&Cs are what you sign up to, and beyond that copyright of images etc would apply. Text on a profile is meaningless no matter what psuedo-legal jargon it uses.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

What does the asterisk at the very end of the profile refer to please ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Legal jargon removed

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