Join us FREE, we're FREE to use
Web's largest swingers site since 2006.
Already registered?
Login here
Join us FREE, we're FREE to use
Web's largest swingers site since 2006.
Already registered?
Login here
 | Back to forum list |
| Back to Swinging Support and Advice |
| Jump to newest |  |
 | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I'm breaking my club cherry tomorrow and heading to club play.... As you guys have given such GREAT advise for the single guy - what about the single woman? Thanks in advance "I've been on my own to that club! Loved it - a couple of firsts with types of play - I sat with a lady most of the night chatting and having a few laughs.... Great experience, friendly crowd, loads easy to talk to...  | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"OK, I know I'm not a woman and can't offer the female perspective. But for what it's worth... I don't know what Club Play is like, but at any club rule 1 will be "no means no". If anyone gives you any trouble, don't hesitate to contact staff. They can deal with things if they know about them at the time, but there's less they can do if they only find out at the end of the night. Bring a few outfit changes. You want something you feel good in. As you've never been before, you might be tempted to go for the more conservative side to start with. You will feel more comfortable as the night goes on, and it's good to have something to change into if you start feeling a little over-dressed. Again, I don't know that club, but I expect there'll be lockers to keep things in. Some clubs are dress-down on entry - it's best to know that in advance. Don't drink too much. A little can lower your inhibitions if you need help with that, but you want to stay in control. I've seen people over-do it and it's not good. Be sociable. A big smile and a "hi, I'm new, mind if I join you?" is all the ice-breaker you need. At the clubs I'm familiar with, the first couple of hours are the social part. This is a good time to start getting to know the regulars and scout out a few potentials for later. If you go on a night that allows single men, a new single woman will attract attention. Probably lots of it. Don't be shy about telling people you're not interested. Of course, if you are interested, don't be shy about that either. And finally, have fun. Clubs are great. There's every chance you'll have an amazing night." When you say “dress down on entry”, dress down to what? Does it mean you have to be naked? That would really put me off! Haven’t been to a club but might be dragged by a friend at some point  | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"OK, I know I'm not a woman and can't offer the female perspective. But for what it's worth... I don't know what Club Play is like, but at any club rule 1 will be "no means no". If anyone gives you any trouble, don't hesitate to contact staff. They can deal with things if they know about them at the time, but there's less they can do if they only find out at the end of the night. Bring a few outfit changes. You want something you feel good in. As you've never been before, you might be tempted to go for the more conservative side to start with. You will feel more comfortable as the night goes on, and it's good to have something to change into if you start feeling a little over-dressed. Again, I don't know that club, but I expect there'll be lockers to keep things in. Some clubs are dress-down on entry - it's best to know that in advance. Don't drink too much. A little can lower your inhibitions if you need help with that, but you want to stay in control. I've seen people over-do it and it's not good. Be sociable. A big smile and a "hi, I'm new, mind if I join you?" is all the ice-breaker you need. At the clubs I'm familiar with, the first couple of hours are the social part. This is a good time to start getting to know the regulars and scout out a few potentials for later. If you go on a night that allows single men, a new single woman will attract attention. Probably lots of it. Don't be shy about telling people you're not interested. Of course, if you are interested, don't be shy about that either. And finally, have fun. Clubs are great. There's every chance you'll have an amazing night. When you say “dress down on entry”, dress down to what? Does it mean you have to be naked? That would really put me off! Haven’t been to a club but might be dragged by a friend at some point "It's usually lingerie or towel | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" It's usually lingerie or towel " I forgot to say different clubs have different dress codes. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"OK, I know I'm not a woman and can't offer the female perspective. But for what it's worth... I don't know what Club Play is like, but at any club rule 1 will be "no means no". If anyone gives you any trouble, don't hesitate to contact staff. They can deal with things if they know about them at the time, but there's less they can do if they only find out at the end of the night. Bring a few outfit changes. You want something you feel good in. As you've never been before, you might be tempted to go for the more conservative side to start with. You will feel more comfortable as the night goes on, and it's good to have something to change into if you start feeling a little over-dressed. Again, I don't know that club, but I expect there'll be lockers to keep things in. Some clubs are dress-down on entry - it's best to know that in advance. Don't drink too much. A little can lower your inhibitions if you need help with that, but you want to stay in control. I've seen people over-do it and it's not good. Be sociable. A big smile and a "hi, I'm new, mind if I join you?" is all the ice-breaker you need. At the clubs I'm familiar with, the first couple of hours are the social part. This is a good time to start getting to know the regulars and scout out a few potentials for later. If you go on a night that allows single men, a new single woman will attract attention. Probably lots of it. Don't be shy about telling people you're not interested. Of course, if you are interested, don't be shy about that either. And finally, have fun. Clubs are great. There's every chance you'll have an amazing night. When you say “dress down on entry”, dress down to what? Does it mean you have to be naked? That would really put me off! Haven’t been to a club but might be dragged by a friend at some point
It's usually lingerie or towel "Thankyou. I assume this info is found on the club website? I’d like to be able to keep my clothes on for my first visit, I wouldn’t go if I thought I had to strip off on entry, I don’t have the nerve for that haha | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" When you say “dress down on entry”, dress down to what? Does it mean you have to be naked? That would really put me off! Haven’t been to a club but might be dragged by a friend at some point "I haven't been to one of those clubs myself. But "dress down" usually means lingerie or something like that. Not fully dressed, but it doesn't have to be naked (at the club I go to, people are usually only naked when they're playing or in the hot tub). Let yourself get dragged. I'm sure you'll love it. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" Thankyou. I assume this info is found on the club website? I’d like to be able to keep my clothes on for my first visit, I wouldn’t go if I thought I had to strip off on entry, I don’t have the nerve for that haha "Yes it's usually available on the website, have a look at the club section on here will have links to them there. I think your local one townhouse, you only have to dress down when you go to the play area upstairs rest of the club you can stay dressed. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" When you say “dress down on entry”, dress down to what? Does it mean you have to be naked? That would really put me off! Haven’t been to a club but might be dragged by a friend at some point
I haven't been to one of those clubs myself. But "dress down" usually means lingerie or something like that. Not fully dressed, but it doesn't have to be naked (at the club I go to, people are usually only naked when they're playing or in the hot tub).
Let yourself get dragged. I'm sure you'll love it."I wouldn’t have the nerves to walk about in lingerie on my first visit! I thought it was like a bar and I could wear a nice dress! Haha | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" Thankyou. I assume this info is found on the club website? I’d like to be able to keep my clothes on for my first visit, I wouldn’t go if I thought I had to strip off on entry, I don’t have the nerve for that haha
Yes it's usually available on the website, have a look at the club section on here will have links to them there. I think your local one townhouse, you only have to dress down when you go to the play area upstairs rest of the club you can stay dressed. "That’s where my friend wants to go. Her and her husband want to have a look, god knows why I have to be dragged along, safety in numbers I think  | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" Thankyou. I assume this info is found on the club website? I’d like to be able to keep my clothes on for my first visit, I wouldn’t go if I thought I had to strip off on entry, I don’t have the nerve for that haha
Yes it's usually available on the website, have a look at the club section on here will have links to them there. I think your local one townhouse, you only have to dress down when you go to the play area upstairs rest of the club you can stay dressed.
That’s where my friend wants to go. Her and her husband want to have a look, god knows why I have to be dragged along, safety in numbers I think "Don't over think  you'll be fine, especially if your going with good friends. It's kind of like going to a normal pub or club a lot of its all social Give it a go if you like it you like it, if you don't then cross it off and move on to the next thing
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" I wouldn’t have the nerves to walk about in lingerie on my first visit! I thought it was like a bar and I could wear a nice dress! Haha " It depends on the club. The ones I know you can stay fully dressed the whole night if you want (you can't visit the play rooms, but you can still have a great night just socialising in the bar). But I do recommend having the option - things that you couldn't imagine doing now might end up feeling completely natural once you're there. My first visit took me from "would never let anyone see me without a shirt on" to sitting naked in the hot tub with a group of strangers, and my first time playing was in front of an audience. I would never have dreamed I'd be doing that. You don't have to do that though. There's a whole range of options. Clubs cater to all kinds of people at all stages in their swinging life. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" I wouldn’t have the nerves to walk about in lingerie on my first visit! I thought it was like a bar and I could wear a nice dress! Haha It depends on the club. The ones I know you can stay fully dressed the whole night if you want (you can't visit the play rooms, but you can still have a great night just socialising in the bar). But I do recommend having the option - things that you couldn't imagine doing now might end up feeling completely natural once you're there. My first visit took me from "would never let anyone see me without a shirt on" to sitting naked in the hot tub with a group of strangers, and my first time playing was in front of an audience. I would never have dreamed I'd be doing that. You don't have to do that though. There's a whole range of options. Clubs cater to all kinds of people at all stages in their swinging life." I’m undecided at the moment, they are definitely a lot more keen to go than I am. I don’t mind going and having a drink in the bar, I’ve agreed to that but none of us had considered dress codes! Glad I saw this thread  | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"First time I went to a club albeit with my partner, I was wearing a really mini mini skirt and a loose low cut top. I was told by the staff my clothing was too much and was asked to strip down to my underwear. Didn't really have a problem stripping. Don't know if that's the rule on all clubs as from then on always changed to sexy lingerie once there " No in general they fall under 4 categories. Dress down upon entry Dress down after a certain time Dress down if you go in certain area's Stay dressed in all area's | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"So other random questions.... I presume no phones allowed? If dressed down... where do the condoms go? I guess sticking em down my bra works lol " All places have bins in each room as well as toilets  (Jesus I've never seen that asked before lol) | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"So other random questions.... I presume no phones allowed? If dressed down... where do the condoms go? I guess sticking em down my bra works lol All places have bins in each room as well as toilets (Jesus I've never seen that asked before lol)"I assumed she meant wrapped/unused condoms
You can carry a clutch bag with essentials  | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" Thankyou. I assume this info is found on the club website? I’d like to be able to keep my clothes on for my first visit, I wouldn’t go if I thought I had to strip off on entry, I don’t have the nerve for that haha
Yes it's usually available on the website, have a look at the club section on here will have links to them there. I think your local one townhouse, you only have to dress down when you go to the play area upstairs rest of the club you can stay dressed.
That’s where my friend wants to go. Her and her husband want to have a look, god knows why I have to be dragged along, safety in numbers I think "You are welcome to pm me if I can help with anything also a woman is never made to feel uncomfortable in dress down you could dress down in your nightie that your comfortable with or just use a towel some clubs do require dress down as soon as you go in some don't and some allow you dressed till a certain time until you have to dress down but club play as said you can stay dressed all night as long as your not going into the playrooms .... and on your first time they will always give you a tour if you tell them you have never been before.... you do this fully dressed lol Best advice I can give is always check the website you can even ring them if your unsure xx | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" didnt know we could carry a bag! "Some clubs insist on it being see through or clear plastic | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Also let them know it's your first time and ask for a tour, they will normally introduce you to some of the regulars that they know will be welcoming to you and help get you involved in various conversations and introductions." Oh yes I forgot about that x | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I presume no phones allowed? If dressed down... where do the condoms go? I guess sticking em down my bra works lol " I would not go to a club that allowed phones. I'd be surprised if any do. Phones go in the locker and stay there. Some clubs provide condoms in each room (I know Townhouse does). Some people prefer to carry their own in any case. You can carry a toiletry bag with condoms, lube, and toys. I made myself a little pouch that clips onto the wrist-strap for the key. If there are any fashion entrepreneurs reading, I reckon there's a market for club lingerie with pockets. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" Thankyou. I assume this info is found on the club website? I’d like to be able to keep my clothes on for my first visit, I wouldn’t go if I thought I had to strip off on entry, I don’t have the nerve for that haha
Yes it's usually available on the website, have a look at the club section on here will have links to them there. I think your local one townhouse, you only have to dress down when you go to the play area upstairs rest of the club you can stay dressed.
That’s where my friend wants to go. Her and her husband want to have a look, god knows why I have to be dragged along, safety in numbers I think
You are welcome to pm me if I can help with anything also a woman is never made to feel uncomfortable in dress down you could dress down in your nightie that your comfortable with or just use a towel some clubs do require dress down as soon as you go in some don't and some allow you dressed till a certain time until you have to dress down but club play as said you can stay dressed all night as long as your not going into the playrooms .... and on your first time they will always give you a tour if you tell them you have never been before.... you do this fully dressed lol
Best advice I can give is always check the website you can even ring them if your unsure xx"Thankyou, that’s helpful
I’ll likely just sit at the bar while they have alook round. As long as I’ve got a drink in my hand, I’ll be happy | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" Thankyou. I assume this info is found on the club website? I’d like to be able to keep my clothes on for my first visit, I wouldn’t go if I thought I had to strip off on entry, I don’t have the nerve for that haha
Yes it's usually available on the website, have a look at the club section on here will have links to them there. I think your local one townhouse, you only have to dress down when you go to the play area upstairs rest of the club you can stay dressed.
That’s where my friend wants to go. Her and her husband want to have a look, god knows why I have to be dragged along, safety in numbers I think
You are welcome to pm me if I can help with anything also a woman is never made to feel uncomfortable in dress down you could dress down in your nightie that your comfortable with or just use a towel some clubs do require dress down as soon as you go in some don't and some allow you dressed till a certain time until you have to dress down but club play as said you can stay dressed all night as long as your not going into the playrooms .... and on your first time they will always give you a tour if you tell them you have never been before.... you do this fully dressed lol
Best advice I can give is always check the website you can even ring them if your unsure xx
Thankyou, that’s helpful
I’ll likely just sit at the bar while they have alook round. As long as I’ve got a drink in my hand, I’ll be happy "You really should take the tour so you can see for yourself if you go early when it not been open long you will probably find nothing is going on tend to find people like to interact have a natter or even flirt it's an amazing experience im sure you will love it x | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" I wouldn’t have the nerves to walk about in lingerie on my first visit! I thought it was like a bar and I could wear a nice dress! Haha It depends on the club. The ones I know you can stay fully dressed the whole night if you want (you can't visit the play rooms, but you can still have a great night just socialising in the bar). But I do recommend having the option - things that you couldn't imagine doing now might end up feeling completely natural once you're there. My first visit took me from "would never let anyone see me without a shirt on" to sitting naked in the hot tub with a group of strangers, and my first time playing was in front of an audience. I would never have dreamed I'd be doing that. You don't have to do that though. There's a whole range of options. Clubs cater to all kinds of people at all stages in their swinging life. I’m undecided at the moment, they are definitely a lot more keen to go than I am. I don’t mind going and having a drink in the bar, I’ve agreed to that but none of us had considered dress codes! Glad I saw this thread "You can stay dressed in the bar at Townhouse if you wish. It will empty out as the night goes on but it is a great club. Honestly you will have a great time. Most people wonder what they were so nervous of once they get there. Btw you totally have nothing to be nervous about charging by you pictures | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" Thankyou. I assume this info is found on the club website? I’d like to be able to keep my clothes on for my first visit, I wouldn’t go if I thought I had to strip off on entry, I don’t have the nerve for that haha
Yes it's usually available on the website, have a look at the club section on here will have links to them there. I think your local one townhouse, you only have to dress down when you go to the play area upstairs rest of the club you can stay dressed.
That’s where my friend wants to go. Her and her husband want to have a look, god knows why I have to be dragged along, safety in numbers I think
You are welcome to pm me if I can help with anything also a woman is never made to feel uncomfortable in dress down you could dress down in your nightie that your comfortable with or just use a towel some clubs do require dress down as soon as you go in some don't and some allow you dressed till a certain time until you have to dress down but club play as said you can stay dressed all night as long as your not going into the playrooms .... and on your first time they will always give you a tour if you tell them you have never been before.... you do this fully dressed lol
Best advice I can give is always check the website you can even ring them if your unsure xx
Thankyou, that’s helpful
I’ll likely just sit at the bar while they have alook round. As long as I’ve got a drink in my hand, I’ll be happy
You really should take the tour so you can see for yourself if you go early when it not been open long you will probably find nothing is going on tend to find people like to interact have a natter or even flirt it's an amazing experience im sure you will love it x "Yeah, I’ll take the tour, don’t mind doing that. We were going to go kinda in the middle of the night so they could see what it was like busy (as we are only going for an hour or two), god knows what they’re hoping to see haha I’m sure it’ll be ok, thankyou | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" I wouldn’t have the nerves to walk about in lingerie on my first visit! I thought it was like a bar and I could wear a nice dress! Haha It depends on the club. The ones I know you can stay fully dressed the whole night if you want (you can't visit the play rooms, but you can still have a great night just socialising in the bar). But I do recommend having the option - things that you couldn't imagine doing now might end up feeling completely natural once you're there. My first visit took me from "would never let anyone see me without a shirt on" to sitting naked in the hot tub with a group of strangers, and my first time playing was in front of an audience. I would never have dreamed I'd be doing that. You don't have to do that though. There's a whole range of options. Clubs cater to all kinds of people at all stages in their swinging life. I’m undecided at the moment, they are definitely a lot more keen to go than I am. I don’t mind going and having a drink in the bar, I’ve agreed to that but none of us had considered dress codes! Glad I saw this thread
You can stay dressed in the bar at Townhouse if you wish. It will empty out as the night goes on but it is a great club. Honestly you will have a great time. Most people wonder what they were so nervous of once they get there.
Btw you totally have nothing to be nervous about charging by you pictures"Thankyou
It’s mad because I live in a bikini, but lingerie is a whole other kettle of fish. I’d feel really uncomfortable in underwear. Strange isn’t it | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"OK, I know I'm not a woman and can't offer the female perspective. But for what it's worth... I don't know what Club Play is like, but at any club rule 1 will be "no means no". If anyone gives you any trouble, don't hesitate to contact staff. They can deal with things if they know about them at the time, but there's less they can do if they only find out at the end of the night. Bring a few outfit changes. You want something you feel good in. As you've never been before, you might be tempted to go for the more conservative side to start with. You will feel more comfortable as the night goes on, and it's good to have something to change into if you start feeling a little over-dressed. Again, I don't know that club, but I expect there'll be lockers to keep things in. Some clubs are dress-down on entry - it's best to know that in advance. Don't drink too much. A little can lower your inhibitions if you need help with that, but you want to stay in control. I've seen people over-do it and it's not good. Be sociable. A big smile and a "hi, I'm new, mind if I join you?" is all the ice-breaker you need. At the clubs I'm familiar with, the first couple of hours are the social part. This is a good time to start getting to know the regulars and scout out a few potentials for later. If you go on a night that allows single men, a new single woman will attract attention. Probably lots of it. Don't be shy about telling people you're not interested. Of course, if you are interested, don't be shy about that either. And finally, have fun. Clubs are great. There's every chance you'll have an amazing night." | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" I wouldn’t have the nerves to walk about in lingerie on my first visit! I thought it was like a bar and I could wear a nice dress! Haha It depends on the club. The ones I know you can stay fully dressed the whole night if you want (you can't visit the play rooms, but you can still have a great night just socialising in the bar). But I do recommend having the option - things that you couldn't imagine doing now might end up feeling completely natural once you're there. My first visit took me from "would never let anyone see me without a shirt on" to sitting naked in the hot tub with a group of strangers, and my first time playing was in front of an audience. I would never have dreamed I'd be doing that. You don't have to do that though. There's a whole range of options. Clubs cater to all kinds of people at all stages in their swinging life. I’m undecided at the moment, they are definitely a lot more keen to go than I am. I don’t mind going and having a drink in the bar, I’ve agreed to that but none of us had considered dress codes! Glad I saw this thread
You can stay dressed in the bar at Townhouse if you wish. It will empty out as the night goes on but it is a great club. Honestly you will have a great time. Most people wonder what they were so nervous of once they get there.
Btw you totally have nothing to be nervous about charging by you pictures
Thankyou
It’s mad because I live in a bikini, but lingerie is a whole other kettle of fish. I’d feel really uncomfortable in underwear. Strange isn’t it "It is strange at first. After that it is liberating. Clubs are such a great environment for meeting like minded people and the Townhouse is a great club. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" I wouldn’t have the nerves to walk about in lingerie on my first visit! I thought it was like a bar and I could wear a nice dress! Haha It depends on the club. The ones I know you can stay fully dressed the whole night if you want (you can't visit the play rooms, but you can still have a great night just socialising in the bar). But I do recommend having the option - things that you couldn't imagine doing now might end up feeling completely natural once you're there. My first visit took me from "would never let anyone see me without a shirt on" to sitting naked in the hot tub with a group of strangers, and my first time playing was in front of an audience. I would never have dreamed I'd be doing that. You don't have to do that though. There's a whole range of options. Clubs cater to all kinds of people at all stages in their swinging life. I’m undecided at the moment, they are definitely a lot more keen to go than I am. I don’t mind going and having a drink in the bar, I’ve agreed to that but none of us had considered dress codes! Glad I saw this thread
You can stay dressed in the bar at Townhouse if you wish. It will empty out as the night goes on but it is a great club. Honestly you will have a great time. Most people wonder what they were so nervous of once they get there.
Btw you totally have nothing to be nervous about charging by you pictures
Thankyou
It’s mad because I live in a bikini, but lingerie is a whole other kettle of fish. I’d feel really uncomfortable in underwear. Strange isn’t it "You can wear your bikini lol just pretend your sunbathing it does get hot in some of these places | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" I wouldn’t have the nerves to walk about in lingerie on my first visit! I thought it was like a bar and I could wear a nice dress! Haha It depends on the club. The ones I know you can stay fully dressed the whole night if you want (you can't visit the play rooms, but you can still have a great night just socialising in the bar). But I do recommend having the option - things that you couldn't imagine doing now might end up feeling completely natural once you're there. My first visit took me from "would never let anyone see me without a shirt on" to sitting naked in the hot tub with a group of strangers, and my first time playing was in front of an audience. I would never have dreamed I'd be doing that. You don't have to do that though. There's a whole range of options. Clubs cater to all kinds of people at all stages in their swinging life. I’m undecided at the moment, they are definitely a lot more keen to go than I am. I don’t mind going and having a drink in the bar, I’ve agreed to that but none of us had considered dress codes! Glad I saw this thread
You can stay dressed in the bar at Townhouse if you wish. It will empty out as the night goes on but it is a great club. Honestly you will have a great time. Most people wonder what they were so nervous of once they get there.
Btw you totally have nothing to be nervous about charging by you pictures
Thankyou
It’s mad because I live in a bikini, but lingerie is a whole other kettle of fish. I’d feel really uncomfortable in underwear. Strange isn’t it
You can wear your bikini lol just pretend your sunbathing it does get hot in some of these places "To be fair no ones going to be dissapointed lol | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" I wouldn’t have the nerves to walk about in lingerie on my first visit! I thought it was like a bar and I could wear a nice dress! Haha It depends on the club. The ones I know you can stay fully dressed the whole night if you want (you can't visit the play rooms, but you can still have a great night just socialising in the bar). But I do recommend having the option - things that you couldn't imagine doing now might end up feeling completely natural once you're there. My first visit took me from "would never let anyone see me without a shirt on" to sitting naked in the hot tub with a group of strangers, and my first time playing was in front of an audience. I would never have dreamed I'd be doing that. You don't have to do that though. There's a whole range of options. Clubs cater to all kinds of people at all stages in their swinging life. I’m undecided at the moment, they are definitely a lot more keen to go than I am. I don’t mind going and having a drink in the bar, I’ve agreed to that but none of us had considered dress codes! Glad I saw this thread
You can stay dressed in the bar at Townhouse if you wish. It will empty out as the night goes on but it is a great club. Honestly you will have a great time. Most people wonder what they were so nervous of once they get there.
Btw you totally have nothing to be nervous about charging by you pictures
Thankyou
It’s mad because I live in a bikini, but lingerie is a whole other kettle of fish. I’d feel really uncomfortable in underwear. Strange isn’t it
You can wear your bikini lol just pretend your sunbathing it does get hot in some of these places
To be fair no ones going to be dissapointed lol"Haha thanks
I’ve got a nice dress that’s not over the top but not a day dress so was going to wear that and hope that’s ok. Don’t want to stand out like a sore thumb! Do ladies get really dressed up? Full makeup and heels? | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" I wouldn’t have the nerves to walk about in lingerie on my first visit! I thought it was like a bar and I could wear a nice dress! Haha It depends on the club. The ones I know you can stay fully dressed the whole night if you want (you can't visit the play rooms, but you can still have a great night just socialising in the bar). But I do recommend having the option - things that you couldn't imagine doing now might end up feeling completely natural once you're there. My first visit took me from "would never let anyone see me without a shirt on" to sitting naked in the hot tub with a group of strangers, and my first time playing was in front of an audience. I would never have dreamed I'd be doing that. You don't have to do that though. There's a whole range of options. Clubs cater to all kinds of people at all stages in their swinging life. I’m undecided at the moment, they are definitely a lot more keen to go than I am. I don’t mind going and having a drink in the bar, I’ve agreed to that but none of us had considered dress codes! Glad I saw this thread
You can stay dressed in the bar at Townhouse if you wish. It will empty out as the night goes on but it is a great club. Honestly you will have a great time. Most people wonder what they were so nervous of once they get there.
Btw you totally have nothing to be nervous about charging by you pictures
Thankyou
It’s mad because I live in a bikini, but lingerie is a whole other kettle of fish. I’d feel really uncomfortable in underwear. Strange isn’t it
You can wear your bikini lol just pretend your sunbathing it does get hot in some of these places
To be fair no ones going to be dissapointed lol
Haha thanks
I’ve got a nice dress that’s not over the top but not a day dress so was going to wear that and hope that’s ok. Don’t want to stand out like a sore thumb! Do ladies get really dressed up? Full makeup and heels? "Just think sexy club atire. Little Black dress that sort of thing. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"So other random questions.... I presume no phones allowed? If dressed down... where do the condoms go? I guess sticking em down my bra works lol All places have bins in each room as well as toilets (Jesus I've never seen that asked before lol)
I assumed she meant wrapped/unused condoms
You can carry a clutch bag with essentials "I know, just having a giggle.... Used ones was my first thought though, I cannot lie | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" I wouldn’t have the nerves to walk about in lingerie on my first visit! I thought it was like a bar and I could wear a nice dress! Haha It depends on the club. The ones I know you can stay fully dressed the whole night if you want (you can't visit the play rooms, but you can still have a great night just socialising in the bar). But I do recommend having the option - things that you couldn't imagine doing now might end up feeling completely natural once you're there. My first visit took me from "would never let anyone see me without a shirt on" to sitting naked in the hot tub with a group of strangers, and my first time playing was in front of an audience. I would never have dreamed I'd be doing that. You don't have to do that though. There's a whole range of options. Clubs cater to all kinds of people at all stages in their swinging life. I’m undecided at the moment, they are definitely a lot more keen to go than I am. I don’t mind going and having a drink in the bar, I’ve agreed to that but none of us had considered dress codes! Glad I saw this thread
You can stay dressed in the bar at Townhouse if you wish. It will empty out as the night goes on but it is a great club. Honestly you will have a great time. Most people wonder what they were so nervous of once they get there.
Btw you totally have nothing to be nervous about charging by you pictures
Thankyou
It’s mad because I live in a bikini, but lingerie is a whole other kettle of fish. I’d feel really uncomfortable in underwear. Strange isn’t it
You can wear your bikini lol just pretend your sunbathing it does get hot in some of these places
To be fair no ones going to be dissapointed lol
Haha thanks
I’ve got a nice dress that’s not over the top but not a day dress so was going to wear that and hope that’s ok. Don’t want to stand out like a sore thumb! Do ladies get really dressed up? Full makeup and heels? "Make up and hot tubs don't mix. So if that's a consideration might want to go easy on the makeup lol | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" I wouldn’t have the nerves to walk about in lingerie on my first visit! I thought it was like a bar and I could wear a nice dress! Haha It depends on the club. The ones I know you can stay fully dressed the whole night if you want (you can't visit the play rooms, but you can still have a great night just socialising in the bar). But I do recommend having the option - things that you couldn't imagine doing now might end up feeling completely natural once you're there. My first visit took me from "would never let anyone see me without a shirt on" to sitting naked in the hot tub with a group of strangers, and my first time playing was in front of an audience. I would never have dreamed I'd be doing that. You don't have to do that though. There's a whole range of options. Clubs cater to all kinds of people at all stages in their swinging life. I’m undecided at the moment, they are definitely a lot more keen to go than I am. I don’t mind going and having a drink in the bar, I’ve agreed to that but none of us had considered dress codes! Glad I saw this thread
You can stay dressed in the bar at Townhouse if you wish. It will empty out as the night goes on but it is a great club. Honestly you will have a great time. Most people wonder what they were so nervous of once they get there.
Btw you totally have nothing to be nervous about charging by you pictures
Thankyou
It’s mad because I live in a bikini, but lingerie is a whole other kettle of fish. I’d feel really uncomfortable in underwear. Strange isn’t it
You can wear your bikini lol just pretend your sunbathing it does get hot in some of these places
To be fair no ones going to be dissapointed lol
Haha thanks
I’ve got a nice dress that’s not over the top but not a day dress so was going to wear that and hope that’s ok. Don’t want to stand out like a sore thumb! Do ladies get really dressed up? Full makeup and heels?
Just think sexy club atire.
Little Black dress that sort of thing."Ah ok, thanks. Nothing worse than turning up fully done up to find everyone else casual (that’s happened to me 100 times!) | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" I wouldn’t have the nerves to walk about in lingerie on my first visit! I thought it was like a bar and I could wear a nice dress! Haha It depends on the club. The ones I know you can stay fully dressed the whole night if you want (you can't visit the play rooms, but you can still have a great night just socialising in the bar). But I do recommend having the option - things that you couldn't imagine doing now might end up feeling completely natural once you're there. My first visit took me from "would never let anyone see me without a shirt on" to sitting naked in the hot tub with a group of strangers, and my first time playing was in front of an audience. I would never have dreamed I'd be doing that. You don't have to do that though. There's a whole range of options. Clubs cater to all kinds of people at all stages in their swinging life. I’m undecided at the moment, they are definitely a lot more keen to go than I am. I don’t mind going and having a drink in the bar, I’ve agreed to that but none of us had considered dress codes! Glad I saw this thread
You can stay dressed in the bar at Townhouse if you wish. It will empty out as the night goes on but it is a great club. Honestly you will have a great time. Most people wonder what they were so nervous of once they get there.
Btw you totally have nothing to be nervous about charging by you pictures
Thankyou
It’s mad because I live in a bikini, but lingerie is a whole other kettle of fish. I’d feel really uncomfortable in underwear. Strange isn’t it
You can wear your bikini lol just pretend your sunbathing it does get hot in some of these places
To be fair no ones going to be dissapointed lol
Haha thanks
I’ve got a nice dress that’s not over the top but not a day dress so was going to wear that and hope that’s ok. Don’t want to stand out like a sore thumb! Do ladies get really dressed up? Full makeup and heels?
Make up and hot tubs don't mix. So if that's a consideration might want to go easy on the makeup lol"Ooh no, I won’t be going near water after I’ve done my hair, not a chance haha. My extensions don’t deal well with chlorinated water anyway so I’ll steer clear of anything like that | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" I wouldn’t have the nerves to walk about in lingerie on my first visit! I thought it was like a bar and I could wear a nice dress! Haha It depends on the club. The ones I know you can stay fully dressed the whole night if you want (you can't visit the play rooms, but you can still have a great night just socialising in the bar). But I do recommend having the option - things that you couldn't imagine doing now might end up feeling completely natural once you're there. My first visit took me from "would never let anyone see me without a shirt on" to sitting naked in the hot tub with a group of strangers, and my first time playing was in front of an audience. I would never have dreamed I'd be doing that. You don't have to do that though. There's a whole range of options. Clubs cater to all kinds of people at all stages in their swinging life. I’m undecided at the moment, they are definitely a lot more keen to go than I am. I don’t mind going and having a drink in the bar, I’ve agreed to that but none of us had considered dress codes! Glad I saw this thread
You can stay dressed in the bar at Townhouse if you wish. It will empty out as the night goes on but it is a great club. Honestly you will have a great time. Most people wonder what they were so nervous of once they get there.
Btw you totally have nothing to be nervous about charging by you pictures
Thankyou
It’s mad because I live in a bikini, but lingerie is a whole other kettle of fish. I’d feel really uncomfortable in underwear. Strange isn’t it
You can wear your bikini lol just pretend your sunbathing it does get hot in some of these places
To be fair no ones going to be dissapointed lol
Haha thanks
I’ve got a nice dress that’s not over the top but not a day dress so was going to wear that and hope that’s ok. Don’t want to stand out like a sore thumb! Do ladies get really dressed up? Full makeup and heels?
Just think sexy club atire.
Little Black dress that sort of thing.
Ah ok, thanks. Nothing worse than turning up fully done up to find everyone else casual (that’s happened to me 100 times!) "It does happen lol. As long as you are comfortable and feeling sexy that's all that matters. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" I wouldn’t have the nerves to walk about in lingerie on my first visit! I thought it was like a bar and I could wear a nice dress! Haha It depends on the club. The ones I know you can stay fully dressed the whole night if you want (you can't visit the play rooms, but you can still have a great night just socialising in the bar). But I do recommend having the option - things that you couldn't imagine doing now might end up feeling completely natural once you're there. My first visit took me from "would never let anyone see me without a shirt on" to sitting naked in the hot tub with a group of strangers, and my first time playing was in front of an audience. I would never have dreamed I'd be doing that. You don't have to do that though. There's a whole range of options. Clubs cater to all kinds of people at all stages in their swinging life. I’m undecided at the moment, they are definitely a lot more keen to go than I am. I don’t mind going and having a drink in the bar, I’ve agreed to that but none of us had considered dress codes! Glad I saw this thread
You can stay dressed in the bar at Townhouse if you wish. It will empty out as the night goes on but it is a great club. Honestly you will have a great time. Most people wonder what they were so nervous of once they get there.
Btw you totally have nothing to be nervous about charging by you pictures
Thankyou
It’s mad because I live in a bikini, but lingerie is a whole other kettle of fish. I’d feel really uncomfortable in underwear. Strange isn’t it
You can wear your bikini lol just pretend your sunbathing it does get hot in some of these places
To be fair no ones going to be dissapointed lol
Haha thanks
I’ve got a nice dress that’s not over the top but not a day dress so was going to wear that and hope that’s ok. Don’t want to stand out like a sore thumb! Do ladies get really dressed up? Full makeup and heels?
Just think sexy club atire.
Little Black dress that sort of thing.
Ah ok, thanks. Nothing worse than turning up fully done up to find everyone else casual (that’s happened to me 100 times!)
It does happen lol. As long as you are comfortable and feeling sexy that's all that matters."Thanks | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" I wouldn’t have the nerves to walk about in lingerie on my first visit! I thought it was like a bar and I could wear a nice dress! Haha It depends on the club. The ones I know you can stay fully dressed the whole night if you want (you can't visit the play rooms, but you can still have a great night just socialising in the bar). But I do recommend having the option - things that you couldn't imagine doing now might end up feeling completely natural once you're there. My first visit took me from "would never let anyone see me without a shirt on" to sitting naked in the hot tub with a group of strangers, and my first time playing was in front of an audience. I would never have dreamed I'd be doing that. You don't have to do that though. There's a whole range of options. Clubs cater to all kinds of people at all stages in their swinging life. I’m undecided at the moment, they are definitely a lot more keen to go than I am. I don’t mind going and having a drink in the bar, I’ve agreed to that but none of us had considered dress codes! Glad I saw this thread
You can stay dressed in the bar at Townhouse if you wish. It will empty out as the night goes on but it is a great club. Honestly you will have a great time. Most people wonder what they were so nervous of once they get there.
Btw you totally have nothing to be nervous about charging by you pictures
Thankyou
It’s mad because I live in a bikini, but lingerie is a whole other kettle of fish. I’d feel really uncomfortable in underwear. Strange isn’t it
You can wear your bikini lol just pretend your sunbathing it does get hot in some of these places
To be fair no ones going to be dissapointed lol
Haha thanks
I’ve got a nice dress that’s not over the top but not a day dress so was going to wear that and hope that’s ok. Don’t want to stand out like a sore thumb! Do ladies get really dressed up? Full makeup and heels?
Make up and hot tubs don't mix. So if that's a consideration might want to go easy on the makeup lol
Ooh no, I won’t be going near water after I’ve done my hair, not a chance haha. My extensions don’t deal well with chlorinated water anyway so I’ll steer clear of anything like that "Now that would be a sight to see | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" I wouldn’t have the nerves to walk about in lingerie on my first visit! I thought it was like a bar and I could wear a nice dress! Haha It depends on the club. The ones I know you can stay fully dressed the whole night if you want (you can't visit the play rooms, but you can still have a great night just socialising in the bar). But I do recommend having the option - things that you couldn't imagine doing now might end up feeling completely natural once you're there. My first visit took me from "would never let anyone see me without a shirt on" to sitting naked in the hot tub with a group of strangers, and my first time playing was in front of an audience. I would never have dreamed I'd be doing that. You don't have to do that though. There's a whole range of options. Clubs cater to all kinds of people at all stages in their swinging life. I’m undecided at the moment, they are definitely a lot more keen to go than I am. I don’t mind going and having a drink in the bar, I’ve agreed to that but none of us had considered dress codes! Glad I saw this thread
You can stay dressed in the bar at Townhouse if you wish. It will empty out as the night goes on but it is a great club. Honestly you will have a great time. Most people wonder what they were so nervous of once they get there.
Btw you totally have nothing to be nervous about charging by you pictures
Thankyou
It’s mad because I live in a bikini, but lingerie is a whole other kettle of fish. I’d feel really uncomfortable in underwear. Strange isn’t it
You can wear your bikini lol just pretend your sunbathing it does get hot in some of these places
To be fair no ones going to be dissapointed lol
Haha thanks
I’ve got a nice dress that’s not over the top but not a day dress so was going to wear that and hope that’s ok. Don’t want to stand out like a sore thumb! Do ladies get really dressed up? Full makeup and heels? "Yep Even during the day too | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" Thankyou. I assume this info is found on the club website? I’d like to be able to keep my clothes on for my first visit, I wouldn’t go if I thought I had to strip off on entry, I don’t have the nerve for that haha
Yes it's usually available on the website, have a look at the club section on here will have links to them there. I think your local one townhouse, you only have to dress down when you go to the play area upstairs rest of the club you can stay dressed.
That’s where my friend wants to go. Her and her husband want to have a look, god knows why I have to be dragged along, safety in numbers I think
You are welcome to pm me if I can help with anything also a woman is never made to feel uncomfortable in dress down you could dress down in your nightie that your comfortable with or just use a towel some clubs do require dress down as soon as you go in some don't and some allow you dressed till a certain time until you have to dress down but club play as said you can stay dressed all night as long as your not going into the playrooms .... and on your first time they will always give you a tour if you tell them you have never been before.... you do this fully dressed lol
Best advice I can give is always check the website you can even ring them if your unsure xx
Thankyou, that’s helpful
I’ll likely just sit at the bar while they have alook round. As long as I’ve got a drink in my hand, I’ll be happy "Check how the club operate the bar, some clubs operate a “bring your own” and you put it behind the bar and you pay for mixers. As someone had previously mentioned, don’t drink too much! Seen some horrid situations caused by too much alcohol. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Townhouse is a normal bar not bring your own." OP is going to Club Play | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Townhouse is a normal bar not bring your own. OP is going to Club Play" So sorry op I missed that. I'm not sure on club play. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" Thankyou. I assume this info is found on the club website? I’d like to be able to keep my clothes on for my first visit, I wouldn’t go if I thought I had to strip off on entry, I don’t have the nerve for that haha
Yes it's usually available on the website, have a look at the club section on here will have links to them there. I think your local one townhouse, you only have to dress down when you go to the play area upstairs rest of the club you can stay dressed.
That’s where my friend wants to go. Her and her husband want to have a look, god knows why I have to be dragged along, safety in numbers I think
You are welcome to pm me if I can help with anything also a woman is never made to feel uncomfortable in dress down you could dress down in your nightie that your comfortable with or just use a towel some clubs do require dress down as soon as you go in some don't and some allow you dressed till a certain time until you have to dress down but club play as said you can stay dressed all night as long as your not going into the playrooms .... and on your first time they will always give you a tour if you tell them you have never been before.... you do this fully dressed lol
Best advice I can give is always check the website you can even ring them if your unsure xx
Thankyou, that’s helpful
I’ll likely just sit at the bar while they have alook round. As long as I’ve got a drink in my hand, I’ll be happy
Check how the club operate the bar, some clubs operate a “bring your own” and you put it behind the bar and you pay for mixers. As someone had previously mentioned, don’t drink too much! Seen some horrid situations caused by too much alcohol."I won’t, I’ll only have one or two as we’re only going for an hour or so anyway. If I sat at the bar any longer, it might be a different story haha | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Hair in this heat is an issue!! All I want to do is put it in a bun "I know!! My hair is very long and goes slightly below my bra stap so it’s often stuck to my back! I wouldn’t tie it up on a night out though, I wouldn’t feel nice. Some girls look gorgeous with hair up, not me | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"OK, I know I'm not a woman and can't offer the female perspective. But for what it's worth... I don't know what Club Play is like, but at any club rule 1 will be "no means no". If anyone gives you any trouble, don't hesitate to contact staff. They can deal with things if they know about them at the time, but there's less they can do if they only find out at the end of the night. Bring a few outfit changes. You want something you feel good in. As you've never been before, you might be tempted to go for the more conservative side to start with. You will feel more comfortable as the night goes on, and it's good to have something to change into if you start feeling a little over-dressed. Again, I don't know that club, but I expect there'll be lockers to keep things in. Some clubs are dress-down on entry - it's best to know that in advance. Don't drink too much. A little can lower your inhibitions if you need help with that, but you want to stay in control. I've seen people over-do it and it's not good. Be sociable. A big smile and a "hi, I'm new, mind if I join you?" is all the ice-breaker you need. At the clubs I'm familiar with, the first couple of hours are the social part. This is a good time to start getting to know the regulars and scout out a few potentials for later. If you go on a night that allows single men, a new single woman will attract attention. Probably lots of it. Don't be shy about telling people you're not interested. Of course, if you are interested, don't be shy about that either. And finally, have fun. Clubs are great. There's every chance you'll have an amazing night. When you say “dress down on entry”, dress down to what? Does it mean you have to be naked? That would really put me off! Haven’t been to a club but might be dragged by a friend at some point
It's usually lingerie or towel
Thankyou.
I assume this info is found on the club website?
I’d like to be able to keep my clothes on for my first visit, I wouldn’t go if I thought I had to strip off on entry, I don’t have the nerve for that haha "Xtasia is more of a night club feel, lots of clubs don’t require you to dress down on entry …chams does … but you can still wear something a bit racy… you don’t have to go nude… I would add that it’s nothing like as intimidating as I imagined it would be ..,and you can sit in the corner and watch the world go by… I’m sure you’ll have a blast … folks are sociable , and chilled , in my experience | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"OK, I know I'm not a woman and can't offer the female perspective. But for what it's worth... I don't know what Club Play is like, but at any club rule 1 will be "no means no". If anyone gives you any trouble, don't hesitate to contact staff. They can deal with things if they know about them at the time, but there's less they can do if they only find out at the end of the night. Bring a few outfit changes. You want something you feel good in. As you've never been before, you might be tempted to go for the more conservative side to start with. You will feel more comfortable as the night goes on, and it's good to have something to change into if you start feeling a little over-dressed. Again, I don't know that club, but I expect there'll be lockers to keep things in. Some clubs are dress-down on entry - it's best to know that in advance. Don't drink too much. A little can lower your inhibitions if you need help with that, but you want to stay in control. I've seen people over-do it and it's not good. Be sociable. A big smile and a "hi, I'm new, mind if I join you?" is all the ice-breaker you need. At the clubs I'm familiar with, the first couple of hours are the social part. This is a good time to start getting to know the regulars and scout out a few potentials for later. If you go on a night that allows single men, a new single woman will attract attention. Probably lots of it. Don't be shy about telling people you're not interested. Of course, if you are interested, don't be shy about that either. And finally, have fun. Clubs are great. There's every chance you'll have an amazing night. When you say “dress down on entry”, dress down to what? Does it mean you have to be naked? That would really put me off! Haven’t been to a club but might be dragged by a friend at some point
It's usually lingerie or towel
Thankyou.
I assume this info is found on the club website?
I’d like to be able to keep my clothes on for my first visit, I wouldn’t go if I thought I had to strip off on entry, I don’t have the nerve for that haha
Xtasia is more of a night club feel, lots of clubs don’t require you to dress down on entry …chams does … but you can still wear something a bit racy… you don’t have to go nude… I would add that it’s nothing like as intimidating as I imagined it would be ..,and you can sit in the corner and watch the world go by…
I’m sure you’ll have a blast … folks are sociable , and chilled , in my experience
"I’d prefer more of a nightclub situation but my friend doesn’t want to travel so it looks like it’ll be townhouse. I might flake out and tell them to go without me and feedback, let me know what it was like. They’re very keen, I really don’t need to be there propping up the bar while they look around haha They also have a tendency to wander off and not come back for far longer than was agreed, I need new friends haha | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" I wouldn’t have the nerves to walk about in lingerie on my first visit! I thought it was like a bar and I could wear a nice dress! Haha It depends on the club. The ones I know you can stay fully dressed the whole night if you want (you can't visit the play rooms, but you can still have a great night just socialising in the bar). But I do recommend having the option - things that you couldn't imagine doing now might end up feeling completely natural once you're there. My first visit took me from "would never let anyone see me without a shirt on" to sitting naked in the hot tub with a group of strangers, and my first time playing was in front of an audience. I would never have dreamed I'd be doing that. You don't have to do that though. There's a whole range of options. Clubs cater to all kinds of people at all stages in their swinging life. I’m undecided at the moment, they are definitely a lot more keen to go than I am. I don’t mind going and having a drink in the bar, I’ve agreed to that but none of us had considered dress codes! Glad I saw this thread
You can stay dressed in the bar at Townhouse if you wish. It will empty out as the night goes on but it is a great club. Honestly you will have a great time. Most people wonder what they were so nervous of once they get there.
Btw you totally have nothing to be nervous about charging by you pictures
Thankyou
It’s mad because I live in a bikini, but lingerie is a whole other kettle of fish. I’d feel really uncomfortable in underwear. Strange isn’t it
You can wear your bikini lol just pretend your sunbathing it does get hot in some of these places
To be fair no ones going to be dissapointed lol
Haha thanks
I’ve got a nice dress that’s not over the top but not a day dress so was going to wear that and hope that’s ok. Don’t want to stand out like a sore thumb! Do ladies get really dressed up? Full makeup and heels?
Just think sexy club atire.
Little Black dress that sort of thing.
Ah ok, thanks. Nothing worse than turning up fully done up to find everyone else casual (that’s happened to me 100 times!) "This made me laugh - it also happens to me all the time but I never worry about it Not that my make-up is very strong, it is probably the overall style and the jewellery as I strive to be a real life Pin-Up. It is amazing how quickly you can get used to it - at least I did Once I assembled a full Pin-Up wardrobe wearing pearls, stunning dresses and fur feels completely natural because I simply have no other clothes.
As Oscar Wilde so aptly put it - you can never be overdressed or overeducated!
And if others are much more casual, too bad for them. No one prevents them from making an effort  | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Hair in this heat is an issue!! All I want to do is put it in a bun "Heat and humidity for sure. When I go to naturist's spas or to a party that has a jacuzzi, I do the same Pin curls as I usually do but put my hair up rather high. That works quite well for me but everyone's hair is different of course. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"OK, I know I'm not a woman and can't offer the female perspective. But for what it's worth... I don't know what Club Play is like, but at any club rule 1 will be "no means no". If anyone gives you any trouble, don't hesitate to contact staff. They can deal with things if they know about them at the time, but there's less they can do if they only find out at the end of the night. Bring a few outfit changes. You want something you feel good in. As you've never been before, you might be tempted to go for the more conservative side to start with. You will feel more comfortable as the night goes on, and it's good to have something to change into if you start feeling a little over-dressed. Again, I don't know that club, but I expect there'll be lockers to keep things in. Some clubs are dress-down on entry - it's best to know that in advance. Don't drink too much. A little can lower your inhibitions if you need help with that, but you want to stay in control. I've seen people over-do it and it's not good. Be sociable. A big smile and a "hi, I'm new, mind if I join you?" is all the ice-breaker you need. At the clubs I'm familiar with, the first couple of hours are the social part. This is a good time to start getting to know the regulars and scout out a few potentials for later. If you go on a night that allows single men, a new single woman will attract attention. Probably lots of it. Don't be shy about telling people you're not interested. Of course, if you are interested, don't be shy about that either. And finally, have fun. Clubs are great. There's every chance you'll have an amazing night. When you say “dress down on entry”, dress down to what? Does it mean you have to be naked? That would really put me off! Haven’t been to a club but might be dragged by a friend at some point
It's usually lingerie or towel
Thankyou.
I assume this info is found on the club website?
I’d like to be able to keep my clothes on for my first visit, I wouldn’t go if I thought I had to strip off on entry, I don’t have the nerve for that haha
Xtasia is more of a night club feel, lots of clubs don’t require you to dress down on entry …chams does … but you can still wear something a bit racy… you don’t have to go nude… I would add that it’s nothing like as intimidating as I imagined it would be ..,and you can sit in the corner and watch the world go by…
I’m sure you’ll have a blast … folks are sociable , and chilled , in my experience
I’d prefer more of a nightclub situation but my friend doesn’t want to travel so it looks like it’ll be townhouse.
I might flake out and tell them to go without me and feedback, let me know what it was like. They’re very keen, I really don’t need to be there propping up the bar while they look around haha
They also have a tendency to wander off and not come back for far longer than was agreed, I need new friends haha "I wouldn't worry about people are usually very friendly and welcoming at clubs in my limited experience, there's always someone to chat too. I heard Vicky on a pod cast once she seems very nice I'm sure the club will look after you. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"What do you wear on your feet if dress down ? I get for females they can wear nice heels with underwear but as a male that would look odd imo "Take a pair of flip flops with you | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" I wouldn’t have the nerves to walk about in lingerie on my first visit! I thought it was like a bar and I could wear a nice dress! Haha It depends on the club. The ones I know you can stay fully dressed the whole night if you want (you can't visit the play rooms, but you can still have a great night just socialising in the bar). But I do recommend having the option - things that you couldn't imagine doing now might end up feeling completely natural once you're there. My first visit took me from "would never let anyone see me without a shirt on" to sitting naked in the hot tub with a group of strangers, and my first time playing was in front of an audience. I would never have dreamed I'd be doing that. You don't have to do that though. There's a whole range of options. Clubs cater to all kinds of people at all stages in their swinging life. I’m undecided at the moment, they are definitely a lot more keen to go than I am. I don’t mind going and having a drink in the bar, I’ve agreed to that but none of us had considered dress codes! Glad I saw this thread
You can stay dressed in the bar at Townhouse if you wish. It will empty out as the night goes on but it is a great club. Honestly you will have a great time. Most people wonder what they were so nervous of once they get there.
Btw you totally have nothing to be nervous about charging by you pictures
Thankyou
It’s mad because I live in a bikini, but lingerie is a whole other kettle of fish. I’d feel really uncomfortable in underwear. Strange isn’t it
You can wear your bikini lol just pretend your sunbathing it does get hot in some of these places
To be fair no ones going to be dissapointed lol
Haha thanks
I’ve got a nice dress that’s not over the top but not a day dress so was going to wear that and hope that’s ok. Don’t want to stand out like a sore thumb! Do ladies get really dressed up? Full makeup and heels?
Just think sexy club atire.
Little Black dress that sort of thing.
Ah ok, thanks. Nothing worse than turning up fully done up to find everyone else casual (that’s happened to me 100 times!)
This made me laugh - it also happens to me all the time but I never worry about it Not that my make-up is very strong, it is probably the overall style and the jewellery as I strive to be a real life Pin-Up. It is amazing how quickly you can get used to it - at least I did Once I assembled a full Pin-Up wardrobe wearing pearls, stunning dresses and fur feels completely natural because I simply have no other clothes.
As Oscar Wilde so aptly put it - you can never be overdressed or overeducated!
And if others are much more casual, too bad for them. No one prevents them from making an effort "Fabulous!!! I love the pin up look, it’s definitely one of the hottest looks. Love it
The amount of times I’ve been done up to the nines and others have worn jeans and converse haha so many times | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I might flake out and tell them to go without me and feedback, let me know what it was like. They’re very keen, I really don’t need to be there propping up the bar while they look around haha They also have a tendency to wander off and not come back for far longer than was agreed, I need new friends haha " I know somewhere you can find new friends... the bar at Townhouse! | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I might flake out and tell them to go without me and feedback, let me know what it was like. They’re very keen, I really don’t need to be there propping up the bar while they look around haha They also have a tendency to wander off and not come back for far longer than was agreed, I need new friends haha I know somewhere you can find new friends... the bar at Townhouse! "Haha, I’m sure | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" I wouldn’t have the nerves to walk about in lingerie on my first visit! I thought it was like a bar and I could wear a nice dress! Haha It depends on the club. The ones I know you can stay fully dressed the whole night if you want (you can't visit the play rooms, but you can still have a great night just socialising in the bar). But I do recommend having the option - things that you couldn't imagine doing now might end up feeling completely natural once you're there. My first visit took me from "would never let anyone see me without a shirt on" to sitting naked in the hot tub with a group of strangers, and my first time playing was in front of an audience. I would never have dreamed I'd be doing that. You don't have to do that though. There's a whole range of options. Clubs cater to all kinds of people at all stages in their swinging life. I’m undecided at the moment, they are definitely a lot more keen to go than I am. I don’t mind going and having a drink in the bar, I’ve agreed to that but none of us had considered dress codes! Glad I saw this thread
You can stay dressed in the bar at Townhouse if you wish. It will empty out as the night goes on but it is a great club. Honestly you will have a great time. Most people wonder what they were so nervous of once they get there.
Btw you totally have nothing to be nervous about charging by you pictures
Thankyou
It’s mad because I live in a bikini, but lingerie is a whole other kettle of fish. I’d feel really uncomfortable in underwear. Strange isn’t it
You can wear your bikini lol just pretend your sunbathing it does get hot in some of these places
To be fair no ones going to be dissapointed lol
Haha thanks
I’ve got a nice dress that’s not over the top but not a day dress so was going to wear that and hope that’s ok. Don’t want to stand out like a sore thumb! Do ladies get really dressed up? Full makeup and heels?
Just think sexy club atire.
Little Black dress that sort of thing.
Ah ok, thanks. Nothing worse than turning up fully done up to find everyone else casual (that’s happened to me 100 times!)
This made me laugh - it also happens to me all the time but I never worry about it Not that my make-up is very strong, it is probably the overall style and the jewellery as I strive to be a real life Pin-Up. It is amazing how quickly you can get used to it - at least I did Once I assembled a full Pin-Up wardrobe wearing pearls, stunning dresses and fur feels completely natural because I simply have no other clothes.
As Oscar Wilde so aptly put it - you can never be overdressed or overeducated!
And if others are much more casual, too bad for them. No one prevents them from making an effort
Fabulous!!! I love the pin up look, it’s definitely one of the hottest looks. Love it
The amount of times I’ve been done up to the nines and others have worn jeans and converse haha so many times "I always dress to impress lol don't care if others think its OTT | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"If you fancy a guy and he's with his female partner, start chatting with the female first, shower her with compliments. Once you play make sure she's taken care of, caress her, lick the hell out of her." Bit calculating and preditory isn't it. Surely socialiseing for the sake of socialiseing is fun in its self. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I might flake out and tell them to go without me and feedback, let me know what it was like. They’re very keen, I really don’t need to be there propping up the bar while they look around haha They also have a tendency to wander off and not come back for far longer than was agreed, I need new friends haha I know somewhere you can find new friends... the bar at Townhouse!
Haha, I’m sure "Hi, just stumbled across this thread, townhouse run a newbies event it’s hosted by LittleVixen on here, give a shout she’d more than happily answer any questions you may have. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Same etiquette/rules apply to women as men No means no No touching without asking Don't go expecting sex,if it happens it happens Don't follow guys/couples around the place whilst frantically rubbing your pussy Be sociable/friendly and enjoy yourself Been to few clubs , but still looking to find that sex crazied woman who follows people rubbing her pussy , see few guys do it though lol. " | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"If you fancy a guy and he's with his female partner, start chatting with the female first, shower her with compliments. Once you play make sure she's taken care of, caress her, lick the hell out of her. Bit calculating and preditory isn't it. Surely socialiseing for the sake of socialiseing is fun in its self. " Also depends entirely if the OP is into ladies! | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I might flake out and tell them to go without me and feedback, let me know what it was like. They’re very keen, I really don’t need to be there propping up the bar while they look around haha They also have a tendency to wander off and not come back for far longer than was agreed, I need new friends haha I know somewhere you can find new friends... the bar at Townhouse!
Haha, I’m sure
Hi, just stumbled across this thread, townhouse run a newbies event it’s hosted by LittleVixen on here, give a shout she’d more than happily answer any questions you may have. "Oh great! Thanks | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I might flake out and tell them to go without me and feedback, let me know what it was like. They’re very keen, I really don’t need to be there propping up the bar while they look around haha They also have a tendency to wander off and not come back for far longer than was agreed, I need new friends haha I know somewhere you can find new friends... the bar at Townhouse!
Haha, I’m sure
Hi, just stumbled across this thread, townhouse run a newbies event it’s hosted by LittleVixen on here, give a shout she’d more than happily answer any questions you may have.
Oh great! Thanks "Townhouse is great! Really well run, not putting up with any unacceptable behaviour, clean etc. Vicky and Jim and the crew who run it are great. The bar is also well stocked and good prices, with a great gin selection if you're into that. On most nights you can stay fully dressed downstairs, and only have to dress down (lingerie, play Wear etc) if you go upstairs. The bar area is not for play except on certain events, which are clearly indictated (Raw etc) Hope this helps! Xx | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
.
Xx | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" I wouldn’t have the nerves to walk about in lingerie on my first visit! I thought it was like a bar and I could wear a nice dress! Haha It depends on the club. The ones I know you can stay fully dressed the whole night if you want (you can't visit the play rooms, but you can still have a great night just socialising in the bar). But I do recommend having the option - things that you couldn't imagine doing now might end up feeling completely natural once you're there. My first visit took me from "would never let anyone see me without a shirt on" to sitting naked in the hot tub with a group of strangers, and my first time playing was in front of an audience. I would never have dreamed I'd be doing that. You don't have to do that though. There's a whole range of options. Clubs cater to all kinds of people at all stages in their swinging life. I’m undecided at the moment, they are definitely a lot more keen to go than I am. I don’t mind going and having a drink in the bar, I’ve agreed to that but none of us had considered dress codes! Glad I saw this thread
You can stay dressed in the bar at Townhouse if you wish. It will empty out as the night goes on but it is a great club. Honestly you will have a great time. Most people wonder what they were so nervous of once they get there.
Btw you totally have nothing to be nervous about charging by you pictures
Thankyou
It’s mad because I live in a bikini, but lingerie is a whole other kettle of fish. I’d feel really uncomfortable in underwear. Strange isn’t it
You can wear your bikini lol just pretend your sunbathing it does get hot in some of these places
To be fair no ones going to be dissapointed lol
Haha thanks
I’ve got a nice dress that’s not over the top but not a day dress so was going to wear that and hope that’s ok. Don’t want to stand out like a sore thumb! Do ladies get really dressed up? Full makeup and heels? "Yeah, I do. Always super dressed up to arrive and then dress down xx | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" I wouldn’t have the nerves to walk about in lingerie on my first visit! I thought it was like a bar and I could wear a nice dress! Haha It depends on the club. The ones I know you can stay fully dressed the whole night if you want (you can't visit the play rooms, but you can still have a great night just socialising in the bar). But I do recommend having the option - things that you couldn't imagine doing now might end up feeling completely natural once you're there. My first visit took me from "would never let anyone see me without a shirt on" to sitting naked in the hot tub with a group of strangers, and my first time playing was in front of an audience. I would never have dreamed I'd be doing that. You don't have to do that though. There's a whole range of options. Clubs cater to all kinds of people at all stages in their swinging life. I’m undecided at the moment, they are definitely a lot more keen to go than I am. I don’t mind going and having a drink in the bar, I’ve agreed to that but none of us had considered dress codes! Glad I saw this thread
You can stay dressed in the bar at Townhouse if you wish. It will empty out as the night goes on but it is a great club. Honestly you will have a great time. Most people wonder what they were so nervous of once they get there.
Btw you totally have nothing to be nervous about charging by you pictures
Thankyou
It’s mad because I live in a bikini, but lingerie is a whole other kettle of fish. I’d feel really uncomfortable in underwear. Strange isn’t it
You can wear your bikini lol just pretend your sunbathing it does get hot in some of these places
To be fair no ones going to be dissapointed lol
Haha thanks
I’ve got a nice dress that’s not over the top but not a day dress so was going to wear that and hope that’s ok. Don’t want to stand out like a sore thumb! Do ladies get really dressed up? Full makeup and heels?
Yeah, I do. Always super dressed up to arrive and then dress down xx"That’s good to know
Does the bar area stay quite busy throughout the night or do people generally wander off? | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" I wouldn’t have the nerves to walk about in lingerie on my first visit! I thought it was like a bar and I could wear a nice dress! Haha It depends on the club. The ones I know you can stay fully dressed the whole night if you want (you can't visit the play rooms, but you can still have a great night just socialising in the bar). But I do recommend having the option - things that you couldn't imagine doing now might end up feeling completely natural once you're there. My first visit took me from "would never let anyone see me without a shirt on" to sitting naked in the hot tub with a group of strangers, and my first time playing was in front of an audience. I would never have dreamed I'd be doing that. You don't have to do that though. There's a whole range of options. Clubs cater to all kinds of people at all stages in their swinging life. I’m undecided at the moment, they are definitely a lot more keen to go than I am. I don’t mind going and having a drink in the bar, I’ve agreed to that but none of us had considered dress codes! Glad I saw this thread
You can stay dressed in the bar at Townhouse if you wish. It will empty out as the night goes on but it is a great club. Honestly you will have a great time. Most people wonder what they were so nervous of once they get there.
Btw you totally have nothing to be nervous about charging by you pictures
Thankyou
It’s mad because I live in a bikini, but lingerie is a whole other kettle of fish. I’d feel really uncomfortable in underwear. Strange isn’t it
You can wear your bikini lol just pretend your sunbathing it does get hot in some of these places
To be fair no ones going to be dissapointed lol
Haha thanks
I’ve got a nice dress that’s not over the top but not a day dress so was going to wear that and hope that’s ok. Don’t want to stand out like a sore thumb! Do ladies get really dressed up? Full makeup and heels?
Yeah, I do. Always super dressed up to arrive and then dress down xx
That’s good to know
Does the bar area stay quite busy throughout the night or do people generally wander off? "I only go on event nights so it’s the busiest (at all clubs) and have always found because it’s busier there’s always people at the bar! People come and go to play but then the others come back sort of thing. The bars have always had people round when I’ve been xx | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" I wouldn’t have the nerves to walk about in lingerie on my first visit! I thought it was like a bar and I could wear a nice dress! Haha It depends on the club. The ones I know you can stay fully dressed the whole night if you want (you can't visit the play rooms, but you can still have a great night just socialising in the bar). But I do recommend having the option - things that you couldn't imagine doing now might end up feeling completely natural once you're there. My first visit took me from "would never let anyone see me without a shirt on" to sitting naked in the hot tub with a group of strangers, and my first time playing was in front of an audience. I would never have dreamed I'd be doing that. You don't have to do that though. There's a whole range of options. Clubs cater to all kinds of people at all stages in their swinging life. I’m undecided at the moment, they are definitely a lot more keen to go than I am. I don’t mind going and having a drink in the bar, I’ve agreed to that but none of us had considered dress codes! Glad I saw this thread
You can stay dressed in the bar at Townhouse if you wish. It will empty out as the night goes on but it is a great club. Honestly you will have a great time. Most people wonder what they were so nervous of once they get there.
Btw you totally have nothing to be nervous about charging by you pictures
Thankyou
It’s mad because I live in a bikini, but lingerie is a whole other kettle of fish. I’d feel really uncomfortable in underwear. Strange isn’t it
You can wear your bikini lol just pretend your sunbathing it does get hot in some of these places
To be fair no ones going to be dissapointed lol
Haha thanks
I’ve got a nice dress that’s not over the top but not a day dress so was going to wear that and hope that’s ok. Don’t want to stand out like a sore thumb! Do ladies get really dressed up? Full makeup and heels?
Yeah, I do. Always super dressed up to arrive and then dress down xx
That’s good to know
Does the bar area stay quite busy throughout the night or do people generally wander off?
I only go on event nights so it’s the busiest (at all clubs) and have always found because it’s busier there’s always people at the bar!
People come and go to play but then the others come back sort of thing.
The bars have always had people round when I’ve been xx"Ah, that’s cool then. Pictured myself sitting in an empty bar wondering where my friends have buffered off to! Haha | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
 need someone to go with I don't have no swinging friends | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I'd love to go but I'm not confident enough to go alone need someone to go with I don't have no swinging friends "Join kik groups
Literally about 20/30 of us go
Mix of couples, singles and everything in between haha!
All just friends that go together, do whatever we get up too, and go back to a hotel with pizza together haha xx | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"On dressing down; there comes a point where it actually feels more awkward to be fully dressed than to be in lingerie. Never been to club play, but most of the ones I know are tidal - people move to the bar, then to get changed, then to the bar, then to play and so on, and you’ll see the bar fill and empty through the night. " And at the end of the night we are all washed up on the sea shore … | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"So other random questions.... I presume no phones allowed? If dressed down... where do the condoms go? I guess sticking em down my bra works lol " If your wearing stockings then place them under the top of them | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" Don't follow guys/couples around the place whilst frantically rubbing your pussy " | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
" Thankyou. I assume this info is found on the club website? I’d like to be able to keep my clothes on for my first visit, I wouldn’t go if I thought I had to strip off on entry, I don’t have the nerve for that haha
Yes it's usually available on the website, have a look at the club section on here will have links to them there. I think your local one townhouse, you only have to dress down when you go to the play area upstairs rest of the club you can stay dressed.
That’s where my friend wants to go. Her and her husband want to have a look, god knows why I have to be dragged along, safety in numbers I think
You are welcome to pm me if I can help with anything also a woman is never made to feel uncomfortable in dress down you could dress down in your nightie that your comfortable with or just use a towel some clubs do require dress down as soon as you go in some don't and some allow you dressed till a certain time until you have to dress down but club play as said you can stay dressed all night as long as your not going into the playrooms .... and on your first time they will always give you a tour if you tell them you have never been before.... you do this fully dressed lol
Best advice I can give is always check the website you can even ring them if your unsure xx
Thankyou, that’s helpful
I’ll likely just sit at the bar while they have alook round. As long as I’ve got a drink in my hand, I’ll be happy "Some clubs don’t have an alcohol license, you can take your own. Their website will tell you. X love honey have some appropriate club wear you can dress down into. There really isn’t any judgment on what people wear or look like, but I understand your fear of getting derobed! I would generally wear a nice going out outfit to go to a club in and get dressed down if I feel like it or not. (Haven’t been to a club yet with stricter rules). Enjoy your experience. | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Can any lady or respected couple guide me please on this site please I think I've disconnected some thing birthday 16" You are best off making your own thread and NOT include your email address X | |||
| Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| Post new Message to Thread |
| back to top |  |
