FabSwingers.com forum: Advice for someone striking out

By *nderDawg OP Man
over a year ago

essex

Hey guys as title above states I’m looking for some advice I just can’t seem to make use of the site not getting any responses or not really being people’s cup of tea, is there anything that worked or any advice for a kinda newbie all advice appreciated

Thanks in advance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d start with fleshing out your profile!

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By *nderDawg OP Man
over a year ago

essex

"I’d start with fleshing out your profile! "

If you wouldn’t mind telling me what would you think other than abit about me would

Be suitable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What you’re into/what you bring to the table would be a good place to start!

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By *nderDawg OP Man
over a year ago

essex

Hi sorry if I’m bothering you would you say it’s still dull and in need of a abit of a touch up ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why do you feel the need to state your height and age in your profile text, when that information is already visuble to all in the same place it is for everybody?

Also,when you say you're looking for likeminded people, you kinda need to go into more detail, as the only way anyone is going to know if they are 'likeminded' is if they can see what you're into.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What you’re into/what you bring to the table would be a good place to start! "

Oww, not thought of that, that be a good one as I always wander how my profile comes across to others. Quick question all, does it help to state what you looking for? Because it’s the person themselves that tends to attract me more then age or physical appearance.

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By *nderDawg OP Man
over a year ago

essex

"Why do you feel the need to state your height and age in your profile text, when that information is already visuble to all in the same place it is for everybody?

Also,when you say you're looking for likeminded people, you kinda need to go into more detail, as the only way anyone is going to know if they are 'likeminded' is if they can see what you're into."

Good shout thanks

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Head out to socials and clubs, it's a really brilliant way of meeting people in the flesh and getting to know the community.

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By *ocothumpaMan
over a year ago

quite close to you

"Hey guys as title above states I’m looking for some advice I just can’t seem to make use of the site not getting any responses or not really being people’s cup of tea, is there anything that worked or any advice for a kinda newbie all advice appreciated

Thanks in advance

Sorry to be cynical but it’s totally pointless taking advice as your profile, it can be perfect. But the issues is it’sa numbers game. Women don’t generally go looking for guys in here. Couples want that unicorn female…if they say they want a guy it can often be a massive waste of your time.

When they do if you have preferences that can put them off, you say like/want this she might not be that (or more often than not might not think she’s that) you’re 5ft 10…most women will say they want “tall” meaning this weird ‘golden number’ of 6ft 2?

There’s a fuck ton of hypocrisy as well ‘you cannot be fat, but you also cannot be bothered by someone else being fat’ ; you will get ‘ short unimaginative messages will be blocked/deleted’ but the profile will give you nothing to work on just telling you to ‘be original’ but that won’t work as whatever you do won’t come off right in writing as; I’ve had many messages from women that will just be “Hi” “hey” or the very eloquent “hi babe”…wtf!!! I reply “hey or hi” back then get ghosted… then you’ll see the same woman go “Guys be original please don’t just put one line”.

I don’t want to put you off there are guys who are successful it really is a numbers game just don’t fret about it; if you can just go to socials and clubs that’s a better way of getting some connection as messages just strike out.

Personally I send maybe three out see they land if they don’t…meh… brush it off and just get on with something else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

do a forum search, there are thousands of threads on the same thing, and alot of good advice

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By *assNGuyCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Go to one of the social nights at CJ’s in Glasgow.

We found it brilliant for chatting and making new connections. Also a welcome change from the struggle of fab its across the board but agree men do seem to have it the hardest.

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By *assNGuyCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Guy here as Lass pointed out she left a thread.

I haven’t read your profile but forum does give decent advice.

1 thing I noticed right away though is your username. Can’t speak with certainty for females as will be some that just want a screw but as a couple your username does put us off.

We are sharing our relationship with people so there’s emotion involved so have no interest in just a cum n go. Having said that, not really looking for best buds either but something in between.

In a nutshell, we look for a lovely fun nsa evening which is more than just the fuck.

Good luck with your profile though.

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

As said above change your username. Probably puts most off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm going to give you a tough pill to swallow:

Most women on here are seeking the 1% of guys. That is, gym fit, athletic, 6ft+ guys. Yes even women you think are unattractive are seeking men like that.

Unless you are the above, or fulfil a fetish of theirs (such as being black, a professional dom or have a very large cock), then you will have a hard time.

Many are looking for something akin to a male escort without paying.

Good luck x

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

Thanks in advance

Have a look at guys around your age profile with lots of verifications, don't copy and paste but use it for ideas.

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By *nderDawg OP Man
over a year ago

essex

Hi guys sorry for delayed replies, thanks so much for all your advice I really do appreciate I guess we’ll all get our prime time

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

Username needs changing, and your profile is bland and uninspiring. If you’re looking for ‘likeminded people’ you need to specify what that is!

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

Op you don't have to be fit or have a 6 pack to do well on here, I know plenty of guys on here that do very well and would laugh if someone described them as gym fit. I think their success is more due to the fact that they aren't afraid to put in effort, they go to swingers social events and attend clubs, they get a reputation for being reliable and knowing how to behave in swinging circles, that often gets them much further than a six pack ever could.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Thanks in advance

It looks like you’ve taken advice and adjusted your profile somewhat, it reads quite well

Contact admin to ask to change your username though; I doubt many women will be interested in a guy who just wants to ‘cum and go’…..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Op you don't have to be fit or have a 6 pack to do well on here, I know plenty of guys on here that do very well and would laugh if someone described them as gym fit. I think their success is more due to the fact that they aren't afraid to put in effort, they go to swingers social events and attend clubs, they get a reputation for being reliable and knowing how to behave in swinging circles, that often gets them much further than a six pack ever could."

This may be true for someone who goes to swinging clubs, but my point still stands for those who don't.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

This may be true for someone who goes to swinging clubs, but my point still stands for those who don't."

To be fair to the OP, he fits the Fab ‘Holy Trinity’ of;

Under 45

6ft or over

Can accommodate.

He should be streets ahead of most the single guy profiles……

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get to a club much better to meet people. You can waste so much time on fab messaging random people.

Meet real swingingers and have a cracking time.

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By *alhamCoupleCouple
over a year ago

London

Thanks in advance

Firstly, you have a lot going for you, such as being single, a good age (28-not so young and not so old) and can accommodate-brilliant! Also the clubs and social events are opening up so you can attend, if you want.

You may wish to ask yourself why you are using a swinging site to seek sex, as you could probably be more successful with easier at your local pub or club or dating site. I say this as getting sex as a single male isn’t easy though not impossible, so you may need to understand why you are making the effort.

You are handsome, so maybe a clear picture of you smiling would be a positive place to start? And then a second, full body picture of you in smart or smart causal clothing.

An earlier writer made the analogy of being like an unpaid escort. He did have a point so profile text with what you offer sexually and non sexually and what you want sexually or non sexually may help. It is always difficult to know how much to write but I am sure you can find your own happy medium.

Even if you may gain contacts from events, people will still want to go to your profile to know more about you and hopefully to verify you, so having a distinctive profile works whether it gets you meets or your meets come in person. Good luck

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