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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The thing about looking for likeminded people is that nobody is going to know if they meet that criteria if you don't elaborate on what it is you like and are into.
This isn't a guessing game.
As you may have figured out by now, single men are in the vast majority on fab. There are plenty for the ladies to choose from - so you need to stand out.
Make it easier for them to figure out if you're what THEY might be looking for by putting relevant information on your profile.
You've only been here three weeks. What were your expectations of the site.
When I first started using fab around 8 years ago, it would take, on average, around 6 months for a single man to get his first meet. Over time that has likely become 9 months to a year.
And that's when we weren't in a global pandemic!
Some people are still cautious about getting back to meeting just yet.
What you need to understand is that fab is NOT a sex site. Yes, people who are here are mostly looking to meet others for the purpose of having sex, but there's a lot more to swinging than that.
And also, just because that's what they may be looking for, they're not looking to fuck anybody and everybody.
I would ask how you're going about things. Are you proactively messaging people or are you assuming that they will come to you?
Consider also that when you message someone, they will always check out your profile before even thinking about reading your message, so make sure it is the best it can possibly be. It needs to be informative. Banter is all very well, but if it's just a bunch of what you think are cool buzwords without actually providing any useful information, you'll be passed by.
Tell the reader what you're into. What sort of things you like - and I'm not talking about origami or stamp collecting here.
You also need to think about what you bring to the table. What can you do for them that others might not. Why is an encounter with you going to completely knock their socks off?
You have to remember that everyone is here for their own pleasure, not yours. And do try to remember, and a lot of people seem to struggle with this one, that no matter how many of their boxes you might tick, they still have to fancy you.
You could be, on paper, the perfect match, but if they don't like the look of you, it'll all be for nothing.
Just like in the real world really. |
Anyhow, I echo the advice above and will add that single "dudes" (ahem) on here need to play the long game.
Good luck 
I’ve worked in music far too long, I need to remember sometimes I’m a middle aged MAN.
I’m terms of what I expected, I didn’t expect much tbh but I guessed experience helps, hence posting here.
I’ll make some tweaks and see what happens, I’ll also be patient!
Thanks, enjoy the sunshine!
