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By *urndog1997 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Im sure this has been asked many many times before but would love some advice/tips on what makes a great first message and what are the things to avoid

Thanks In advance,

Matt

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Firstly it's not just about the message more if their is a connection you like look of them and they do you,but if they read your bio and found interesting, and you have theirs.

As for message make it interesting, respectful, remember if you don't get a response it might be after viewing your profile your not what their looking for.

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By *urndog1997 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Thanks mate

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Thanks mate "

Welcome reading their bio and adding additional information in the message can help it shows that you have made the effort reading this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im sure this has been asked many many times before but would love some advice/tips on what makes a great first message and what are the things to avoid

Thanks In advance,

Matt "

Everyone woman is different but I would say as silly as it sounds, I’m generally put off my seeing a face pic shown on someone’s profile as the main photo. Although how much easier would fab be if we could all just post face pics!? Without fear of losing our jobs etc….

There’s something quite mysterious about seeing a torso or some nice thighs & bum as your main photo…. Avoid sending dick pics in your first message & just having one dick pic amongst your photos will do, if you feel you want to advertise it! However, some people will love ALL the dick pics - for me, it’s like a sea of penis pics on fab & it kinda feels like I’ve seen one, I’ve seen them all, after a few months of being on here!!

I appreciate a few nice face photos with smiles and good teeth on show, in receiving a first message - always makes me laugh when a guys bio says young, fun and hung and then their face pic looks miserable, like they haven’t had sex in 20 years Bless!

Things like “I noticed you like x and I’m really into that, too” or “really enjoyed reading your veris - I think we enjoy the same things”

Keep it short and be direct. If someone likes the look of your pics - they’ll click on your profile….

Make your bio a story about you - why you joined fab, what you’re hoping to find.

Avoid “fill in later” or “find out” - it appears lazy and I don’t think any woman wants a lazy meet!

We want to know what you can offer us, as well as what you enjoy. I’m no expert at all, I just go by what I’ve read from others on the forums. I find the longer my own bio gets, the better quality conversations I have, with people and connections are easily made that way and finding common ground makes for a more pleasurable meet.

Most importantly, have fun! Ask people for their most interesting meet or funny experience - I love finding out what everyone gets up to! It’s fascinating!

No means no, too. Don’t ask “why” or respond with “yeh I thought you’d say no, am I really that ugly”

Some will, some won’t, so what, next!

Qx

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

hI hOw aRe yOu.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it has, simply do a forum search for 'first message' or 'opening message'

The fact is there is no such thing.

A lot of new guys ask this question expecting someonevto privide them with a template that they can copy and paste into every new message they send.

That's a big no no.

Anyone receiving a message that looks like it's a generic cut and paste message is going to delete it.

There are a number ofvthongs to consider.

First, your profile. This is important. Anyone receiving a message from you is going to look at your profile before even thinking of opening it. If they don't like your profile, they're not going to bother with your message, so make sure it's the best it can be.

READ THEIR PROFILE.

Make sure you understand what they're looking for. If you don't match that, then there's no point messaging them. You can mention things in thrir profile in your message.

EXPECT NOTHING.

This is so important. So many guys think it's all about getting the message right and that there's some magic formula. There isn't.

You could write the best message ever and have a very well written profile, but ifvthey don't fancy you, nothing is going to change that. Attraction is subjective and just like the real world.

This is NOT a sex site.

Members of fab are not here to sgag everybody and anybody who asks. There's a big social sudevto swinging too, more so for some than others.

If you've come here thinking this is dial-a-shag, you're on the wrong site

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By *urndog1997 OP   Man
over a year ago

Stockport

Thanks for all the advice will definitely be putting it into practice, what’s the best way to start a message with I normally just go with hey (insert name) hope your ok/having a good night, but it doesn’t really work, what works for you all?

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"Thanks for all the advice will definitely be putting it into practice, what’s the best way to start a message with I normally just go with hey (insert name) hope your ok/having a good night, but it doesn’t really work, what works for you all? "

Op

Read the comments left by others they have pointed out this about messages.

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By *aughty_builder87Man
over a year ago

Keston

Op there certainly isnt A one size fits all message you can send. As previously stated read profiles, personalise each message based of the profile,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for all the advice will definitely be putting it into practice, what’s the best way to start a message with I normally just go with hey (insert name) hope your ok/having a good night, but it doesn’t really work, what works for you all? "

Have you actually read any of the comments in your thread, because this response indicates that you've ignored everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defo not this

"Id like you to sit on my face and pee"

Whilst funny its an instant BLOCK

BE Polite

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By *akeycplMan
over a year ago

wakefield


"Thanks for all the advice will definitely be putting it into practice, what’s the best way to start a message with I normally just go with hey (insert name) hope your ok/having a good night, but it doesn’t really work, what works for you all? "

Something tells me you won’t be putting it into practice as you’ve literally just ignored all the advice provided! Are you waiting for someone to write an opening line for you?

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