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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Am I the only one that midway through a conversation the person stops replying?

I cant understand why this constanltantly keeps happening.

Maybe my conversation skills are boring or a little to spicy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they are spicy conversations... They have had a wank n dont need you anymore

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

It sounds like your conversations are going rapudly down the dirty talk route.

Unfortunately, it's highly likely to have been men using the chat as wank material.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They could be chatting to multiple members and decide another member is for them at this moment.

Or

The conversation could not be going the way they would like a conversation to go

Could be any number of different reasons. X

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Or actual women who don’t like the convo turning to sex quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or actual women who don’t like the convo turning to sex quickly."

2nd this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If they are spicy conversations... They have had a wank n dont need you anymore "

Best answer in a fab forum ever!!!

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple
over a year ago

Halifax

Like others said, if it's just dirty chat, they've got off on it and don't need to keep chatting afterwards.

If it's a couple you're doing spicy talk with, it might actually be a single man looking to get his rocks off.

Miss

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's natural!

Most people are not compatible with most other people. With the levels of detail in a profile, it's generally impossible to tell, until a few interactions have been made.

Thus you have to explore many avenues, to find success.

Lack of a reply equals no further current interest. Assume that others have much higher priorities in life than a NSA meet and work on different timescales for meets to each other too. Relax, take it easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or actual women who don’t like the convo turning to sex quickly."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I switch of as soon as the porn talk starts or i smell bullshit just kill the convo no point in going further

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I the only one that midway through a conversation the person stops replying?

I cant understand why this constanltantly keeps happening.

Maybe my conversation skills are boring or a little to spicy"

I had the same the other week. A woman contacted me. We chatted for a few days then she just stopped emailing me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I the only one that midway through a conversation the person stops replying?

I cant understand why this constanltantly keeps happening.

Maybe my conversation skills are boring or a little to spicy

I had the same the other week. A woman contacted me. We chatted for a few days then she just stopped emailing me. "

A woman contacted a profile with no public pics?!? That should be an instant red flag, tbh!

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Many don't want to play message tennis, they've got other stuff to be doing. Most will know after a few messages if they'd like to meet.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough


"I switch of as soon as the porn talk starts or i smell bullshit just kill the convo no point in going further"

Same.

Vx

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford


"Many don't want to play message tennis, they've got other stuff to be doing. Most will know after a few messages if they'd like to meet."

This, exactly. We're not really on Fab to make friends (though that is happening) so the vast majority of our "chats" are really just to establish that we fancy each other, the ground rules and when we're getting together. We don't have time to answer every "good morning, how's you" message and we don't want to explain our antics of the night before. So our chats are short, to the point and then put "on hold" until a few days before a meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I the only one that midway through a conversation the person stops replying?

I cant understand why this constanltantly keeps happening.

Maybe my conversation skills are boring or a little to spicy"

They got a better offer, simples really.

Don't take it personally, just move on.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la


"I switch of as soon as the porn talk starts or i smell bullshit just kill the convo no point in going further"

Pretty much this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I switch of as soon as the porn talk starts or i smell bullshit just kill the convo no point in going further

Pretty much this "

Same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most women do not welcome being treated like a free alternative to a premium rate wank chat phoneline. If you want dirty talk to bang one out to, dial a number that provides for this. Swinging is something different

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"I switch of as soon as the porn talk starts or i smell bullshit just kill the convo no point in going further

Pretty much this

Same "

Agreed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It sounds like your conversations are going rapudly down the dirty talk route.

Unfortunately, it's highly likely to have been men using the chat as wank material. "

They don't to be honest. I try to get to know the individual, we message each other for a while exchange numbers or Kik arrange a meet then "poof" disappear on me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It sounds like your conversations are going rapudly down the dirty talk route.

Unfortunately, it's highly likely to have been men using the chat as wank material.

They don't to be honest. I try to get to know the individual, we message each other for a while exchange numbers or Kik arrange a meet then "poof" disappear on me"

This is why we've had to go to kik verification videos immediately after hello! So many times we've chatted and got on with people and they disappear when verifying comes up

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By *utForAdventure26Couple
over a year ago

St Neots

We find this all the time. We get chatting, hit it off, then bam...they don't read your messages any more.

It's almost impossible to arrange a meet any more on here

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

We've done this in the past when we've started 'chatting' to a new guy and he suddenly starts talking dirty out of nowhere. I think a lot of guys here get off on that (which is fine) but we don't appreciate it and our profile says that quite clearly so at that point we just stop and block them. Yes this is a swinging site but we don't expect that sort of behaviour here any more than we would if we'd met someone in a club and they did the same thing.

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington


"Am I the only one that midway through a conversation the person stops replying?

I cant understand why this constanltantly keeps happening.

Maybe my conversation skills are boring or a little to spicy"

Happens all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Am I the only one that midway through a conversation the person stops replying?

I cant understand why this constanltantly keeps happening.

Maybe my conversation skills are boring or a little to spicy"

No, it’s just that there’s a lot of very ignorant dick heads on the site. It’s a growing phenomenon and is just part of things now it seems. They even do it after really good meets and just don’t realise how it pisses the genuine a d decent folks off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dunno why people assume it's because of dirty talk.

People on here will ghost you out of the blue most of the time

I've had people message me about something in my profile. They'll ask me a question and I'll respond. They'll just read my message and never reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol this made me have a flashback

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By *r and Mrs 81Couple
over a year ago

Leicester

Yes, you can tell pretty quickly how things are going, I've always said I love a random bit of banter it draws you in,, not straight what turns you on !! because mr you will never actually get to find out

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"Many don't want to play message tennis, they've got other stuff to be doing. Most will know after a few messages if they'd like to meet.

This, exactly. We're not really on Fab to make friends (though that is happening) so the vast majority of our "chats" are really just to establish that we fancy each other, the ground rules and when we're getting together. We don't have time to answer every "good morning, how's you" message and we don't want to explain our antics of the night before. So our chats are short, to the point and then put "on hold" until a few days before a meet."

I think this just about sums it up.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich


"Dunno why people assume it's because of dirty talk.

People on here will ghost you out of the blue most of the time

I've had people message me about something in my profile. They'll ask me a question and I'll respond. They'll just read my message and never reply."

If they asked a question and you answered what did you expect to happen?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or All looks good up until the meet times meant to happen and suddenly the profile disappeared.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dunno why people assume it's because of dirty talk.

People on here will ghost you out of the blue most of the time

I've had people message me about something in my profile. They'll ask me a question and I'll respond. They'll just read my message and never reply."

You’re right that ghosting does happen, but a lot of women find dirty talk too early on a huge turn off. I want people to get to know me first, and form a connection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Dunno why people assume it's because of dirty talk.

People on here will ghost you out of the blue most of the time

I've had people message me about something in my profile. They'll ask me a question and I'll respond. They'll just read my message and never reply.

You’re right that ghosting does happen, but a lot of women find dirty talk too early on a huge turn off. I want people to get to know me first, and form a connection.

"

That's true, I'm like that too. I prefer to have some sort of mental connection first.

I just mean getting ghosted out of the blue during ongoing conversations is very very common and it can happen without a reason

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By *utForAdventure26Couple
over a year ago

St Neots

We feel your pain. We get ghosted all the time and we're so low about swinging now we are thinking of jacking it in. No one wants us

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough / Stamford


"We feel your pain. We get ghosted all the time and we're so low about swinging now we are thinking of jacking it in. No one wants us "

We're only up the A1.....

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