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"the one thing I know helps is alcohol, specifically J.D. don't want to rely on that on a first meet though, thanks will have a look online. I have managed to get good at other things to make up for it lol would be good to get it sorted though. I think it is mostly psychological, either that or it may have something to do with me being circumcised, though I find that is prob wrong " I've never found alcohol improves my performance. Being circumcised should actually *help* as the glans gets densensitised by getting used to the increased sensation of being inside pants:/trousers etc. The condoms will help, but only used them after oral - or your partner will complain of a dead tongue. | |||
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"the one thing I know helps is alcohol, specifically J.D. don't want to rely on that on a first meet though, thanks will have a look online. I have managed to get good at other things to make up for it lol would be good to get it sorted though. I think it is mostly psychological, either that or it may have something to do with me being circumcised, though I find that is prob wrong I've never found alcohol improves my performance. Being circumcised should actually *help* as the glans gets densensitised by getting used to the increased sensation of being inside pants:/trousers etc. The condoms will help, but only used them after oral - or your partner will complain of a dead tongue. " I think alcohol helps because it stops me worrying about it | |||
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"try a herbal tablet ...theres loads around ....dynamite is very good not only does it keep u hard for hours n hours it also prevents u cumming too soon 20 quid for 4 but worth it!!!!!" will have a look, thanks | |||
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"dont let it weigh on your mind. the more you stress over it, the longer the problem will last. just go with the flow, and if you cum to soon, then so what????? just enjoy. its not about cumming, its about playing. " | |||
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"the one thing I know helps is alcohol, specifically J.D. don't want to rely on that on a first meet though, thanks will have a look online. I have managed to get good at other things to make up for it lol would be good to get it sorted though. I think it is mostly psychological, either that or it may have something to do with me being circumcised, though I find that is prob wrong I've never found alcohol improves my performance. Being circumcised should actually *help* as the glans gets densensitised by getting used to the increased sensation of being inside pants:/trousers etc. The condoms will help, but only used them after oral - or your partner will complain of a dead tongue. I think alcohol helps because it stops me worrying about it " Don't go relying on alcohol mate - I've read all your comment on this and, seriously, I think your problem is that you need to learn to 'tune-out' a bit during sex. How about trying a relaxation CD (or MP3! Showing me age!!) before you go to the meet to calm you down a bit? But if it is serious, maybe you need to go to see a hypnotherapist? And no, they will not laugh at you or take the piss. And remember - the more alcohol you consume before or during a meet - the less you will be able to control your cock!!! In all sorts of ways...... | |||
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"Just another angle, have you tried a cockring ? Pretty cheap, you can pick 1 up for as little as a couple of quid so doesn't break the bank. Won't make you go for hours ! But from personal experience make you last a little longer " or you could try wanking before you go on a meet, that may delay as well | |||
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"perhaps it is all in my mind, hypnotism I think haha " Hynotism is great for things that are 'in the mind', so I'd try that, as it wouldn't need to be taken each time, like a tablet, and the hypnotherapist wouldn't need to be there with you all. We have one of the best near us, and he works all kinds of wonders. | |||
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"Does anyone else have the opposite problem? Sometimes I just can't cum, and it is just as distressing. " Yup and i used to let it frustrate the arse off me i'm not the most athletic bloke and my body usually gives way before my cock does so i just have to mould any play round it on the premature front, i think the most embarrassing incident was a lad who came before my knees hit the floor i just felt summat land on my chest and looked down and lo and behold it was spunk. i wanted him to stay and go again, but the poor lad was so mortified that he just wanted to be gone he left quicker than he came ! | |||
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"Does anyone else have the opposite problem? Sometimes I just can't cum, and it is just as distressing. " Yes, because I am on Viagra, and it's one of the side effects.... you just can't win sometimes!! | |||
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"I looked into it for a friend who has the same issue, I found Tauro Extra Strong Delay Spray on Love Honey, it's £19.99 For a 5ml bottle (apparently it lasts a while though) and I can't vouch for it myself (but it has a good review) because he didn't end up getting it but delay spray could be an idea? Hope you get it sorted " might as well get viagra at them prices that probs do a better job too | |||
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"Try a Fleshlight, it's advertised as a 'stamina trainer' and may help you recgonise when you feel yourself approaching the edge then you can then stop yourself. Once you recognise the signs, it should be easier to control them. I've got one and I find it useful, as I only get a couple of seconds warning before I cum." he's got a lass though thats perfect for practicing on lol | |||
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"Finally a subject that make all of us speaking in the same language. Yes we blokes have this issue. Mine is when I've been waiting for too long to taste a lady or been shasing her for too long. My way to deal with it is just the stop start. I tell the lady that I risk coming too soon as she is too hot. After some minutes all go back to normal " yeah if i think im not going to be able to stop it and going to pop off early then just quickly get out while ontop and go down on her, most lasses will love it and not expect it, that way gives ur cock a little rest and when its out the danger zone of about to cum it shud still be quite hard so you can get back on the job, and more u do this the easier it gets, i find after ive done it once or twice ur far more incontrol and sometimes even find i get in a position where i gotta try really hard to cum and really go at it lol but if u cant get ur head round it all just go and get some cheap blue sex pills, they make it harder and harder to cum, and if you do cum early you will either stay hard or you will go soft but still feel quite meaty below and after a very short break a blow job will deffos get you back up and you wont be cumming for a while and can go at it as long as u want lol | |||
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"Does anyone else have the opposite problem? Sometimes I just can't cum, and it is just as distressing. Yup and i used to let it frustrate the arse off me i'm not the most athletic bloke and my body usually gives way before my cock does so i just have to mould any play round it on the premature front, i think the most embarrassing incident was a lad who came before my knees hit the floor i just felt summat land on my chest and looked down and lo and behold it was spunk. i wanted him to stay and go again, but the poor lad was so mortified that he just wanted to be gone he left quicker than he came !" I know how you feel, sometimes it can last so long that both my body and hers give up way before I'm anywhere close, especially if a condom is involved the I just know that there is no way it will happen | |||
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"Finally a subject that make all of us speaking in the same language. Yes we blokes have this issue. Mine is when I've been waiting for too long to taste a lady or been shasing her for too long. My way to deal with it is just the stop start. I tell the lady that I risk coming too soon as she is too hot. After some minutes all go back to normal yeah if i think im not going to be able to stop it and going to pop off early then just quickly get out while ontop and go down on her, most lasses will love it and not expect it, that way gives ur cock a little rest and when its out the danger zone of about to cum it shud still be quite hard so you can get back on the job, and more u do this the easier it gets, i find after ive done it once or twice ur far more incontrol and sometimes even find i get in a position where i gotta try really hard to cum and really go at it lol but if u cant get ur head round it all just go and get some cheap blue sex pills, they make it harder and harder to cum, and if you do cum early you will either stay hard or you will go soft but still feel quite meaty below and after a very short break a blow job will deffos get you back up and you wont be cumming for a while and can go at it as long as u want lol " | |||
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"Try some Durex performer condoms - they have benzocaine or somesuch to desensitise the glans. " can i just add to this that if you do use the condoms with the delay spray in them do NOT let the woman suck your cock after you have taken it off I did this with a guy in a club he didnt tell me he was using the delay condoms and i took it off mid shag to go back to sucking him and it makde all my lips and tongue numb and my throat swell they are good at making you last longer but once you have put one on orals out unless you go for a good wash | |||
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"perhaps it is all in my mind, hypnotism I think haha " Yes its all in the mind,for us guys sometimes its difficult to believe where we actually are and it becomes explosive so to speak,the best thing if it happens is to refresh yourself have some food and get yourself ready for round two as quickly as possible | |||
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"Does anyone else have the opposite problem? Sometimes I just can't cum, and it is just as distressing. Yes, because I am on Viagra, and it's one of the side effects.... you just can't win sometimes!! " Yes Viagra is worth trying. I have problems reaching orgasm, always have, due to either lack of sensitivity or too much sensitivity (not sure which sometimes!) and it usually takes a marathon session to get there. Not that I mind, as the pleasure is in the journey isn't it? But anyway, my point is I was given a Viagra once on a meet and it put it right, it felt better than ever before and I could choose when to orgasm. It might help if you are at the other end of the scale too, I would give it a try. | |||
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"Does anyone else have the opposite problem? Sometimes I just can't cum, and it is just as distressing. " This is true of me too - I just can't sometimes! I've also had guys who won't/can't come. One of them even had hypnotherapy to deal with it. The other one blamed it on being diabetic. | |||
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"Im sure alot of men will admit to this..i hope they do anyway! It must be very disconcerting but dont let it worry you as this could lead to more problems. " yes at the moment il admit its happening to me | |||
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"I have this problem. I actually had the chance of a meet some months back and pulled out of it simply because I would cum too soon. It made me think that I'm unsuited to situations like clubs etc and that being in a loving relationship was the only option for me. Ur not alone Psychologically it can certainly damage you. I do think breathing properly can be a help and I know this sounds daft, but if I tell myself "no" when I'm getting too close, I find it damps things down a fair bit. I've noticed in recent times that I want to cum really, really quickly. However a point is reached when the initial over-stimulation dies away and I can then go for quite a long time when masturbating. What always worries me is oral - the bloke has no control unless he acts in some way. I see guys on cam lasting for ages when being blown. I'd love to be in their place, but I'd cum too quickly. It's a real issue this." | |||
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