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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ok, I am probably going to get laughed at but felt I should be brave. we have had one meet and I had this issue, in fact not alit happened because of it. I don't last a massive amount of time with the wife but on the meet it was just ridiculous. it has given my confidence a serious knock. I know it is something I have suffered with for years but it has now got to the point where I want it to change, can anyone help and has anyone else had this on a meet? help

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'll be brave too, i have had this happen on a meet before. First i must add, im usually ok but with someone new it can sometimes become too much. Usually if im in a long term relationship it does go away, once learn what works.

Practise holding back with the wife, start stop, or pulling out and squeezing tip of cock to try and stop it. Read up about it online. Try different things at home then bring these to the meet.

There are also anti climax condoms but they will make your cock taste horrid id imagine, ive used them sometimes.

Generally speaking just have to feel comfortable. A couple Ive met a few times now and its easier to last the course . Think it can be the new thing, and how its heightened and not sure what expect in terms of how her pussy will feel.

Best of luck

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

Try some Durex performer condoms - they have benzocaine or somesuch to desensitise the glans.

Knock one off a while before you meet.

Take a leak before sex.

Try cowgirl position.

The more you worry, the worse it will get.

Best of all, the second round usually means you will last a lot longer...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im sure alot of men will admit to this..i hope they do anyway! It must be very disconcerting but dont let it worry you as this could lead to more problems.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

the one thing I know helps is alcohol, specifically J.D. don't want to rely on that on a first meet though, thanks will have a look online. I have managed to get good at other things to make up for it lol would be good to get it sorted though. I think it is mostly psychological, either that or it may have something to do with me being circumcised, though I find that is prob wrong

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich


"the one thing I know helps is alcohol, specifically J.D. don't want to rely on that on a first meet though, thanks will have a look online. I have managed to get good at other things to make up for it lol would be good to get it sorted though. I think it is mostly psychological, either that or it may have something to do with me being circumcised, though I find that is prob wrong "

I've never found alcohol improves my performance.

Being circumcised should actually *help* as the glans gets densensitised by getting used to the increased sensation of being inside pants:/trousers etc.

The condoms will help, but only used them after oral - or your partner will complain of a dead tongue.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

perhaps it is all in my mind, hypnotism I think haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"the one thing I know helps is alcohol, specifically J.D. don't want to rely on that on a first meet though, thanks will have a look online. I have managed to get good at other things to make up for it lol would be good to get it sorted though. I think it is mostly psychological, either that or it may have something to do with me being circumcised, though I find that is prob wrong

I've never found alcohol improves my performance.

Being circumcised should actually *help* as the glans gets densensitised by getting used to the increased sensation of being inside pants:/trousers etc.

The condoms will help, but only used them after oral - or your partner will complain of a dead tongue. "

I think alcohol helps because it stops me worrying about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men have the biggest job in the world trying to please women in bed..Do some research on it but dont let it become an issue...and ur still young enough to find the solution lol the solution tho isnt at the bottom of a bottle.

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By *bend69Couple
over a year ago

twinkletown

try a herbal tablet ...theres loads around ....dynamite is very good not only does it keep u hard for hours n hours

it also prevents u cumming too soon

20 quid for 4 but worth it!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"try a herbal tablet ...theres loads around ....dynamite is very good not only does it keep u hard for hours n hours

it also prevents u cumming too soon

20 quid for 4 but worth it!!!!!"

will have a look, thanks

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By *ngelsdevilWoman
over a year ago

Merseyside

I looked into it for a friend who has the same issue, I found Tauro Extra Strong Delay Spray on Love Honey, it's £19.99 For a 5ml bottle (apparently it lasts a while though) and I can't vouch for it myself (but it has a good review) because he didn't end up getting it but delay spray could be an idea?

Hope you get it sorted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try a Fleshlight, it's advertised as a 'stamina trainer' and may help you recgonise when you feel yourself approaching the edge then you can then stop yourself. Once you recognise the signs, it should be easier to control them.

I've got one and I find it useful, as I only get a couple of seconds warning before I cum.

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

ive met quite a few fellas who this has happened to so ur not alone .. and to be honest i think its a bigger issue to the guys than it is to the girl they are with.

The worst case Ive had was an absolutely lovely fella .. he was extremely fit .. a triathlete .. and it just wasnt gonna happen no matter what we tried. He was extremely embarrased and appologetic but stayed the night anyway which we still enjoyed. I invited him back another time as im sure it was just nerves but sadly he deleted his profile the following day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seriously try hypnosis - there is a site that I won't post the address but the do downloads of the hypnosis variety. Look for premature ejaculation and pay yer 6 quid. Listen to it once and you'll never have the problem again.

How do I know this?

Errrm... I have this friend who has the problem..

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By *nfieldishCouple
over a year ago

Enfield

The stop / start method will cure it... Tho u need an understanding lady.....little tip. If it happens in a meet.. Tell her it's cos she is sooooo beautiful....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont let it weigh on your mind. the more you stress over it, the longer the problem will last. just go with the flow, and if you cum to soon, then so what????? just enjoy. its not about cumming, its about playing.

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By *nfieldishCouple
over a year ago

Enfield

Btw my lady soozie never cums thru penetration so she really likes guys just to have fun no matter how long or short the shag is... Get urselves a cheap day return... Come to Enfield....

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By *ngelsdevilWoman
over a year ago

Merseyside


"dont let it weigh on your mind. the more you stress over it, the longer the problem will last. just go with the flow, and if you cum to soon, then so what????? just enjoy. its not about cumming, its about playing. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Basiclly its when you tense your pelvic floor muscle(the one to stop urine mid flow).When you are having sex or masturbating try and be aware of keeping it relaxed and not tense then when you feel you are getting close to cumming tense the muscle and stop all stimulation.After around 30-60 seconds the feeling of wanting to ejaculate will have gone then resume sex or masturbation repeat this up to 6 times then cum at the end and you will last a lot longer.

Each time try and get as close to coming as possible and eventually you will be able to dry orgasm which leads to male multiple orgasm just google male multiple orgasm.

I have got to 3 orgasms before ejaculating my body could not take anymore,it will take a few months to get to this stage but it is possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just another angle, have you tried a cockring ? Pretty cheap, you can pick 1 up for as little as a couple of quid so doesn't break the bank. Won't make you go for hours ! But from personal experience make you last a little longer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the one thing I know helps is alcohol, specifically J.D. don't want to rely on that on a first meet though, thanks will have a look online. I have managed to get good at other things to make up for it lol would be good to get it sorted though. I think it is mostly psychological, either that or it may have something to do with me being circumcised, though I find that is prob wrong

I've never found alcohol improves my performance.

Being circumcised should actually *help* as the glans gets densensitised by getting used to the increased sensation of being inside pants:/trousers etc.

The condoms will help, but only used them after oral - or your partner will complain of a dead tongue.

I think alcohol helps because it stops me worrying about it "

Don't go relying on alcohol mate - I've read all your comment on this and, seriously, I think your problem is that you need to learn to 'tune-out' a bit during sex. How about trying a relaxation CD (or MP3! Showing me age!!) before you go to the meet to calm you down a bit? But if it is serious, maybe you need to go to see a hypnotherapist? And no, they will not laugh at you or take the piss.

And remember - the more alcohol you consume before or during a meet - the less you will be able to control your cock!!! In all sorts of ways......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just another angle, have you tried a cockring ? Pretty cheap, you can pick 1 up for as little as a couple of quid so doesn't break the bank. Won't make you go for hours ! But from personal experience make you last a little longer "
or you could try wanking before you go on a meet, that may delay as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Luckily I don't suffer from this as a rule, but I do remember an incident about 6 yrs ago when I almost came too quick and might help your problem.

Whole crux of the issue was that as a manly guy, you want to pleasure the lady and sometimes you find one you really click with physically and your body wants to do what it has been designed to do - tis only natural. You find yourself stimulated in all the right areas (as in when you are penetrating her) and before you know it you are past the point of no return.

Trick is to realise when you are in that situation early - if you find you are in a position that you know if just too good and is going to make you unload, then just change about a bit, swap ends, use your fingers, get a drink, switch to some oral etc... I know that often a gal will be urging you on, but there is no problem in the long run about taking your time, pleasuring her with a variety of stimulations and position and learn the ones that make you burst earlier than others.

Yes, I find _one_ glass of wine tends to help, but I always have a large glass of water handy and I keep hydrated and break for a drink regularly. I don't have a problem fucking for 2 or 3 hrs, you just have to pace it out, of course, when Lisa pops in for a dirty quickie in the lunch time it is still good to use your knowledge of what does it for you in order to be done in an animalistic, breathless, up against the wall five minute needy fuck! :0)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had this happen a couple of times and it usually happens on a first meet. You get nervous and excited and if the meet moves quickly when you get there, you don't have a chance to relax and get to someone a bit first then you're desperate to impress and...boom! Lol!

As long as you can go again, I don't think most women would mind.

Its something that can happen to anyone so I honestly wouldn't worry about it. The herbal tablets certainly help as I've tried them. Even if you cum quickly, you're ready to go again very quickly and so it make it less of an issue.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"perhaps it is all in my mind, hypnotism I think haha "

Hynotism is great for things that are 'in the mind', so I'd try that, as it wouldn't need to be taken each time, like a tablet, and the hypnotherapist wouldn't need to be there with you all. We have one of the best near us, and he works all kinds of wonders.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not something i have suffered from but can sympathise with any sex that does as it must be off putting

some of the solutions mentioned sound interesting; accepting the fact that sadly this issues tends to effect the younger people most - i think

For me i tend to not empty mt bladder before sex as it adds to the size of my errection - dont ask me why i not got a clue - and secondly since i had vesectomy many many years back i tend to stay errect longer and can perform a few times in one session - which sort of blows out a couple of theroies i guess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello OP,

Don't be embarrassed, have had this a couple of times once on a meet, the same bloke...I was mortified for him!

But this was within just "entering", on both occasions!

My Oh can sometimes have the opposite problem and wishes he could come quicker, so I think just go with the flow, relax and don't worry. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does anyone else have the opposite problem? Sometimes I just can't cum, and it is just as distressing.

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Finally a subject that make all of us speaking in the same language. Yes we blokes have this issue. Mine is when I've been waiting for too long to taste a lady or been shasing her for too long.

My way to deal with it is just the stop start. I tell the lady that I risk coming too soon as she is too hot. After some minutes all go back to normal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else have the opposite problem? Sometimes I just can't cum, and it is just as distressing. "

Yup

and i used to let it frustrate the arse off me

i'm not the most athletic bloke and my body usually gives way before my cock does

so i just have to mould any play round it

on the premature front, i think the most embarrassing incident was a lad who came before my knees hit the floor

i just felt summat land on my chest and looked down and lo and behold it was spunk.

i wanted him to stay and go again, but the poor lad was so mortified that he just wanted to be gone

he left quicker than he came !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

@op

PE gets improved with edging, routine exposure to sexual stimuli, and increased frequency of orgasm.

I had this problem in my teens and would often come as I penetrated. I evolved ways around it. I used to use a bezocaine gel that is sold for teething babies that is small discreet and ideal to carry around which does not leave an unpleasant taste. Gauging the quantity is important as otherwise you will end up 'frozen' and no amount of shagging will get you off!

I had a penile injury in my mid 20's and the response altered. I also went on another long-term medication that slows the response too. Quite often I'll think myself off. So maybe you might need to do the reverse of that.... times tables from school usually help.. just don't say them outloud!

Oh and keep off the monosodium glutamate!

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else have the opposite problem? Sometimes I just can't cum, and it is just as distressing. "

Yes, because I am on Viagra, and it's one of the side effects.... you just can't win sometimes!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I looked into it for a friend who has the same issue, I found Tauro Extra Strong Delay Spray on Love Honey, it's £19.99 For a 5ml bottle (apparently it lasts a while though) and I can't vouch for it myself (but it has a good review) because he didn't end up getting it but delay spray could be an idea?

Hope you get it sorted "

might as well get viagra at them prices that probs do a better job too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try a Fleshlight, it's advertised as a 'stamina trainer' and may help you recgonise when you feel yourself approaching the edge then you can then stop yourself. Once you recognise the signs, it should be easier to control them.

I've got one and I find it useful, as I only get a couple of seconds warning before I cum."

he's got a lass though thats perfect for practicing on lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Finally a subject that make all of us speaking in the same language. Yes we blokes have this issue. Mine is when I've been waiting for too long to taste a lady or been shasing her for too long.

My way to deal with it is just the stop start. I tell the lady that I risk coming too soon as she is too hot. After some minutes all go back to normal "

yeah if i think im not going to be able to stop it and going to pop off early then just quickly get out while ontop and go down on her, most lasses will love it and not expect it, that way gives ur cock a little rest and when its out the danger zone of about to cum it shud still be quite hard so you can get back on the job,

and more u do this the easier it gets, i find after ive done it once or twice ur far more incontrol and sometimes even find i get in a position where i gotta try really hard to cum and really go at it lol

but if u cant get ur head round it all just go and get some cheap blue sex pills, they make it harder and harder to cum, and if you do cum early you will either stay hard or you will go soft but still feel quite meaty below and after a very short break a blow job will deffos get you back up and you wont be cumming for a while and can go at it as long as u want lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else have the opposite problem? Sometimes I just can't cum, and it is just as distressing.

Yup

and i used to let it frustrate the arse off me

i'm not the most athletic bloke and my body usually gives way before my cock does

so i just have to mould any play round it

on the premature front, i think the most embarrassing incident was a lad who came before my knees hit the floor

i just felt summat land on my chest and looked down and lo and behold it was spunk.

i wanted him to stay and go again, but the poor lad was so mortified that he just wanted to be gone

he left quicker than he came !"

I know how you feel, sometimes it can last so long that both my body and hers give up way before I'm anywhere close, especially if a condom is involved the I just know that there is no way it will happen

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield


"Finally a subject that make all of us speaking in the same language. Yes we blokes have this issue. Mine is when I've been waiting for too long to taste a lady or been shasing her for too long.

My way to deal with it is just the stop start. I tell the lady that I risk coming too soon as she is too hot. After some minutes all go back to normal

yeah if i think im not going to be able to stop it and going to pop off early then just quickly get out while ontop and go down on her, most lasses will love it and not expect it, that way gives ur cock a little rest and when its out the danger zone of about to cum it shud still be quite hard so you can get back on the job,

and more u do this the easier it gets, i find after ive done it once or twice ur far more incontrol and sometimes even find i get in a position where i gotta try really hard to cum and really go at it lol

but if u cant get ur head round it all just go and get some cheap blue sex pills, they make it harder and harder to cum, and if you do cum early you will either stay hard or you will go soft but still feel quite meaty below and after a very short break a blow job will deffos get you back up and you wont be cumming for a while and can go at it as long as u want lol "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey do not worry about it, it happens to the best of us. I remember picking up a girl, going back to hers and cumming in less then 5 mins.

The best advice I can give is try to cum, just before going out. Use a thicker condom (0.1 thickness), stay relaxed. And remember to breath, you be surprised how often you stop breathing.

And a last trick that may work depending on your Maths skills is start with 1+1, then double it up each time. So 1,2,4,8,16,32 etc. just remember to not say it out loud.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

wow, I actually feel less worried just by reading the quotes. I will often do the stop start method with the wife, helps alot. I think I will prob speak to a hypnotherapist and see if they can help, I know a couple of good ones, thank you all so much for your comments, you have helped big time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Try some Durex performer condoms - they have benzocaine or somesuch to desensitise the glans.

"

can i just add to this that if you do use the condoms with the delay spray in them do NOT let the woman suck your cock after you have taken it off

I did this with a guy in a club he didnt tell me he was using the delay condoms and i took it off mid shag to go back to sucking him and it makde all my lips and tongue numb and my throat swell

they are good at making you last longer but once you have put one on orals out unless you go for a good wash

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By *igTeeMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I'm sure it's happened to us all at some point m8

Respect for being honest all I can say is spend more time on foreplay n when you feel like your bout to cum play with the woman more teasing licking kissing touching stroking playing n so on get her really turned on like she's guna cum any minute n then carry on having sex with her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually just have a wank earlier on in the day then when it gets to the night time lasting isn't really an issue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really dont know if this is gonna help but I think men put far to much pressure on themselves to erm perform. I have a couple meets where penetration does not happen at all and its still very good fun I have couple meets where jt does but not for as long as they would like put we find other things to occupy our time with that's just as fun. Have had meets where the penetration has gone on for bloody ages and I been bored to be honest the meets where penetration has not happened been more fun than some where the man has been like a robot bang bang bang no thought for the lady. Give me a sensitive man where penetration is lacking over a guy who thinks that's all there is to sex any day.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

wear thicker condoms so its not so sensitive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Super p force tablet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thicker condoms and don't be too egar, and stop before you come, switch to oral, you can solve it but it takes time and practice, your partner can be a big help here. Goodluck

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By *unsurreycouple1Couple
over a year ago

Surrey

Relax, much better too soon than not at all...x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I post this quickly as you could say on tge sperm of the moment lol.

Seriously though whilst maybe uncomfortable and embarassing try not let it play on your mind or you may find it could happen again as the mind is a powerful weapon.

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By *ensual.AllureCouple
over a year ago

Cirencester

The power of the mind. You get what you focus on, so if you think about cumming you will cum. If you think that you can't cum, you can last forever. I have done many self hynotheraphy courses, to become a master is easy, all you need is belief.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found that if i want to last i have to pull out and allow time to recover from the sensations, when women and certanly my wife orgasm her mussels are so strong and grip so tight, that if i'm inside her at that point its goodbye any thoughts of lasting longer than her. She knows this and does play games at times griping me and making me cum before her.

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By *uggers nemesisCouple
over a year ago

london


"perhaps it is all in my mind, hypnotism I think haha "

Yes its all in the mind,for us guys sometimes its difficult to believe where we actually are and it becomes explosive so to speak,the best thing if it happens is to refresh yourself have some food and get yourself ready for round two as quickly as possible

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

Something that used to happen all the time in my teens, until I found if I stayed in the girl I could keep going and keep hard and cum again quite a bit later. You could try going for a 'dry cum' which takes practice, when you feel close stop thrusting and you feel a minor orgasm without shooting any semen. This de-sensitises you, and you can keep on fucking until your woman has had her orgasm.

But I occasionally still cum sooner than I would like with a new woman, mainly during that first fuck of a meet, club session or a party, especially if she's very hot and/or the situation we're in is very erotic. Then I apologise and ask her to get me hard again, and carry on. In my experience women are used to it and even flattered if you can't hold back, they think it's better than being banged for hours without the guy cumming at all!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also have problems with cumming, stop it happening so often that you end up not being able to! I have had the snip so maybe it is because of that?

Ladies are pleased though because I stay rock hard but I would love to cum as well!

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By *toneblueMan
over a year ago

Southampton


"Does anyone else have the opposite problem? Sometimes I just can't cum, and it is just as distressing.

Yes, because I am on Viagra, and it's one of the side effects.... you just can't win sometimes!!

"

Yes Viagra is worth trying. I have problems reaching orgasm, always have, due to either lack of sensitivity or too much sensitivity (not sure which sometimes!) and it usually takes a marathon session to get there. Not that I mind, as the pleasure is in the journey isn't it? But anyway, my point is I was given a Viagra once on a meet and it put it right, it felt better than ever before and I could choose when to orgasm. It might help if you are at the other end of the scale too, I would give it a try.

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

I have this problem.

I actually had the chance of a meet some months back and pulled out of it simply because I would cum too soon. It made me think that I'm unsuited to situations like clubs etc and that being in a loving relationship was the only option for me.

Psychologically it can certainly damage you.

I do think breathing properly can be a help and I know this sounds daft, but if I tell myself "no" when I'm getting too close, I find it damps things down a fair bit.

I've noticed in recent times that I want to cum really, really quickly. However a point is reached when the initial over-stimulation dies away and I can then go for quite a long time when masturbating.

What always worries me is oral - the bloke has no control unless he acts in some way. I see guys on cam lasting for ages when being blown. I'd love to be in their place, but I'd cum too quickly.

It's a real issue this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cialis is a good one to try as its specifically designed to help premature ejaculation n give u hours of fun

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By *he Original TTMan
over a year ago

Brackley, Northants

While I am not a prem ejaculator, I tend to only last about 15 mins the first time during actual penetration. Unless I use the stop start method, or delay condoms etc.

I have no problem during masturbation or when having my cock sucked either - plenty of play time there.

However, I have found that the best thing I can do is to extend the foreplay - plenty of cock sucking and hand action for me and lots of lucking, sucking and fingering for her - and ususally manage to get my partner cumming 2 or 3 times and sometimes multiple times. By the time she has had her orgasms, I can usually be as quick or slow as I want and it doesn't matter - in fact I quite often find it can lead to simultaneous orgasm.

Then just repeat - gets easier each time!

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By *lexaWoman
over a year ago

southampton


"Does anyone else have the opposite problem? Sometimes I just can't cum, and it is just as distressing. "

This is true of me too - I just can't sometimes! I've also had guys who won't/can't come. One of them even had hypnotherapy to deal with it. The other one blamed it on being diabetic.

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

To the OP, be assured you are not the only one with this problem. Try having an erectile dysfunction with it too! I was never that sexually active apart from wanking myself silly. I then suffered a heart attack and had a quadruple heart by-pass. Veins ti repair my heart were taken from my groin so I have less blood supply in that area now. I have to use Levitra to gain an erection (can`t use Viagra because of the medication I`m on) and still don`t last very long. Don`t know what the answer for me is apart from having a very understanding partner who love oral and lots of finger work on her spine!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im sure alot of men will admit to this..i hope they do anyway! It must be very disconcerting but dont let it worry you as this could lead to more problems. "
yes at the moment il admit its happening to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have this problem.

I actually had the chance of a meet some months back and pulled out of it simply because I would cum too soon. It made me think that I'm unsuited to situations like clubs etc and that being in a loving relationship was the only option for me.

Ur not alone

Psychologically it can certainly damage you.

I do think breathing properly can be a help and I know this sounds daft, but if I tell myself "no" when I'm getting too close, I find it damps things down a fair bit.

I've noticed in recent times that I want to cum really, really quickly. However a point is reached when the initial over-stimulation dies away and I can then go for quite a long time when masturbating.

What always worries me is oral - the bloke has no control unless he acts in some way. I see guys on cam lasting for ages when being blown. I'd love to be in their place, but I'd cum too quickly.

It's a real issue this."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody hell . . Talk about resurecting an old thread . .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I too have this prob.........oh crap! It's happened again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

how many men with premature ejactulation, does it take to change a light bulb?

its not how many, its how often as the bulb usually blows before its put in.

BAZINGA!

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By *anyoufeelmeMan
over a year ago

near you

best advice .. Have a wank before hand .. takes the edge off and as long as you can get hard .. you should be banging away until shes sore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Coke, Khatt and hagigat have that effect. nothing worse than going flacid every 30-40 minutes. Khatt and hagigat make the ladies turn into devilish horny whores too! Although super strong benzocaine works wonders on desensatising tooth ache, theres not much please for him banging away without feeling or sensation in his pork sword.

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

he he ha ha .. could write a book on this one.. Some guys have lasted less than 10 seconds in my hole,but try a second visit!!(I don't do repeats ha ha)

Wank before is usually the answer but for some,the passion has then gone..PERSERVIER

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think of bills n payin money stop me cumin

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am hosting a charity night to raise funds for research into premature ejaculation, it starts at 7.30. please be early..

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

the first one is a test firing .. clearing the tubes .. try cowgirl .. make the lady do all the work .. get good at oral ... change positions before you cum .. one one off before the meet a la something about mary

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

try a wank cple of hours before meet give yourself time to recover , but also try edging, foreplay or penetration to near the point of orgasm then stop and rest then start again when ready so you learn when the point of no return is and you may be able to delay cumming if you know when to hold back, you can disguise this method by changing positions regularly with some oral on the lady while you have chance to calm down,

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By *lay4RealCouple
over a year ago

London

99% of our Sexual feelings is mental. It means in effect that you can mentally adjust your thoughts while having sex. For me I used this technique for many years and find that I last very long especially as we sometimes play MFF. That way both FFs get good seeing to.

In fact during our meet last Friday, the lady was now requesting that I cum after almost an hour of making love.

The best technique I find is to mentally adjust my mind / thoughts if it feels like I am going to cum earlier than when it is appropriate for all parties.

You get better at it the more you practise it.

If you want I can give you my scenarios and see if they will work for you.

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