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Club Surge after Covid

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By *entenTea OP   Couple
over a year ago

Buckley North Wales

We think it will be pretty inevitable that once clubs open again there will be a significant surge in club attendance. For experienced swingers it will be a bit crowded but good to be back.

What we are concerned about is that it could be off putting and intimidating for new couples trying to understand club culture and etiquite. Like wise there will be surge in new single men most will be fine and have a great evening. But some may well only realise with a bump and frustration that visiting a club isn't an insta shag.

What are your thoughts and perspectives on what clubs and experienced swingers can do, to ensure the surge doesn't dampen the enthusiasm of those new to the scene?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been to a club only once (so far), it was very cliquey with everyone seemingly knowing each other already, it was someone’s birthday event, so I’m guessing we chose the wrong night for it.

Hoping once we give it another go, it won’t be so rammed and more people wanting to mingle.

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By *entenTea OP   Couple
over a year ago

Buckley North Wales


"We have been to a club only once (so far), it was very cliquey with everyone seemingly knowing each other already, it was someone’s birthday event, so I’m guessing we chose the wrong night for it.

Hoping once we give it another go, it won’t be so rammed and more people wanting to mingle. "

Many clubs have evenings specifically for new folk. It might be an idea to make a contact on her with an experienced couple, have a pub meet first then arrange the next meet at a club so you are garanteed some famalier faces.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

We could take time out to talk to new people and bring then in to the conversation.

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By *tellaAndMarkCouple
over a year ago

Hampshire


"We have been to a club only once (so far), it was very cliquey with everyone seemingly knowing each other already, it was someone’s birthday event, so I’m guessing we chose the wrong night for it.

Hoping once we give it another go, it won’t be so rammed and more people wanting to mingle. "

Have to say as a new couple to the scene, we also want to visit clubs, but they are exactly local to us. So this means a hotel for the night which is fine. But we don't want to be in a club where we don't feel welcome because of it being cliquey, can do this at a normal nightclub.

It's a double edged sword, everyone saying get out to clubs will be better, yet I see posts like this...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There will definitely be a rush of people going to clubs, which will have its pleasures and consequences.

For first timers and newbies, clubs do seem cliquey, but, the people in the cliques can be new and nervous to the experience. They have probably met up with people they know.

Having experienced the situations at clubs, I always say hello to the groups of people sat together and then later on join in a conversation for a short while and then move on.

The best advice my wife and I use is, do your own thing, go for your own reasons and have your own fun. That way you've enjoyed the evening and the club together.

If you're on your own, do the same thing. Enjoy the club and what it has to offer, talk to the staff and they're usually helpful in directing you in the right direction.

Hope this helps

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.


"We have been to a club only once (so far), it was very cliquey with everyone seemingly knowing each other already, it was someone’s birthday event, so I’m guessing we chose the wrong night for it.

Hoping once we give it another go, it won’t be so rammed and more people wanting to mingle.

Have to say as a new couple to the scene, we also want to visit clubs, but they are exactly local to us. So this means a hotel for the night which is fine. But we don't want to be in a club where we don't feel welcome because of it being cliquey, can do this at a normal nightclub.

It's a double edged sword, everyone saying get out to clubs will be better, yet I see posts like this... "

Clubs are not for everyone as for cliques more often then not it's more a preception than reality. Those people that are chatting together might only met 10 minutes before you arrived.

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By *entenTea OP   Couple
over a year ago

Buckley North Wales


"We have been to a club only once (so far), it was very cliquey with everyone seemingly knowing each other already, it was someone’s birthday event, so I’m guessing we chose the wrong night for it.

Hoping once we give it another go, it won’t be so rammed and more people wanting to mingle.

Have to say as a new couple to the scene, we also want to visit clubs, but they are exactly local to us. So this means a hotel for the night which is fine. But we don't want to be in a club where we don't feel welcome because of it being cliquey, can do this at a normal nightclub.

It's a double edged sword, everyone saying get out to clubs will be better, yet I see posts like this... "

We have had many amazing times at clubs and it will be great to get back. We are just a bit concerned about the initial couple of months when they reopen.

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over a year ago

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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Many clubs have a maximum capacity and can sell out, so if they sell out on a night before covid or after covid restrictions there will still be the same amount of people there.

Hopefully the hosts will make sure newcomers are treated in a way that makes them feel comfortable in their venue.

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By *leo and LeoCouple
over a year ago

Worcestershire


"We have been to a club only once (so far), it was very cliquey with everyone seemingly knowing each other already, it was someone’s birthday event, so I’m guessing we chose the wrong night for it.

Hoping once we give it another go, it won’t be so rammed and more people wanting to mingle.

Have to say as a new couple to the scene, we also want to visit clubs, but they are exactly local to us. So this means a hotel for the night which is fine. But we don't want to be in a club where we don't feel welcome because of it being cliquey, can do this at a normal nightclub.

It's a double edged sword, everyone saying get out to clubs will be better, yet I see posts like this... "

Our first club meet was with a couple we met off here. Both first timers. It definitely helped going with a couple we’d been chatting to beforehand.

We’ve been a few times since, and it is hard to approach other couples in there for us, but then we seem to get them approach us and we find that suits us better

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Some will still stay away as they'll be nervous about mixing, so we wouldn't expect them to be busier than pre covid. Anyone wanting a quieter night could check with the club. Fridays are generally quieter than Saturdays at many clubs. Good luck to all clubs

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By *aul_j80Man
over a year ago

Bloxwich

The clubs will be like a pub once a submarine returns after 4 months patrol under, messy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have been to a club only once (so far), it was very cliquey with everyone seemingly knowing each other already, it was someone’s birthday event, so I’m guessing we chose the wrong night for it.

Hoping once we give it another go, it won’t be so rammed and more people wanting to mingle.

Have to say as a new couple to the scene, we also want to visit clubs, but they are exactly local to us. So this means a hotel for the night which is fine. But we don't want to be in a club where we don't feel welcome because of it being cliquey, can do this at a normal nightclub.

It's a double edged sword, everyone saying get out to clubs will be better, yet I see posts like this... "

Please don’t be put off by our comment.

Like I said, it was a big birthday bash so a lot of people that already knew each other were there to celebrate.

We will certainly try again

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

I don’t see there being a dramatic change, just a return to business as normal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single men seem to get the bum deal at clubs so I worry clubs will allow even less single men in, favouring single ladies and couples.

I prefer to avoid the max capacity nights in clubs simply because it’s so hard to get a room to play in.

I also want there to be a choice of single men as I sell them way more than I do couples.

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By *amantha TSWoman
over a year ago

Swindon

I think that after an initial surge of craziness once clubs are allowed to reopen things will quickly settle back down again. From what I've seen on the forums a lot of people are planning on waiting before returning to clubs until they are fully vax'd or they feel safe themselves.

If you're concerned about it being too busy maybe wait until August and keep an eye on the club reviews page to gauge interest?

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By *LIRTWITHUSCouple
over a year ago

Chester

Always take up the club tour offer, some do this in a group so it's friendly. Stand and chat around bar etcdon't sit in corner on sofa

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Nothing worse than you turning up at a club and the 2 couples who know each other and 3 single guys running around like a dogs with 2 cock look forward to full clubs opening..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as the new single male guests are respectful.. i can't stand watching thirsty men following a female or couple around.. embarrassing

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By *not69Man
over a year ago

Lancashire


"We have been to a club only once (so far), it was very cliquey with everyone seemingly knowing each other already, it was someone’s birthday event, so I’m guessing we chose the wrong night for it.

Hoping once we give it another go, it won’t be so rammed and more people wanting to mingle.

Have to say as a new couple to the scene, we also want to visit clubs, but they are exactly local to us. So this means a hotel for the night which is fine. But we don't want to be in a club where we don't feel welcome because of it being cliquey, can do this at a normal nightclub.

It's a double edged sword, everyone saying get out to clubs will be better, yet I see posts like this... "

When you go to clubs more often than not you get out of it what you put in. If you sit in a corner watching people chatting abs socialising from afar it will seem cliquey. If you stand near the bar, talk to the staff and they will often introduce you to others. Plus you get taking to other people who come to the bar. Other good sociable areas are the jacuzzi and the smoking area. It also helps to smile at people and say "hi" just like you would in a bar. I see it often when newbies go to a club, they go and sit by themselves at the far end of the club and wonder why no one talks to them. You need to make an effort and before long people will think that you're part of the clique lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Many clubs have a maximum capacity and can sell out, so if they sell out on a night before covid or after covid restrictions there will still be the same amount of people there.

Hopefully the hosts will make sure newcomers are treated in a way that makes them feel comfortable in their venue."

This. Also I’m not sure there will be an initial surge. People we have talked to are wary and hesitant. We are too. We’ve really missed clubs but will be in no rush to go back immediately. Same with meets.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

The busier the better IMO

If you want quieter attend during the week and certainly not on events.

Most hosts have a good handle on their guest lists so ensure a good mix and the clubs only have so many capacity!

I hope it’s super busy with the regulars and newbies soon as we can

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