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"Been on this site a few years and never really gelled with anyone in here. There's a few people I have a chat with here and there but generally I don't think there's anyone on here who I'd consider my type of person (non sexual) could be different in real life but on here it's a no go" I feel you there pal Im the Same I chat to 1 or 2 but never get any social meets or none sexual convosations | |||
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"Some people find it easier not over text. Maybe you are one of them." I agree with this. I thrive in a text environment and then wibble in face-to-face. Also what would you consider to be your type of person? I've always found it tough to find my type of person but now I don't look and people find me. I PM with some on here and they are all quite different from each other but they all 'see' something in me which they like. And I like having different types of people rather than all just the same type. Whether any of it will lead to anything beyond this site only I don't know but I'm enjoying what I have got at this moment. | |||
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"I mean the forum not the site" Just post on topics, doesn't matter if yoh get in with people in the forums surely? I'm sure a lot of people dislike me lol | |||
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"I mean the forum not the site" So did I in my second post | |||
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"These types of thread I find very strange. If you’re not getting what you want, you’ve been here for a while and things aren’t working as you hoped, then either change your approach and attitude or leave. No one is forced to be here and this site isn’t for everyone, it’s that simple really! " Yup agree very simple fix. It always baffles me why people guy's mainly assume that just because they are on here it's going to be a pussy fest from day 1. Not saying that the op is like this but status updates are full of guys moaning about the site and have only been on a few days! | |||
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"These types of thread I find very strange. If you’re not getting what you want, you’ve been here for a while and things aren’t working as you hoped, then either change your approach and attitude or leave. No one is forced to be here and this site isn’t for everyone, it’s that simple really! Yup agree very simple fix. It always baffles me why people guy's mainly assume that just because they are on here it's going to be a pussy fest from day 1. Not saying that the op is like this but status updates are full of guys moaning about the site and have only been on a few days!" He's said non sexual and I'd be willing to bet my last peanut butter sandwich that a woman posting similarly would be inundated with people claiming to be her type. | |||
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"These types of thread I find very strange. If you’re not getting what you want, you’ve been here for a while and things aren’t working as you hoped, then either change your approach and attitude or leave. No one is forced to be here and this site isn’t for everyone, it’s that simple really! Yup agree very simple fix. It always baffles me why people guy's mainly assume that just because they are on here it's going to be a pussy fest from day 1. Not saying that the op is like this but status updates are full of guys moaning about the site and have only been on a few days! He's said non sexual and I'd be willing to bet my last peanut butter sandwich that a woman posting similarly would be inundated with people claiming to be her type. " With a healthy dose of hugs and empathy | |||
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"These types of thread I find very strange. If you’re not getting what you want, you’ve been here for a while and things aren’t working as you hoped, then either change your approach and attitude or leave. No one is forced to be here and this site isn’t for everyone, it’s that simple really! Yup agree very simple fix. It always baffles me why people guy's mainly assume that just because they are on here it's going to be a pussy fest from day 1. Not saying that the op is like this but status updates are full of guys moaning about the site and have only been on a few days! He's said non sexual and I'd be willing to bet my last peanut butter sandwich that a woman posting similarly would be inundated with people claiming to be her type. " My bad sorry. But let's be honest the past 18 months have been a washout for most people following the rules so any social interactions have been extremely limited and due to lockdown the site has been inundated with keyboard fantasists making it difficult for genuine people to shine through. Personally I find negative comments and status updates are going to put off potential chances of striking up a rapport. Now things are slowly getting back to normal best advice is try to find any local socials and pop along, most areas usually have someone arranging a free to all social in a public place although remember that's all it is. Of it's online stuff maybe try chatrooms non directing and just start chatting. | |||
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"These types of thread I find very strange. If you’re not getting what you want, you’ve been here for a while and things aren’t working as you hoped, then either change your approach and attitude or leave. No one is forced to be here and this site isn’t for everyone, it’s that simple really! Yup agree very simple fix. It always baffles me why people guy's mainly assume that just because they are on here it's going to be a pussy fest from day 1. Not saying that the op is like this but status updates are full of guys moaning about the site and have only been on a few days! He's said non sexual and I'd be willing to bet my last peanut butter sandwich that a woman posting similarly would be inundated with people claiming to be her type. My bad sorry. But let's be honest the past 18 months have been a washout for most people following the rules so any social interactions have been extremely limited and due to lockdown the site has been inundated with keyboard fantasists making it difficult for genuine people to shine through. Personally I find negative comments and status updates are going to put off potential chances of striking up a rapport. Now things are slowly getting back to normal best advice is try to find any local socials and pop along, most areas usually have someone arranging a free to all social in a public place although remember that's all it is. Of it's online stuff maybe try chatrooms non directing and just start chatting. " Oh and btw OP I very much class myself as a loner,if it wasn't for my wife jools I doubt if talk to anyone for weeks. | |||
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"These types of thread I find very strange. If you’re not getting what you want, you’ve been here for a while and things aren’t working as you hoped, then either change your approach and attitude or leave. No one is forced to be here and this site isn’t for everyone, it’s that simple really! Yup agree very simple fix. It always baffles me why people guy's mainly assume that just because they are on here it's going to be a pussy fest from day 1. Not saying that the op is like this but status updates are full of guys moaning about the site and have only been on a few days! He's said non sexual and I'd be willing to bet my last peanut butter sandwich that a woman posting similarly would be inundated with people claiming to be her type. With a healthy dose of hugs and empathy " This is why I at some of the be kind posts ..Practice what you preach.. | |||
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"These types of thread I find very strange. If you’re not getting what you want, you’ve been here for a while and things aren’t working as you hoped, then either change your approach and attitude or leave. No one is forced to be here and this site isn’t for everyone, it’s that simple really! Yup agree very simple fix. It always baffles me why people guy's mainly assume that just because they are on here it's going to be a pussy fest from day 1. Not saying that the op is like this but status updates are full of guys moaning about the site and have only been on a few days! He's said non sexual and I'd be willing to bet my last peanut butter sandwich that a woman posting similarly would be inundated with people claiming to be her type. With a healthy dose of hugs and empathy This is why I at some of the be kind posts ..Practice what you preach.." I did a thread the other day about ‘be kind’ as an ethos. It was an interesting discussion, maybe have a look at it? | |||
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"These types of thread I find very strange. If you’re not getting what you want, you’ve been here for a while and things aren’t working as you hoped, then either change your approach and attitude or leave. No one is forced to be here and this site isn’t for everyone, it’s that simple really! Yup agree very simple fix. It always baffles me why people guy's mainly assume that just because they are on here it's going to be a pussy fest from day 1. Not saying that the op is like this but status updates are full of guys moaning about the site and have only been on a few days! He's said non sexual and I'd be willing to bet my last peanut butter sandwich that a woman posting similarly would be inundated with people claiming to be her type. My bad sorry. But let's be honest the past 18 months have been a washout for most people following the rules so any social interactions have been extremely limited and due to lockdown the site has been inundated with keyboard fantasists making it difficult for genuine people to shine through. Personally I find negative comments and status updates are going to put off potential chances of striking up a rapport. Now things are slowly getting back to normal best advice is try to find any local socials and pop along, most areas usually have someone arranging a free to all social in a public place although remember that's all it is. Of it's online stuff maybe try chatrooms non directing and just start chatting. " The set 18 months have been a washout. I'm a pretty emotionally strong person but not seeing and connecting personally with the two people who do "get me" has with no disrespect to Mr N, made me feel very lonely and isolated. The rest of your post is spot on too in my opinion | |||
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"Some people find it easier not over text. Maybe you are one of them." This is me, I can be an icorraigble flirt via messages, in person I'm the opposite | |||
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"Ok Bit of a pointless reply do we not reckon?" You responded to it. | |||
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"Ok Bit of a pointless reply do we not reckon? You responded to it." And? | |||
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"Ok Bit of a pointless reply do we not reckon?" She tends to be rude. Not in the nature of the site is it? | |||
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"Been on this site a few years and never really gelled with anyone in here. There's a few people I have a chat with here and there but generally I don't think there's anyone on here who I'd consider my type of person (non sexual) could be different in real life but on here it's a no go" That’s a big statement to make when there are tens of thousands of people on this site but I fully understand we’re you’re coming from. Tony | |||
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"Ok Bit of a pointless reply do we not reckon? She tends to be rude. Not in the nature of the site is it?" Haha Here's that attention she ordered | |||
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"Ok Bit of a pointless reply do we not reckon? She tends to be rude. Not in the nature of the site is it?" | |||
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"Ok Bit of a pointless reply do we not reckon? You responded to it. And?" I don't understand the question. | |||
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"Been on this site a few years and never really gelled with anyone in here. There's a few people I have a chat with here and there but generally I don't think there's anyone on here who I'd consider my type of person (non sexual) could be different in real life but on here it's a no go" Hi OP What is your kind of person? I would suggest adding a bit of the kind of person that you are looking for to your profile as it would show the kind of personality that you have and whether they would be suitable for you. Hopefully that could cut out some of the chats you have which have resulted in you not gelling with people. Just a thought, not a criticism NBVN x | |||
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"I mean the forum not the site" as said before just be yourself who cares what others think you're here for you everyone is different just enjoy and don't be afraid to join in. | |||
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"As the op states its the forum not the site, i get where he is coming from as many others will. You have to be so careful what you say or don’t say on here as if you offend one the whole forum gets offended. And its easy to read a response and take it the wrong way. Op just keep trying.. start an interesting thread . Anyway good luck op " | |||
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"There are many lone wolves here that often get overlooked because they don’t run with a pack. Don’t sweat it. " Nice. Is that from a film or something? | |||
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"The forums are a bit like walking into a pub and you don't know a single person there. You might chat lightly to someone as you order a drink at the bar, or passing someone or something on a TV screen like a football score prompts a small chat. You'd sit drinking your beer watching others talk, clearly there are groups of friends chatting together and it's the most awkward thing to try an engage with anyone. But if you keep visting the pub and keep having these small random chats you get to know people. It wouldn't happen overnight. It takes time. The forums are the same. And not everyone is a regular. And there are some just like you that come alone and don't become part of friend groups, they just like the social interaction when it takes their fancy. PW" Great analogy | |||
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"You have been on here years and my experiences/interactions with you via the forum have always been pleasant. You’ve never been nasty towards me even if I’ve ignored any attempt at flirting and that in itself speaks volumes about your character. I’ve never seen you get involved with any dramas either. I’d say you were a normal well rounded person. " "I’d say you were a normal well rounded person." I think you've solved the ops conundrum. | |||
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"Ok Bit of a pointless reply do we not reckon? She tends to be rude. Not in the nature of the site is it?" pot. Kettle. Black | |||
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"Ok Bit of a pointless reply do we not reckon? She tends to be rude. Not in the nature of the site is it? Haha Here's that attention she ordered " Cheers me dears | |||
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"You have been on here years and my experiences/interactions with you via the forum have always been pleasant. You’ve never been nasty towards me even if I’ve ignored any attempt at flirting and that in itself speaks volumes about your character. I’ve never seen you get involved with any dramas either. I’d say you were a normal well rounded person. " that's the nicest thing anyone's ever said about me on here thanks | |||
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"Been on this site a few years and never really gelled with anyone in here. There's a few people I have a chat with here and there but generally I don't think there's anyone on here who I'd consider my type of person (non sexual) could be different in real life but on here it's a no go" That's fair enough. Not everyone fits in. | |||
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"It can feel quite lonely when you feel as if nobody gets you or you're on the margins. I get it. It could well be that one of two people are your type but you're missing each other or actually have assumed that you won't get along with anybody so don't try. The forums are quite a harsh place and I can understand how people would feel that they're not really compatible with others." I think this is true. I tick along in the margins occasionally stirring up trouble or maybe saying things people find helpful. I’ve even made a friend from a forum post. But I guess I’m not seeking anything so it doesn’t bother me. I guess if you consider there has to be people around you do click with then it’s just a matter of keeping on and seeing what happens. Vx | |||
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"Been on this site a few years and never really gelled with anyone in here. There's a few people I have a chat with here and there but generally I don't think there's anyone on here who I'd consider my type of person (non sexual) could be different in real life but on here it's a no go" Maybe it's just that time of year given this pandemic hasn't exactly helped so maybe a break and venture another site it has been a extremely difficult period for many away from the site but if you don't click well it could also be your technique | |||
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"Been on this site a few years and never really gelled with anyone in here. There's a few people I have a chat with here and there but generally I don't think there's anyone on here who I'd consider my type of person (non sexual) could be different in real life but on here it's a no go" It can be tough, the chat seems to be a little more chilled than the forums, personally speaking, but these are still quite fun. I'd start a thread about various hobbies that you have - might throw up some interesting responses? | |||
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