FabSwingers.com forum: profiles that say can accommodate

By *ane_Dave OP Couple
over a year ago

chesterfield

hi forum

We have been on fab for over 2yrs now and this will be our 1st forum post.

Apologies now if it makes no sense ha ha.

We go to our local club as often as we can but in between then also like to meet midweek.

We are getting increasingly frustrated by the amount of guys we chat to on fab that state can accommodate in their profile only to find that whenever asked they for whatever reason never can.

Although we realize most may be totally genuine this is getting frustrating.

Especially when we read other verifies that seem to state all meets they have are also away from their homes.

Are we becoming paranoid or are we just to trusting as we want to believe all is as it seems on their profile.

We have no issue with anybody that genuinely can't accommodate a meet as we find it very difficult to do that ourselves but then again we state we cant accommodate on our profile.

We just wondered if this is just us or does anybody else find this happening to them?

Jane and Dave x

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By *iggamanMan
over a year ago

London

"hi forum

We have been on fab for over 2yrs now and this will be our 1st forum post.

Apologies now if it makes no sense ha ha.

We go to our local club as often as we can but in between then also like to meet midweek.

We are getting increasingly frustrated by the amount of guys we chat to on fab that state can accommodate in their profile only to find that whenever asked they for whatever reason never can.

Although we realize most may be totally genuine this is getting frustrating.

Especially when we read other verifies that seem to state all meets they have are also away from their homes.

Are we becoming paranoid or are we just to trusting as we want to believe all is as it seems on their profile.

We have no issue with anybody that genuinely can't accommodate a meet as we find it very difficult to do that ourselves but then again we state we cant accommodate on our profile.

We just wondered if this is just us or does anybody else find this happening to them?

Jane and Dave x

did you ever think they might not be comfortable hosting a couple or being out numbered in there own home for whatever reason? and they may only want to host single meets or with someone else they know there?

i'm presuming these are first time meets? try be more understanding to the fact it's someone else's home and bed you want to enter

for expample i can accommodate but not sure if i would or could host a couple in my home as i'm just not sure how comfortable i would feel just how i fell about it on a first meet

just my thought's on it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't apologise!

There's no time limit on how soon you have to post - welcome to the nuthouse - sorry - forums!!

Well I'd suggest there could be a variety of answers to your question.

They've put 'can' accommodate - even though they can't - as this is _iewed in a more positive light by many and subsequently may increase their meet opportunities!

They can accom - but are very picky about who they invite round - maybe less so if a first meet is on neutral ground or at the other party's.

They can accom - but only in very rare occasions (parents in holiday, wife at her sisters, when their 4 other housemates are all simultaneously out!) - and in all honesty would have been better off listing it as 'can't' with a comment in the text explaining their situation.

They'll say yes if you meet at a club as it may boost their 'play' chances - and then afterwards it'll never happen. Rule no. 37.4 of swinging - some people will say anything to get a shag/cop a feel!

They can't be arsed to tidy up. Ever. So even though they could accom - you're probably better off that they make excuses.

You're too posh for them. Some people do worry about the impression their home/car/job etc will have on others and whilst a club offers a level of anonymity - their home won't.

Just a few ideas - no guarantees they're right!!

Welcome again to the forums - nice to see some new faces!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, you don't need to apologise for 1. being a little tardy in getting stuck in to the forums, or 2. being increasingly wary of anyone who says one thing in their profile, but does something very different.

When it comes to single guys, I have been vilified on here for sticking to my guns about my rule : If you're a single guy and can't accommodate, you'd better explain WHY. I know there are all sorts of reasons why a single guy can't, but are they 'truly single' if they say they can't?

But, when it comes to saying 'Can Accom', but they shy away from it, or it blatantly isn't true, then you have every right to be wary/cynical and kick them into touch.

There are so many single guys on here, that you can easily find ones who are genuine, who CAN accom if they say they can and won't waste your time. The problem is there are SOOOO many and it takes time to find them. You just have to be VERY questioning of any claim or statement they make until you get to the truth and, if you don't like the truth, kick them into touch.

Sorry to all the single guys reading this, but in a couple situation, this is how you have to be - and I say that as someone who swung as a single guy on and off for over 20yrs, so have been on the receiving end of the above plenty over the years.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

There are far too many people on here who have 'can accommodate' on their profiles but when you ask they say they can accommodate at 2pm on the 2nd Tuesday of every other month. Or they can only accommodate when their housemates are out (which seems to be never). I would appreciate honesty on a profile but sadly it doesn't happen all the time.

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By *ont Ask Dont GetWoman
over a year ago

amersham

"There are far too many people on here who have 'can accommodate' on their profiles but when you ask they say they can accommodate at 2pm on the 2nd Tuesday of every other month. Or they can only accommodate when their housemates are out (which seems to be never). I would appreciate honesty on a profile but sadly it doesn't happen all the time."

Agreed...very frustrating!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what gets me are the couples who want you to accomadate but somehow cannot manage to get a face pic to you. AS IF i am gonna give anyone my address when I dont even know what they look like! us single guys get slated but hey it works both ways. some couples want to have their cake and eat it

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By *iggamanMan
over a year ago

London

"what gets me are the couples who want you to accomadate but somehow cannot manage to get a face pic to you. AS IF i am gonna give anyone my address when I dont even know what they look like! us single guys get slated but hey it works both ways. some couples want to have their cake and eat it"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i can accommodate if i CHOOSE to and if i KNOW the person.

i wont have any old person come into my home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I no longer accommodate at home, and if I state I can accommodate, it means I have a room booked in a hotel somewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We Can Accommodate, but should really say could accommodate.... have 4 bed house all to ourselves now, so no issues on any reason not to ... except we would want to meet before inviting you back to our home, this could be a social meet, or we may have met in a club, party, or whatever but would never just give out our address to an anonymous person from a message.

So in our opinion the same is fair for anyone else too single couple or whatever dynamic.

Welcome to the forums OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

welcome to the madhouse.

honestly. post more some good people here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

probs attached if they can only accomodate at certain times of the day, especially during the day haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fortunatley for me i have my own pkace and can accom any week day evening or night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Twice now have I arranged to meet people saying can accom. Twice got message on day of meet to say cannot accom now, one said kids got unexpected day off school & other said gone shopping and won't be back until past meet time!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is annoying when people have accomedate and it's obvious that they can't or they have very limited window of time when the can. We don't accomedate and don't expect others necessarily to invite us to their house for a first meet or until the comfortable. That's fine have no trouble with that. It's the ones who say they can accomedate then when you start organising something all of a sudden they are limited or come up with obvious silly excuses

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

if people say they can accommodate and they don't... that is up to them and that should be respected. It may cost them a meet but they should not have to justify it.

I used to accommodate all the time and wouldn't ever again.... not everyone values your possessions .

I remember hiring an apartment for a party for a friend who was leaving the country., a couple came and they broke the bed, laughed and left. Not a word on whether there was a deposit paid and would there be any financial impact... just a laugh....

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area

We could accomodate but for various reasons would not.

we have young kids so thats a no no when they are not on holiday at grandparents. We also have VERY nosey neighbours who would spot everything. and we would not do a first meet at a guys house either.

Also although we are a couple who meet single guys we would not invite one back to our home.

We would only ever meet for first meet in a busy social area. if we really get to know someone and become good friends then thats different.

However we are fully aware of singles saying they can when they are never able to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I live alone.

I can accomodate.

I do accomodate.

However, it is not an open house.

I accomodate when it suits me, not others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Twice now have I arranged to meet people saying can accom. Twice got message on day of meet to say cannot accom now, one said kids got unexpected day off school & other said gone shopping and won't be back until past meet time!!

well if you cant accom yourself then its something you just going to have to put up with!

alot of people though who only meet during the day or can only accom during the day are usually attached, so if your going after these sorts of people then expect this to happen over and over again - they care more about not getting caught than anything else, and its a common sign they attached when randon things always come up that they should of really knew about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

However we are fully aware of singles saying they can when they are never able to."

i get the feeling they arnt singles your having problem with haha!

lets face it, how many single guys have a problem inviting someone back to their home for sex? not many of the genuine ones!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I live alone.

I can accomodate.

I do accomodate.

However, it is not an open house.

I accomodate when it suits me, not others."

Yeah...I'd go along with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All you want is honesty. A lot of couples ask if a guy can accomodate to see if they are single. Why do we care? Not just morals but imagine the horror of a suspicious wife following a husband to meet us and the potential scene that could occur. That's why, for us, we ask can they accomodate but would probably never take them up on hosting us as a hotel is more neutral.

We do have a laugh though at the number of successful grown up stockbrokers/multimillionaires/successful professionals who can't accomodate because they have 'housemates'. Reminds us of that comedy 'The Odd Couple'.

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

You can even move in for a full week as long as you don't smoke

But any couple who can't accommodate but want you to accept them in your house especially when they email you on a saturday night after midnight saying : can we come to your place? J is horny and would love a MMF....

You never get that from single lady. Only from some couples.

Why would I let someone in my place at late hour?

Apart from that, you can even come for holiday at mine if want

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

I think there are a number of people who *say* they can't accommodate just to cut down on the number of 'offers' ... but will when it takes their fancy. And there's nothing wrong with that in my _iew - you gotta make this site work for you...

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By *iggamanMan
over a year ago

London

"I live alone.

I can accomodate.

I do accomodate.

However, it is not an open house.

I accomodate when it suits me, not others."

think this guy said it best

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