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" Okay okay last forum post it’s kind of a bit of a rant so I’ve been listening and taking on everyone’s advice on the forum I’ve changed my username three Times now I’ve changed what I put on my profile I’ve changed my sexual identity on my profile I’ve contacted couples and addressed them both in my messages to them I have also been respectful I Honestly feel like there is something wrong with me at this point please help anyone who lives and read sit honestly feel like there is something wrong with me at this point please help anyone who lives and recite In Somerset please" And there you have it in the STATUS....Why would anyone want to contact you after writing that. Seriously it smacks of look at me and desperation. Please get rid of it | |||
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I wish you luck on your Fab quest but hope you can chill out a bit - I have to agree with the post above too, that status would stop me replying to someone no matter how delicious I potentially thought them | |||
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"You appear to be taking this a little too seriously OP, Fab is about FUN! As a single female with an unfiltered profile, I get a LOT of messages and simply can't read them all, there are just too damned many - I won't be alone in that. What I am saying is people miss messages at times, I also know a lot of couples who read messages together - one may read it and wait for the other to read it too before replying - there is no reason to be blocking people who don't respond quickly
I wish you luck on your Fab quest but hope you can chill out a bit - I have to agree with the post above too, that status would stop me replying to someone no matter how delicious I potentially thought them"She just blocked us because we didn’t reply straight away lol. She only messaged us 7 minutes ago! | |||
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"You appear to be taking this a little too seriously OP, Fab is about FUN! As a single female with an unfiltered profile, I get a LOT of messages and simply can't read them all, there are just too damned many - I won't be alone in that. What I am saying is people miss messages at times, I also know a lot of couples who read messages together - one may read it and wait for the other to read it too before replying - there is no reason to be blocking people who don't respond quickly
I wish you luck on your Fab quest but hope you can chill out a bit - I have to agree with the post above too, that status would stop me replying to someone no matter how delicious I potentially thought them
She just blocked us because we didn’t reply straight away lol. She only messaged us 7 minutes ago! "not blocked plus you literally live in Scotland | |||
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"You appear to be taking this a little too seriously OP, Fab is about FUN! As a single female with an unfiltered profile, I get a LOT of messages and simply can't read them all, there are just too damned many - I won't be alone in that. What I am saying is people miss messages at times, I also know a lot of couples who read messages together - one may read it and wait for the other to read it too before replying - there is no reason to be blocking people who don't respond quickly
I wish you luck on your Fab quest but hope you can chill out a bit - I have to agree with the post above too, that status would stop me replying to someone no matter how delicious I potentially thought them
She just blocked us because we didn’t reply straight away lol. She only messaged us 7 minutes ago! not blocked plus you literally live in Scotland "We don’t live in Scotland. X | |||
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"I would say stop changing things to what you think people want, and be yourself. Fab is fun, get involved in the forum, get to know people and just enjoy it. " Absoultely this. Be who you want to be and focus on what you enjoy. You'll find others who are into the same things sooner or later. If it's not fun it's not worth doing and trying to please others and what they think on here is a short ride to misery. | |||
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"Honestly. Your profiles a little confusing and aggressive. You say you got balaclava pics to hide your face because of a super secret job but then have pics of your face? " Have you seen my previous posts on the forums | |||
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"Honestly. Your profiles a little confusing and aggressive. You say you got balaclava pics to hide your face because of a super secret job but then have pics of your face? Have you seen my previous posts on the forums " I'm still lost why u blocked me  I dont even live in the same country as you!? | |||
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"Honestly. Your profiles a little confusing and aggressive. You say you got balaclava pics to hide your face because of a super secret job but then have pics of your face? Have you seen my previous posts on the forums I'm still lost why u blocked me I dont even live in the same country as you!?"That’s why | |||
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"Honestly. Your profiles a little confusing and aggressive. You say you got balaclava pics to hide your face because of a super secret job but then have pics of your face? Have you seen my previous posts on the forums I'm still lost why u blocked me I dont even live in the same country as you!?
That’s why "Ok I was only going to give u words of encouragement | |||
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"You appear to be taking this a little too seriously OP, Fab is about FUN! As a single female with an unfiltered profile, I get a LOT of messages and simply can't read them all, there are just too damned many - I won't be alone in that. What I am saying is people miss messages at times, I also know a lot of couples who read messages together - one may read it and wait for the other to read it too before replying - there is no reason to be blocking people who don't respond quickly
I wish you luck on your Fab quest but hope you can chill out a bit - I have to agree with the post above too, that status would stop me replying to someone no matter how delicious I potentially thought them
She just blocked us because we didn’t reply straight away lol. She only messaged us 7 minutes ago! not blocked plus you literally live in Scotland
We don’t live in Scotland. X"Has Basingstoke moved to Scotland? Really? Well, welcome to the neighbourhood!  | |||
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"Honestly. Your profiles a little confusing and aggressive. You say you got balaclava pics to hide your face because of a super secret job but then have pics of your face? Have you seen my previous posts on the forums I'm still lost why u blocked me I dont even live in the same country as you!?
That’s why "I don't see the problem? If they live in a different country to you, you could still be friends. | |||
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"Honestly. Your profiles a little confusing and aggressive. You say you got balaclava pics to hide your face because of a super secret job but then have pics of your face? Have you seen my previous posts on the forums I'm still lost why u blocked me I dont even live in the same country as you!?
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I don't see the problem? If they live in a different country to you, you could still be friends."okay fine I will be there friend | |||
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You’ve had some good advice. For me, I’d say try to sort your profile out for YOU not for other people. You have lots of pictures which is good but lots are very samey so perhaps hide a few for now. I get the impression from your forum posts and profile that you are either younger than you state or you are just very young at heart, this is obviously a wonderful thing but couples may find that something to be wary off. Try to stabilise your profile and how you are responding …. Blocking after 5 mins and then saying “ok I’ll be their friend” just because someone suggested it here makes it seem like you’re desperate to please others. Not yourself.
This is a fun place to be but if you’re not emotionally strong and able to roll with the punches you may find it tricky.
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" I Honestly feel like there is something wrong with me at this point please help anyone who lives and read sit honestly feel like there is something wrong with me at this point please help anyone who lives and recite In Somerset please" Roxy, are you wanting help with your profile or how you are feeling ? | |||
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" Okay okay last forum post it’s kind of a bit of a rant so I’ve been listening and taking on everyone’s advice on the forum I’ve changed my username three Times now I’ve changed what I put on my profile I’ve changed my sexual identity on my profile I’ve contacted couples and addressed them both in my messages to them I have also been respectful I Honestly feel like there is something wrong with me at this point please help anyone who lives and read sit honestly feel like there is something wrong with me at this point please help anyone who lives and recite In Somerset please" My tuppenceworth, stop changing your profile to please others, write it to please you. Write it so it represents you, what you're looking for and what you offer. Constantly rewriting it based on what other people suggest (and yes there's irony here) loses the you that's you. Also, having read through this and your other threads, it seems you message people and block them minutes later, before they've had a chance to read your message, let alone reply to you. That's never going to get the interaction you're looking for. Good luck in the future, I hope you find what you're looking for. | |||
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" Okay okay last forum post it’s kind of a bit of a rant so I’ve been listening and taking on everyone’s advice on the forum I’ve changed my username three Times now I’ve changed what I put on my profile I’ve changed my sexual identity on my profile I’ve contacted couples and addressed them both in my messages to them I have also been respectful I Honestly feel like there is something wrong with me at this point please help anyone who lives and read sit honestly feel like there is something wrong with me at this point please help anyone who lives and recite In Somerset please My tuppenceworth, stop changing your profile to please others, write it to please you. Write it so it represents you, what you're looking for and what you offer. Constantly rewriting it based on what other people suggest (and yes there's irony here) loses the you that's you. Also, having read through this and your other threads, it seems you message people and block them minutes later, before they've had a chance to read your message, let alone reply to you. That's never going to get the interaction you're looking for. Good luck in the future, I hope you find what you're looking for. " Okay I just want to get people to understand something I wasn’t going to reply till later on this evening but I may as well say my side of things so people understand, you are saying I block people after a few minutes no that’s incorrect I block people who are 1 not in my local area (Somerset) 2 I block people who don’t have a profile picture 3 I block people who I know are not interested based on the fact that I would send an message and go back and forth with the other person and then when it comes to setting up a meet they bail or like when I talk to them on Skype and then they don’t message me ever again. I’m not trying to sound desperate I’m just done with people taking the piss because I know if I did that then I would have people shitting down on me, and nine times out of ten I’m not even the one who sent the first message. I’m not mad I’m not angry just annoyed at certain people. And didn’t most of you say block and move on if someone is rude to me | |||
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"Honestly. Your profiles a little confusing and aggressive. You say you got balaclava pics to hide your face because of a super secret job but then have pics of your face? Have you seen my previous posts on the forums I'm still lost why u blocked me I dont even live in the same country as you!?
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I don't see the problem? If they live in a different country to you, you could still be friends.okay fine I will be there friend "I think maybe now they wnt want to be. Thats a very immature answer. | |||
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" Okay okay last forum post it’s kind of a bit of a rant so I’ve been listening and taking on everyone’s advice on the forum I’ve changed my username three Times now I’ve changed what I put on my profile I’ve changed my sexual identity on my profile I’ve contacted couples and addressed them both in my messages to them I have also been respectful I Honestly feel like there is something wrong with me at this point please help anyone who lives and read sit honestly feel like there is something wrong with me at this point please help anyone who lives and recite In Somerset please My tuppenceworth, stop changing your profile to please others, write it to please you. Write it so it represents you, what you're looking for and what you offer. Constantly rewriting it based on what other people suggest (and yes there's irony here) loses the you that's you. Also, having read through this and your other threads, it seems you message people and block them minutes later, before they've had a chance to read your message, let alone reply to you. That's never going to get the interaction you're looking for. Good luck in the future, I hope you find what you're looking for. Okay I just want to get people to understand something I wasn’t going to reply till later on this evening but I may as well say my side of things so people understand, you are saying I block people after a few minutes no that’s incorrect I block people who are 1 not in my local area (Somerset) 2 I block people who don’t have a profile picture 3 I block people who I know are not interested based on the fact that I would send an message and go back and forth with the other person and then when it comes to setting up a meet they bail or like when I talk to them on Skype and then they don’t message me ever again. I’m not trying to sound desperate I’m just done with people taking the piss because I know if I did that then I would have people shitting down on me, and nine times out of ten I’m not even the one who sent the first message. I’m not mad I’m not angry just annoyed at certain people. And didn’t most of you say block and move on if someone is rude to me " Interesting. The comments on this and several of your other threads seem to suggest you do message and block within a few minutes. However, you've asked for advice, I've offered it. It's not compulsory to accept anyone's advice if you feel it isn't of benefit. Good luck on Fab. | |||
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" Okay okay last forum post it’s kind of a bit of a rant so I’ve been listening and taking on everyone’s advice on the forum I’ve changed my username three Times now I’ve changed what I put on my profile I’ve changed my sexual identity on my profile I’ve contacted couples and addressed them both in my messages to them I have also been respectful I Honestly feel like there is something wrong with me at this point please help anyone who lives and read sit honestly feel like there is something wrong with me at this point please help anyone who lives and recite In Somerset please My tuppenceworth, stop changing your profile to please others, write it to please you. Write it so it represents you, what you're looking for and what you offer. Constantly rewriting it based on what other people suggest (and yes there's irony here) loses the you that's you. Also, having read through this and your other threads, it seems you message people and block them minutes later, before they've had a chance to read your message, let alone reply to you. That's never going to get the interaction you're looking for. Good luck in the future, I hope you find what you're looking for. Okay I just want to get people to understand something I wasn’t going to reply till later on this evening but I may as well say my side of things so people understand, you are saying I block people after a few minutes no that’s incorrect I block people who are 1 not in my local area (Somerset) 2 I block people who don’t have a profile picture 3 I block people who I know are not interested based on the fact that I would send an message and go back and forth with the other person and then when it comes to setting up a meet they bail or like when I talk to them on Skype and then they don’t message me ever again. I’m not trying to sound desperate I’m just done with people taking the piss because I know if I did that then I would have people shitting down on me, and nine times out of ten I’m not even the one who sent the first message. I’m not mad I’m not angry just annoyed at certain people. And didn’t most of you say block and move on if someone is rude to me Interesting. The comments on this and several of your other threads seem to suggest you do message and block within a few minutes. However, you've asked for advice, I've offered it. It's not compulsory to accept anyone's advice if you feel it isn't of benefit. Good luck on Fab. "Thanks | |||
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"Well I can't speak for the OP as I've never seen their profile- although obviously, I guess that most couples and single women on this site must be literally inundated with requests, for such is the strata of our society. And with time being limited, they can't always reply to, read or consider all of them individually. They would LITERALLY, not even figuratively, be there all day. What I understand less, perhaps, is why when you see someone flagged on your local updates that meets your preferences, seems to be into almost all the same things as you, professes to be looking for fuckbuddies that are roughly the same height and build as you and even has a PARTNER that looks quite like you, they still delete your polite and articulately-written message without replying. That DOES seem quite nonsensical, especially when a day or so later they're still practically begging for a hookup from 'anyone available' on their status update- although I also fully understand that the long hair I grew back over three Cockdowns will not be to everybody's taste [which is one of the reasons why it's getting a trim before Swingathon, the heat being another] In short, some ten years on from joining Fab, I have come to the conclusion that much as with most things in life- politics, computers, musical tastes, football - there ARE no constants only variables, nothing makes any form of linear sense, and you can't even remotely attempt to second guess it. Pandemic or no pandemic, human beings will always be fallible and ultimately a bit crap. However, that hasn't stopped me having immense ammounts of fun at most of the clubs I've attended for the last 25 years, and playing with some amazing people who also quite seemed to like me. I've just never met very many of them on here. I suppose the more pertinent question, therefore, is when those clubs will open up again, and under what if any restrictions. Only time, and the machinations of politicians and businessmen, will tell..." We get this a lot, people who message us because they match our likes perfectly. Attraction is a two way street. Just because you fancy me, doesn't mean I'll fancy you. I don't know why some people don't understand or appreciate this. No matter how well constructed their message is, if they're not attractive to us, no amount of "I match your profile perfectly will compensate for the the fact that we just don't fancy them. Thinking it will is misguided at best. E | |||
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"Well I can't speak for the OP as I've never seen their profile- although obviously, I guess that most couples and single women on this site must be literally inundated with requests, for such is the strata of our society. And with time being limited, they can't always reply to, read or consider all of them individually. They would LITERALLY, not even figuratively, be there all day. What I understand less, perhaps, is why when you see someone flagged on your local updates that meets your preferences, seems to be into almost all the same things as you, professes to be looking for fuckbuddies that are roughly the same height and build as you and even has a PARTNER that looks quite like you, they still delete your polite and articulately-written message without replying. That DOES seem quite nonsensical, especially when a day or so later they're still practically begging for a hookup from 'anyone available' on their status update- although I also fully understand that the long hair I grew back over three Cockdowns will not be to everybody's taste [which is one of the reasons why it's getting a trim before Swingathon, the heat being another] In short, some ten years on from joining Fab, I have come to the conclusion that much as with most things in life- politics, computers, musical tastes, football - there ARE no constants only variables, nothing makes any form of linear sense, and you can't even remotely attempt to second guess it. Pandemic or no pandemic, human beings will always be fallible and ultimately a bit crap. However, that hasn't stopped me having immense ammounts of fun at most of the clubs I've attended for the last 25 years, and playing with some amazing people who also quite seemed to like me. I've just never met very many of them on here. I suppose the more pertinent question, therefore, is when those clubs will open up again, and under what if any restrictions. Only time, and the machinations of politicians and businessmen, will tell... We get this a lot, people who message us because they match our likes perfectly. Attraction is a two way street. Just because you fancy me, doesn't mean I'll fancy you. I don't know why some people don't understand or appreciate this. No matter how well constructed their message is, if they're not attractive to us, no amount of "I match your profile perfectly will compensate for the the fact that we just don't fancy them. Thinking it will is misguided at best. E" Okay I understand that I’m not on about those people, plus I even ask if I am someone’s type if they say no I move on | |||
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"I think it's worth stepping back a little, to give yourself some chance of reducing the stress from this. You're busy and others will be too, so I'd soften the focus on expecting a reply within 24 hours of messages read, etc. People are all different and take varying amounts of time to evaluate and plan what they want - especially if they're not single. I suggest pausing from looking at your sent messages, giving others more time. If you feel that you are needing something that is a more refined taste, you could probably rightly expect that the volume of others who match will have been reduced down from the higher levels of people here. Due to the pandemic, many people have been waiting a year or more to meet with old friends, so newer contacts can be at the back of the queue and lower priority. It's not for others to tell anyone how to live but my concern is that this is possibly too big a source of consternation for you Op, which isn't good for stress levels. If you can find a way to destress it, it could be helpful, whilst not giving up. Over all the separate aspects of our life here, we have greater control over our expectations than many of the other aspects. It might be helpful to evaluate what your expectations are and to rethink them somewhat. Take care "Thanks for your advice and most of the messages I have sent have been seen and read honestly I have decided not to care and just go to swingers clubs (and if one of the couples that have read every single message I will not be talking to in real life) | |||
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"Well I can't speak for the OP as I've never seen their profile- although obviously, I guess that most couples and single women on this site must be literally inundated with requests, for such is the strata of our society. And with time being limited, they can't always reply to, read or consider all of them individually. They would LITERALLY, not even figuratively, be there all day. What I understand less, perhaps, is why when you see someone flagged on your local updates that meets your preferences, seems to be into almost all the same things as you, professes to be looking for fuckbuddies that are roughly the same height and build as you and even has a PARTNER that looks quite like you, they still delete your polite and articulately-written message without replying. That DOES seem quite nonsensical, especially when a day or so later they're still practically begging for a hookup from 'anyone available' on their status update- although I also fully understand that the long hair I grew back over three Cockdowns will not be to everybody's taste [which is one of the reasons why it's getting a trim before Swingathon, the heat being another] In short, some ten years on from joining Fab, I have come to the conclusion that much as with most things in life- politics, computers, musical tastes, football - there ARE no constants only variables, nothing makes any form of linear sense, and you can't even remotely attempt to second guess it. Pandemic or no pandemic, human beings will always be fallible and ultimately a bit crap. However, that hasn't stopped me having immense ammounts of fun at most of the clubs I've attended for the last 25 years, and playing with some amazing people who also quite seemed to like me. I've just never met very many of them on here. I suppose the more pertinent question, therefore, is when those clubs will open up again, and under what if any restrictions. Only time, and the machinations of politicians and businessmen, will tell... We get this a lot, people who message us because they match our likes perfectly. Attraction is a two way street. Just because you fancy me, doesn't mean I'll fancy you. I don't know why some people don't understand or appreciate this. No matter how well constructed their message is, if they're not attractive to us, no amount of "I match your profile perfectly will compensate for the the fact that we just don't fancy them. Thinking it will is misguided at best. E" It does come across as a little bizarre, however, when - as I said above - you see a picture of their regular partner and they look almost exactly like you. As has happened a couple of times. I can't speak for anybody else, but it makes me think that maybe they don't really fancy THEM either. But that's a conversation for them to have between one another. In a way, I'm glad I don't have to be involved. | |||
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"Well I can't speak for the OP as I've never seen their profile- although obviously, I guess that most couples and single women on this site must be literally inundated with requests, for such is the strata of our society. And with time being limited, they can't always reply to, read or consider all of them individually. They would LITERALLY, not even figuratively, be there all day. What I understand less, perhaps, is why when you see someone flagged on your local updates that meets your preferences, seems to be into almost all the same things as you, professes to be looking for fuckbuddies that are roughly the same height and build as you and even has a PARTNER that looks quite like you, they still delete your polite and articulately-written message without replying. That DOES seem quite nonsensical, especially when a day or so later they're still practically begging for a hookup from 'anyone available' on their status update- although I also fully understand that the long hair I grew back over three Cockdowns will not be to everybody's taste [which is one of the reasons why it's getting a trim before Swingathon, the heat being another] In short, some ten years on from joining Fab, I have come to the conclusion that much as with most things in life- politics, computers, musical tastes, football - there ARE no constants only variables, nothing makes any form of linear sense, and you can't even remotely attempt to second guess it. Pandemic or no pandemic, human beings will always be fallible and ultimately a bit crap. However, that hasn't stopped me having immense ammounts of fun at most of the clubs I've attended for the last 25 years, and playing with some amazing people who also quite seemed to like me. I've just never met very many of them on here. I suppose the more pertinent question, therefore, is when those clubs will open up again, and under what if any restrictions. Only time, and the machinations of politicians and businessmen, will tell... We get this a lot, people who message us because they match our likes perfectly. Attraction is a two way street. Just because you fancy me, doesn't mean I'll fancy you. I don't know why some people don't understand or appreciate this. No matter how well constructed their message is, if they're not attractive to us, no amount of "I match your profile perfectly will compensate for the the fact that we just don't fancy them. Thinking it will is misguided at best. E It does come across as a little bizarre, however, when - as I said above - you see a picture of their regular partner and they look almost exactly like you. As has happened a couple of times. I can't speak for anybody else, but it makes me think that maybe they don't really fancy THEM either. But that's a conversation for them to have between one another. In a way, I'm glad I don't have to be involved." Maybe they want to find someone who is different to their regular partner rather than a clone? | |||
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"Well I can't speak for the OP as I've never seen their profile- although obviously, I guess that most couples and single women on this site must be literally inundated with requests, for such is the strata of our society. And with time being limited, they can't always reply to, read or consider all of them individually. They would LITERALLY, not even figuratively, be there all day. What I understand less, perhaps, is why when you see someone flagged on your local updates that meets your preferences, seems to be into almost all the same things as you, professes to be looking for fuckbuddies that are roughly the same height and build as you and even has a PARTNER that looks quite like you, they still delete your polite and articulately-written message without replying. That DOES seem quite nonsensical, especially when a day or so later they're still practically begging for a hookup from 'anyone available' on their status update- although I also fully understand that the long hair I grew back over three Cockdowns will not be to everybody's taste [which is one of the reasons why it's getting a trim before Swingathon, the heat being another] In short, some ten years on from joining Fab, I have come to the conclusion that much as with most things in life- politics, computers, musical tastes, football - there ARE no constants only variables, nothing makes any form of linear sense, and you can't even remotely attempt to second guess it. Pandemic or no pandemic, human beings will always be fallible and ultimately a bit crap. However, that hasn't stopped me having immense ammounts of fun at most of the clubs I've attended for the last 25 years, and playing with some amazing people who also quite seemed to like me. I've just never met very many of them on here. I suppose the more pertinent question, therefore, is when those clubs will open up again, and under what if any restrictions. Only time, and the machinations of politicians and businessmen, will tell... We get this a lot, people who message us because they match our likes perfectly. Attraction is a two way street. Just because you fancy me, doesn't mean I'll fancy you. I don't know why some people don't understand or appreciate this. No matter how well constructed their message is, if they're not attractive to us, no amount of "I match your profile perfectly will compensate for the the fact that we just don't fancy them. Thinking it will is misguided at best. E It does come across as a little bizarre, however, when - as I said above - you see a picture of their regular partner and they look almost exactly like you. As has happened a couple of times. I can't speak for anybody else, but it makes me think that maybe they don't really fancy THEM either. But that's a conversation for them to have between one another. In a way, I'm glad I don't have to be involved." I personally wouldn't want to meet someone similar to my husband as I come here for something different, it's like my husband has tattoos & a shaved head, but I prefer guys without tattoos & I love guys with long hair doesn't mean I don't fancy him but when I'm given a choice of guys here, I'm likely to go for the guys without tattoos & long curly hair | |||
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"Well I can't speak for the OP as I've never seen their profile- although obviously, I guess that most couples and single women on this site must be literally inundated with requests, for such is the strata of our society. And with time being limited, they can't always reply to, read or consider all of them individually. They would LITERALLY, not even figuratively, be there all day. What I understand less, perhaps, is why when you see someone flagged on your local updates that meets your preferences, seems to be into almost all the same things as you, professes to be looking for fuckbuddies that are roughly the same height and build as you and even has a PARTNER that looks quite like you, they still delete your polite and articulately-written message without replying. That DOES seem quite nonsensical, especially when a day or so later they're still practically begging for a hookup from 'anyone available' on their status update- although I also fully understand that the long hair I grew back over three Cockdowns will not be to everybody's taste [which is one of the reasons why it's getting a trim before Swingathon, the heat being another] In short, some ten years on from joining Fab, I have come to the conclusion that much as with most things in life- politics, computers, musical tastes, football - there ARE no constants only variables, nothing makes any form of linear sense, and you can't even remotely attempt to second guess it. Pandemic or no pandemic, human beings will always be fallible and ultimately a bit crap. However, that hasn't stopped me having immense ammounts of fun at most of the clubs I've attended for the last 25 years, and playing with some amazing people who also quite seemed to like me. I've just never met very many of them on here. I suppose the more pertinent question, therefore, is when those clubs will open up again, and under what if any restrictions. Only time, and the machinations of politicians and businessmen, will tell... We get this a lot, people who message us because they match our likes perfectly. Attraction is a two way street. Just because you fancy me, doesn't mean I'll fancy you. I don't know why some people don't understand or appreciate this. No matter how well constructed their message is, if they're not attractive to us, no amount of "I match your profile perfectly will compensate for the the fact that we just don't fancy them. Thinking it will is misguided at best. E It does come across as a little bizarre, however, when - as I said above - you see a picture of their regular partner and they look almost exactly like you. As has happened a couple of times. I can't speak for anybody else, but it makes me think that maybe they don't really fancy THEM either. But that's a conversation for them to have between one another. In a way, I'm glad I don't have to be involved. Maybe they want to find someone who is different to their regular partner rather than a clone? " Possibly, but on the whole most people have a 'type' they like and a type they don't. And when I say I look exactly like someone else or vice versa, that doesn't mean either is a 'clone' as such, merely that they're strikingly similar in appearance, aesthetic and mannerism. For what it's worth, I don't think I've ever been a precise carbon copy of anyone's partner down to every last detail; if I was I'd REALLY be worried. Though if I knew how to make one of Jan Francis circa 'Just Good Friends', I'd be in business... | |||
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"Well I can't speak for the OP as I've never seen their profile- although obviously, I guess that most couples and single women on this site must be literally inundated with requests, for such is the strata of our society. And with time being limited, they can't always reply to, read or consider all of them individually. They would LITERALLY, not even figuratively, be there all day. What I understand less, perhaps, is why when you see someone flagged on your local updates that meets your preferences, seems to be into almost all the same things as you, professes to be looking for fuckbuddies that are roughly the same height and build as you and even has a PARTNER that looks quite like you, they still delete your polite and articulately-written message without replying. That DOES seem quite nonsensical, especially when a day or so later they're still practically begging for a hookup from 'anyone available' on their status update- although I also fully understand that the long hair I grew back over three Cockdowns will not be to everybody's taste [which is one of the reasons why it's getting a trim before Swingathon, the heat being another] In short, some ten years on from joining Fab, I have come to the conclusion that much as with most things in life- politics, computers, musical tastes, football - there ARE no constants only variables, nothing makes any form of linear sense, and you can't even remotely attempt to second guess it. Pandemic or no pandemic, human beings will always be fallible and ultimately a bit crap. However, that hasn't stopped me having immense ammounts of fun at most of the clubs I've attended for the last 25 years, and playing with some amazing people who also quite seemed to like me. I've just never met very many of them on here. I suppose the more pertinent question, therefore, is when those clubs will open up again, and under what if any restrictions. Only time, and the machinations of politicians and businessmen, will tell... We get this a lot, people who message us because they match our likes perfectly. Attraction is a two way street. Just because you fancy me, doesn't mean I'll fancy you. I don't know why some people don't understand or appreciate this. No matter how well constructed their message is, if they're not attractive to us, no amount of "I match your profile perfectly will compensate for the the fact that we just don't fancy them. Thinking it will is misguided at best. E It does come across as a little bizarre, however, when - as I said above - you see a picture of their regular partner and they look almost exactly like you. As has happened a couple of times. I can't speak for anybody else, but it makes me think that maybe they don't really fancy THEM either. But that's a conversation for them to have between one another. In a way, I'm glad I don't have to be involved." It's not bizarre at all. You seem to be focussed on " the bloke she fucks looks just like me, so clearly she'll fuck me too" There's a chap at a club we visited pre Covid, same build as M, very similar look to M, even down to their "hairstyle" People often jokingly ask if they're brothers. He's a very nice chap and we get on really well. Despite how similar they ate, he doesn't have M's personality. I won't be fucking him. E | |||
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Your photos are very similar and the ones with you posing with your middle fingers in them give an aggressive “fuck you” type of attitude which can be off putting, this may be where you are going wrong, maybe do a few different angles with your ass, in lingerie etc and people may be more responsive.
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"Looks like u blocked me too" Are you bi??? | |||
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"Why?" Just wondering because I wouldn’t block someone for no reason | |||
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"Your profile is very confusing. No tattoos or piercings stated but both can be seen in photos. You mention a balaclava because of your job but your face is shown. The last part re couples, women etc just adds to the confusion. "Okay okay I understand what you are saying but when I had my balaclava on in my pictures everyone on the forums said that the balaclava is intimidating so that’s why now I’m showing all my pictures and the other reason why I’m showing all my pictures is because most of the people on here keep asking for more pictures | |||
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"Wow your profile comes off as very aggressive giving the finger in pictures and a video of your naked rantings about fab think your looking in the wrong place for what you want" Ok | |||
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"Your profile is very confusing. No tattoos or piercings stated but both can be seen in photos. You mention a balaclava because of your job but your face is shown. The last part re couples, women etc just adds to the confusion.
Okay okay I understand what you are saying but when I had my balaclava on in my pictures everyone on the forums said that the balaclava is intimidating so that’s why now I’m showing all my pictures and the other reason why I’m showing all my pictures is because most of the people on here keep asking for more pictures "Then update your text so its relevant and accurate. | |||
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"Tbh your profile, and this thread, portray you as aggressive and high maintenance. I'd suggest toning it down, keeping it simple and upbeat and show a bit of your lighthearted side. Guys and couples here want to have fun and avoid drama. " I know that that’s what I’m trying to do plus I’m trying not to bring drama on fab Honestly at this moment in time I’m taking a break I’m not even pissed anymore I’m over everything the couples that ghosted me their loss my profile is whatever I’m just doing my own thing from now on. And one thing that I have noticed is that the couples that have ghosted me don’t seem to comment on the forums about me I’m not trying to cause anything I’m just pointing something out. Literally my last post was asking about clubs and stuff and then some comment to bring it all back up | |||
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"Tbh your profile, and this thread, portray you as aggressive and high maintenance. I'd suggest toning it down, keeping it simple and upbeat and show a bit of your lighthearted side. Guys and couples here want to have fun and avoid drama. I know that that’s what I’m trying to do plus I’m trying not to bring drama on fab Honestly at this moment in time I’m taking a break I’m not even pissed anymore I’m over everything the couples that ghosted me their loss my profile is whatever I’m just doing my own thing from now on. And one thing that I have noticed is that the couples that have ghosted me don’t seem to comment on the forums about me I’m not trying to cause anything I’m just pointing something out. Literally my last post was asking about clubs and stuff and then some comment to bring it all back up " It’s against the forum rules to name snd shame hence why the couples you have contacted haven’t commented. Too much drama as despite what anyone has said or advised you to do you have a immature aggressive comment!! Seams to me your looking for an argument!! | |||
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"Tbh your profile, and this thread, portray you as aggressive and high maintenance. I'd suggest toning it down, keeping it simple and upbeat and show a bit of your lighthearted side. Guys and couples here want to have fun and avoid drama. I know that that’s what I’m trying to do plus I’m trying not to bring drama on fab Honestly at this moment in time I’m taking a break I’m not even pissed anymore I’m over everything the couples that ghosted me their loss my profile is whatever I’m just doing my own thing from now on. And one thing that I have noticed is that the couples that have ghosted me don’t seem to comment on the forums about me I’m not trying to cause anything I’m just pointing something out. Literally my last post was asking about clubs and stuff and then some comment to bring it all back up It’s against the forum rules to name snd shame hence why the couples you have contacted haven’t commented. Too much drama as despite what anyone has said or advised you to do you have a immature aggressive comment!! Seams to me your looking for an argument!! " I’m not, and honestly I haven’t named anyone and I’m not planning to, and my last comment was replying back to everyone, I’m not arguing or trying to be a pain in the ass. | |||
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"Tbh your profile, and this thread, portray you as aggressive and high maintenance. I'd suggest toning it down, keeping it simple and upbeat and show a bit of your lighthearted side. Guys and couples here want to have fun and avoid drama. I know that that’s what I’m trying to do plus I’m trying not to bring drama on fab Honestly at this moment in time I’m taking a break I’m not even pissed anymore I’m over everything the couples that ghosted me their loss my profile is whatever I’m just doing my own thing from now on. And one thing that I have noticed is that the couples that have ghosted me don’t seem to comment on the forums about me I’m not trying to cause anything I’m just pointing something out. Literally my last post was asking about clubs and stuff and then some comment to bring it all back up It’s against the forum rules to name snd shame hence why the couples you have contacted haven’t commented. Too much drama as despite what anyone has said or advised you to do you have a immature aggressive comment!! Seams to me your looking for an argument!! I’m not, and honestly I haven’t named anyone and I’m not planning to, and my last comment was replying back to everyone, I’m not arguing or trying to be a pain in the ass. " I have listened to the forums advice and taken it in, as I said in my last post I’m taking a back seat for a while and the only time I’m meeting is in clubs and stuff, I am greatful for all the feed back. I’m not replying to this forum anymore as I don’t need help | |||
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"Why? Just wondering because I wouldn’t block someone for no reason " Would u block me because I'm straight? | |||
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