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By *teelyBloom OP   Man
over a year ago

Swansea

Im a 18 year old fella who has had trouble finding meets on here. I cant work out whether its just me who has that problem or whether its every other guy as well. Id also love any advice to help me get some more meets

Thanks in advance for any help

H.S x

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By *redwilma666Couple
over a year ago

Kilbirnie

You can accommodate / you can't accommodate, which is it ?

You don't drive & you can travel ?

You have no idea what you want.

You have no idea what to do & want lessons.

You are only 18

You have little chance of anyone bothering as you are too much work

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By *ihimbiherCouple
over a year ago

lightwater

At 18 you should be out there pulling in the pub left right and centre.

Just a heads up, dick pics don’t get you meets!

Personality does. Try being more you.

Xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im a 18 year old fella who has had trouble finding meets on here. I cant work out whether its just me who has that problem or whether its every other guy as well. Id also love any advice to help me get some more meets

Thanks in advance for any help

H.S x"

Read the thread under yours might help mate !

Or the ten others that will pop up No doubt over the next few days !

Not been smart but they be worth a look

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

Your profile is inconsistent and dick pics are unwelcomed.

Read threads about profile improvement and then delete your current profile and start new profile, ensuring there is no connection between the two.

Would you really want to meet a woman the age of your great grandmother, aged 99?

Have a look at Tind r or Grind r, or similar sites.

This site is populated by many educated, discerning, experienced and intelligent people; it is not dial a shag for teenagers!

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. At 18 you're likely to struggle as many on here have children older than you and so that's just a no go area for them.

2. You can't accommodate and you don't drive. Have you heard of public transport?

Furthermore you've basically admitted that you've got no idea what you're doing, what you're looking fir and so you'll certainly have no idea what you can offer.

Seems to me that you think that being a Rugby type and posting a picture of your dick is going to have you fighting women off with a big stick.

Newsflash. People are on here for their own pleasure. They're not here to show you the ropes or teach you things.

Sorry to be so harsh but it seems to me that you've come to fab with expectations that will never be met.

At your age you'd be far better off getting out and about and mixing with people your own age and getting some life experience under your belt

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By *he RingmasterMan
over a year ago

Canford Cliffs


"Im a 18 year old fella who has had trouble finding meets on here. I cant work out whether its just me who has that problem or whether its every other guy as well. Id also love any advice to help me get some more meets

Thanks in advance for any help

H.S x"

You're 18 and you're in Exeter home of some of the hottest University students in the country and some amazing nightlife and you're on here

What a waste

You should be out there on the pull - work on your banter and how to chat up. How to cope with rejection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can accommodate / you can't accommodate, which is it ?

You don't drive & you can travel ?

You have no idea what you want.

You have no idea what to do & want lessons.

You are only 18

You have little chance of anyone bothering as you are too much work"

I actually think this reply is quite rude and unnecessary

It would be quite easy to politely tell the OP of the host/travel mistake.

As usual older Fab members are bashing a young lad who has just as much right to be on Fab as them.

His profile is not bad as they go, he's got just as much chance of meeting as the rest of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im a 18 year old fella who has had trouble finding meets on here. I cant work out whether its just me who has that problem or whether its every other guy as well. Id also love any advice to help me get some more meets

Thanks in advance for any help

H.S x

You're 18 and you're in Exeter home of some of the hottest University students in the country and some amazing nightlife and you're on here

What a waste

You should be out there on the pull - work on your banter and how to chat up. How to cope with rejection.

"

I guess you haven't noticed the nightlife is currently closed.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

Should be out pulling birds in pubs ,think your a bit too young for the swinging lark ,most couples on here would dread to be playing with people younger than their own children ,I would say go out and start experiencing life with girls around your own age , you may even find the older woman who wants one offs with young lads , like I did before I settled down , leave swinging till you hit the 30 mark , you would have learnt so much more ,and bring so much more to the table

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By *he RingmasterMan
over a year ago

Canford Cliffs


"Im a 18 year old fella who has had trouble finding meets on here. I cant work out whether its just me who has that problem or whether its every other guy as well. Id also love any advice to help me get some more meets

Thanks in advance for any help

H.S x

You're 18 and you're in Exeter home of some of the hottest University students in the country and some amazing nightlife and you're on here

What a waste

You should be out there on the pull - work on your banter and how to chat up. How to cope with rejection.

I guess you haven't noticed the nightlife is currently closed. "

Ok- if you want to be pedantic -

You're 18 and you're in Exeter home of some of the hottest University students in the country and some amazing pubs, bars, restaurants, cafes and ice cream parlours and you're on here

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By *he RingmasterMan
over a year ago

Canford Cliffs


"You can accommodate / you can't accommodate, which is it ?

You don't drive & you can travel ?

You have no idea what you want.

You have no idea what to do & want lessons.

You are only 18

You have little chance of anyone bothering as you are too much work

I actually think this reply is quite rude and unnecessary

It would be quite easy to politely tell the OP of the host/travel mistake.

As usual older Fab members are bashing a young lad who has just as much right to be on Fab as them.

His profile is not bad as they go, he's got just as much chance of meeting as the rest of you.

"

Us "older" Fab members have the benefit of hindsight and given our life experiences know what we would do again at 18 and it isn't being on a website looking for sex.

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Hello OP

Firstly, you will need to accept some facts. Some people on here will have zero interest in meeting with you simply because of your age. Others will be rude to you because they are dismissive of your right to meet your way. Don't get into arguements over it; the world has changed and how people meet today is different to how it was 10 years ago, let alone 30 or 40. There is nothing you can do about your age, so don't fret. You shouldn't look on it as a negative, because for some potential meets your age is a selling point.

Concentrate on finding the people that would like to meet a young man like you. Refine your search by ticking the "I must match their age requirements too" box. Also refine your search by age, distance etc. There is no point contacting people hundreds of miles away given your travel restrictions.

Once you have those search results READ their profiles. It's such basic advice but so few follow it. Don't bother messaging those whose profile you don't meet. If it says they are looking for something that doesn't match who you are then that's not you so don't waste your time or theirs.

Consider how you approach people, don't just write 'Hi', 'Fancy a chat' or any other generic one liner, It WILL get you ignored. Messaging like that doesn't work on Fab like it does with instant messaging services. Can you imagine writing Hi, waiting three days and then getting a msg back saying hi, to which you reply how are you and have to wait another three or four days for a reply? If you followed the advice above and read the persons profile then there should be some common ground to write about. Never be so crude as to send messages like 'Hey im free monday. Wanna come to my place and let me use that pussy?' You wouldn't say that sort of thing in person, so don't say it online.

Now, providing you have sent a message that will entice them to look further they will 99% of the time look at your profile before responding. So now you have to sell yourself. Quite frankly you have had ten months to fill out your profile, but it still doesn't leap out of the screen at prospective meets. Your profile could be summed up as 'I don't know what I want, with whom, or what I offer'. It says nothing about you, and could be interpreted as 'I have nothing to say so you need to contact me', which I'm sure is not the impression you intended to make.

We are a couple that do meet guys of your age, and one look at your profile would put us off from looking any further. Sadly, it is bland and doesn't stand out. It shows that you have taken no time whatsoever to use your profile to make a positive impression. Nobody knows you as well as you know you, and if you have nothing to say about yourself it could be interpreted as there is nothing worth saying about you. That's probably not true, but would you start a conversation in person with someone if you thought you would only get single word answers because they have nothing to say?

Write something about you, what you have to offer, what your limits are etc. Basically - make people interested in you. As a single guy you are already fighting an uphill battle; as a young guy too your battle isn't uphill, its practically up a cliff! That doesn't mean you won't have any luck, but you really need to look at your profile, so as to ensure you make the best possible first impression.

Dick pics are not the way to promote yourself, especially not as a profile pic if your trying to show your maturity. Everyone knows what a dick looks like, and believe it or not very few people actually want to look at row upon row of cocks when they look at a profile page. Your probably better off to leave your dick pics in your private file, if someone really wants to see it they will ask. Smiling face pics are invaluable. Next time it's a lovely day, get out and take some selfies somewhere nice, down on the Quay, in a park, the Cathedral etc.

However your profile is not everything. Getting involved with the forums and the chatroom are both great ways of getting to know people with no pressure and no first time nerves. Rather than relying on a message, show your maturity and join in conversations, you never know someone might take an interest.

When it's safe to do so... get off the site and meet people socially or try a club. You could always sign up to an organised social, where you may meet many people from the area, and perhaps make a better impression face to face than via the Internet. It might be a little nerve wracking the first time, but what harm can having a coffee or a pint with a stranger really do?

Some will give you a chance, some won't, but we wish you luck

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By *teelyBloom OP   Man
over a year ago

Swansea

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By *teelyBloom OP   Man
over a year ago

Swansea


"You can accommodate / you can't accommodate, which is it ?

You don't drive & you can travel ?

You have no idea what you want.

You have no idea what to do & want lessons.

You are only 18

You have little chance of anyone bothering as you are too much work

I actually think this reply is quite rude and unnecessary

It would be quite easy to politely tell the OP of the host/travel mistake.

As usual older Fab members are bashing a young lad who has just as much right to be on Fab as them.

His profile is not bad as they go, he's got just as much chance of meeting as the rest of you.

"
Thanks for your help. This has really helped me a lot and i wish the rest of fab was more like you. Have a good day x

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By *teelyBloom OP   Man
over a year ago

Swansea


"Should be out pulling birds in pubs ,think your a bit too young for the swinging lark ,most couples on here would dread to be playing with people younger than their own children ,I would say go out and start experiencing life with girls around your own age , you may even find the older woman who wants one offs with young lads , like I did before I settled down , leave swinging till you hit the 30 mark , you would have learnt so much more ,and bring so much more to the table "
Thank you for that good advice. Ive plans to go to pubs and clubs when everything is back to normal. Thanks for your help and insight. Have a good day x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my opinion you are far too young to be on here. Should be 21 i think. You are practically still a child and very few people will want to meet a guy so young. At your age you dont need to be on the internet begging for sex. Go enjoy life and get some life experience. Sorry to be blunt but dont waste your life cos it goes so quick. All the best

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By *teelyBloom OP   Man
over a year ago

Swansea


"In my opinion you are far too young to be on here. Should be 21 i think. You are practically still a child and very few people will want to meet a guy so young. At your age you dont need to be on the internet begging for sex. Go enjoy life and get some life experience. Sorry to be blunt but dont waste your life cos it goes so quick. All the best"
Thanks mate. Im planning to get out in the real world when things begin to get back to normal, thanks for the advice

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By *ueenieHWoman
over a year ago

leeds

Some of the comments on here are disgusting poor lad is asking for advice not to have people get nasty with them, fully grown adults as well.

My advice is wait till your 21, you just need to experience behind you and explore for yourself before trying a site like this, then you'll have women interested. This site isn't full of horrible people there are some extremely nice people as well.

Women prefer a guy that knows what he's doing as well. You just need to get out there and experiment first

Hope this helps

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

This is the advice section, not a tear a new member apart section

A lot of the answers are dismissive and patronising, the man is an adult and is allowed on here like the rest of us

To the OP, there will be someone about who wants to meet a younger man and even to show them the ropes, if you have any luck then stick around on the forum or use chat and it may get you noticed that way for now.

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

The only advice I would give, is don't get older.

It's Hell on the knees.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The only advice I would give, is don't get older.

It's Hell on the knees."

Brilliant !!!!!

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By *teelyBloom OP   Man
over a year ago

Swansea


"Some of the comments on here are disgusting poor lad is asking for advice not to have people get nasty with them, fully grown adults as well.

My advice is wait till your 21, you just need to experience behind you and explore for yourself before trying a site like this, then you'll have women interested. This site isn't full of horrible people there are some extremely nice people as well.

Women prefer a guy that knows what he's doing as well. You just need to get out there and experiment first

Hope this helps "
Thank you. That helps a lot. Im looking to meet people in pubs and clubs when everything is more normal

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By *teelyBloom OP   Man
over a year ago

Swansea


"This is the advice section, not a tear a new member apart section

A lot of the answers are dismissive and patronising, the man is an adult and is allowed on here like the rest of us

To the OP, there will be someone about who wants to meet a younger man and even to show them the ropes, if you have any luck then stick around on the forum or use chat and it may get you noticed that way for now."
Thanks for your help. Would you advise posting another post asking if there are people who are willing to teach me?

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By *ueenieHWoman
over a year ago

leeds


"Some of the comments on here are disgusting poor lad is asking for advice not to have people get nasty with them, fully grown adults as well.

My advice is wait till your 21, you just need to experience behind you and explore for yourself before trying a site like this, then you'll have women interested. This site isn't full of horrible people there are some extremely nice people as well.

Women prefer a guy that knows what he's doing as well. You just need to get out there and experiment first

Hope this helps Thank you. That helps a lot. Im looking to meet people in pubs and clubs when everything is more normal "

Reading the forums and talking to people on here will help as well, you learn from others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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This site is populated by many educated, discerning, experienced and intelligent people; it is not dial a shag for teenagers!

"

Really? I’ve read some pompous replies in my time on the forums and this is up there with the best of them.

The OP has asked for advice in a polite and honest way. Was it necessary to reply in such a condescending manner?

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

Shock tactics.

Designed to provide a short, sharp shock to bring the OP to the realisation that this is an alternative lifestyle site, not a sex site.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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Op fact is you won't be what most people are looking for, so my top tip is read profiles and don't waste your time on the profiles who aren't specifically looking for young guys as you are very unlikely to change their mind. There are people who will meet your age range so put your energy in to getting to know them as you are very unlikely to convert others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can accommodate / you can't accommodate, which is it ?

You don't drive & you can travel ?

You have no idea what you want.

You have no idea what to do & want lessons.

You are only 18

You have little chance of anyone bothering as you are too much work"

Wow. Give him a break. He's 18. Do you have a son? He asked for advice not a lecture

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

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"Shock tactics.

Designed to provide a short, sharp shock to bring the OP to the realisation that this is an alternative lifestyle site, not a sex site.

"

The comments were blunt, but they were however true.

A lot of people come to this site with a totally different idea of what it is all about.

They get blinded by all the possible sex about, and they want some. Nothing wrong in that, but it isn't the free for all sexfest that they think it is!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im a 18 year old fella who has had trouble finding meets on here. I cant work out whether its just me who has that problem or whether its every other guy as well. Id also love any advice to help me get some more meets

Thanks in advance for any help

H.S x"

I’m in good shape and chat well to others but it’s very rare for a guy on here to get a meet .. it’s hard work I’m afraid

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By *he RingmasterMan
over a year ago

Canford Cliffs


"Shock tactics.

Designed to provide a short, sharp shock to bring the OP to the realisation that this is an alternative lifestyle site, not a sex site.

The comments were blunt, but they were however true.

A lot of people come to this site with a totally different idea of what it is all about.

They get blinded by all the possible sex about, and they want some. Nothing wrong in that, but it isn't the free for all sexfest that they think it is!"

Also are people only allowed to dish out "nice advice"?

What if someone comes on and wrote "i got into swinging at 18 and it messed up my concepts of sex and relationships which led to years of therapy and the fact I'm warped at the age of 40"

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"This is the advice section, not a tear a new member apart section

A lot of the answers are dismissive and patronising, the man is an adult and is allowed on here like the rest of us

To the OP, there will be someone about who wants to meet a younger man and even to show them the ropes, if you have any luck then stick around on the forum or use chat and it may get you noticed that way for now.Thanks for your help. Would you advise posting another post asking if there are people who are willing to teach me?"

You could do but to be honest, only about 1% of the site use the forum so you would be limiting who will see the post

I would keep it on your profile or status and post a meet on your profile , more people may see that, then stick around here, even if you don't get a meet from people on the forum it will keep you amused.

Good luck

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By *r-OreoMan
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Hello OP

Firstly, you will need to accept some facts. Some people on here will have zero interest in meeting with you simply because of your age. Others will be rude to you because they are dismissive of your right to meet your way. Don't get into arguements over it; the world has changed and how people meet today is different to how it was 10 years ago, let alone 30 or 40. There is nothing you can do about your age, so don't fret. You shouldn't look on it as a negative, because for some potential meets your age is a selling point.

Concentrate on finding the people that would like to meet a young man like you. Refine your search by ticking the "I must match their age requirements too" box. Also refine your search by age, distance etc. There is no point contacting people hundreds of miles away given your travel restrictions.

Once you have those search results READ their profiles. It's such basic advice but so few follow it. Don't bother messaging those whose profile you don't meet. If it says they are looking for something that doesn't match who you are then that's not you so don't waste your time or theirs.

Consider how you approach people, don't just write 'Hi', 'Fancy a chat' or any other generic one liner, It WILL get you ignored. Messaging like that doesn't work on Fab like it does with instant messaging services. Can you imagine writing Hi, waiting three days and then getting a msg back saying hi, to which you reply how are you and have to wait another three or four days for a reply? If you followed the advice above and read the persons profile then there should be some common ground to write about. Never be so crude as to send messages like 'Hey im free monday. Wanna come to my place and let me use that pussy?' You wouldn't say that sort of thing in person, so don't say it online.

Now, providing you have sent a message that will entice them to look further they will 99% of the time look at your profile before responding. So now you have to sell yourself. Quite frankly you have had ten months to fill out your profile, but it still doesn't leap out of the screen at prospective meets. Your profile could be summed up as 'I don't know what I want, with whom, or what I offer'. It says nothing about you, and could be interpreted as 'I have nothing to say so you need to contact me', which I'm sure is not the impression you intended to make.

We are a couple that do meet guys of your age, and one look at your profile would put us off from looking any further. Sadly, it is bland and doesn't stand out. It shows that you have taken no time whatsoever to use your profile to make a positive impression. Nobody knows you as well as you know you, and if you have nothing to say about yourself it could be interpreted as there is nothing worth saying about you. That's probably not true, but would you start a conversation in person with someone if you thought you would only get single word answers because they have nothing to say?

Write something about you, what you have to offer, what your limits are etc. Basically - make people interested in you. As a single guy you are already fighting an uphill battle; as a young guy too your battle isn't uphill, its practically up a cliff! That doesn't mean you won't have any luck, but you really need to look at your profile, so as to ensure you make the best possible first impression.

Dick pics are not the way to promote yourself, especially not as a profile pic if your trying to show your maturity. Everyone knows what a dick looks like, and believe it or not very few people actually want to look at row upon row of cocks when they look at a profile page. Your probably better off to leave your dick pics in your private file, if someone really wants to see it they will ask. Smiling face pics are invaluable. Next time it's a lovely day, get out and take some selfies somewhere nice, down on the Quay, in a park, the Cathedral etc.

However your profile is not everything. Getting involved with the forums and the chatroom are both great ways of getting to know people with no pressure and no first time nerves. Rather than relying on a message, show your maturity and join in conversations, you never know someone might take an interest.

When it's safe to do so... get off the site and meet people socially or try a club. You could always sign up to an organised social, where you may meet many people from the area, and perhaps make a better impression face to face than via the Internet. It might be a little nerve wracking the first time, but what harm can having a coffee or a pint with a stranger really do?

Some will give you a chance, some won't, but we wish you luck "

I joined fabs at 18. It was very very difficult for me..I agree with everything you said. I wish this advice was available to me then

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By *r-OreoMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

OP, as someone who's been in your shoes. You have 2 options, quit fabs and just focus on real life hookup or tinder. That's alot easier.

Or take the hard option and take the advice given and just build your profile.. Thats very difficult but in like 3 to 4 years you would've built enough reputation and enough network that you'd only be after the social side of fabs because the sex part would be a given.

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley


"Should be out pulling birds in pubs ...

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Maybe he wants to avoid years wasted on that usually fruitless pastime!

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By *omerset tvTV/TS
over a year ago

Weston-super-Mare


"Should be out pulling birds in pubs ...

Maybe he wants to avoid years wasted on that usually fruitless pastime!"

lol fab meets dont generally turn into years of misery and tortue called marriage to which you spend rest of your life paying for the biggest mistake you are ever likely to make

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By *teelyBloom OP   Man
over a year ago

Swansea


"Op fact is you won't be what most people are looking for, so my top tip is read profiles and don't waste your time on the profiles who aren't specifically looking for young guys as you are very unlikely to change their mind. There are people who will meet your age range so put your energy in to getting to know them as you are very unlikely to convert others."
Thanks this is a great help. I will try to target my search a bit more

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By *uncherUKMan
over a year ago

Woodford

Can you imagine the responses of the OP said she was an 18 year old female????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can you imagine the responses of the OP said she was an 18 year old female????

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Great point ! But I forget sometimes these are new people on here but I’ve no patience for people on here for a long period !

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

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"Can you imagine the responses of the OP said she was an 18 year old female????

"

Agree totally.

But he isn't.

When have you last seen an 18 year old female post something like this??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can you imagine the responses of the OP said she was an 18 year old female????

Agree totally.

But he isn't.

When have you last seen an 18 year old female post something like this??"

Bebo

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

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"Can you imagine the responses of the OP said she was an 18 year old female????

Agree totally.

But he isn't.

When have you last seen an 18 year old female post something like this??

Bebo "

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By *wistedTooCouple
over a year ago

Frimley


"1. At 18 you're likely to struggle as many on here have children older than you and so that's just a no go area for them.

2. You can't accommodate and you don't drive. Have you heard of public transport?

Furthermore you've basically admitted that you've got no idea what you're doing, what you're looking fir and so you'll certainly have no idea what you can offer.

Seems to me that you think that being a Rugby type and posting a picture of your dick is going to have you fighting women off with a big stick.

Newsflash. People are on here for their own pleasure. They're not here to show you the ropes or teach you things.

Sorry to be so harsh but it seems to me that you've come to fab with expectations that will never be met.

At your age you'd be far better off getting out and about and mixing with people your own age and getting some life experience under your belt"

It does sound harsh but that last point is on point…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can you imagine the responses of the OP said she was an 18 year old female????

Agree totally.

But he isn't.

When have you last seen an 18 year old female post something like this??

Bebo

?"

Kinda like Facebook before Facebook was big

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By *22Bee222Man
over a year ago

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All I can say is the best of luck to you. The people saying you should be out pulling in clubs clearly haven't considered that you might be here to understand swinging and get involved. Yeah your profile has a few inconsistencies but so do most people of here (mine included). Once things open up try hitting a club and speaking to people face to face. After your first visit you'll have a better understanding on how this little world works and go from there. As a fellow single guy on here beleive me when I say; be prepared for months of disappointment and many unopened messages. It's just the way things are on here. The numbers are not even close

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By *teelyBloom OP   Man
over a year ago

Swansea


"All I can say is the best of luck to you. The people saying you should be out pulling in clubs clearly haven't considered that you might be here to understand swinging and get involved. Yeah your profile has a few inconsistencies but so do most people of here (mine included). Once things open up try hitting a club and speaking to people face to face. After your first visit you'll have a better understanding on how this little world works and go from there. As a fellow single guy on here beleive me when I say; be prepared for months of disappointment and many unopened messages. It's just the way things are on here. The numbers are not even close "
Thanks mate. That is my plan. Just waiting for things to open up again. I would love to learn about this little world more though. Maybe in the future

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You still have a chance here OP, I’ve had messages from older couples and women that are looking for younger guys, it’s all about patience really.

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By *assNGuyCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Thanks mate. That is my plan. Just waiting for things to open up again. I would love to learn about this little world more though. Maybe in the future"

What brought you to this site in first place?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is hard work for any single bloke I've been on here before and it's fucking hard work now don't know if it cause of covid or what was never this hard about 8 year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im a 18 year old fella who has had trouble finding meets on here. I cant work out whether its just me who has that problem or whether its every other guy as well. Id also love any advice to help me get some more meets

Thanks in advance for any help

H.S x"

Yes, why not try doing what young folks always used to do and date girls in a normal way. By the time you get old there will be nothing new to explore and you won’t have a clue how normal relationships work. Just a thought lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He’s met an older woman, he’s got a good review from her on he’s profile, so proves there are people willing to meet an 18 year old , fill ya boots , we were all hes age once , give him some slack

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just give a bit more time, you need to learn to be patient. You are young, tall and rugby player. Some couple will contact you at some point.

It’s good you are interested in the kinky lifestyle. Don’t listen the old boring crew and follow your instincts…. Good luck

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"Yes, why not try doing what young folks always used to do and date girls in a normal way. By the time you get old there will be nothing new to explore and you won’t have a clue how normal relationships work. Just a thought lol "

In fairness to the OP, the way people meet at 18 today is vastly different to the way it was when you were 18.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, why not try doing what young folks always used to do and date girls in a normal way. By the time you get old there will be nothing new to explore and you won’t have a clue how normal relationships work. Just a thought lol

In fairness to the OP, the way people meet at 18 today is vastly different to the way it was when you were 18. "

We still had bebo !

Not all that different ! Throw a heart someone’s direction and your already in the good graces

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By *etal MickeyMan
over a year ago

Blackpool


"Hello OP

Firstly, you will need to accept some facts. Some people on here will have zero interest in meeting with you simply because of your age. Others will be rude to you because they are dismissive of your right to meet your way. Don't get into arguements over it; the world has changed and how people meet today is different to how it was 10 years ago, let alone 30 or 40. There is nothing you can do about your age, so don't fret. You shouldn't look on it as a negative, because for some potential meets your age is a selling point.

Concentrate on finding the people that would like to meet a young man like you. Refine your search by ticking the "I must match their age requirements too" box. Also refine your search by age, distance etc. There is no point contacting people hundreds of miles away given your travel restrictions.

Once you have those search results READ their profiles. It's such basic advice but so few follow it. Don't bother messaging those whose profile you don't meet. If it says they are looking for something that doesn't match who you are then that's not you so don't waste your time or theirs.

Consider how you approach people, don't just write 'Hi', 'Fancy a chat' or any other generic one liner, It WILL get you ignored. Messaging like that doesn't work on Fab like it does with instant messaging services. Can you imagine writing Hi, waiting three days and then getting a msg back saying hi, to which you reply how are you and have to wait another three or four days for a reply? If you followed the advice above and read the persons profile then there should be some common ground to write about. Never be so crude as to send messages like 'Hey im free monday. Wanna come to my place and let me use that pussy?' You wouldn't say that sort of thing in person, so don't say it online.

Now, providing you have sent a message that will entice them to look further they will 99% of the time look at your profile before responding. So now you have to sell yourself. Quite frankly you have had ten months to fill out your profile, but it still doesn't leap out of the screen at prospective meets. Your profile could be summed up as 'I don't know what I want, with whom, or what I offer'. It says nothing about you, and could be interpreted as 'I have nothing to say so you need to contact me', which I'm sure is not the impression you intended to make.

We are a couple that do meet guys of your age, and one look at your profile would put us off from looking any further. Sadly, it is bland and doesn't stand out. It shows that you have taken no time whatsoever to use your profile to make a positive impression. Nobody knows you as well as you know you, and if you have nothing to say about yourself it could be interpreted as there is nothing worth saying about you. That's probably not true, but would you start a conversation in person with someone if you thought you would only get single word answers because they have nothing to say?

Write something about you, what you have to offer, what your limits are etc. Basically - make people interested in you. As a single guy you are already fighting an uphill battle; as a young guy too your battle isn't uphill, its practically up a cliff! That doesn't mean you won't have any luck, but you really need to look at your profile, so as to ensure you make the best possible first impression.

Dick pics are not the way to promote yourself, especially not as a profile pic if your trying to show your maturity. Everyone knows what a dick looks like, and believe it or not very few people actually want to look at row upon row of cocks when they look at a profile page. Your probably better off to leave your dick pics in your private file, if someone really wants to see it they will ask. Smiling face pics are invaluable. Next time it's a lovely day, get out and take some selfies somewhere nice, down on the Quay, in a park, the Cathedral etc.

However your profile is not everything. Getting involved with the forums and the chatroom are both great ways of getting to know people with no pressure and no first time nerves. Rather than relying on a message, show your maturity and join in conversations, you never know someone might take an interest.

When it's safe to do so... get off the site and meet people socially or try a club. You could always sign up to an organised social, where you may meet many people from the area, and perhaps make a better impression face to face than via the Internet. It might be a little nerve wracking the first time, but what harm can having a coffee or a pint with a stranger really do?

Some will give you a chance, some won't, but we wish you luck "

Perfect advice.

It is hard for single guys. Getting a verification or 2 from social meets or in a club even if you don't get to play can work wonders.

As has been said meeting in person can leave a completely different impression.

I had a message deleted by someone I later met in a club & things went so well we actually ended up dating so when it's possible & safe get your self out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im a 18 year old fella who has had trouble finding meets on here. I cant work out whether its just me who has that problem or whether its every other guy as well. Id also love any advice to help me get some more meets

Thanks in advance for any help

H.S x"

Some of the responses are harsh, but kind of true too.

I'd change the pics, a dick shown from many angles won't get you anywhere show more of yourself, there's plenty of dicks to see on fab.

Take out the I don't know what I'm doing, that's really off putting.

Talk about your likes etc away from fab too, what kind of person are you, what are you looking for and what do you have to offer.

Hope that's of some help, unfortunately with your age I think this site maybe hard for you to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

my advice would be, go out and have some fun with people your own age, get some experiance before trying swinging, nobody wants to have to teach someone who doesnt know what they are doing, i dont mean that in a bad way, but most swingers are old enough to be your parents, so are unlikely to want to meet you

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

Hello OP. I feel embarrassed by the harsh , rude and imo unnecessary comments directed at you..

I am delighted to see you have had a meet and got yourself a verification.

Nothing more than you deserve after making yourself vulnerable by simply asking for guidance.

Be yourself, make your own mistakes and find your way around this site, it is difficult not to take things personally and looking back at some of the comments, made by people old enough to know better..

Stick around if this is what you want, and I guarantee it will get better and easier for you.

All the best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kids! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hello OP. I feel embarrassed by the harsh , rude and imo unnecessary comments directed at you..

I am delighted to see you have had a meet and got yourself a verification.

Nothing more than you deserve after making yourself vulnerable by simply asking for guidance.

Be yourself, make your own mistakes and find your way around this site, it is difficult not to take things personally and looking back at some of the comments, made by people old enough to know better..

Stick around if this is what you want, and I guarantee it will get better and easier for you.

All the best "

Agreed mate and you can look on my comments I wasn’t having a dig at this young man !

But some of the comments I feel weren’t directed at him just this scenario we see day in day out !

Yeah people should pay attention and this kid seems genuine but he’s one out of probably 10 we seen in 2 weeks and most of them are for attention off women !

Great advice by the way

I ain’t knocking you but I also see where some of the negative comments came from !

pink gin waffles

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

My advice is to create expectations that won't leave you dejected and are realistic.

Take the recommendations on board from others, about reading other forum posts on optimising your profile and interaction with others.

If you see fab social meetings locally, pop along and show your friendliness. It's helpful to know others.

If you stick with contacting those of us who include your age within our preferences, it will prevent you wasting efforts on those others who prefer different people.

It is hard for all single men here. Ensure that you look after yourself, so that you stay away, if you find it troubles you at any point - take a break.

Good luck!

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By *ingAlive999Man
over a year ago

London

Ive been herd over year and still havent met anyone in real life. Its because of various reasons. Perhaps someone didnt like the way i approach or msg, some ither ppl is lookin for different age than mine, or different out look..,

perhaps its my profile bio. Good knows, but i dont give up, now and then i slightly change my profile bio. Update photos.... And most importantly im being myself, no fake facts or whatever..

If 267 ppl didnt hang to long in my prof, its fine. Eventually there will be someone who might be interested in me....

And another thing... Here is way too many guys. And 90% of us are like hungry animals. Expecially after lock down.

Chin up. Your time will come.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Loads of gorgeous 20-somethings on here for you to choose from, probably doubled in the last ten years.

Be patient, if you can't accommodate, think hotels and sharing the bill.

Always be courteous with replies, even if they're not!

Enjoy the site but don't make it your life!

Good luck

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By *aughtycouple12000Couple
over a year ago

Kidderminster

You are 18. Go out and find a girlfriend/boyfriend. Have fun experience life before experiencing sexual fantasy...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Im a 18 year old fella who has had trouble finding meets on here. I cant work out whether its just me who has that problem or whether its every other guy as well. Id also love any advice to help me get some more meets

Thanks in advance for any help

H.S x"

Probably already been said but you've been a member for 11 months.

So aside from all the usual supply and demand issues for single men, there has been a global pandemic.

What were your expectations?

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By *dx69Man
over a year ago

London


"You can accommodate / you can't accommodate, which is it ?

You don't drive & you can travel ?

You have no idea what you want.

You have no idea what to do & want lessons.

You are only 18

You have little chance of anyone bothering as you are too much work"

Needlessly harsh. Maybe don’t be so mean to the lad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You can accommodate / you can't accommodate, which is it ?

You don't drive & you can travel ?

You have no idea what you want.

You have no idea what to do & want lessons.

You are only 18

You have little chance of anyone bothering as you are too much work"

I'm sure he would not be interested in grafting for you fine specimens. Delusional to think so.

Good look OP, just be you

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