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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi. This is Lee here. Sorry might be a long question. About us to start with. We are a happily married, strong couple. We have been together for 25 years and have been through many good and bad times together. We have a very busy life with children work etc. Unfortunately the last 5 years or so we have drifted apart sexually both thinking that the other was content without a physical relationship. Now, for one reason or another we realised that we did both want that closeness

again and have made the effort to have more intimate time together and things are going great apart from one thing. I struggle with penetrative sex. I either cum too quick or literally lose my erection. Now both these things I am addressing with weight loss, exercise etc.

So, brings me to why we joined Fab. We thought we could find a guy that Marie could meet alone with the idea of me maybe watching etc. This has proved more difficult than we thought and the main reason is that most of the single guys who Marie talks to turn out to be Married and cheating. We don’t want to be the reason for a relationship breakdown.

So was wondering if it’s worth looking for couples where we could all meet for a chat with a view to Marie having meets with the male or maybe the couple alone. Once I have addressed my own issues I may want to participate too. Has anyone had experience with anything similar?

Sorry for the long post. Any advice appreciated.

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple
over a year ago

Essex

Have you both talked about possibly attending a club? Not with the intent on playing, that’ll happen if/when you decide it’s right, but with the intent on meeting, chatting, possibly watching or even flirting or just to enjoy being flirted with? We’ve found the VA to be very welcoming of first-timers. You could wear smart casual, like you would on a date, then change to something later if you’re feeling it. There’s never any pressure or expectations from or towards anyone and may be just the thing to help.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Have you both talked about possibly attending a club? Not with the intent on playing, that’ll happen if/when you decide it’s right, but with the intent on meeting, chatting, possibly watching or even flirting or just to enjoy being flirted with? We’ve found the VA to be very welcoming of first-timers. You could wear smart casual, like you would on a date, then change to something later if you’re feeling it. There’s never any pressure or expectations from or towards anyone and may be just the thing to help. "

Hi. Thanks for the reply. Yes it is something we

have discussed and have been looking at VA although, as I’m sure most new people are, feel nervous about going for the first time.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

Agree with last reply , why not try a club with the intention of just meeting others and to be somewhere with sexual vibe , plenty couples play with either husband or wife with their partners watching , we would be happy to help if you liked us , either as couple with your wife or me alone with your wife as my wife likes to have fun with guys alone , she would have no problem with you joining in , us males do sometimes cum quickly or not manage to get a hard on , it’s natural and has happened to me .but I never disappoint wife as I always make sure she has a good time with either fingers , tongue or the help of any horny guy or woman she likes

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton


"Agree with last reply , why not try a club with the intention of just meeting others and to be somewhere with sexual vibe , plenty couples play with either husband or wife with their partners watching , we would be happy to help if you liked us , either as couple with your wife or me alone with your wife as my wife likes to have fun with guys alone , she would have no problem with you joining in , us males do sometimes cum quickly or not manage to get a hard on , it’s natural and has happened to me .but I never disappoint wife as I always make sure she has a good time with either fingers , tongue or the help of any horny guy or woman she likes "
ps we go to jaydees which is also a very good club for newbies

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Agree with last reply , why not try a club with the intention of just meeting others and to be somewhere with sexual vibe , plenty couples play with either husband or wife with their partners watching , we would be happy to help if you liked us , either as couple with your wife or me alone with your wife as my wife likes to have fun with guys alone , she would have no problem with you joining in , us males do sometimes cum quickly or not manage to get a hard on , it’s natural and has happened to me .but I never disappoint wife as I always make sure she has a good time with either fingers , tongue or the help of any horny guy or woman she likes "

Thanks. We have definitely been enjoying each other without full on sex, we have plenty of toys etc, but I know she does like full penetration. Things are getting better, I’m hoping a more healthy lifestyle will improve things my end.

Will look into Jaydees. Thanks.

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple
over a year ago

Essex


"…as I’m sure most new people are, feel nervous about going for the first time. "

We totally get that. So much so, we drove 1:15 to VA just to site in the car park and see what type of “characters” went in. (Even we laugh at how rediculous that sounds now ) …we had no intention of going in that night at all, and if it wasn’t for all the water i drank on the journey, that’s where it would have ended. As it was, I needed the loo before our drive home, so we decided to go up and ask for a show-around on the pretence of then asking to use the loo (again, still laughing at ourselves). The gentleman (and he was a gentleman) looked taken aback at our request for a show-around but gave us a tour nonetheless. It was 9:30, the week before the first lockdown and there were some quite nervous looking faces, sitting, drinking and chatting - it looked just like any other bar you’d go to. We said our polite thanks & goodbye then left. I’d forgotten all about the loo and drove to the bears pub a few mins away for a pint & pee before heading home again.

We’d agreed there & them that we’d be back next week but that seems a long time ago now and lockdown had us hanging around for that day.

We’ve booked a room, for early July and can hardly wait.

Best of luck to you both on making those choices that best work for you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"…as I’m sure most new people are, feel nervous about going for the first time.

We totally get that. So much so, we drove 1:15 to VA just to site in the car park and see what type of “characters” went in. (Even we laugh at how rediculous that sounds now ) …we had no intention of going in that night at all, and if it wasn’t for all the water i drank on the journey, that’s where it would have ended. As it was, I needed the loo before our drive home, so we decided to go up and ask for a show-around on the pretence of then asking to use the loo (again, still laughing at ourselves). The gentleman (and he was a gentleman) looked taken aback at our request for a show-around but gave us a tour nonetheless. It was 9:30, the week before the first lockdown and there were some quite nervous looking faces, sitting, drinking and chatting - it looked just like any other bar you’d go to. We said our polite thanks & goodbye then left. I’d forgotten all about the loo and drove to the bears pub a few mins away for a pint & pee before heading home again.

We’d agreed there & them that we’d be back next week but that seems a long time ago now and lockdown had us hanging around for that day.

We’ve booked a room, for early July and can hardly wait.

Best of luck to you both on making those choices that best work for you. "

Haha. That definitely sounds like something we’d do. I think the club idea is the route to go. Thankyou.

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By *ee And MikeCouple
over a year ago

Cannock


"…as I’m sure most new people are, feel nervous about going for the first time.

We totally get that. So much so, we drove 1:15 to VA just to site in the car park and see what type of “characters” went in. (Even we laugh at how rediculous that sounds now ) …we had no intention of going in that night at all, and if it wasn’t for all the water i drank on the journey, that’s where it would have ended. As it was, I needed the loo before our drive home, so we decided to go up and ask for a show-around on the pretence of then asking to use the loo (again, still laughing at ourselves). The gentleman (and he was a gentleman) looked taken aback at our request for a show-around but gave us a tour nonetheless. It was 9:30, the week before the first lockdown and there were some quite nervous looking faces, sitting, drinking and chatting - it looked just like any other bar you’d go to. We said our polite thanks & goodbye then left. I’d forgotten all about the loo and drove to the bears pub a few mins away for a pint & pee before heading home again.

We’d agreed there & them that we’d be back next week but that seems a long time ago now and lockdown had us hanging around for that day.

We’ve booked a room, for early July and can hardly wait.

Best of luck to you both on making those choices that best work for you.

Haha. That definitely sounds like something we’d do. I think the club idea is the route to go. Thankyou. "

At least it will be a no pressure environment for you to dip your toes in !

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

Another vote for clubs. We go with no expectations and would be fine with relaxing and soaking up the atmosphere although it's always ended up as more than that

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Go to the VA, go with no expectations other than to go to the bar and have a damn good night and a chat with as many people as you feel comfortable with.

Have a nosey round while you're there. Getting to meet like minded people will make all the difference.

One important bit of advice.. don't be wall flowers, chat. People don't know if you want interaction unless you show them that you do.

It's just a normal night out with sexiness thrown in if you want it. Really once you get in there you'll realise there is nothing to be nervous of. Everyone is there for a good time, it's just people have different ideas of what a good time is.

I think we almost all of us do a club driveby until we actually pluck up the courage to go in lol. Then wonder what all the fuss was about lol

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the replies everyone.

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By *rK MrsJCouple
over a year ago

Kidderminster


"Hi. This is Lee here. Sorry might be a long question. About us to start with. We are a happily married, strong couple. We have been together for 25 years and have been through many good and bad times together. We have a very busy life with children work etc. Unfortunately the last 5 years or so we have drifted apart sexually both thinking that the other was content without a physical relationship. Now, for one reason or another we realised that we did both want that closeness

again and have made the effort to have more intimate time together and things are going great apart from one thing. I struggle with penetrative sex. I either cum too quick or literally lose my erection. Now both these things I am addressing with weight loss, exercise etc.

So, brings me to why we joined Fab. We thought we could find a guy that Marie could meet alone with the idea of me maybe watching etc. This has proved more difficult than we thought and the main reason is that most of the single guys who Marie talks to turn out to be Married and cheating. We don’t want to be the reason for a relationship breakdown.

So was wondering if it’s worth looking for couples where we could all meet for a chat with a view to Marie having meets with the male or maybe the couple alone. Once I have addressed my own issues I may want to participate too. Has anyone had experience with anything similar?

Sorry for the long post. Any advice appreciated. "

You could always try chams in Darlaston when it reopens very good for new people and very friendly.

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple
over a year ago

Essex


"Go to the VA, go with no expectations other than to go to the bar and have a damn good night and a chat with as many people as you feel comfortable with.

Have a nosey round while you're there. Getting to meet like minded people will make all the difference.

One important bit of advice.. don't be wall flowers, chat. People don't know if you want interaction unless you show them that you do.

It's just a normal night out with sexiness thrown in if you want it. Really once you get in there you'll realise there is nothing to be nervous of. Everyone is there for a good time, it's just people have different ideas of what a good time is.

I think we almost all of us do a club driveby until we actually pluck up the courage to go in lol. Then wonder what all the fuss was about lol

Good luck"
perfectly put

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