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By *aytrippers2021 OP Couple
over a year ago

SOUTHPORT

Hi, newbies to the world of fab.

Mrs has an interest in handcuffs, blindfolds and restraints.

Nothing heavy, just looking for advice and suggestions.

New to BDSM too.

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By *aytrippers2021 OP Couple
over a year ago

SOUTHPORT

"Hi, newbies to the world of fab.

Mrs has an interest in handcuffs, blindfolds and restraints.

Nothing heavy, just looking for advice and suggestions.

New to BDSM too."

More Bondage than S&M.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

What kind of advice are you after?

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Hi, newbies to the world of fab.

Mrs has an interest in handcuffs, blindfolds and restraints.

Nothing heavy, just looking for advice and suggestions.

New to BDSM too."

The world of BDSM is vast with so many twists and turns.

Without knowing more about what it is that interests your partner then I can only offer some basic advice.

1. Safety, safety, safety.

2. With restraints always consider the body position, and try not to put too much force or stress on limbs and joints. Keep an eye on their circulation and watch for any numbness or pins and needles, ensure restraints are not too tight.

3. Restraint type - I would recommend some velcro style ones to begin with - perhaps under bed restraints - as they can be removed quickly and with little fuss. Don't go for full leather/metal locking restraints straight away. I also wouldn’t bother with handcuffs until you are a bit more comfortable with what you want to do.

4. Blindfold - look at a mindfold on amazon. Best blindfold I have picked up as its comfy and blocks out the light more than the thin fabric ones.

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By *aytrippers2021 OP Couple
over a year ago

SOUTHPORT

"Hi, newbies to the world of fab.

Mrs has an interest in handcuffs, blindfolds and restraints.

Nothing heavy, just looking for advice and suggestions.

New to BDSM too.

The world of BDSM is vast with so many twists and turns.

Without knowing more about what it is that interests your partner then I can only offer some basic advice.

1. Safety, safety, safety.

4. Blindfold - look at a mindfold on amazon. Best blindfold I have picked up as its comfy and blocks out the light more than the thin fabric ones.

We noticed so many variables. Don't really know where to start except at home with what's in our pictures. Not much lol

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By *aytrippers2021 OP Couple
over a year ago

SOUTHPORT

"What kind of advice are you after? "

Not sure really just something to help us get started without jumping from the frying pan into the fryer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

May I suggest visiting one of the well known Fet markets, e,g London Alternative Market

Thee will lots of stands with helpful people and you can actually see and feel the items .

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"May I suggest visiting one of the well known Fet markets, e,g London Alternative Market

Thee will lots of stands with helpful people and you can actually see and feel the items .

LAM and it's northern varient LAMchester are fab.

When starting out I'd recommend read, read, read and read.

Sure reading and research seem boring but confidence, knowledge and understanding when playing is soooo sexy... Believe me.

I have a list of books a mile long but if you want helpful books to read that also give you ideas and suggestions for play then;

Safe, Sane, Consensual and Fun by John Warren

And

Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge

Are really good places to start, they help with a basic level of knowledge while helping you navigate your first steps safely.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Go to a certain American fet site and talk to submissive ladies, you will find massive insight into BDSM.

Take it steady and have a stunning amount of fun.

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

I believe LAM now goes to Manchester, which may be worth them checking out when and if lockdown is loosened and we arrive at the new normal.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

"I believe LAM now goes to Manchester, which may be worth them checking out when and if lockdown is loosened and we arrive at the new normal."

Suspect not this year, however, let’s hope.

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By *aytrippers2021 OP Couple
over a year ago

SOUTHPORT

"May I suggest visiting one of the well known Fet markets, e,g London Alternative Market

Thee will lots of stands with helpful people and you can actually see and feel the items .

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good advice... Bit far will look if anything like that in the Northwest

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By *aytrippers2021 OP Couple
over a year ago

SOUTHPORT

"I believe LAM now goes to Manchester, which may be worth them checking out when and if lockdown is loosened and we arrive at the new normal.

Suspect not this year, however, let’s hope."

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By *aytrippers2021 OP Couple
over a year ago

SOUTHPORT

"I believe LAM now goes to Manchester, which may be worth them checking out when and if lockdown is loosened and we arrive at the new normal."

Must be a website I can look up under LAM ??

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By *aytrippers2021 OP Couple
over a year ago

SOUTHPORT

"Go to a certain American fet site and talk to submissive ladies, you will find massive insight into BDSM.

Take it steady and have a stunning amount of fun.

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By *aytrippers2021 OP Couple
over a year ago

SOUTHPORT

Thank you ??

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By *aytrippers2021 OP Couple
over a year ago

SOUTHPORT

Thank you all. Plenty for us to look up now. ????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Join a certain fetish lifestyle website and search for local Munch Meetings.

Get through your nerves and go to the meets. There are loads of kinksters there, who are more than willing to offer advice to newbies.

We attended our first Munch 15 yrs ago. It was the best thing we did. We are still great friends with people we met at that first meeting.

Just have fun, experiment and don't forget where the handcuff keys are!!

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"I believe LAM now goes to Manchester, which may be worth them checking out when and if lockdown is loosened and we arrive at the new normal.

Suspect not this year, however, let’s hope."

Yep this year. Was on last month. Is on again on the 27th...

I was going to have a stall but the stock hasn't arrived yet.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"Join a certain fetish lifestyle website and search for local Munch Meetings.

Get through your nerves and go to the meets. There are loads of kinksters there, who are more than willing to offer advice to newbies.

We attended our first Munch 15 yrs ago. It was the best thing we did. We are still great friends with people we met at that first meeting.

Just have fun, experiment and don't forget where the handcuff keys are!!

Which munch? It might have been mine!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Communication, boundaries and consent are the most important thing.

The books recommended above are good.

Just take it steady, and have fun. We have very fluid boundaries, so whilst it’s always with very clear boundaries and consent, we talk, and our play evolves all the times.

If anyone tells you that you don’t need safe words, run.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Hi, newbies to the world of fab.

Mrs has an interest in handcuffs, blindfolds and restraints.

Nothing heavy, just looking for advice and suggestions.

New to BDSM too."

Bondage is fun and a nice place to start a BDSM journey.

Bondage tape or electrostatic tape (it’s the same but cheaper) is nice to try, also rope , metal chains off the roll at b&q - 7mm link is a good thickness, plus everyday items like leather belts and silk ties are fun and can be planned but feel more spontaneous. I try to avoid anything in the bdsm sections of ann summers or regular sex shops

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Join a certain fetish lifestyle website and search for local Munch Meetings.

Get through your nerves and go to the meets. There are loads of kinksters there, who are more than willing to offer advice to newbies.

We attended our first Munch 15 yrs ago. It was the best thing we did. We are still great friends with people we met at that first meeting.

Just have fun, experiment and don't forget where the handcuff keys are!!

Which munch? It might have been mine! "

Our first Munch was Manchester Munch at Via Bar in Canal Street. The nerves were twitching but we made it down into the depths and never looked back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Suggest a number of starter things

As suggested go to a larger 'public' fetish market to get a feel of the atmosphere. BBB in Brum is due to start again soon.

Does your Mrs want to take charge or submit? Start with just an improvised blind fold, with just touching and the other being in charge totally of the play

Consider both going to see a professional Dominant for an hour or two of professional play in a dungeon, learn what you do and don't like in that time, then walk away and discuss it,then discuss some more, then leave it come back to it and discuss again, then try. Finding an excellent pro Dom will take research though. PM me for some more hints on this.

Most of all enjoy exploring together.

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By *adyJayneWoman
over a year ago

Burnleyish (She/They)

"Which munch? It might have been mine!

Our first Munch was Manchester Munch at Via Bar in Canal Street. The nerves were twitching but we made it down into the depths and never looked back.

It was

I love meeting people I helped corrupt hehehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you want to play together with a purpose whilst meeting others and getting a great feel for the BDSM scene and culture. Suggest go to a beginner rope play workshop, get to play non sexually as a couple with others around you doing much the same, observe learn and discuss with your partner what does and doesn't work for you both.

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