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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

If you haven’t!

Ffs.

That really is wasting everyone’s time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read people’s profiles I just find it hard what to type in the first message after I get a Conversation started I’m fine chatting.

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By *uzie69xTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

I do the "passive aggressive" thing...

When they ask if I can meet for a lunch-break knee-tremble because the WAG can't know...

I copy and paste... "You've read my profile so you should know I don't, so why bother asking?"

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By *its.and.tatsWoman
over a year ago

cardiff

Infuriating isn’t it

And then they’re in the forums asking why no one wants to meet them

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

It’s really frustrating.

In non-covid times my profile explained that I’m only attracted to black men and that I don’t arrange meets through Fab, but play at parties/clubs instead. This didn’t stop endless white men messaging me to say they loved my profile and did I want to meet. Then they get snippy if you don’t reply/tell them to fuck off

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

Only last week I blocked a woman who “loved your profile, would love to meet up some time”. We’d been chatting on and off for a few weeks, things going very well, so I suggested meeting up for a friendly chat over a coffee, at which point she said “I’m not getting involved with a married man, too much hassle!”.........like; it’s the first line of my profile ffs

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By *ussybagderMan
over a year ago

Salford


"If you haven’t!

Ffs.

That really is wasting everyone’s time "

I rarely read profile that are 3 pages long talking shit most of the time

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

We find couples are the worst for ignoring or not reading profiles. The number of times we receive gorgeous photos of the woman to tempt Mr N while I'm expected to use my imagination

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By *ifeandhubby400Couple
over a year ago

Arse hole of nowhere ,Scotland

Every day we get winks and message's from guys ,which sounds great ,BUT they are Straight if they DID read profile they would that isn't what we are here for when I point it out ,Suddenly they say ok your hubby can suck me ! Well so kind of you Not fffss endless..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We find couples are the worst for ignoring or not reading profiles. The number of times we receive gorgeous photos of the woman to tempt Mr N while I'm expected to use my imagination "

Oh don’t get me started on the couples profile where both play but think it’s all about her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex and I put a word in the second to last sentence and asked for that word to be on the subject line. If it wasn’t there then mail got deleted without being read. And yes I know a lot of people do this but it really does make ing out the idiots quicker !

It’s important to read the whole profile to make sure you are emailing people with whom you share common likes . Don’t waste people’s time ! Life is for enjoying not getting annoyed !

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

We always read the profile. Always.

I know ours isn't the shortest on Fab but it's very clear on who we are and what we are about.

The amount of messages we get that open up with the exact opposite of what we will do or want is getting silly now.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We always read the profile. Always.

I know ours isn't the shortest on Fab but it's very clear on who we are and what we are about.

The amount of messages we get that open up with the exact opposite of what we will do or want is getting silly now.

"

and there I was going to have a read but apparently I can’t

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By *ushWookyCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

We normally just bin them , but sometimes we just hit the block button. Our profile says, if your a single bloke , sends us a wink & if the wife likes you . We will contact you, nice and simple .

But hayho, gives me the hubby something to do lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we get loads of these, our profile says very clearly, only bi people, the amouth of straight people, normaly guys message us, when told this the answer is well im bi really, instant block

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By *y pleasure.Man
over a year ago

Walsall

The point of the profile is to be read and respected!!

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow


"If you haven’t!

Ffs.

That really is wasting everyone’s time "

Its a fair point but there is another side to the coin. Many times I (and no doubt other guys) have completely read profiles and crafted a reply I hoped was a relevant, interesting and timely based on the profile and I get ignored just the same.

If those who want their profile's read encouraged it with even a simple "Thanks fir reading, but not for me" type of negative response then maybe more profiles would be read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You mean people read words and not just look at the pictures???

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"If you haven’t!

Ffs.

That really is wasting everyone’s time

Its a fair point but there is another side to the coin. Many times I (and no doubt other guys) have completely read profiles and crafted a reply I hoped was a relevant, interesting and timely based on the profile and I get ignored just the same.

If those who want their profile's read encouraged it with even a simple "Thanks fir reading, but not for me" type of negative response then maybe more profiles would be read. "

And more times the profile doesn't get read at all and the sender would learn for themselves that the person they're messaging isn't even for them.

It has been covered many times that replying renders your filters between you and that person usesless if they get changed at a later date, aside from that even those who construct a message worthy of a thanks but no thanks, they still have the ability to tune into a total cunt and all of a sudden you're all the fat slabs under the sun

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

My response 8 times out of 10 is... answers on my profile haha

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By *rincess PhoenixWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"If you haven’t!

Ffs.

That really is wasting everyone’s time

Its a fair point but there is another side to the coin. Many times I (and no doubt other guys) have completely read profiles and crafted a reply I hoped was a relevant, interesting and timely based on the profile and I get ignored just the same.

If those who want their profile's read encouraged it with even a simple "Thanks fir reading, but not for me" type of negative response then maybe more profiles would be read. "

Firstly single women get so many messages that replying to every message would be a part time job. I was on nights for a week so didn't really get on Fab and I had over 200 messages most clearly hadn't read my profile! but also how would that encourage others to read their profile as no one else knows who has messaged who and if the profile was read

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By *n Search Of SunsetCouple
over a year ago

Search Of Sunset

We mainly get msgs from those that clearly haven't read our profile by what their msg says, which is most likely a scatter gun mass mail msg.

If reading 3 short sentences is so hard to do before a msg then no reply quick delete is our response.

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By *leasureseekers123Couple
over a year ago

Heathrow


"We mainly get msgs from those that clearly haven't read our profile by what their msg says, which is most likely a scatter gun mass mail msg.

If reading 3 short sentences is so hard to do before a msg then no reply quick delete is our response."

We get this all the time. And then we see on the forum “why is it so hard to have a meet” or “where have people’s manners gone. Replying to say no thanks is common courtesy.”

But surely reading the profile and then only messaging if you fit the criteria they are looking for and can be bothered to compose a message is common courtesy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed half of them just go on about shit get straight to the point

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By *y pleasure.Man
over a year ago

Walsall

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By *uliette500Woman
over a year ago

Hull

If they obviously haven't read my profile I delete.

Third line of my profile says I don't do cams, Snapchat, whatsapp etc. I often get messages saying things like, great profile fancy chatting on cam!

It makes it very easy to filter my messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some men are also bad for not reading the profile. Mine clearly states I don't meet married and bi men and yet they still message me. I've got to tell them that it's written in my profile and that's just wasting my time and theirs too x

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By *ungle_kingMan
over a year ago

Nuneaton

It’s a strange one for me, you don’t want war and peace but some profiles have just no info and are best skipped by as potentially just another cock in a frock fake.

What I struggle with is when folks write a good profile then do the fatal ”code word” sometimes even in capitals at the end of the profile to put as a title in any messages sent to them! Do they not realise people just scroll down and bingo.

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By *rincess PhoenixWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

This thread appears to have triggered people! My response on this caused someone to message me to tell me that he doesn't message women like me because I use my inbox to find meets rather than searches

I don't think he sees the irony in the first part of that

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This thread appears to have triggered people! My response on this caused someone to message me to tell me that he doesn't message women like me because I use my inbox to find meets rather than searches

I don't think he sees the irony in the first part of that "

Sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve got to the stage of mainly blocking now. I figure if and when I do start to look for meets again I don’t want it to be with these people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This thread appears to have triggered people! My response on this caused someone to message me to tell me that he doesn't message women like me because I use my inbox to find meets rather than searches

I don't think he sees the irony in the first part of that "

Oh well if he’s not prepared to send a message he’s going to lose out.

I hadn’t thought of it before but I’ve actually never met someone who I’ve searched for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't get it. Aside from photos its your shop window and the opportunity to shine and sell yourself a bit, couple of minutes to read and you get a feel for who you may end up meeting/ having sex with. Which let's face it is why we're here.

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By *ethnmelvCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff


"We find couples are the worst for ignoring or not reading profiles. The number of times we receive gorgeous photos of the woman to tempt Mr N while I'm expected to use my imagination

Oh don’t get me started on the couples profile where both play but think it’s all about her "

We agree with you both on this. We tend to ignore profiles with little or no text, no pictures (including a profile one!) and no veri’s…

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By *nSeeNMan
over a year ago

Z'ha'dum

Some of us poor fellas have had a bad education, thus unable to read, we just here for the pictures

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

It's not just profiles they can't be bothered to read. Our status sets out that we don't want winks, one liners or friends requests but we still get them.

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By *rincess PhoenixWoman
over a year ago

Southampton


"This thread appears to have triggered people! My response on this caused someone to message me to tell me that he doesn't message women like me because I use my inbox to find meets rather than searches

I don't think he sees the irony in the first part of that

Sorry "

Not your fault it was just quite funny and a little confusing lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We used to take the time to reply to messages even though they clearly hadn’t read what we were looking for.

We’d explain why we weren’t a match.

We were either ignited or got a shitty reply back.

Unfortunately we have taken the decision to just block straight away now.

V

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's on a profile doesn't matter in my experience.

Men and women ignore it because the questions they ask clearly have been answered.

Not worth bothering with

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