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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

here is the message I sent :-

"Hi, How are ya? I'm Neil. Saw your profile, wanted to drop you a message. How do you usually go about this? do you want to exchange a few messages, talk a bit find out what's what, or do you prefer to be more direct?

Neil."

I don't see anything offensive about it and I don't think my profile is offensive..

but I got blocked? I don't understand, this seems rather harsh to me. Is this normal practice here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe that you wasnt their cup of tea and saves them from recievin future messages from you. A polite no would have been courteous first but some people have no manners! Dust yourself off and move on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

perhaps they looked at your profile, saw something that put the wind up them and blocked you because of it. Either way I wouldn't worry about it, and look forward to having a better chat with someone else.

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tough love time: that is a really bad message and I imagine you copy and paste it to everyone. I wouldn't reply to that, firstly it's very generic and it's also quite forward. I would rethink what you're sending to people, perhaps!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some people can be rude babes but there are a lot of great people here looking at your file cant see why they blocked you but looking right down on ya file no feedbacks been on site a year could be that but we do know how hard it is for single guys to get meets best of luck baby .

rose

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By *z ThongzWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Not a message i would reply to , very forward and possibly generic , u need to try a more personal non pushy approach.

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By *ornyGCCouple
over a year ago

Slaithwaite

We must agree I does feel like a generic email that you send out and whilst it might feel like a numbers game we can assure you quality is better than quantity

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Tough love time: that is a really bad message and I imagine you copy and paste it to everyone. I wouldn't reply to that, firstly it's very generic and it's also quite forward. I would rethink what you're sending to people, perhaps!"

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago

I agree with what other people have said

That message is full of assumption that the people you have mailed will want to chat to you which is not always going to be the case

Its impersonal,its bland,its not rude at all but its not something that I would reply too myself

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks for all your replies,

I have to say that the person I was sending the message to had one line on their profile so there wasn't much to draw from to craft an original message.

so as I understand this kind of thing happens and will happen again. ok I can get on board with that.

oh yeah, I have been on here over a year, but what I did was to sign up, but then i got some issues in my life so didn't really visit or have a decent profile.

would it be a good idea to start a new account?

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford

Yes it's normal practice.

Don't waste a second worrying about it. Move on.

If you cant take rejection on this site, you're going to be very unhappy.

Look at it like this, if you said hi to a girl at a bar and she just turned her back would you moan about it or just move on?

Nobody pleases all the people all the time - save your energy for those that show an intrest.

D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, it does read a little 'generic' and for some this may lead them to believe that you didn't read their profile and make is specific enough (or use the super secret code word buried 3/4 of the way in); or you didnt attach a picture of your cock; or you did attach a picture of you cock; or you.....you get the idea!

Mind you, there are profiles on here to which the only thing you can do is write a generic sounding email because there is pretty much nothing to go on other than a bloody shopping list of wants.

Swings, roundabouts, you get out what you put in, don't expect anything, all of the people some of the time.....

You get the idea. Dont take it personally and dont let it kick you in the ego.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

message is boring but you have got very nice lips

i'd have messaged back on the strength of that

not that i'm fickle of course

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By *eenonfun2Couple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Best of luck. I dont think I would reply to that, however I wouldn't block you for it - unless you sent a similar one again.

Why not say that you looked at their profile and then say something about what they have written. That way they know you have at least shown an interest in them as a person and not just looked at their pix

Get verified genuine by attending a local social night out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tough love time: that is a really bad message and I imagine you copy and paste it to everyone. I wouldn't reply to that, firstly it's very generic and it's also quite forward. I would rethink what you're sending to people, perhaps!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course it's normal, it means "we don't like you, and don't want to have delete from you again, so we'll block you"

not really complex, is it?

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By *orny Biker 69Man
over a year ago

Greenford

Not everyone was brought up with the same level of respect and manners; fortunately there are LOADS of decent people on here that were.

DOn't worry about it fella, move on to the next one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not everyone was brought up with the same level of respect and manners; fortunately there are LOADS of decent people on here that were.

DOn't worry about it fella, move on to the next one "

respect and manners lol. overnight I received about 150/200 messages (I currently have 450 unread) and from skimming through most of them are from people I already know I am not interested in. you want me to message each and every person who hasn't bothered if they fit my specification to let them know they don't fit mine? And for what, so they can argue with me about how I'm wrong and I'm missing out etc? Yawn.

No reply is a no.

Block is a no.

Get over it and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

crap message, you really shouldnt ever send messages trying to arrange something before at least getting to know someone first

not many women are going to carry on the converstation in all honesty,

your pretty much asking a complete stranger to tell how they go about arranging to meet you for sex!

think about it logically - these are still women on the other end of the computer even if they profile shows them to be a very naughty/dirty woman at the end of the day they are still a woman and expect to be treated right and with repect and not like a piece of meat if you expect them to be that naughy/dirty woman with you! after all that might be a side of them but in most cases its a side of them that only interesting or attractive guys to them will get to see, they aint going to be like that with everyone

you would have far more success trying to make friends, take interest in the ladies as a person, what makes them tic (not in the bedroom what interests them in life etc) if you make friends i can guarantee the meets will take care of themselves

them sort of messages wud probs only work with someone with no standards or desperate for something that moment, but usually when women want a short notice meet they will look to existing contacts/friends they have made.

try getting to know people and make sure u dont ask for a meet the same day as contact, or you will look like the rest of the guys who get no where, if they are looking for a short notice meet and want you im pretty sure they would let you know so dont think you will miss out on quick sex by getting to know people first,

coz u will find out ur probs chasing dreams and end up one of these guys who thinks everyone they speak to is a time waster when they are being pushy or taking things for granted or getting to much into talking about sex just because you have chatted to them and they replying, guys always get carried away on here and then get expecations after a few replies and dont realise they jump the gun and do things that will just make a lady want to stop talking to them without explanation, you might not see what you done but odds on its coz u got excited and brought up meeting or talked about sex too much before they were ready, let the women lead the way on talking about sex and meeting, that way you wont come accross pervy, desperate or pushy, and means they wont reject you for talking about sex because they will have to bring the subject up!

just chat to people trying to get to know them, unless they say they are not into that on their profile, chances are someone will take a shine to you, and if they attracted to you and u make decent friends then they are 1000% more likely to shag you than if you try to arrange a meet or start banging on about sex early on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not everyone was brought up with the same level of respect and manners; fortunately there are LOADS of decent people on here that were.

DOn't worry about it fella, move on to the next one

respect and manners lol. overnight I received about 150/200 messages (I currently have 450 unread) and from skimming through most of them are from people I already know I am not interested in. you want me to message each and every person who hasn't bothered if they fit my specification to let them know they don't fit mine? And for what, so they can argue with me about how I'm wrong and I'm missing out etc? Yawn.

No reply is a no.

Block is a no.

Get over it and move on."

nice specs n tits...dammit..thats ma worst line ever-I'll mail something more romantic!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not everyone was brought up with the same level of respect and manners; fortunately there are LOADS of decent people on here that were.

DOn't worry about it fella, move on to the next one

respect and manners lol. overnight I received about 150/200 messages (I currently have 450 unread) and from skimming through most of them are from people I already know I am not interested in. you want me to message each and every person who hasn't bothered if they fit my specification to let them know they don't fit mine? And for what, so they can argue with me about how I'm wrong and I'm missing out etc? Yawn.

No reply is a no.

Block is a no.

Get over it and move on.

nice specs n tits...dammit..thats ma worst line ever-I'll mail something more romantic! "

I'll continuously refresh my inbox in anticipation!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a no reply is not a no...never hurts to try again in the future(non pestering wise)...uve nothing to lose except be blocked...but then there are always others.

u may even find urself unblocked..its amazing some people change their minds later.

once again, dont get arsey with people not replying to mails, thats what will set u aside from the arsewipes across the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not everyone was brought up with the same level of respect and manners; fortunately there are LOADS of decent people on here that were.

DOn't worry about it fella, move on to the next one

respect and manners lol. overnight I received about 150/200 messages (I currently have 450 unread) and from skimming through most of them are from people I already know I am not interested in. you want me to message each and every person who hasn't bothered if they fit my specification to let them know they don't fit mine? And for what, so they can argue with me about how I'm wrong and I'm missing out etc? Yawn.

No reply is a no.

Block is a no.

Get over it and move on.

nice specs n tits...dammit..thats ma worst line ever-I'll mail something more romantic!

I'll continuously refresh my inbox in anticipation!"

I was more wanting to lick ur box...looks fresh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

o right looking at your file babes says a year but i do get what you mean

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personalise each message I send, tailored to that individual. I read their profile fully to make sure I haven't missed anything or any 'keywords' that are required.

I'm always polite, well spoken and well mannered.

I include face pics in messages as normally requested.

Most times I get a reply, sometimes not. I'm rarely blocked but if they read and delete I don't message them back, I'm obviously not what they're looking for. I don't worry about it, I just go back to My search.

Try being more original as well, Ladies and Couples probably get hundreds of messages. Make yours stand out.

Rich

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"here is the message I sent :-

"Hi, How are ya? I'm Neil. Saw your profile, wanted to drop you a message. How do you usually go about this? do you want to exchange a few messages, talk a bit find out what's what, or do you prefer to be more direct?

Neil."

I don't see anything offensive about it and I don't think my profile is offensive..

but I got blocked? I don't understand, this seems rather harsh to me. Is this normal practice here?"

We do it all the time - just good housekeeping and saves contacting people - or people contacting us who we /they are not compatable with. Never personal or meant to cause insult but its the easiest way to save going around in circles as its easy to forget youve already contacted someone or theyve contacted you and the whole process can start again.

We also do it if its baltently obvious the writer hasnt bothered reading our profile or considering the type of guys were looking for. Again it saves a lot of wasted time.

We do it if people ignore our messages.

and we do it if they live in our area - we dont want to be inviting our next door neigbours or god forbid our worse enemies around lol. So there are lots of reasons fr being blocked but if the blocker doesnt know you ...it can never be personal. Just move on to the next profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"here is the message I sent :-

"Hi, How are ya? I'm Neil. Saw your profile, wanted to drop you a message. How do you usually go about this? do you want to exchange a few messages, talk a bit find out what's what, or do you prefer to be more direct?

Neil."

I don't see anything offensive about it and I don't think my profile is offensive..

but I got blocked? I don't understand, this seems rather harsh to me. Is this normal practice here?"

Nothing offensive just a little dull that's all fella, think the main problem though is your profile, as you have no experience, can't accom, can't travel, etc etc need to understand and make others see why they should meet you, not why not.

Being on here a year without any verification is suicide, I don't meet non verified people and a lot won't either. A year no verification might as well say time waster and wanks at his computer doesn't have the bottle to meet!!.

Goto a social, club or meet for a drink and see if then you get any luck.

Happy swinging, or wanking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"here is the message I sent :-

"Hi, How are ya? I'm Neil. Saw your profile, wanted to drop you a message. How do you usually go about this? do you want to exchange a few messages, talk a bit find out what's what, or do you prefer to be more direct?

Neil."

I don't see anything offensive about it and I don't think my profile is offensive..

but I got blocked? I don't understand, this seems rather harsh to me. Is this normal practice here?

We do it all the time - just good housekeeping and saves contacting people - or people contacting us who we /they are not compatable with. Never personal or meant to cause insult but its the easiest way to save going around in circles as its easy to forget youve already contacted someone or theyve contacted you and the whole process can start again.

We also do it if its baltently obvious the writer hasnt bothered reading our profile or considering the type of guys were looking for. Again it saves a lot of wasted time.

We do it if people ignore our messages.

and we do it if they live in our area - we dont want to be inviting our next door neigbours or god forbid our worse enemies around lol. So there are lots of reasons fr being blocked but if the blocker doesnt know you ...it can never be personal. Just move on to the next profile."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tough love time: that is a really bad message and I imagine you copy and paste it to everyone. I wouldn't reply to that, firstly it's very generic and it's also quite forward. I would rethink what you're sending to people, perhaps!"
Sorry but I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we do this and generally it is because we can tell our profile has not been read.

how do we know ???

The sender(s) fall outside our very clear guidelines.

So if we are messaged, we block, it saves hassle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"here is the message I sent :-

"Hi, How are ya? I'm Neil. Saw your profile, wanted to drop you a message. How do you usually go about this? do you want to exchange a few messages, talk a bit find out what's what, or do you prefer to be more direct?

Neil."

I don't see anything offensive about it and I don't think my profile is offensive..

but I got blocked? I don't understand, this seems rather harsh to me. Is this normal practice here?"

Agree with the others, whether it is or not, it has got cut n paste written all over it.

Don't waste your energy composing endless messages anyway, the return on investment is only a fraction of what you get compared to posting complete bollocks on here, that's my theory anyway and I've done very well out if it Your target audience goes up from 1 to hundreds in an instant

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

What wrong with his message? And we all send messages according to the profile we read and our mood

As he said the profile was just one line. And he is very polite in his words

Feel happpy the person blocked you as he or her saves you your precious time

You will get blocked again and again and your messages deleted without been read. That is part of how things work here

Don't let that put you off

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By *moothladMan
over a year ago

Brentwood

I just think its arrogant and rude...a "thanks but no thanks"would be more polite...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

thanks guys,

more great feedback.

so I need to find out how to meet people. obviously I won't meet anyone if they look at my profile and delete my message, so I need to find a meet-up or social or party. I'll keep my eyes peeled for something happening in Wrexham. don't have a car so can't travel far.

also, I guess my profile needs a bit more? I took some full body pictures today and they are waiting to be verified.

I'll try and visit these forums often as you seem like lovely guys.

I've not had much practice with socialising. always been really bad at it so I'm not sure how quickly I can get into this. I can but try!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just think its arrogant and rude...a "thanks but no thanks"would be more polite..."

I think its arrogant and rude to expect a reply to a message that has 99.9% of the time been a copy paste job sent to every single person in the area in desperation, and from someone who hasn't bothered a shit to check if they are what you're looking for.

But you know maybe that's just me

So tired of seeing grown men throw toys out of the pram over this. A no is a no regardless of if its said directly to you or you have a message ignored or get blocked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I just think its arrogant and rude...a "thanks but no thanks"would be more polite...

I think its arrogant and rude to expect a reply to a message that has 99.9% of the time been a copy paste job sent to every single person in the area in desperation, and from someone who hasn't bothered a shit to check if they are what you're looking for.

But you know maybe that's just me

So tired of seeing grown men throw toys out of the pram over this. A no is a no regardless of if its said directly to you or you have a message ignored or get blocked. "
More and more I'm sending a polite no thankyou message then get bombarded with "why, what's wrong with me" replies!

Sometimes if they have a shitty attitude on their profile already it's easier just to block sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're lucky to get that, I've been given a tonne of abuse about how I'm a fat slag etc or arrogant or a time waster... its not worth the effort. I do try to reply to the ones that make an effort but meh ultimately rejection is part of life. I won't cry myself to sleep over not replying to people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is no excuse for shitty messages regardless of whether you block reply or delete messages.

I think thats more of an issue here. If people accepted a polite thanks but no thanks, maybe people would be more inclined to send them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes a polite refusal is appreciated. Sometimes it just provokes more unwanted contact, and sometimes that further contact is abusive. I'm getting better at sorting out which correspondents are likely to cut up rough, but it's a steep learning curve.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

I think its arrogant and rude to expect a reply to a message that has 99.9% of the time been a copy paste job sent to every single person in the area in desperation, and from someone who hasn't bothered a shit to check if they are what you're looking for.

But you know maybe that's just me

So tired of seeing grown men throw toys out of the pram over this. A no is a no regardless of if its said directly to you or you have a message ignored or get blocked. "

just for the record, I did not copy and paste my message. I only contacted one person since I updated my profile yesterday. before that, the last contact I had with anyone on here was 3 years ago on a different account. she contacted me. I didn't message anybody.

I don't know if you referred directly to me, but I don't believe I overreacted for somebody who didn't know how things work here. it seemed harsh. but now I understand what people have to contend with on here, I understand it and don't have an issue with it.

I don't think it's unreasonable to object when essentially joining a new community and the first person you talk to slams the door in your face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is no excuse for shitty messages regardless of whether you block reply or delete messages.

I think thats more of an issue here. If people accepted a polite thanks but no thanks, maybe people would be more inclined to send them."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not having a go at you, I was replying to the person I quoted. I do think you need to put thought into your messages but remember as a single guy you're in the majority here - you won't (unless v v lucky) just snap your fingers and get some action, even when you make an effort it might not lead anywhere but I do wish you the best of luck.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I regularly delete and block then I know they wont contact me again and also not wasting their time again.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Don't worry about it, just focus on the ones who want to talk to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you want to be thankful your message got read in the first place

and the place makes it obvious to which is the more ignorant of the species

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you want to be thankful your message got read in the first place

and the place makes it obvious to which is the more ignorant of the species "

Agreed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you want to be thankful your message got read in the first place

and the place makes it obvious to which is the more ignorant of the species "

Yes, the ignorant are often quite obvious, which is great as it makes it easy to block them. I wouldn't be so ignorant as to suggest an entire sex is ignorant just because they're not giving you what you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you want to be thankful your message got read in the first place

and the place makes it obvious to which is the more ignorant of the species

Agreed!"

I really wanted to message you (just to say hello) but if you have like 450 messages unread...well I just didn't want to add more to it.

For what it's worth - and I know this is cheesy - you are very attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you want to be thankful your message got read in the first place

and the place makes it obvious to which is the more ignorant of the species

Agreed!

I really wanted to message you (just to say hello) but if you have like 450 messages unread...well I just didn't want to add more to it.

For what it's worth - and I know this is cheesy - you are very attractive "

Message me, I will reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi neil, just want to let you know that 9 times out of 10 my messages get deleted, then I get blocked! It looks like that its the 'norm' on here! Especially for us single guys. It worried me at first, but now I just accept it and move on. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I get an unsolicited message, if it appeals to me, I would look at the sender's profile. If that still appeals to me, I may respond.

If I have no intention of knowing that person what-so-ever, then I shall delete the message and block, to prevent any come back.

I would even block those whom I have no intention of knowing BEFORE they have the chance to message me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi neil, just want to let you know that 9 times out of 10 my messages get deleted, then I get blocked! It looks like that its the 'norm' on here! Especially for us single guys. It worried me at first, but now I just accept it and move on. Good luck. "

As I think I alluded to before, there is more than one way of skinning a cat (Or in this instance boning a bird!) so messaging alone is not the be all and end all. For example, I know one woman on here who'll do owt you want if you buy her 20 fags

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the OP's defence, if a profile gives him nothing to work with then it can be hard.

Me personally, I refer to something I see and take it from there. It's unfair to be angry at a generic message when you're looking at such a generic profile but then some people don't see it that way.

Guess some people can afford to be lazy.

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By *lexaWoman
over a year ago

southampton


"here is the message I sent :-

"Hi, How are ya? I'm Neil. Saw your profile, wanted to drop you a message. How do you usually go about this? do you want to exchange a few messages, talk a bit find out what's what, or do you prefer to be more direct?

Neil."

I don't see anything offensive about it and I don't think my profile is offensive..

but I got blocked? I don't understand, this seems rather harsh to me. Is this normal practice here?"

To be fair, I think some peeps will block you just so that you don't waste your time trying to get a reply when they're not interested in you. It saves your own efforts. I do know a couple of people who do that, so try not to take it personally. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would even block those whom I have no intention of knowing BEFORE they have the chance to message me.

"

Not only would I, sometimes I do. The forum can be very helpful for that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would even block those whom I have no intention of knowing BEFORE they have the chance to message me.

Not only would I, sometimes I do. The forum can be very helpful for that. "

Haha, that explains away the dreams that I have of a past life experience, where i had no froends, thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

See, what sometimes happens, is if a reply of 'thanks but no thanks' gets sent, then the originator asks why and may get offended at the reply.Or it develops into message ping pong.

Then when the person blocks all single males, you would slip through the net. Therefore a delete and block works best.

Dust yourself down, and shout NEXT!

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon


"I would even block those whom I have no intention of knowing BEFORE they have the chance to message me.

Not only would I, sometimes I do. The forum can be very helpful for that. "

***goes to check profile...***

Phew, not been blocked!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"See, what sometimes happens, is if a reply of 'thanks but no thanks' gets sent, then the originator asks why and may get offended at the reply.Or it develops into message ping pong.

Then when the person blocks all single males, you would slip through the net. Therefore a delete and block works best.

Dust yourself down, and shout NEXT!"
I must admit that ive had a few messages saying 'thanks, but no thanks'. I was happy with this reply. I then message back thanking them for their message and for being so honest. Thats it, job done. No more messaging. I think that this is the best way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Save you wasting your time if your not their cup of tea.

also replying to messages means someone can later bypass any future filters you may put on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you want to be thankful your message got read in the first place

and the place makes it obvious to which is the more ignorant of the species

Agreed!

I really wanted to message you (just to say hello) but if you have like 450 messages unread...well I just didn't want to add more to it.

For what it's worth - and I know this is cheesy - you are very attractive

Message me, I will reply "

who what when, cofused.com

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"See, what sometimes happens, is if a reply of 'thanks but no thanks' gets sent, then the originator asks why and may get offended at the reply.Or it develops into message ping pong.

Then when the person blocks all single males, you would slip through the net. Therefore a delete and block works best.

Dust yourself down, and shout NEXT! I must admit that ive had a few messages saying 'thanks, but no thanks'. I was happy with this reply. I then message back thanking them for their message and for being so honest. Thats it, job done. No more messaging. I think that this is the best way. "
Absolutely spot on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"you want to be thankful your message got read in the first place

and the place makes it obvious to which is the more ignorant of the species

Agreed!

I really wanted to message you (just to say hello) but if you have like 450 messages unread...well I just didn't want to add more to it.

For what it's worth - and I know this is cheesy - you are very attractive

Message me, I will reply

who what when, cofused.com "

I utilised the forum to query if a lovely lady would like a message. She said yes. Nuff said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I would even block those whom I have no intention of knowing BEFORE they have the chance to message me.

Not only would I, sometimes I do. The forum can be very helpful for that.

***goes to check profile...***

Phew, not been blocked! "

Haha, I have but can't remember if I messaged pearl or whether it was pre-emptive. Hey Ho.

Neil, I think us blokes have to get used to it, but good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will be honest and say that sort of reply just sounds like its the same message you send to every girl.

If it feels cut and paste, I just delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

without knowing what profile you replied to it may be that you didnt meet their requirement ie they not after single men. people often block those who clearly have not read a profile. Although some may class it as rude some may say it saves your and their time as you wont be able to send them another message. Another way of looking at it is maybe they just not for you and move on. Hope this helps

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By *orth West CoupleCouple
over a year ago

liverpool


"here is the message I sent :-

"Hi, How are ya? I'm Neil. Saw your profile, wanted to drop you a message. How do you usually go about this? do you want to exchange a few messages, talk a bit find out what's what, or do you prefer to be more direct?

Neil."

I don't see anything offensive about it and I don't think my profile is offensive..

but I got blocked? I don't understand, this seems rather harsh to me. Is this normal practice here?"
yes....Blocked

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By *hynottsCouple
over a year ago

nottingham

We reply to 99.9 of all mail if your not what we are looking for in a male we willl say so if we keep geting mail after mail from the guy then we do block for a few weeks you never know sum change there minds we have a cpl times and been a good meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven't read all the replies but I'm sure that I'm echoing everyone else in the message is crap, shows zero imagination and dispalys a sense of entitlement.

I also don't understand how people discover they've been blocked, why revisit a profile that has just deleted a message for you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the message couldve had nothin to do with it mate. if they werent attracted to you its a done deal and no message is gonna change that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"crap message, you really shouldnt ever send messages trying to arrange something before at least getting to know someone first

not many women are going to carry on the converstation in all honesty,

your pretty much asking a complete stranger to tell how they go about arranging to meet you for sex!

think about it logically - these are still women on the other end of the computer even if they profile shows them to be a very naughty/dirty woman at the end of the day they are still a woman and expect to be treated right and with repect and not like a piece of meat if you expect them to be that naughy/dirty woman with you! after all that might be a side of them but in most cases its a side of them that only interesting or attractive guys to them will get to see, they aint going to be like that with everyone

you would have far more success trying to make friends, take interest in the ladies as a person, what makes them tic (not in the bedroom what interests them in life etc) if you make friends i can guarantee the meets will take care of themselves

them sort of messages wud probs only work with someone with no standards or desperate for something that moment, but usually when women want a short notice meet they will look to existing contacts/friends they have made.

try getting to know people and make sure u dont ask for a meet the same day as contact, or you will look like the rest of the guys who get no where, if they are looking for a short notice meet and want you im pretty sure they would let you know so dont think you will miss out on quick sex by getting to know people first,

coz u will find out ur probs chasing dreams and end up one of these guys who thinks everyone they speak to is a time waster when they are being pushy or taking things for granted or getting to much into talking about sex just because you have chatted to them and they replying, guys always get carried away on here and then get expecations after a few replies and dont realise they jump the gun and do things that will just make a lady want to stop talking to them without explanation, you might not see what you done but odds on its coz u got excited and brought up meeting or talked about sex too much before they were ready, let the women lead the way on talking about sex and meeting, that way you wont come accross pervy, desperate or pushy, and means they wont reject you for talking about sex because they will have to bring the subject up!

just chat to people trying to get to know them, unless they say they are not into that on their profile, chances are someone will take a shine to you, and if they attracted to you and u make decent friends then they are 1000% more likely to shag you than if you try to arrange a meet or start banging on about sex early on "

Perfect!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Haven't read all the replies but I'm sure that I'm echoing everyone else in the message is crap, shows zero imagination and dispalys a sense of entitlement.

I also don't understand how people discover they've been blocked, why revisit a profile that has just deleted a message for you?"

and why not?-relooking at a profile is no crime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think there is any one single right way of going about things on a site like this. I know full-well and for sure that there are many wrong ways of going about things. The major caveat to anyone messaging someone else is that you are sending a message to someone with an unknown irritability threshold, and yet you are expected to be a mind reader of the highest order able to precisely predict the eclectic mix of desires and needs of the recipient.

OTOH I wouldn't dwell over being blocked. The glass if half full, not half empty. Get out there and message some new people instead of worrying over the ones that didn't like/want/insert_whatever you.

If you think it's you, tweak your profile and your approach. If you think it's them, then look at how you pick people to message.

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We reply to 99.9 of all mail if your not what we are looking for in a male we willl say so if we keep geting mail after mail from the guy then we do block for a few weeks you never know sum change there minds we have a cpl times and been a good meet "

persistant offenders, worth a block yes...but like u's I dont see why its such an issue to block someone whos shown interest in u...the whole thing smacks of, get off my profile...I dont even like u looking at me...I'll say again, as I've said in the past-some of the people who take this site so seriously are the people who often become the most rude.Do u really have to hide urself from someone u dont wanna play with?-esp if they have been nothing but nice in their mail to u?-blocking is a form of 'punishment', sometimes I think its well over used.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Haven't read all the replies but I'm sure that I'm echoing everyone else in the message is crap, shows zero imagination and dispalys a sense of entitlement.

I also don't understand how people discover they've been blocked, why revisit a profile that has just deleted a message for you?

and why not?-relooking at a profile is no crime"

Who said it was a crime? To me it just seems utterly pointless...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We reply to 99.9 of all mail if your not what we are looking for in a male we willl say so if we keep geting mail after mail from the guy then we do block for a few weeks you never know sum change there minds we have a cpl times and been a good meet

persistant offenders, worth a block yes...but like u's I dont see why its such an issue to block someone whos shown interest in u...the whole thing smacks of, get off my profile...I dont even like u looking at me...I'll say again, as I've said in the past-some of the people who take this site so seriously are the people who often become the most rude.Do u really have to hide urself from someone u dont wanna play with?-esp if they have been nothing but nice in their mail to u?-blocking is a form of 'punishment', sometimes I think its well over used."

A punishment? You're hsving a lugh right? Effectively it's just a form of filtet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"crap message, you really shouldnt ever send messages trying to arrange something before at least getting to know someone first

not many women are going to carry on the converstation in all honesty,

your pretty much asking a complete stranger to tell how they go about arranging to meet you for sex!

think about it logically - these are still women on the other end of the computer even if they profile shows them to be a very naughty/dirty woman at the end of the day they are still a woman and expect to be treated right and with repect and not like a piece of meat if you expect them to be that naughy/dirty woman with you! after all that might be a side of them but in most cases its a side of them that only interesting or attractive guys to them will get to see, they aint going to be like that with everyone

you would have far more success trying to make friends, take interest in the ladies as a person, what makes them tic (not in the bedroom what interests them in life etc) if you make friends i can guarantee the meets will take care of themselves

them sort of messages wud probs only work with someone with no standards or desperate for something that moment, but usually when women want a short notice meet they will look to existing contacts/friends they have made.

try getting to know people and make sure u dont ask for a meet the same day as contact, or you will look like the rest of the guys who get no where, if they are looking for a short notice meet and want you im pretty sure they would let you know so dont think you will miss out on quick sex by getting to know people first,

coz u will find out ur probs chasing dreams and end up one of these guys who thinks everyone they speak to is a time waster when they are being pushy or taking things for granted or getting to much into talking about sex just because you have chatted to them and they replying, guys always get carried away on here and then get expecations after a few replies and dont realise they jump the gun and do things that will just make a lady want to stop talking to them without explanation, you might not see what you done but odds on its coz u got excited and brought up meeting or talked about sex too much before they were ready, let the women lead the way on talking about sex and meeting, that way you wont come accross pervy, desperate or pushy, and means they wont reject you for talking about sex because they will have to bring the subject up!

just chat to people trying to get to know them, unless they say they are not into that on their profile, chances are someone will take a shine to you, and if they attracted to you and u make decent friends then they are 1000% more likely to shag you than if you try to arrange a meet or start banging on about sex early on "

Hmm. Well your profile would have us reaching for the 'delete' button straight away. The profile of the person who started this thread on the other hand would at least get a polite letter of rejection if he wrote to us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Haven't read all the replies but I'm sure that I'm echoing everyone else in the message is crap, shows zero imagination and dispalys a sense of entitlement.

I also don't understand how people discover they've been blocked, why revisit a profile that has just deleted a message for you?

and why not?-relooking at a profile is no crime

Who said it was a crime? To me it just seems utterly pointless... "

utterly pointless..but they remain still interesting...do u become sexually not interested in someone who says ur not my kind,or no? doubt it...but u can admire from afar...and who knows....opinions and likes change.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

it should happen more often then maybe people would feel less of a need to rant about people's profiles, messages & pictures....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it should happen more often then maybe people would feel less of a need to rant about people's profiles, messages & pictures...."

Good point, or you just just post shite on forums and get blocked by half of the site anyway

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"it should happen more often then maybe people would feel less of a need to rant about people's profiles, messages & pictures....

Good point, or you just just post shite on forums and get blocked by half of the site anyway "

well if you are a little cheeky monkey.... reap what you sow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people have big chips on their shoulders for certain!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


" I don't think there is any one single right way of going about things on a site like this. I know full-well and for sure that there are many wrong ways of going about things. The major caveat to anyone messaging someone else is that you are sending a message to someone with an unknown irritability threshold, and yet you are expected to be a mind reader of the highest order able to precisely predict the eclectic mix of desires and needs of the recipient.

OTOH I wouldn't dwell over being blocked. The glass if half full, not half empty. Get out there and message some new people instead of worrying over the ones that didn't like/want/insert_whatever you.

If you think it's you, tweak your profile and your approach. If you think it's them, then look at how you pick people to message.

Wolf

"

I like the way you think.

every post of yours has been pretty much spot on IMO.

I can't believe this thread got so much attention! I wish i could respond to everybody, but there is so much ^_^;;

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people have big chips on their shoulders for certain! "

'Twas only in jest, a la 99% of the rest of my messages

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran


"Haven't read all the replies but I'm sure that I'm echoing everyone else in the message is crap, shows zero imagination and dispalys a sense of entitlement.

I also don't understand how people discover they've been blocked, why revisit a profile that has just deleted a message for you?

and why not?-relooking at a profile is no crime

Who said it was a crime? To me it just seems utterly pointless... "

Well you have the choice to use the site as you wish and others will use it as they see fit - doesn't make it pointless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Haven't read all the replies but I'm sure that I'm echoing everyone else in the message is crap, shows zero imagination and dispalys a sense of entitlement.

I also don't understand how people discover they've been blocked, why revisit a profile that has just deleted a message for you?

and why not?-relooking at a profile is no crime

Who said it was a crime? To me it just seems utterly pointless...

Well you have the choice to use the site as you wish and others will use it as they see fit - doesn't make it pointless"

I use the site to meet people. If I have messaged them and they've deleted it that is a pretty clear sign that they are not interested in meeting. Revisiting that profile is pointlessness defined in my opinion.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

sometimes you read something either a message, something in chat or in the forum and you sense a vibe about the person/couple...

block.

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran


"Haven't read all the replies but I'm sure that I'm echoing everyone else in the message is crap, shows zero imagination and dispalys a sense of entitlement.

I also don't understand how people discover they've been blocked, why revisit a profile that has just deleted a message for you?

and why not?-relooking at a profile is no crime

Who said it was a crime? To me it just seems utterly pointless...

Well you have the choice to use the site as you wish and others will use it as they see fit - doesn't make it pointless

I use the site to meet people. If I have messaged them and they've deleted it that is a pretty clear sign that they are not interested in meeting. Revisiting that profile is pointlessness defined in my opinion."

If that's what you believe and your opinon then that's fine others may or may not disagree with you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"here is the message I sent :-

"Hi, How are ya? I'm Neil. Saw your profile, wanted to drop you a message. How do you usually go about this? do you want to exchange a few messages, talk a bit find out what's what, or do you prefer to be more direct?

Neil."

I don't see anything offensive about it and I don't think my profile is offensive..

but I got blocked? I don't understand, this seems rather harsh to me. Is this normal practice here?"

Ok, from my experience, I have done this if the reason I would say no thanks is obvious... If they are so very far from my ideal, I would rather not want to offend. Also, at times ppl give off a needy vibe, these ppl do tend to message again n again. I am not saying u fall into any of these categories, just personal experience. Ppl say it is polite to say no thank you. But manyyyyy ppl take offense at it too n r horrid in return. I have been abused several times on here, and yet the users are still active on here shame that the servers addresses cannot b barred !!

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By *uckscouple2007Couple
over a year ago

Bucks


"here is the message I sent :-

"Hi, How are ya? I'm Neil. Saw your profile, wanted to drop you a message. How do you usually go about this? do you want to exchange a few messages, talk a bit find out what's what, or do you prefer to be more direct?

Neil."

I don't see anything offensive about it and I don't think my profile is offensive..

but I got blocked? I don't understand, this seems rather harsh to me. Is this normal practice here?"

your message by itself wasnt imaginative, but aside from that, without knowing the profile it could be it stated "no single guys" or a.n.other thing which would have suggested they'd not be wanting a mail from you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

More and more I'm sending a polite no thankyou message then get bombarded with "why, what's wrong with me" replies!

Sometimes if they have a shitty attitude on their profile already it's easier just to block sorry "

Absolutely. We also get asked...'Are you sure you don't want to meet? or 'I thought you were looking for a singe male? Im single' as if its perm any 1 from 10 with the requirements.

There are some really nice guys on Fab who are welcome to join us but theres also the 'stray dog' class that sniff around every female they can find and will beg, beg and beg again for a meet simply because their penis has control of their faculties whilst they have a nuddie picture in front of them.

Come on guys let your brain do the thinking when contacting people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

More and more I'm sending a polite no thankyou message then get bombarded with "why, what's wrong with me" replies!

Sometimes if they have a shitty attitude on their profile already it's easier just to block sorry

Absolutely. We also get asked...'Are you sure you don't want to meet? or 'I thought you were looking for a singe male? Im single' as if its perm any 1 from 10 with the requirements.

There are some really nice guys on Fab who are welcome to join us but theres also the 'stray dog' class that sniff around every female they can find and will beg, beg and beg again for a meet simply because their penis has control of their faculties whilst they have a nuddie picture in front of them.

Come on guys let your brain do the thinking when contacting people."

I'm a guy..fancy a shag?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And another one bites the dust.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And another one bites the dust.

Cant blame him leaving here, I know how he feels!

"

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By *red and florenceCouple
over a year ago

whitstable

We accepted a friend invite, had a message saying from man sayin he was wanking over pics then he blocked us.. Nowt as queer as folk x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We accepted a friend invite, had a message saying from man sayin he was wanking over pics then he blocked us.. Nowt as queer as folk x"

Very strange! By the way, whats a friend invite? I havent had one of them yet.!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop moaning then, liven up your profile to make you sound a bit more exciting and not some moan about how bothered you are if they say no thanks, if they don't reply fuck em, move on. Post interesting random messages that make you stand out, not boring things like how are you I'm a nice fellow or whatever (If you aren't already doing so).

Oh and ditch the fucking pics to your private section, they will put people off, if anyone wants to see em then you can post em privately.

Apologies if any of this sounds harsh I am genuinely trying to help. It's all about making yourself stand out, fuck trying to please people just be yourself.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Stop moaning then, liven up your profile to make you sound a bit more exciting and not some moan about how bothered you are if they say no thanks, if they don't reply fuck em, move on. Post interesting random messages that make you stand out, not boring things like how are you I'm a nice fellow or whatever (If you aren't already doing so).

Oh and ditch the fucking pics to your private section, they will put people off, if anyone wants to see em then you can post em privately.

Apologies if any of this sounds harsh I am genuinely trying to help. It's all about making yourself stand out, fuck trying to please people just be yourself.

Good luck."

Thanks for your advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Hmm. Well your profile would have us reaching for the 'delete' button straight away. The profile of the person who started this thread on the other hand would at least get a polite letter of rejection if he wrote to us.

"

yeh but i dont think id even message you after checking out your profile, as i dont think i would be your type anyways , im not one to message people who are too fit etc for us as ya probs looking for someone fitter than me anyways

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What we do is politely reply to someone that we are not interested any more and then block them. Problem is if you don't block them both you and they sometimes forget you decided were incompatible and then go round the whole cycle again. It's not being rude. Just common sense really so apologies to anyone we've blocked in this way. It's just to save yours and our feelings.

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