FabSwingers.com forum: Where am I going wrong

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Is it that I’m a single guy or just don’t stand out from the rest

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

The ratio of single guys to single women and couples (that want to meet a single guy) are, quite frankly not balanced. Single guys make up the majority of the site.

You have to stand out and make yourself seen. how you do that is up to you. Get yourself to a social event or a club and you'll probably have more success.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The ratio of single guys to single women and couples (that want to meet a single guy) are, quite frankly not balanced. Single guys make up the majority of the site.

You have to stand out and make yourself seen. how you do that is up to you. Get yourself to a social event or a club and you'll probably have more success."

Thanks for that

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

"The ratio of single guys to single women and couples (that want to meet a single guy) are, quite frankly not balanced. Single guys make up the majority of the site.

You have to stand out and make yourself seen. how you do that is up to you. Get yourself to a social event or a club and you'll probably have more success."

...go to one of the organised socials mentioned on the threads...

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By *evilandTheBeastCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough and Bedford

We'd second the advice above. It's not easy for single men to "make it" on here. Socials and clubs should help get you recognised in the scene.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

quickest and best way for a guy to get into swinging is to go to clubs and mingle as said on here its a numbers game guys way out number women and couples..

your a good looking guy id say as long as you behave in the right way you would have no probs in a club ... good luck op

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks guys I’ll have to make my way to an event when there up and running

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By *iceButtSlimMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Your profile isn't bad, you've got a good selection of decent pictures.

The one thing I'd change is probably use one of the more brighter and happier pictures for you profile pic.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your profile isn't bad, you've got a good selection of decent pictures.

The one thing I'd change is probably use one of the more brighter and happier pictures for you profile pic."

Thank I’ll do that

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By *hatawasteMan
over a year ago

stafford

"Is it that I’m a single guy or just don’t stand out from the rest "

Trying too hard and having hope

Just join everyone else walking the wheel and you will soon forget why you even joined the site;)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Give up now for your sanity sake.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

It might just not be the season for some so sit tight and brace yourself

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By *ittall2020Man
over a year ago

Norwich

You'll probably have more success on POF

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Like others have said, a social or club would be a really good way to expand into the community.

This site is a great way of communicating with people but it is far easier to meet people when they are already out in a club and then keep in touch with them on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Like others have said, a social or club would be a really good way to expand into the community.

This site is a great way of communicating with people but it is far easier to meet people when they are already out in a club and then keep in touch with them on here."

I hear you and thanks xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Socials are a good idea till you realise you need to pay to enter as a single man in alot of them, and even then you need to make sure it's something you really want to, or are you just looking to stand out for single one on one interaction

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By *evilandTheBeastCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough and Bedford

"Socials are a good idea till you realise you need to pay to enter as a single man in alot of them, and even then you need to make sure it's something you really want to, or are you just looking to stand out for single one on one interaction"

Go to the ones that don't charge entry? Or charge only the amount you are willing to pay? We declined an invitation to a "social" recently as they were charging £50 per couple and were a tad sketchy on why. They were like "oh, it's a post-lockdown party, with disco, karaoke etc" and they couldn't understand why we would not jump in head first. We are, however, going to one that charges £5 per person, £10 if you'd like to stay for the evening, which is much more reasonable.

If what you want from this site is a quick fuck, then we agree, socials are not for you. This site isn't necessarily either, but that's a different story.

But if you actually want to be in the swinging lifestyle, which is about more than just sex, then definitely go to organised socials, be friendly and polite, get yourself recognised on the scene.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Give up now for your sanity sake. "

That’s the spirit

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

Agree with the posts about getting yourself to socials and clubs.

Be friendly, approachable and don't expect anything.

Don't ask personal questions like where do you live, job etc.

Had one guy ask where we lived, told him the area but he replied, yes, but where exactly do you live....

Make sure you get their FAB profile name, so many times we have met and can't remember their names the next day.

Read profiles in full.

Be yourself and things will happen.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Give up now for your sanity sake. "

To deep in now to do that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Agree with the posts about getting yourself to socials and clubs.

Be friendly, approachable and don't expect anything.

Don't ask personal questions like where do you live, job etc.

Had one guy ask where we lived, told him the area but he replied, yes, but where exactly do you live....

Make sure you get their FAB profile name, so many times we have met and can't remember their names the next day.

Read profiles in full.

Be yourself and things will happen.

Good luck.

Thanks for that xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If what you want from this site is a quick fuck, then we agree, socials are not for you. This site isn't necessarily either, but that's a different story.

But if you actually want to be in the swinging lifestyle, which is about more than just sex, then definitely go to organised socials, be friendly and polite, get yourself recognised on the scene. "

Thanks I’ll do that xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Problem is men on hear hugely outnumber couples and women,have alook at profiles of men who have had meets and see what they are doing differently, best of luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Problem is men on hear hugely outnumber couples and women,have alook at profiles of men who have had meets and see what they are doing differently, best of luck"

Will do and thanks xxx but I want to be me not anyone else

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By *niper oneMan
over a year ago

DERBY/Notts border

"Is it that I’m a single guy or just don’t stand out from the rest "

Its easier on pof mate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it that I’m a single guy or just don’t stand out from the rest "

From my experience I’d say 99.9% single guy plus you need an extraordinary amount of luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is it that I’m a single guy or just don’t stand out from the rest

Its easier on pof mate."

That’s a date site is it not? I don’t want a relationship happy being single and looking for a FWV to be fair not sure I’ll find that on there

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is it that I’m a single guy or just don’t stand out from the rest

From my experience I’d say 99.9% single guy plus you need an extraordinary amount of luck. "

I get that

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By *iceguy1980Man
over a year ago

staffordshire

Because your message is 1 of 1/2/300+,. You could be god's gift but if you don't luckily get that message read.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your not it all takes time and there is always someone out there somewhere just who knows where and when

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not enough pictures of you with that moose. Bitches love moose.

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

"Is it that I’m a single guy or just don’t stand out from the rest "

You don't stand out.

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

"Is it that I’m a single guy or just don’t stand out from the rest

You don't stand out. "

Wow.. who pissed on your patch tonight.. not one nice thing said in every other thread you have commented on!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your not it all takes time and there is always someone out there somewhere just who knows where and when "

Very true

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is it that I’m a single guy or just don’t stand out from the rest

You don't stand out.

Wow.. who pissed on your patch tonight.. not one nice thing said in every other thread you have commented on!!!"

Maybe I do t stand out, sometimes you have to just be honest

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By *exysadeCouple
over a year ago

Berkshire

"Thanks guys I’ll have to make my way to an event when there up and running "

Agreed, get to a social event or club. Being a man on here your 1/20,000. Put yourself in a social event or club and your going to be 1/50 maybe less. See my logic? Is giving yourself the best chances

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By *il n FloCouple
over a year ago

Fabville

Just think...nemo got found in the end

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just keep going....im 48 fat and not the best looking (ok I am) but I chat to loads of women on here some hopefully will lead to some fun...there's no secret formula, be active in forums helps...I annoy a lot of people in here but I also get some nice messages because I got noticed x

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By *he FAB Social - MCRCouple (FF)
over a year ago

manchester

I wanna know who’s charging £50 for a social!!!!!!

Obviously why I’m going to Skegness this summer and they are going to the Seychelles. Lol

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By *r GLTMan
over a year ago

Richmond Upon Thames

OP start to visit clubs from experience that is the best way to meet couples and single ladies. Also current covid climate has put a big damper on meets and rightly so.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just think...nemo got found in the end "

So true

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By *he FAB Social - MCRCouple (FF)
over a year ago

manchester

"OP start to visit clubs from experience that is the best way to meet couples and single ladies. Also current covid climate has put a big damper on meets and rightly so."

He’s right. It’s all about networking and getting to know people, then the invitations and verifications come along. I hate the cliche old ‘you get out what you put in’ but it’s true, to make it a lifestyle you need to be seen on the scene. Xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just keep going....im 48 fat and not the best looking (ok I am) but I chat to loads of women on here some hopefully will lead to some fun...there's no secret formula, be active in forums helps...I annoy a lot of people in here but I also get some nice messages because I got noticed x"

Wish there was a secret formula lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP start to visit clubs from experience that is the best way to meet couples and single ladies. Also current covid climate has put a big damper on meets and rightly so."

I know right I joined here just before covid hit and it’s been hard for us all, I’ve had some great chats with people but no one near by

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP start to visit clubs from experience that is the best way to meet couples and single ladies. Also current covid climate has put a big damper on meets and rightly so.

When the clubs open I do intend to get myself to one

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

If what you want from this site is a quick fuck, then we agree, socials are not for you. This site isn't necessarily either, but that's a different story.

But if you actually want to be in the swinging lifestyle, which is about more than just sex, then definitely go to organised socials, be friendly and polite, get yourself recognised on the scene. "
. I can’t believe people are charging people to attend a social.The socials I have attended in London before Covid19 were in pubs and were free to attend.The organisers would start a thread in the London forum those interested in attending would express a interest on the forum.The organisers would message you the exact location a day before and I would turn up have a few drinks and a good night with like minded adults.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I have been to socials with a £5 charge. The organisers use the money to decorate the room, put sweets and nibbles on the tables and prizes for games.

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By *niper oneMan
over a year ago

DERBY/Notts border

"Is it that I’m a single guy or just don’t stand out from the rest

Its easier on pof mate.

That’s a date site is it not? I don’t want a relationship happy being single and looking for a FWV to be fair not sure I’ll find that on there "
mate youll get more sex on pof if you hit 5 on here in a year your lucky in the same time on pof you would have clocked at least 50+

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

"I have been to socials with a £5 charge. The organisers use the money to decorate the room, put sweets and nibbles on the tables and prizes for games. "
. £5-£20 to decorate a private room , nibbles and prizes and spend time with like minded people I have no problem with.It was when DevilandTheBeast said they are asked to attend a social at £50 that I couldn’t understand.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is it that I’m a single guy or just don’t stand out from the rest

Its easier on pof mate.

That’s a date site is it not? I don’t want a relationship happy being single and looking for a FWV to be fair not sure I’ll find that on there mate youll get more sex on pof if you hit 5 on here in a year your lucky in the same time on pof you would have clocked at least 50+"

Not here to fuck the whole site here to try and find a FWB or just good people to mix with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree, I've had more success on pof, ratio is slightly better

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I agree, I've had more success on pof, ratio is slightly better"

Again not here to fuck the site

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