FabSwingers.com forum: Do I have the wrong kind of profile?

By *nvincible Butterfly OP Woman
over a year ago

LEEDS

Hey fellow fabbers,

I am struggling with fab at the moment big time! More specifically finding guys who are willing to meet me as I have a partner. We are non monogamous and I do make that very clear on my profile, yet it seems the men I'm speaking to aren't comfortable with it.

Me and my other half don't do our "sex with others" together so we didn't really want to use a couple's profile... But would it be better for me to get meets if we did and marketed our selves as a "hotwife" couple? Even though that's not what we are.

Happy for suggestions on how to improve my profile text too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Attached ladies are the best! Otherwise you live life as a single male having a ball next thing you know boom your in a relationship

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By *nvincible Butterfly OP Woman
over a year ago

LEEDS

"Attached ladies are the best! Otherwise you live life as a single male having a ball next thing you know boom your in a relationship

That's true. I'm definitely not interested in getting any men I meet off here into a relationship.

Ones enough for me! Lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

If you meet as a single person you need a single profile imo.

If men aren't comfortable meeting a woman who has a partner that's their decision, there are guys who will though. Good luck

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By *nvincible Butterfly OP Woman
over a year ago

LEEDS

"If you meet as a single person you need a single profile imo.

If men aren't comfortable meeting a woman who has a partner that's their decision, there are guys who will though. Good luck

Thanks

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"If you meet as a single person you need a single profile imo.

If men aren't comfortable meeting a woman who has a partner that's their decision, there are guys who will though. Good luck

This... to be fair I cant say guys had an issue when I was on previously as a couple. If its just meeting singles for fun then the profile you have should be fine

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I haven't encountered this issue, I'm half a couple and we meet separately.

To be fair, half the messages I get are from men who haven't read my profile and Don't even realise I'm in a relationship!!

Are they saying that you being attached is a problem?

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I think your profile is fine too, let's them know what the situation is etc

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By *nvincible Butterfly OP Woman
over a year ago

LEEDS

"I haven't encountered this issue, I'm half a couple and we meet separately.

To be fair, half the messages I get are from men who haven't read my profile and Don't even realise I'm in a relationship!!

Are they saying that you being attached is a problem? "

Yeah all goes well for a few days and then once I mention my partner I get blocked or a silly reply like "sorry I don't meet women who are cheaters" or "didn't realise you had a partner"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow I get the opposite of this, I am married and yes he knows I am on here and I meet. Most blokes that message me say it's hot

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"I haven't encountered this issue, I'm half a couple and we meet separately.

To be fair, half the messages I get are from men who haven't read my profile and Don't even realise I'm in a relationship!!

Are they saying that you being attached is a problem?

Yeah all goes well for a few days and then once I mention my partner I get blocked or a silly reply like "sorry I don't meet women who are cheaters" or "didn't realise you had a partner"

Then they're not reading properly for a change, it's v clear on your profile that you meet with permission. I have it in my headline that I'm half a couple and it still doesn't seem to sink in.

I don't know what to suggest as an alternative as you're being totally upfront. I do use it as a filter when someone clearly hasn't read and seen I'm meeting with permission x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven't encountered this issue, I'm half a couple and we meet separately.

To be fair, half the messages I get are from men who haven't read my profile and Don't even realise I'm in a relationship!!

Are they saying that you being attached is a problem?

Yeah all goes well for a few days and then once I mention my partner I get blocked or a silly reply like "sorry I don't meet women who are cheaters" or "didn't realise you had a partner"

Yeah put Hotwife as your profile header. Or as text across a pic of your boobs. Then they might see it.

Depends on what you say about your partner just before they get cold feet.... Will he be present at the meet? Or in the same house?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I haven't encountered this issue, I'm half a couple and we meet separately.

To be fair, half the messages I get are from men who haven't read my profile and Don't even realise I'm in a relationship!!

Are they saying that you being attached is a problem?

Yeah all goes well for a few days and then once I mention my partner I get blocked or a silly reply like "sorry I don't meet women who are cheaters" or "didn't realise you had a partner"

Men meeting with their parents permission have the same problem. Nobody believes them

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"I haven't encountered this issue, I'm half a couple and we meet separately.

To be fair, half the messages I get are from men who haven't read my profile and Don't even realise I'm in a relationship!!

Are they saying that you being attached is a problem?

Yeah all goes well for a few days and then once I mention my partner I get blocked or a silly reply like "sorry I don't meet women who are cheaters" or "didn't realise you had a partner"

Because it invariably leads to all kinds of weirdness, don’t message on weekends, can’t use WhatsApp etc, park on the next street . I don't want any part of that kind of weirdness

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By *nvincible Butterfly OP Woman
over a year ago

LEEDS

"I haven't encountered this issue, I'm half a couple and we meet separately.

To be fair, half the messages I get are from men who haven't read my profile and Don't even realise I'm in a relationship!!

Are they saying that you being attached is a problem?

Yeah all goes well for a few days and then once I mention my partner I get blocked or a silly reply like "sorry I don't meet women who are cheaters" or "didn't realise you had a partner"

Yeah put Hotwife as your profile header. Or as text across a pic of your boobs. Then they might see it.

Depends on what you say about your partner just before they get cold feet.... Will he be present at the meet? Or in the same house? "

No we won't be anywhere near my meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven't encountered this issue, I'm half a couple and we meet separately.

To be fair, half the messages I get are from men who haven't read my profile and Don't even realise I'm in a relationship!!

Are they saying that you being attached is a problem?

Yeah all goes well for a few days and then once I mention my partner I get blocked or a silly reply like "sorry I don't meet women who are cheaters" or "didn't realise you had a partner"

Men meeting with their parents permission have the same problem. Nobody believes them"

Parents?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I haven't encountered this issue, I'm half a couple and we meet separately.

To be fair, half the messages I get are from men who haven't read my profile and Don't even realise I'm in a relationship!!

Are they saying that you being attached is a problem?

Yeah all goes well for a few days and then once I mention my partner I get blocked or a silly reply like "sorry I don't meet women who are cheaters" or "didn't realise you had a partner"

Men meeting with their parents permission have the same problem. Nobody believes them"

Parents

. Partner I meant PARTNER.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I haven't encountered this issue, I'm half a couple and we meet separately.

To be fair, half the messages I get are from men who haven't read my profile and Don't even realise I'm in a relationship!!

Are they saying that you being attached is a problem?

Yeah all goes well for a few days and then once I mention my partner I get blocked or a silly reply like "sorry I don't meet women who are cheaters" or "didn't realise you had a partner"

Men meeting with their parents permission have the same problem. Nobody believes them

Parents

. Partner I meant PARTNER. "

typos

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I haven't encountered this issue, I'm half a couple and we meet separately.

To be fair, half the messages I get are from men who haven't read my profile and Don't even realise I'm in a relationship!!

Are they saying that you being attached is a problem?

Yeah all goes well for a few days and then once I mention my partner I get blocked or a silly reply like "sorry I don't meet women who are cheaters" or "didn't realise you had a partner"

Men meeting with their parents permission have the same problem. Nobody believes them

Parents?

I have got to learn to proof read

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

But your profile is fine RW - makes it very clear , maybe guys have had problems in the past and don’t want to take the risk again. Some guys even track journeys on Google ...

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By *nvincible Butterfly OP Woman
over a year ago

LEEDS

"I haven't encountered this issue, I'm half a couple and we meet separately.

To be fair, half the messages I get are from men who haven't read my profile and Don't even realise I'm in a relationship!!

Are they saying that you being attached is a problem?

Yeah all goes well for a few days and then once I mention my partner I get blocked or a silly reply like "sorry I don't meet women who are cheaters" or "didn't realise you had a partner"

Men meeting with their parents permission have the same problem. Nobody believes them

Parents?

I have got to learn to proof read

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Keeping it simple is the best approach. Don't introduce your partner if he's not involved with your meets, into the equation.

It's hard work to filter men down to the appropriate ones but there are plenty here who want full NSA. Promote your interests at all opportunities, including via the meets section, profile, the forum etc.

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By *armupartistMan
over a year ago

York

"Hey fellow fabbers,

Happy for suggestions on how to improve my profile text too.

Thanks

I would love to meet you, love your attitude, love your body, it would be fun to get to know you... but I am too old... boohoo (is it alright for grown men to cry on Fab?)

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I agree with _ophieslut. In your messages there is no need to mention your partner.

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By *ouplesonlyCouple
over a year ago

leeds

It’s all a bit of a minefield. We don’t have pics on here with our request. Because we stumbled across someone we knew and decided against it. This means we don’t get the attention we are looking for.

I think you have to keep at it x

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Your pictures are lovely. I personally would cut the first two paragraphs. Men know women don't look like porn stars. Otherwise i am afraid i have no idea why guys aren't falling over themselves to get to you.

You could try a video. I just posted a short one just for fun and it's proving popular.

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

You sound like a nice lady and look lovely .,, beyond me why your struggling .,,profile is good .., is it just that they are struggling to read it, in which case they are not for you.

Maybe have a look round and message a few gents that you think might be compatible ? If you haven’t already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps it's actually your requirement for VWE men only? Despite creative photography on here most men are average sized, you're limiting yourself to a very small demographic that is as equally in high demand as single women are on this site.

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By *nvincible Butterfly OP Woman
over a year ago

LEEDS

"Perhaps it's actually your requirement for VWE men only? Despite creative photography on here most men are average sized, you're limiting yourself to a very small demographic that is as equally in high demand as single women are on this site."

That's just my preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's just my preference "

Absolutely, and there is nothing wrong with that; it just may well be limiting the number of people that will contact you after matching your requirements.

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