FabSwingers.com forum: Single Men, tips from a single woman x

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just thought it might help if I post how single men get to meet me

1. No cock shots - yep always leave the ladies wanting more. Show your bums, chests, but no cock shots. I have seen so many I get bored and click delete. If I can't see it on a picture chances are I will want to see it in person

2. Come into the chatroom - come on webcam and talk to people face to face. As soon as I get requests to look at someones cam, they are usually wanking! If I can see you are a nice friendly guy your chances go up 99% that I want to meet you.

3. Respect - do not stereo-type me into the whore role. Just because I am on here doesn't mean that I am not a person. When I get messages like suck it bitch, I click delete. You say hi to me, I will remember you x

4. Remember people talk - if you are abusive or stalking someone, chances are they will tell others and you will not get any meets. Also have a sense of humour and that makes me want to meet you x

Hope it helps x

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Here's some more advice from another single woman.

1. I love cock shots. Not too many though, just one or two. I prefer face pics and am likely to delete your message if I don't get one.

2. I don't chat or webcam. I state it clearly on my profile and any message asking me to will get deleted.

3. I quite like filthy messages, but one liners will be deleted.

4. I don't tell others about bad messages, and no-one has ever passed on 'advice' to me about others. I am likely to ignore it anyway as everyone is different, and they might like someone I don't. Live and let live is what I say!

That should confuse the issue even more!

Seriously though, everyone is looking for different things on here. What is good for one is not good for others, as I might have demonstrated above.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It is true that women want different things, but hopefully it should help the guys that aren't getting any meets x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the real challenge is knowing that different women want different things and guessing each person you come across right. Sometimes I think the ones that want the dirty chat get put off if you come over as a 'nice guy' in the same way that someone who wants a nice guy gets put off by the ones that come straight in with the filth.

I used to think my meets through fab were few and far between but after looking at the number of guys with no meets compared to my few then i guess i'm actually one of the lucky ones.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Another hint for getting a meet:

If you don't get a reply to your first 'fancy a fuck' message, do not send another one 2 minutes later, then another one 4 minutes after that, and yet another one 5 minutes after that!

Take a hint! Or is that too difficult for some people????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ironic thing is that half of those guys won't even visit the forums, let alone read this thread. Save the link and then next time you get one copy and paste it to them in the reply.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"The ironic thing is that half of those guys won't even visit the forums, let alone read this thread. Save the link and then next time you get one copy and paste it to them in the reply."

Tell me about it!

But in doing that, would only make them think I secrectly wanted to meet because I replied lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well you can't put sense where there isn't any. :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Another hint for getting a meet:

If you don't get a reply to your first 'fancy a fuck' message, do not send another one 2 minutes later, then another one 4 minutes after that, and yet another one 5 minutes after that!

Take a hint! Or is that too difficult for some people????

100 millions % agree!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good advice.

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

1. i never wank on cam.

2. i treat people how they treat me.

3. every meet i treat her/them with respect until told other wise.

forums are just for fun, real me is very different to what you possibly think

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By *onny BonesMan
over a year ago

a block away from heaven

I think that by considering the view of OP and following poster puts this whole scene into perspective.

My advice is to find your niche, be patient and be yourself. Someone for everyone!

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees

Now I like what Darcy James says, and I also like what Wyrdwoman says too.

But which one's best......

There's only one way to find out....

MFFight!!

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By *am sampsonMan
over a year ago

cwmbran

"It is true that women want different things, but hopefully it should help the guys that aren't getting any meets x"

Sound advice but anyone who listens to gossip from anyone else is shallow because that's all it is gossip

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I strongly believe survival is the fittest.

At the end of the day, what good is a good looking apple when it is rotten to the core?!

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By *af90Man
over a year ago

Anywhere in the South West

"The ironic thing is that half of those guys won't even visit the forums, let alone read this thread. Save the link and then next time you get one copy and paste it to them in the reply."

No, girls, don't do that! It's a good idea but as one of the guys who does read the forums and wants to differentiate himself from some of the one syllable wonders on here, I need all the help I can get!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here's some more advice from another single woman.

1. I love cock shots. Not too many though, just one or two. I prefer face pics and am likely to delete your message if I don't get one.

2. I don't chat or webcam. I state it clearly on my profile and any message asking me to will get deleted.

3. I quite like filthy messages, but one liners will be deleted.

That should confuse the issue even more!

Seriously though, everyone is looking for different things on here. What is good for one is not good for others, as I might have demonstrated above."

Here's some more advice from another single woman

just ask me im easy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it harder for the younger singles? Ive bin on here a wile spoke to fantastic people but never got any further?

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By *winging In The RainMan
over a year ago

St Helens / Liverpool

"Is it harder for the younger singles? Ive bin on here a wile spoke to fantastic people but never got any further?

I'm younger than you and have had several meets so far with two different couples. Just be polite to people that message you and don't send off one liners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm by no means an expert but the advice I would give to anyone, not just single male profiles is talk to & treat people as you would if you'd met them in a social environment (Pub etc) - not as a pair of tits / cock on the internet that has no feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not pushy and am well aware that no is no, I never send a second if the first is deleted. I always say a little about myself and my situation also never ask for a shag always a drink/meet to see if both party's click?

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By *eneral HysteriaMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

I think it's great that's there are lots of dickheads out there who give the 'fancy a fuck' one liners, who pester and pester, who have no communication skills whatsoever so don't know how to chat to a woman or a couple.

I do, really.

It give the others more chance to meet decent, sexy people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And another thing

I don't know how the ladies feel about this but personally, I think any guy who's user name refers to the "alleged" size of his cock (HungHugeBigBoyWang etc - you know who you are) or the make of car/bike he drives is pretty lame

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's great that's there are lots of dickheads out there who give the 'fancy a fuck' one liners, who pester and pester, who have no communication skills whatsoever so don't know how to chat to a woman or a couple.

I do, really.

It give the others more chance to meet decent, sexy people

I'd take that a step further and say that, as the majority of men on here are lazy and drab in their approaches, it means that the ladies with similar lack of understanding of the human psyche (Again this is a large proportion, given the evidence that I've seen), get a false sense of security and don't realise that most of them are probably being manipulated by a large chunk of the small minority of men that do have the nouse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

whats the best opening message to send a women. thats wer i fuk up i always say hello how r ya then a wee bit about myself and 2/10 dont replay.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ooooh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"whats the best opening message to send a women. thats wer i fuk up i always say hello how r ya then a wee bit about myself and 2/10 dont replay."

Maybe a great idea would be to read the ladies profiles ?

If you read the profile and don't understand what they are lookin for , ask them ? Or move on !

If a lady says, no message tennis, they prob just want "fancy a fuck" message but if they have a profile outlining likes dislikes , you have to work around them, find a common like and message about that.

It's all about perseverance , I'd say most single guys struggle to gets loads meets but if your in here posting and reading the forums it will show the ladies your personality and won't do your chances any harm .

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By *aveandkate35Couple
over a year ago

telford

In the spirit of trying to help... Don't tell me/us how wonderful you are in bed! I know that sounds daft but telling us that you're "gonna make you cum so hard" "know exactly how to drive a woman wild" just tells us you have so little experience with women that's it's almost a cert you won't!

All women/men are different, if you believe you have atechnique, or cock, figure, personality or sense of humour that pleases everyone then you're delluded.

I know this goes against the contradiction of telling people what you can offer them, but instead put it into context - give examples of what you like, what your fantasies are, what you like doing to others and yeah, some people will delete, others will grin.

but your lead generation will probably be much better quality.

Always ask youself why people are here? Again sounds obvious but there are lots of different reasons driving people to wNt to include others in their sex lives. The dynamic for a couple can be different for a single woman for example.

If you are one of the multitude of males who thinks that couples swing because the man isn't enough for the woman, delete your account now and sign up to match. You may give Kate a great time, be a lovely bloke and get on really well, but the sex we have in private will always be better. The 10+ years of emotional investment to each other counts for more than a good shagging.

however amazing that shagging is.

Anyway, that's my 2p.

Hope it helps

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By *he gangbang girlCouple
over a year ago

bridgend

Brilliantly put. 100% agree.

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By *oonytoonMan
over a year ago

derby

I've found that going to clubs give you a better chance of meeting and playing I tend to use fab for learning about swinging and peoples thoughts and reasons behind it rather than hunting for a meet which is probably why I've had quite a few good conversations but no meets from here yet lol

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By *xodussxMan
over a year ago

sheffield

Why can't we just go with the flow????

The best meets I've had when I was here came out of the blue from ladies who just send a message to compliment on something or a post and we took it from there

Yes all the tips you ladies listed work fine

But.....please don't kill the fun trying to tick all the boxes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

after reading the first to two posts again im confused.

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By *abloBackMan
over a year ago

London

Here's some more advice from another single woman

just ask me im easy

PM sent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and

i agree with...

everything else is entirely subjective to whoever wants to meet me, or I want to meet them.

If a profile doesnt suit ur taste fair enough...I dont personally care..I know whats outwith a profile,and I play by my rules as a priority rather than others...successfully most of the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the real challenge is knowing that different women want different things and guessing each person you come across right. Sometimes I think the ones that want the dirty chat get put off if you come over as a 'nice guy' in the same way that someone who wants a nice guy gets put off by the ones that come straight in with the filth.

I used to think my meets through fab were few and far between but after looking at the number of guys with no meets compared to my few then i guess i'm actually one of the lucky ones."

if we were that good, I'd have won the lottery by now lol

men are sometimes put off by over-demanding checklists in profiles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is true that women want different things, but hopefully it should help the guys that aren't getting any meets x"

yeah the guys who never get meets probs should take notice, as they will get far more meets acting like that than just letting their dirty/horny side do the talking

everyones after different things, but i think being decent and respectful and waiting till the lady shows her dirty side to you before you show yours gets alot better results than being blunt and/or pervy and just thinking me me me now now now

worked well for me anyways and i usually look at the people moaning about not getting any meets and think if i had their figure n looks id probs get twice as many meets as i do now lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is it harder for the younger singles? Ive bin on here a wile spoke to fantastic people but never got any further?

yes and no, everyone has age limits, they are young and older couples as well as singles, so where you might not get a chance with a 40+ you probs stand a good chance with 20s,

they are people who think young uns are too young for swinging, and if they are like that then its important to come accross as mature and respectfull as that will help with people like that to know your not just a young jack the lad chancer

it is harder for bi guys though, plenty of lasses and couples aint intrested in bi guys

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