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"Having previously feared I’d be jealous of seeing Roger with anyone else it turned out that it was a complete non-issue. Communication is so important. As is understanding, in our opinion, that just because your other half is experiencing something with someone else it doesn’t necessarily mean they think it’s better, it’s just different. Remove any notion of being in competition and it makes things so much more fun. " Thank you... that’s good to hear - I do hope it’s a non-issue for us too x | |||
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"You don't have to do all things at once. You may start with someone just watching you or you watching others. When you are more confident, you may want to try more "Thank you... yes, that’s what I’m thinking, build my confidence slowly and all will be great x | |||
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"be honest with your oh, if you arent happy in a situation tell him so, dont do it for him, only do what you are happy with, if you are happy then relax and enjoy, but the main thing is dont do it for someone else, do it because you want to, best of luck" Thanks! There’s no pressure from him and I know my own mind... I will stick to being honest and communicating x | |||
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"be honest with your oh, if you arent happy in a situation tell him so, dont do it for him, only do what you are happy with, if you are happy then relax and enjoy, but the main thing is dont do it for someone else, do it because you want to, best of luck Thanks! There’s no pressure from him and I know my own mind... I will stick to being honest and communicating x" Thats the only way , comunication is key, it sounds like you are going into it with your eyes open, as i said i hope you have fun, the first time will always be nervy xx | |||
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"be honest with your oh, if you arent happy in a situation tell him so, dont do it for him, only do what you are happy with, if you are happy then relax and enjoy, but the main thing is dont do it for someone else, do it because you want to, best of luck Thanks! There’s no pressure from him and I know my own mind... I will stick to being honest and communicating x Thats the only way , comunication is key, it sounds like you are going into it with your eyes open, as i said i hope you have fun, the first time will always be nervy xx" Thank you x It does feel nervy... we’ve spoken about it loads, but hopefully it will turn out really well. I have been doing loads of research and am definitely looking forward to my first experience... just wish those nerves would disappear x | |||
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"be honest with your oh, if you arent happy in a situation tell him so, dont do it for him, only do what you are happy with, if you are happy then relax and enjoy, but the main thing is dont do it for someone else, do it because you want to, best of luck Thanks! There’s no pressure from him and I know my own mind... I will stick to being honest and communicating x Thats the only way , comunication is key, it sounds like you are going into it with your eyes open, as i said i hope you have fun, the first time will always be nervy xx Thank you x It does feel nervy... we’ve spoken about it loads, but hopefully it will turn out really well. I have been doing loads of research and am definitely looking forward to my first experience... just wish those nerves would disappear x" they will once you get into it,, maybe meet for a few drinks first before playtime, get to know eachother and feel more comfotable, there are always nerves meeting someone new, its part of the fun xx | |||
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"We had many discussions before we even went to a club and have never looked back! We only ever play if we are both happy to. The first time we swapped it was exhilarating and a huge turn on, no jealousy as it’s fun sex and that’s it, relax and enjoy "Thanks... yes, totally agree, we would only play if we were both happy! Really hoping it’s a huge turn on for me too x | |||
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"be honest with your oh, if you arent happy in a situation tell him so, dont do it for him, only do what you are happy with, if you are happy then relax and enjoy, but the main thing is dont do it for someone else, do it because you want to, best of luck Thanks! There’s no pressure from him and I know my own mind... I will stick to being honest and communicating x Thats the only way , comunication is key, it sounds like you are going into it with your eyes open, as i said i hope you have fun, the first time will always be nervy xx Thank you x It does feel nervy... we’ve spoken about it loads, but hopefully it will turn out really well. I have been doing loads of research and am definitely looking forward to my first experience... just wish those nerves would disappear x they will once you get into it,, maybe meet for a few drinks first before playtime, get to know eachother and feel more comfotable, there are always nerves meeting someone new, its part of the fun xx" Yes, we’re definitely meeting other couples for drinks beforehand. I do think it’ll be fine... just covering every angle. We have a great relationship, so hoping this added extra will enhance what we already have x | |||
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"be honest with your oh, if you arent happy in a situation tell him so, dont do it for him, only do what you are happy with, if you are happy then relax and enjoy, but the main thing is dont do it for someone else, do it because you want to, best of luck Thanks! There’s no pressure from him and I know my own mind... I will stick to being honest and communicating x Thats the only way , comunication is key, it sounds like you are going into it with your eyes open, as i said i hope you have fun, the first time will always be nervy xx Thank you x It does feel nervy... we’ve spoken about it loads, but hopefully it will turn out really well. I have been doing loads of research and am definitely looking forward to my first experience... just wish those nerves would disappear x they will once you get into it,, maybe meet for a few drinks first before playtime, get to know eachother and feel more comfotable, there are always nerves meeting someone new, its part of the fun xx Yes, we’re definitely meeting other couples for drinks beforehand. I do think it’ll be fine... just covering every angle. We have a great relationship, so hoping this added extra will enhance what we already have x" might sound funny, but swinging has made us closer as a couple | |||
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"be honest with your oh, if you arent happy in a situation tell him so, dont do it for him, only do what you are happy with, if you are happy then relax and enjoy, but the main thing is dont do it for someone else, do it because you want to, best of luck Thanks! There’s no pressure from him and I know my own mind... I will stick to being honest and communicating x Thats the only way , comunication is key, it sounds like you are going into it with your eyes open, as i said i hope you have fun, the first time will always be nervy xx Thank you x It does feel nervy... we’ve spoken about it loads, but hopefully it will turn out really well. I have been doing loads of research and am definitely looking forward to my first experience... just wish those nerves would disappear x they will once you get into it,, maybe meet for a few drinks first before playtime, get to know eachother and feel more comfotable, there are always nerves meeting someone new, its part of the fun xx Yes, we’re definitely meeting other couples for drinks beforehand. I do think it’ll be fine... just covering every angle. We have a great relationship, so hoping this added extra will enhance what we already have x might sound funny, but swinging has made us closer as a couple" Not funny at all... my partner who has experienced swinging in a previous relationship, says exactly the same. Could you elaborate on how it’s brought you closer together? Thank you x | |||
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"My after care is very important to me x I love it when he reclaims me and tells me how awesome I am x we have an amazing time after we have played with others x " Thank you! I think this would be very important to me... I will ensure we always make time for this xx | |||
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"My after care is very important to me x I love it when he reclaims me and tells me how awesome I am x we have an amazing time after we have played with others x Thank you! I think this would be very important to me... I will ensure we always make time for this xx" I find it just solidifies us again x best of luck and above all have fun. Our rule is the least experienced lady in the room sets the pace. That way everyone has a nice time and no one feels overwhelmed x | |||
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"My after care is very important to me x I love it when he reclaims me and tells me how awesome I am x we have an amazing time after we have played with others x Thank you! I think this would be very important to me... I will ensure we always make time for this xx I find it just solidifies us again x best of luck and above all have fun. Our rule is the least experienced lady in the room sets the pace. That way everyone has a nice time and no one feels overwhelmed x " Thanks so much xx Love that rule... thanks for sharing x | |||
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"you need to be a very together loving trusting couple to swing as a couple ...do it for extra fun and not because something is missing or needs repairing and talk talk and talk no one know you like each other ...talk set your ground rules and preference and stick to them..... also if one says no then you both say no no matter what and who. me and hubs have done this for 28 years now but have seen so many split because they do it for the wrong reasons ...its got to be about having fun and for both of you" We are definitely doing it for the fun, and also friendships. Thanks for the great tips... I love the no means no and will stick with it x | |||
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"All good advice here. If you’re unsure work up to it so that you’re excited about the next step not having doubts. If the lifestyle is right for you then you’ll know and vice versa. Good luck. " Thank you x | |||
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"Don't let it take over your every waking hour" Ooh, what do you mean by this? We’re planning to meet other couples every couple of months for play dates. | |||
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"Don't let it take over your every waking hour Ooh, what do you mean by this? We’re planning to meet other couples every couple of months for play dates. " think what he ment was dont let it rule your life ... but how regular you meet is down to you during non covid times ive met regular guys 2 3 or 4 times a week lol if your horny your horny like said as long as both agree one saying no cancels you both... it really is your rules and your rules only like said 28 year and still loving it like the first year we started great fun indeed... | |||
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"Don't let it take over your every waking hour Ooh, what do you mean by this? We’re planning to meet other couples every couple of months for play dates. think what he ment was dont let it rule your life ... but how regular you meet is down to you during non covid times ive met regular guys 2 3 or 4 times a week lol if your horny your horny like said as long as both agree one saying no cancels you both... it really is your rules and your rules only like said 28 year and still loving it like the first year we started great fun indeed..." Thank you xx This definitely won’t rule our life, but will hopefully just be a fun and exciting part element! | |||
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"Enjoy op been doing this for nearly 10 years met some wonderful people and had some great times and that's what it's all about good times and great people x" Thank you xx | |||
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"There are no hard and fast rules. Being a "swinger" doesn't mean you have to act a certain way or do certain things. We are all individuals and we do things for our own reasons. With this in mind my first question to yourself would have to be why are you doing it and what do you hope to and or think you will gain from it?" Hi, thanks for your response and questions. I want to try swinging because I think it will be fun, I enjoy sex and the thought of doing this with my partner is exciting... something we can enjoy together. I hope to gain sexual liberation and a deeper connection with my partner. I love my freedom, and I believe with the support of my partner, being free to swing will enhance our relationship x | |||
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"There are no hard and fast rules. Being a "swinger" doesn't mean you have to act a certain way or do certain things. We are all individuals and we do things for our own reasons. With this in mind my first question to yourself would have to be why are you doing it and what do you hope to and or think you will gain from it? Hi, thanks for your response and questions. I want to try swinging because I think it will be fun, I enjoy sex and the thought of doing this with my partner is exciting... something we can enjoy together. I hope to gain sexual liberation and a deeper connection with my partner. I love my freedom, and I believe with the support of my partner, being free to swing will enhance our relationship x" The next question is who's idea was it? | |||
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"Hi - I am new to swinging, but my partner is very experienced. I’m looking forward to this journey with him, but wondered if any of you had any tips? We will be going to socials now that things are getting back to normal, but any tips on first experiences and seeing your partner for the first time with another person would be great. I’m not a jealous person but I’ve not experienced this before... would be great to hear how that first experience was for you.., thanks, Ash x" We aren’t massively experienced (only ever had two MFM) but our advice is take it slow. Don’t rush or be pressured by anyone (even ur partner as there maybe one of you who is more excited/interested in this lifestyle than the other) always respect each other and anyone invited in to your relationship. Enjoy it!!! Apprehension and nerves is enjoyable for us. | |||
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"Hi - I am new to swinging, but my partner is very experienced. I’m looking forward to this journey with him, but wondered if any of you had any tips? We will be going to socials now that things are getting back to normal, but any tips on first experiences and seeing your partner for the first time with another person would be great. I’m not a jealous person but I’ve not experienced this before... would be great to hear how that first experience was for you.., thanks, Ash x" Hello swinging not matter how far you go can bring you tighter as a couple ...be honest ..open minded and always go at your pace....little steps ....and you may surprise yourself over time ...enjoy your journey  | |||
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"There are no hard and fast rules. Being a "swinger" doesn't mean you have to act a certain way or do certain things. We are all individuals and we do things for our own reasons. With this in mind my first question to yourself would have to be why are you doing it and what do you hope to and or think you will gain from it? Hi, thanks for your response and questions. I want to try swinging because I think it will be fun, I enjoy sex and the thought of doing this with my partner is exciting... something we can enjoy together. I hope to gain sexual liberation and a deeper connection with my partner. I love my freedom, and I believe with the support of my partner, being free to swing will enhance our relationship x The next question is who's idea was it?" My idea... although I was aware that he had done this previously in a relationship. No persuasion from him at all x | |||
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"Hi - I am new to swinging, but my partner is very experienced. I’m looking forward to this journey with him, but wondered if any of you had any tips? We will be going to socials now that things are getting back to normal, but any tips on first experiences and seeing your partner for the first time with another person would be great. I’m not a jealous person but I’ve not experienced this before... would be great to hear how that first experience was for you.., thanks, Ash x We aren’t massively experienced (only ever had two MFM) but our advice is take it slow. Don’t rush or be pressured by anyone (even ur partner as there maybe one of you who is more excited/interested in this lifestyle than the other) always respect each other and anyone invited in to your relationship. Enjoy it!!! Apprehension and nerves is enjoyable for us. " Thanks for your response... we are extremely respectful of each other and there is no pressure whatsoever... if it’s not fun for one of us, we won’t do it x | |||
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"Hi - I am new to swinging, but my partner is very experienced. I’m looking forward to this journey with him, but wondered if any of you had any tips? We will be going to socials now that things are getting back to normal, but any tips on first experiences and seeing your partner for the first time with another person would be great. I’m not a jealous person but I’ve not experienced this before... would be great to hear how that first experience was for you.., thanks, Ash xHello swinging not matter how far you go can bring you tighter as a couple ...be honest ..open minded and always go at your pace....little steps ....and you may surprise yourself over time ...enjoy your journey "Thank you... I’m looking forward to the journey x | |||
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