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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey, just found this forum spot. I have been on here a while nd never been successful with one meet yet. I am just coming out of a relationship (girl was open to me with other women) but i guess im just curious as to what girls are looking for in a profile or the first message. Cheers x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi, first you have to be verified. Either through cam chat which you need to be a site supporter to get access to. Or do the social scene, clubs, sex cinemas, meets. Meets are advertised on the site. Now things are opening up, you have more chance to attend these now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting laid?

I have no idea why you’ve been unsuccessful.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I would advise you to make your gallery a lot less cock heavy. Your knob is something you can use when you are successful with a meet. It is very unlikely to be something that actually gets you the meet. Cock photos put off a lot of women (but not all).

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

There's nothing very appealing about your profile text. You need to come across as somebody people would want to meet. There's nothing there to make people think it would be good to spend time with you. You need to inject a bit of personality rather than have a list of sexual desires.

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

Get rid of the cum shots, try and be more adult with the words you use! Build a social circle of friends first!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Change your first cock pic...it scared me...

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

Lose the 420 bit too..

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle


"Change your first cock pic...it scared me..."

Good old death grip

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By *lackCherry...Woman
over a year ago

North East

In my opinion your cock pics are very off putting

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By *isstinseltoesWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

As others said op get rid of all the cock pics, I'd click straight off your profile.

One or two is fine in a mix of other pics,but leave something to the imagination.

Also sell yourself, you need to stand against all the other men looking to get laid.

What can you offer and why should someone choose you?.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Lose the 420 bit too.."

No, don’t, some of us use it as a filter!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks people, genuinely appreciate it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lose the 420 bit too.."

No. Keep it.

Be honest.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I agree with all the above but the main reason you have been unsuccessful, is that you joined shortly after a global pandemic started.

Nobody should have been meeting for sex with strangers.

Best of luck now things are opening up.

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By *iner69erMan
over a year ago

inverness

It's unlikely you will get a meet,no matter what you do with your profile. Some guys though seem to have that certain something,so maybe you will get lucky.

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By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La


"Hi, first you have to be verified. Either through cam chat which you need to be a site supporter to get access to. Or do the social scene, clubs, sex cinemas, meets. Meets are advertised on the site. Now things are opening up, you have more chance to attend these now."

No one has to be verified.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Lose the 420 bit too..

No. Keep it.

Be honest. "

This why remove something from your profile that you enjoy doing. It will put some off but others who also enjoy the same past time will be more encouraged to meet you.

Being honest on a profile will ensure any meet gets to a better start.

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By *ex-a-frolicsCouple
over a year ago

Brizzle


"Lose the 420 bit too..

No. Keep it.

Be honest.

This why remove something from your profile that you enjoy doing. It will put some off but others who also enjoy the same past time will be more encouraged to meet you.

Being honest on a profile will ensure any meet gets to a better start. "

We’re not with you on this one, we use it as a filter, if we know beforehand we won’t meet (sex is our drug)

If we met & then found out we’d make our excuses. Even if they weren’t smoking around us, we’d be put off by the stench of the joint they’d had prior. How anybody can say the smell of Cannabis is sexy is beyond us, it’s disgusting.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Hey, just found this forum spot. I have been on here a while nd never been successful with one meet yet. I am just coming out of a relationship (girl was open to me with other women) but i guess im just curious as to what girls are looking for in a profile or the first message. Cheers x"

Not the demographic a lot are looking for .

However, there is always a niche.

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Change your profile pic, the most prominent thing is the light

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"Lose the 420 bit too..

No. Keep it.

Be honest.

This why remove something from your profile that you enjoy doing. It will put some off but others who also enjoy the same past time will be more encouraged to meet you.

Being honest on a profile will ensure any meet gets to a better start.

We’re not with you on this one, we use it as a filter, if we know beforehand we won’t meet (sex is our drug)

If we met & then found out we’d make our excuses. Even if they weren’t smoking around us, we’d be put off by the stench of the joint they’d had prior. How anybody can say the smell of Cannabis is sexy is beyond us, it’s disgusting. "

That’s why I’m advising he keeps the 420 on his profile and not hide the fact he smokes. So you would know that in advance.

I actually agree with you I can’t stand the smell and I wouldn’t meet someone who does smoke .

Too many people giving advice on profiles, telling them to hide certain things they enjoy doing to the detriment of those who could meet them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You a musician. Thought that could be very social.!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

best to be yourself and let people see the real you so they cam make a real choice also dont ask for advice as you'll have a boring profile just like the others who have asked

only you know you..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lose the 420 bit too..

No. Keep it.

Be honest.

This why remove something from your profile that you enjoy doing. It will put some off but others who also enjoy the same past time will be more encouraged to meet you.

Being honest on a profile will ensure any meet gets to a better start.

We’re not with you on this one, we use it as a filter, if we know beforehand we won’t meet (sex is our drug)

If we met & then found out we’d make our excuses. Even if they weren’t smoking around us, we’d be put off by the stench of the joint they’d had prior. How anybody can say the smell of Cannabis is sexy is beyond us, it’s disgusting.

That’s why I’m advising he keeps the 420 on his profile and not hide the fact he smokes. So you would know that in advance.

I actually agree with you I can’t stand the smell and I wouldn’t meet someone who does smoke .

Too many people giving advice on profiles, telling them to hide certain things they enjoy doing to the detriment of those who could meet them. "

Exactly.

Saying you’re not with us on this doesn’t make any sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lose the 420 bit too..

No. Keep it.

Be honest.

This why remove something from your profile that you enjoy doing. It will put some off but others who also enjoy the same past time will be more encouraged to meet you.

Being honest on a profile will ensure any meet gets to a better start.

We’re not with you on this one, we use it as a filter, if we know beforehand we won’t meet (sex is our drug)

If we met & then found out we’d make our excuses. Even if they weren’t smoking around us, we’d be put off by the stench of the joint they’d had prior. How anybody can say the smell of Cannabis is sexy is beyond us, it’s disgusting.

That’s why I’m advising he keeps the 420 on his profile and not hide the fact he smokes. So you would know that in advance.

I actually agree with you I can’t stand the smell and I wouldn’t meet someone who does smoke .

Too many people giving advice on profiles, telling them to hide certain things they enjoy doing to the detriment of those who could meet them. "

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By *amantha TSWoman
over a year ago

Swindon


"Lose the 420 bit too..

No. Keep it.

Be honest.

This why remove something from your profile that you enjoy doing. It will put some off but others who also enjoy the same past time will be more encouraged to meet you.

Being honest on a profile will ensure any meet gets to a better start.

We’re not with you on this one, we use it as a filter, if we know beforehand we won’t meet (sex is our drug)

If we met & then found out we’d make our excuses. Even if they weren’t smoking around us, we’d be put off by the stench of the joint they’d had prior. How anybody can say the smell of Cannabis is sexy is beyond us, it’s disgusting. "

^ this.

For me being open and honest is the key thing here. It's main reason I won't talk to straight guys who message me saying they want to play, if you do then you're bi-curous as a minimum!

Be proud of who you are, own it and celebrate it. You might think you're reducing your chances by reducing the number of people who will look at you, but actually you'll increase the chances as these people who you tick the boxes for will see more of your personality and that's what counts on here.

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By *ex-a-frolicsCouple
over a year ago

Brizzle

Op’s gone quiet. Sadly a shameless look at my dick thread, like so many on here.

Please please keep the 420 bit in there, for us Sex is our drug & if we saw that mentioned it would be an instant block (that’s if we were looking for single males).

We understand (but find it hard to swallow) pun intended, that some people claim they can’t have a good time without drugs, it’s a comment we hear lots.

Even if they wanted to abstain during a meet, undoubtedly they would have partaken prior & the stench it leaves is awful. I guess however if you yourselves are users you wouldn’t notice that.

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