FabSwingers.com forum: Tough for a single guy

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

should it be really hard for a single guy to get any luck on here?

is there that many fakes on here that are really spoiling it for everyone?

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By *winging In The RainMan
over a year ago

St Helens / Liverpool

There's probably a 15:1 ratio of men to women, not even counting couples. That's a statistic that I read about on a similar website so could be around the same on here.

When you add in the nutters, timewasters and people that can't form a sentence into the mix I'm not surprised that women on here get fed up =P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

is there that many fakes on here that are really spoiling it for everyone?"

No, there are just that many single men spoiling it for everyone...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

is there that many fakes on here that are really spoiling it for everyone?

No, there are just that many single men spoiling it for everyone..."

in what way are the single men spoiling it?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"There's probably a 15:1 ratio of men to women, not even counting couples. That's a statistic that I read about on a similar website so could be around the same on here.

When you add in the nutters, timewasters and people that can't form a sentence into the mix I'm not surprised that women on here get fed up =P"

total point made! lol

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By *igTeeMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Your right it is hard the divvys ruin it for the genuine ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

is there that many fakes on here that are really spoiling it for everyone?

No, there are just that many single men spoiling it for everyone...

in what way are the single men spoiling it?"

By sending messages to couples and single fems then getting stroppy when you reject them.

By Expecting that because they send a message to a couple or female they are automatically going to want to shag themno matter how much effort they put in.

Or as we had today and on many other occasions, insulting the male half of the couples in the hopes that trying an "alpha male" approach might make me drop my panties in a blind fit of passion....

Thats how single guys are ruining it for other single guys...

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By *igTeeMan
over a year ago

Bradford

is there that many fakes on here that are really spoiling it for everyone?

No, there are just that many single men spoiling it for everyone...

in what way are the single men spoiling it?

Not everyone like that tho it's sad n stupid that that's happened

Like I say the divvys ruining it for the genuine ones

By sending messages to couples and single fems then getting stroppy when you reject them.

By Expecting that because they send a message to a couple or female they are automatically going to want to shag themno matter how much effort they put in.

Or as we had today and on many other occasions, insulting the male half of the couples in the hopes that trying an "alpha male" approach might make me drop my panties in a blind fit of passion....

Thats how single guys are ruining it for other single guys... "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get the argument that others behaviour ruins it for others. The expression, in the kingdom of the blind the one eyed man is king springs to mind. There is so much dross on this site that it doesn't take that much too stand out. The "divvys"make it easier for the guys that do make an effort.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I don't get the argument that others behaviour ruins it for others. The expression, in the kingdom of the blind the one eyed man is king springs to mind. There is so much dross on this site that it doesn't take that much too stand out. The "divvys"make it easier for the guys that do make an effort."

There are some idiots on here, and it aint just single men. If I let the odd cruddy message or crap meet spoil the site for me I'd never meet again.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"should it be really hard for a single guy to get any luck on here?

is there that many fakes on here that are really spoiling it for everyone?"

no... you make your own luck... you get out of it what you put in, and you manage to seperate yourself from others....

people do manage to do that.... the website gives you all the tools to do that, you use all or as little of those as you wish....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be patient. Usually it's the ones who message you that you end up meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just be patient. Usually it's the ones who message you that you end up meeting."

...and the ones who make it least complicated with the least song and dance about it too...

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I generally find people respond well to good manners, politness, some good humour and of course having the ability to actually turn up!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone!

I don't send out many message to be honest, but when I do see someone i like the look/sound of then I do put thought into the message, rather than a one liner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found getting verified at clubs and parties made it easier to get one on one and mmf meets with couples.

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By *ayseanMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Also many couples+even some single women dont want to meet single guys,so dont take it personally mate,their are still plenty who do want to meet,and as mentioned by someone else,get yourself to a club,brilliant way to meet like minded peeps!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

single guys always get the shit treatment because there are so many of them.

dont take it personally because you look at the amount of couples who seek a single bi fem and cannot get one lol.

fems and couples or men posing as couples fuck it up just as much as single guys do.

and if im hated for saying it how it is then so be it.

i get meets and have some very good friends on here.

so it works for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not to worry guys. Ive had no luck what so ever! But ive told to be patient. So thats what im going to do. Even though every body on here keeps blocking me when I send them a message! Never mind, im sure theres light at the end of the tunnel. B-)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've come across a few couples profiles that are single guys but its easy to wheedle them out but there are also couples that are playing a game. I just ignore them and don't think the fakes and timewasters spoil the site; its just par for the course and you will find them on every site.

I do find it odd though that single guys have the chance for a meet but prefer to clear their garden instead

surely having the chance to play is more important? And the Olympics was more important than a meet too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"should it be really hard for a single guy to get any luck on here?

Yes it should. Not just for simgle guys but for everyone. There's no entitlement to get fucked purely through your or anyone elses presence here. Just because we swing doesn't mean that our standards are any less than they would be in the non swinging world.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just to prove how easy it is, I received a message from a lovely local couple after they read moy posts on this thread. To be fair we'd already been chatting a while back but I think it still counts.

There are loads of nice couples and the right ones will come to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thank goodness for forums I say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You never know who you will bump into.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

alot of single guy spoil it for us couples alot .lot of guys have no face pics just cock shoots for a start then you get them who are so rude just because you say no thank you good luck you also have them who dont have a webcam i mean how much is it for a cheap webcam errr not that much means one thing they are hiding something then if they have a webcam you ask them to meet you in one of the chat rooms to chat pm they say well i dont want to chat in room because i dont know of any one in room OMG what the hell is that all about and theres some men on here who are married without there wifes knowing sorry all wrong wish fabs would do something about it name and shame them we use to love this site getting so boring some men are just time wasters all mouth no play just doing it for kicks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

them single men spoiling things only spoil it for themselves, not others,

blaming other people never helps you achieve anything, so look at where you can improove your profile etc, plenty of tips and help on the forum

can always look at people who had good success on the site and try to work out why and go in that direction

but your profile always needs to be one that brings in the reaction of phroar love to meet them or talk more, if it dont then your going to have a constant up hill battle.

and one the main things that gets the ladys going is a good face pic, so if you dont show that then dont expect them to be impressed with a picture of a cock or arse as they can see that anywhere on the internet, can always send them privatley but in most cases they wont even get looked at if they aint on show on ur profile

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did I miss the oylimpic thing ? Didnt see the memo sorry + it's a big world out there much more than this site.

Ps the oylimpic thing was a joke , I can play and watch at the same time how horny is that !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oooooooooo my what did i miss with you baby

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol i havent watched one second of the olympics so never got in the way of any fun for me lol

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By *riskygazMan
over a year ago

birmingham

It is just a case of their being a lot more guys on this site than women, so it is not going to be easy unfortunately, I have almost deleted my profile from the site a couple of times, thinking I am wasting my time on here, but I have stuck with it and I have had a couple off fun meeting, it just always tends to involve and couple off hours drive down the motorway :-$ but just recently after making a few changes to my profile to try and improve it I have had three new women contact me and things are definitely looking up

so stick with it you will get lucky sooner or latter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think single guys do make it harder for others by the wham bam approach. However there are also bad couples and females who also fail to turn up.

In all walks of life there is the bad and the good, just happens that there are more single guys on here so it stands to reason they stand out for no shows.

Patience and a good sense of humour and if the female or couple dont reply then so be it!

Chat rooms and club meets help lots to!

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By *ukkakecoupleukCouple
over a year ago

horsham

we have met some great guys on this site so not all single guys are a time waster . however that is only because you have to sift out all of the total xxxxxxs on here who just send a one sentence note like meet tonight. or does she take dp. and when you advertise a meet say in sussex for tonight at say 8pm .you get a reply from a guy in liverpool saying i will be there .even though they have a 5 hour drive and have no idea where we are going to be .and lastly so few guys have face pics they think a fuzzy pic of their cock will suffice well here news for you guys it doesent. couples and girls have the pick of the crop if you guys dont make an effort or indeed stand out from the others you will never get anywhere.it doesent depend on your looks or the size of your cock .it depends on your attitude how clean you are and how much respect you show others in the way you make and most importantly keep contact .well it does in our case RANT OVER X

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By *stmateMan
over a year ago

Notts

Too many men, not enough women, I'm grateful if I get a "thanks but nothanks" as even they are hard to come by. The best way to describe and please folks don't take it the wrong way, its like fishing, unless u have the knack, u aint got a cat in hells chance.

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

If people, not just single guys, took the time to read profiles then they would know what the others are looking for. we reply to as many emails as we can unless they are obviously not what we are loking for. There are plenty of decent single guys on here who put the effort in and reap the rewards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Too many men, not enough women, I'm grateful if I get a "thanks but nothanks" as even they are hard to come by. The best way to describe and please folks don't take it the wrong way, its like fishing, unless u have the knack, u aint got a cat in hells chance. "

well u cant accomodate - that wipes out at least 50%+ of possible meets

no public photos bar a tiny avatar - just means your message wont get read after they look at your profile in alot of cases, having your message read is half of the battle, you could have the wittiest or most appealing message and pics you sent them over a message but if ur profile holds you back then they probally never see what you sent them!

alot of people dont read messages first, they read profiles, after all looking at the profile lets them know if they are interested in what the message says, too many guys miss this fact and face a uphill battle

like if you get junk mail sent in, usually has company logos on the envelopes, well if you were after getting sky for example and wondered what deals they had you would get your letter from sky and open it and see what they are offering as its what your looking for,

as for the envelope from the double glazing company, well you seen from the companys profile on the enevelope that its not any interest for you, at best you open and throw out, quite often you will just throw it out.

the same happens with every guys messages on here! if they get alot of messages then only the profiles that appeal to them have their messages read!

just the way peoples minds work with supply and demand also weighting it in the females favour

and if you called the double glazing companies sales line to say, you sent me a letter about double glazing im not bothered, thanks but no thanks, would you expect them to say ok no bother, or would you expect them to ask why and try to tell you about their special offers they have on?

now we aint talking about household services but the same logic is applied to unsolicted messages for sex as any other situation when people are asking for something from you all the time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I for one have 2 face pics, am photo verified, had a couple of meets, nothing to write home about I admit, I admit I do send 1 liners, usually directed at or responding to status's or tag lines etc, ive never sent messages that are hostile, disrespectful or anything, if I see a pic of a hot lady in my own opinon I will usually tell them, in words such as "Damn, you partners a lucky guy, ur stunning" or for singles, "god god your bloody gorgous!" Or words to that effect, if you look at any of my face pics, ull see I am as ugly as a bag of spanners, I do find it hard to chat women face to face

as im totally lacking in confidence etc, I think my own body is ok as a counter arguement and I am proud of mr nudge downstairs, as most men are, I know as ive been told by both sexs on here more than a hundred times im "bigger than alot of guys" or "you should have been black" on one occation lol, im not that big headed though lol

But to be honest most people ive spoken to couples or singles are very polite and mannerable, although single guys can be a bit of an issue, especially those closer to home,.its all "im 2 miles away be ready, I want to suck your cock as you suck mine" if I find someone I click with or a couple I click with id travel hundreds of miles if I thought it would be a worthwhile meet, and a gd time, anything that rings bells in ur head should be ignored, I made that mistake to, went for a meet with a SINGLE girl. Only for her HUSBAND to knock on the car window as I blew a wad all over her face and the upholstru, apparenttly it was his car also....., a black eye and split like ensued.... So be carefully, alot of people are not what they say they are...ive witnessed 1st hand proof of this xxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"should it be really hard for a single guy to get any luck on here?

I didn't mean it like hard to get a f**k, my apologies for making that sound S***y, I just meant in general talking as well as meeting people, or even getting replies, when I message someone it isn't just so I can get a F***, it because I like the person as a whole from going by their profile, even if someone is beautiful and they want to f*** if there's no chemistry then I'm not interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, there are just that many single men spoiling it for everyone..."

Couldn't agree more

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