FabSwingers.com forum: First couples meet?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi all, we’ve had our first meet with a guy with was great but pretty much got down to doing the dirty from the off and chatted after. We are looking to meet a couple for the first time but are sort of expecting it to be a bit more social and getting to know each other first? How do these things go and how do you know if/when things are moving to the next stage?

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

There's two ways I'd say. But experience tells us you never really know chemistry until you met in person.

The first find a couple on here. Get to know them a little and arrange a date night on neutral ground. Somewhere for a few drinks maybe. Don't plan for play and dont put it on the table before hand. But then if the chemistry is right things can flow naturally to the bedroom without pressure. You can always secretly have a plan to get them into bed if it goes well that night like saying later on you actually have a hotel room would they like to come round for a drink in private? Or simply arrange something for a future date. The down side to this is you could put lots of effort into armaments etc and things not work out. And this could happen a few times and take a lot of time and effort to find something that works.

Our preferred method is simple, go to clubs. The main advantage to a club night is you get to sort of speed date. You can socialise with other couples. If the chemistry is right (which you'll kind of know very early on) you can let it flow naturally into a play room or a follow date outside of the club (or both). If the chemistry isn't right you get to move on to other couples that very night without obligation or pressure. And so does the other couple without hard feelings. Clubs give you more opportunity, waste less time and result in less disappointment. Also you sometimes find that some people who's profile on Fab you may not have fancied are actually really cool in reality. You'll find a lot of swinging friendships are made in clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not sure how it works with how people meet and go forward, but id prefer to feel comfortable. Id assume a male joining a couple woth another male present can be fairly intimidating esp if you dont have or havnt built any connection together. Doesnt have to be "romantic connection" but feel at ease, build trust, get to know eachother.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldnt imagine knocking on a couples front door and within a couple minutes my cocks in someones wifes mouth or vagina lol. That to be would be awkward.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I couldnt imagine knocking on a couples front door and within a couple minutes my cocks in someones wifes mouth or vagina lol. That to be would be awkward."

Less so than you would think but takes balls to actually knock on the door!

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

"I couldnt imagine knocking on a couples front door and within a couple minutes my cocks in someones wifes mouth or vagina lol. That to be would be awkward."

Very English of you... Its swinging not dating.

But as above, we meet first in a club, it's surely far more efficient than trying to build something online.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never said it was dating. Id just prefer to have a drink before fucking someones wife! Lol

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

"Never said it was dating. Id just prefer to have a drink before fucking someones wife! Lol"

Well each to their own. Just that some people do want to get down to it immediately. Some don't.

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Everyone does things differently. It's about finding couples who also want to enjoy the social side too.

We prefer it that way but others won't.

We tend to meet for drinks. Sometimes it will definitely only be a social but other times the intention is that if everyone agreed we move on to play. Usually once everyone is relaxed with each other and we know there is some sexual chemistry.

Just do what feels right for you.

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By *etro1940sCouple
over a year ago

Kingston upon Thames

We prefer and recommend a club - it is a natural place to flirt/chat and then of course take things further without the expectations of a "here we are" moment. x Anne & George

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As suggested by previous members , clubs are a good place for meets . Only thing is you don't have time to vet them out if they are drug users , practice safe sex , married etc . You just chose them from their external appearance . If it's only about sex that you want then clubs are amazing .

Meet fuck and go .

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