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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi I’ve been on fab for a couple of weeks now with not much lucky really.

I think my profile is honest in what I’m looking for but think I’m struggling with how I message women I’m interested in.

Am I being to nice I don’t know? Don’t get me wrong I love being naughty and having some filthy chat and saying what I like but don’t want to send a first message just saying I want to fuck them.

Any advice guys.

Cheers

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Most guys have a similar issue.

I don't think it's because you're too nice.

Do you read profiles and use them in your messages?

The pandemic doesn't help.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah I will always read the profile and use them in my message because I have the same interests and likes?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m a big boy I understand I’m not going to be everyone’s cup of tea and that’s fine.

There are two great girl I’ve been chatting with but I would like to widen the net a bit.. haha

So thought maybe it how I’m coming across??

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham


"Hi I’ve been on fab for a couple of weeks now"

What did someone tell you the site was about?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’ve never been on a dating site in my life but always wanted to experience new things going to swingers club ,couples , threesomes etc my friend had been on this site in the past and said there would be more like minded people on this site instead of going on a normal dating site it’s more open on fab because people have the same interests?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m a big boy I understand I’m not going to be everyone’s cup of tea and that’s fine.

There are two great girl I’ve been chatting with but I would like to widen the net a bit.. haha

So thought maybe it how I’m coming across??"

Why not just concentrate on the 2 women that your chatting with?

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By *evilandTheBeastCouple
over a year ago

Peterborough and Bedford

We are still in the middle of pandemic even if there is light at the end of this tunnel. Some people choose not to chat with strangers online when they can't even meet their families or friends properly.

Our advice would be, be patient. 3 weeks on Fab was nothing even before Covid.

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater

Three week is hardly any time for a man you will get a lot of rejection, be patient and once things get back to normal, your luck might change

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ha ha no I will but as I said I would be nice to widen the net a little and that happened this week after about 40 try’s so just curious if I’m doing something wrong.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys I do appreciate the reply’s

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By *igk79Man
over a year ago

London

I've been on here months been on here b4 years back but as I say been on here for months and it's just blanked some reply but very rarely I've tried being nice I've tried being direct nothing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Three weeks is not even equivalent to a nanosecond on Fab.

Patience is your friend.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

You have been here 3 weeks and we are in a pandemic

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys appreciate it.

I’ll solider on haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s only a relatively short period of time so continue as you are . For me a polite introductory message wins every time . Just keep being you don’t take things too much to heart

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It’s only a relatively short period of time so continue as you are . For me a polite introductory message wins every time . Just keep being you don’t take things too much to heart "

Thanks

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

3 weeks isn't just a little bit of fuck all it's a massive bit of fuck all. Meets are against site rules at the moment as I'm sure you're aware and considerate of that fact. So, communication isn't gonna be as forthcoming. A bit like walking up to a closed restaurant - you ain't gonna get fed.

Right then. Let's get into it, what is it you were and are expecting? Knee deep in vag? Swimming in pussy juice? Fighting off the fanny?

Most blokes join here with some seriously cock-eyed expectations.... Coz even a half decent conversation is something that's not all that common when it comes to the perils of the inbox.

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By *AABMan
over a year ago

Not far

I think you need to manage your expectations OP. For every 50 beautiful hand crafted messages you send, statistically you might get one reply. Suggest also you spend time looking at male profiles, note what looks good and what looks crap, and redo yours accordingly.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I think you need to manage your expectations OP. For every 50 beautiful hand crafted messages you send, statistically you might get one reply. Suggest also you spend time looking at male profiles, note what looks good and what looks crap, and redo yours accordingly. "

If that was true no one would bother. A good Fab profile is like holding the maximum number of premium bonds, you dint have to do anything but most months you win something

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

If you have managed to start & sustain 2 promising conversations in 3 weeks then I'd say you are already doing better than a lot on here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"3 weeks isn't just a little bit of fuck all it's a massive bit of fuck all. Meets are against site rules at the moment as I'm sure you're aware and considerate of that fact. So, communication isn't gonna be as forthcoming. A bit like walking up to a closed restaurant - you ain't gonna get fed.

Right then. Let's get into it, what is it you were and are expecting? Knee deep in vag? Swimming in pussy juice? Fighting off the fanny?

Most blokes join here with some seriously cock-eyed expectations.... Coz even a half decent conversation is something that's not all that common when it comes to the perils of the inbox.

"

That’s probably the funniest thing I’ve read in a long time..

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

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"3 weeks isn't just a little bit of fuck all it's a massive bit of fuck all. Meets are against site rules at the moment as I'm sure you're aware and considerate of that fact. So, communication isn't gonna be as forthcoming. A bit like walking up to a closed restaurant - you ain't gonna get fed.

Right then. Let's get into it, what is it you were and are expecting? Knee deep in vag? Swimming in pussy juice? Fighting off the fanny?

Most blokes join here with some seriously cock-eyed expectations.... Coz even a half decent conversation is something that's not all that common when it comes to the perils of the inbox.

That’s probably the funniest thing I’ve read in a long time..

"

Have to agree that this is funny, but the funny thing about is it that the poster is about spot on with it.

You have been here 3 weeks OP, and we are still in a pandemic.

What were you actually expecting?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Let me explain

I was in a 20 year relationship never been on a dating site or sex site whatever you want to call it maybe I was questioning myself and my approach having never done this before.

I’m not expecting fanny on tap... Ha ha far from it I’m actually very picky ha ha

I really appreciate everyones advice and reply’s and keep doing what I’m doing being nice and respectful and polite and just being me.

Thanks again everyone.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Let me explain

I was in a 20 year relationship never been on a dating site or sex site whatever you want to call it maybe I was questioning myself and my approach having never done this before.

I’m not expecting fanny on tap... Ha ha far from it I’m actually very picky ha ha

I really appreciate everyones advice and reply’s and keep doing what I’m doing being nice and respectful and polite and just being me.

Thanks again everyone."

What's with the Haha

Haha

Ha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m a funny bloke what can I say...

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"I’m a funny bloke what can I say..."

Yes but lose the haha

Ha

Ha xxx

Has

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

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"Let me explain

I was in a 20 year relationship never been on a dating site or sex site whatever you want to call it maybe I was questioning myself and my approach having never done this before.

I’m not expecting fanny on tap... Ha ha far from it I’m actually very picky ha ha

I really appreciate everyones advice and reply’s and keep doing what I’m doing being nice and respectful and polite and just being me.

Thanks again everyone.

What's with the Haha

Haha

Ha"

We think the same every time we see it.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Let me explain

I was in a 20 year relationship never been on a dating site or sex site whatever you want to call it maybe I was questioning myself and my approach having never done this before.

I’m not expecting fanny on tap... Ha ha far from it I’m actually very picky ha ha

I really appreciate everyones advice and reply’s and keep doing what I’m doing being nice and respectful and polite and just being me.

Thanks again everyone.

What's with the Haha

Haha

Ha

We think the same every time we see it.

"

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