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"I hear you frustrations and I’m hearing you want physical connection.... I’m wondering how is the mental connection, fun starts in the mind.... I’m confused though, your profile is only showing as a female with an empty male side " . It was her profile originally from before we got together. As for the mental connection its good when she in the mood and its okay when shes not | |||
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"Does she read the forums ?" I stopped reading the forums, partly because of your comments on people's posts. Dammit, I thought you'd stopped. I'm out again. | |||
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"Does she read the forums ?" Not usually but their isnt anything I've said that I'd hide from her. I probably tell her ive posted this so she can see for herself | |||
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"Does she read the forums ? I stopped reading the forums, partly because of your comments on people's posts. Dammit, I thought you'd stopped. I'm out again. " Sorry if my question has upset you. | |||
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" It was her profile originally from before we got together. The verifications are for her as a single woman so should you be using the profile ? " We both agreed to continue using her existing profile she gave me access to it and knows i have access + we did amend the name to playful couple | |||
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"She likes being dominated but still has to be in the mood for sex to start with. If she doesn’t want sex and you try and force it that’s a different thing. So when she wants to play that’s when you can dominate. My advice would be teasing and flirting but that’s it. Squeeze her bum as you walk past but nothing else. When I don’t want sex I find guys hitting on me makes me skin crawl but a cheeky act with nothing else can be nice. The more of those that have no follow through hopefully the more relaxed she will feel. But keep talking with her about it. Good luck to you both " I'm really not a pushy person my thrill come from her enjoyment I really am a pleaser. However there have been sinarios why shes claimed to be uninterested so i respectfully back off. Then she'd complain that I didn't push further. She seems to get the kick from me not being able to resist. But only when shes in that mind set. I feel as though my biggest failing in not being psychic. | |||
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"I'm the male half of this profile. My partner seems to have lost her labido. Although we are very much in love I've had to back off temporarily to avoid putting pressure on her. I fully understand why shes temporarily lost interest and its not something I want to go into on here. A couple of nights ago we decided to play a truth or dare game we downloaded. She was asked what does your partner do that instantly turns you on. She response was she loves it when I'm dominant and take control. I have no issues in playing a dom role and took the opportunity to make a move needless to say my advances were rejected. I know when shes in the mood she sometimes likes to be bratty and wants me to push those initial boundaries. I pushed passed her initial rejection and tried respectfully to continue to make a play. I was rejected again. It was clear she was clearly not in the mood and it was not the right time to push further. The issue It would appear that she wants me to make the first move but their isn't any signal or green light to give me the go ahead. How do I balence this issue I want to meet her sexual desires and be the dom she craves. However if my advances are meet with friction and hostility 75% of the time. I dont want us to fall out or have to deal with the rejection and the feelings of not being wanted. Some might say man up but I'm sure if a man rejects a womans advances over 50% of the time it would affect her self confidence and esteem. Ive tried to discuss this with her but its meet with little response. Any ideas anyone?? " The messages you say you're getting from your OH. Her libido is low / iffy. She wants you to dominate me. She won't tell you when is the right time to initiate sex. If that's the case it sounds difficult to get the balance right between initiating and respecting her low libido. For what my advice is worth, really really talk about what you both want and come up with some 'rules' around how and when you both initiate / have sex. Good Luck to you both. | |||
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"I'm the male half of this profile. My partner seems to have lost her labido. Although we are very much in love I've had to back off temporarily to avoid putting pressure on her. I fully understand why shes temporarily lost interest and its not something I want to go into on here. A couple of nights ago we decided to play a truth or dare game we downloaded. She was asked what does your partner do that instantly turns you on. She response was she loves it when I'm dominant and take control. I have no issues in playing a dom role and took the opportunity to make a move needless to say my advances were rejected. I know when shes in the mood she sometimes likes to be bratty and wants me to push those initial boundaries. I pushed passed her initial rejection and tried respectfully to continue to make a play. I was rejected again. It was clear she was clearly not in the mood and it was not the right time to push further. The issue It would appear that she wants me to make the first move but their isn't any signal or green light to give me the go ahead. How do I balence this issue I want to meet her sexual desires and be the dom she craves. However if my advances are meet with friction and hostility 75% of the time. I dont want us to fall out or have to deal with the rejection and the feelings of not being wanted. Some might say man up but I'm sure if a man rejects a womans advances over 50% of the time it would affect her self confidence and esteem. Ive tried to discuss this with her but its meet with little response. Any ideas anyone?? The messages you say you're getting from your OH. Her libido is low / iffy. She wants you to dominate me. She won't tell you when is the right time to initiate sex. If that's the case it sounds difficult to get the balance right between initiating and respecting her low libido. For what my advice is worth, really really talk about what you both want and come up with some 'rules' around how and when you both initiate / have sex. Good Luck to you both. " Thanks I'll try that | |||
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