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By *GE154 OP   Man
over a year ago

Basingstoke

Hi

Im not after advice on my profile, I know a lot of people ask that and people get frustrated but I was rather after some advice or anyones experiences on actually getting a meet?

Ive been on here for some time now, I spent a few months away though and then came back, either way it seems impossible to get a meet

Now I know there are tons of guys on here so immediately I am fighting a losing battle, but it seems like the times when I do arrange a meet with someone they then cancel because something has come up. I know this may be the case some of the time but it gets a bit frustrating after so long

Anyway any advice on how people went about finding that first meet or how long it took them will be greatly appreciated

Thanks x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After the person has agreed to meet you, try and keep the date as soon as possible. You don't want the spark to fizzle out.

The night before, make sure you are exchanging messages and if at all possible speak to the person on the phone.

If you get the phone chat, doesnt mean phone sex, you are very close to making sure you secure your date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aged 19 and on here over a year, go out in the real world first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pop in to your local chat room on here, show yourself on cam. Attend local socials, and possibly meet at a swingers club.

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest


"After the person has agreed to meet you, try and keep the date as soon as possible. You don't want the spark to fizzle out.

The night before, make sure you are exchanging messages and if at all possible speak to the person on the phone.

If you get the phone chat, doesnt mean phone sex, you are very close to making sure you secure your date."

good advice

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By *ilmisseCouple
over a year ago

leicestershire


"Aged 19 and on here over a year, go out in the real world first."

Aged 48 and been here 3 weeks, learn some manners first.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Pop in to your local chat room on here, show yourself on cam. Attend local socials, and possibly meet at a swingers club.

"

At some clubs the lowest age for members is 21...

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By *GE154 OP   Man
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Aged 19 and on here over a year, go out in the real world first.

Aged 48 and been here 3 weeks, learn some manners first."

Thanks

Like I said at the top, I did leave here for a while but came back, I understand my age isn't everyones cup of tea but I wasn't asking you to meet me but rather just for some advice, its a shame a lot of people seem to judge people on their age range rather than themselves

Also thank you for your other advice guys, very helpful and I really appreciate it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People will judge on age, it often features highly in people's preferences.

It's also hard to not offer advice without discussing your profile as that is effectively your shop window with which to sell yourself.

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By *orth West CoupleCouple
over a year ago

liverpool


"Aged 19 and on here over a year, go out in the real world first.

Aged 48 and been here 3 weeks, learn some manners first."
That would be difficult, have you read her profile...Miss personality 2012 or what

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By *GE154 OP   Man
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"People will judge on age, it often features highly in people's preferences.

It's also hard to not offer advice without discussing your profile as that is effectively your shop window with which to sell yourself."

Like I say I have no problem with people not being interested in me because of my age, I cant sit here and say im exactly the same as a 40 year old, I just wish people wouldnt assume because im young im not serious, or polite, or understanding etc.

If you want to look at it and give me some feedback it will be welcomed. The main point of the thread though was to see how difficult people found arranging their first meet OR how many times they get let down, I expect it with the amount of men on here but I thought most of the woman were genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People will judge on age, it often features highly in people's preferences.

It's also hard to not offer advice without discussing your profile as that is effectively your shop window with which to sell yourself.

Like I say I have no problem with people not being interested in me because of my age, I cant sit here and say im exactly the same as a 40 year old, I just wish people wouldnt assume because im young im not serious, or polite, or understanding etc.

If you want to look at it and give me some feedback it will be welcomed. The main point of the thread though was to see how difficult people found arranging their first meet OR how many times they get let down, I expect it with the amount of men on here but I thought most of the woman were genuine"

As a couple... We turn em down cos we get plenty of offers.

As a single... I struggled, did a very long apprenticeship, earned my stripes and it went from there. Many windowshoppers who liked but were too far away, and locally the scene used to be dead, so I knew I'd have to travel loads (which is a bit of a pain when you've got...humanitarian requirements). Anyway, if you prove yourself, and you say you're balanced and determined to make a good go of it then the right people will find you in the end. It's just a case of waiting like the ever patient fisherman for a bite at the end of the line.

...So good luck!

Wolf

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Aged 19 and on here over a year, go out in the real world first.

Aged 48 and been here 3 weeks, learn some manners first."

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By *GE154 OP   Man
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"People will judge on age, it often features highly in people's preferences.

It's also hard to not offer advice without discussing your profile as that is effectively your shop window with which to sell yourself.

Like I say I have no problem with people not being interested in me because of my age, I cant sit here and say im exactly the same as a 40 year old, I just wish people wouldnt assume because im young im not serious, or polite, or understanding etc.

If you want to look at it and give me some feedback it will be welcomed. The main point of the thread though was to see how difficult people found arranging their first meet OR how many times they get let down, I expect it with the amount of men on here but I thought most of the woman were genuine

As a couple... We turn em down cos we get plenty of offers.

As a single... I struggled, did a very long apprenticeship, earned my stripes and it went from there. Many windowshoppers who liked but were too far away, and locally the scene used to be dead, so I knew I'd have to travel loads (which is a bit of a pain when you've got...humanitarian requirements). Anyway, if you prove yourself, and you say you're balanced and determined to make a good go of it then the right people will find you in the end. It's just a case of waiting like the ever patient fisherman for a bite at the end of the line.

...So good luck!

Wolf

"

Cheers

Yeah I seem to find theres a few people that are just too far away to travel to :/

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People will judge on age, it often features highly in people's preferences.

It's also hard to not offer advice without discussing your profile as that is effectively your shop window with which to sell yourself.

Like I say I have no problem with people not being interested in me because of my age, I cant sit here and say im exactly the same as a 40 year old, I just wish people wouldnt assume because im young im not serious, or polite, or understanding etc.

If you want to look at it and give me some feedback it will be welcomed. The main point of the thread though was to see how difficult people found arranging their first meet OR how many times they get let down, I expect it with the amount of men on here but I thought most of the woman were genuine"

Be careful when you generalise, we all don't think that you are not serious, polite or understanding, it really does boil down to your age and that alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well quick scan of your profile and couple points. 1st loose the naked cock shot as you'll find it turns alot off and the ones it attracts are the wrong sort.

2. No upper age limit? Personally would think you take whatever on offer and a 19 with a 72yr is hard to imagine (although not ageist) once you get intrest shown be polite, respectful and have patience not one of us can say we haven't come across time wasters and fakers but the odd gems make it worth while

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By *GE154 OP   Man
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"People will judge on age, it often features highly in people's preferences.

It's also hard to not offer advice without discussing your profile as that is effectively your shop window with which to sell yourself.

Like I say I have no problem with people not being interested in me because of my age, I cant sit here and say im exactly the same as a 40 year old, I just wish people wouldnt assume because im young im not serious, or polite, or understanding etc.

If you want to look at it and give me some feedback it will be welcomed. The main point of the thread though was to see how difficult people found arranging their first meet OR how many times they get let down, I expect it with the amount of men on here but I thought most of the woman were genuine

Be careful when you generalise, we all don't think that you are not serious, polite or understanding, it really does boil down to your age and that alone"

I completely understand, I did mention before that 'most' people do but I have also spoken to a few really nice people who dont, I understand my age isnt for everyone and I respect that sorry to have caused any offence

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By *GE154 OP   Man
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Well quick scan of your profile and couple points. 1st loose the naked cock shot as you'll find it turns alot off and the ones it attracts are the wrong sort.

2. No upper age limit? Personally would think you take whatever on offer and a 19 with a 72yr is hard to imagine (although not ageist) once you get intrest shown be polite, respectful and have patience not one of us can say we haven't come across time wasters and fakers but the odd gems make it worth while "

I dont have any cock shots, and I have an age limit of 55 not sure if you looked at the right profile? If you did then something may be wrong, ive had those limits on for a while

Also thanks for the other advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Become bi, then you will find a ton of so called straight guys will pester you...only teasing,.....i do think cam in chat room is best for someone your age..just show yourself and bot your bits.lol..also, check out a load of profiles and take an average of the ages... You wlll find that most peeps are over 30+ as swinging or wife swap in our view tends to be for couples(not single) over a certan age alowing them to find a happy place in there relationship wer e both parties are happy and understand why..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd suggest keep talking to really sexy women :D

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By *GE154 OP   Man
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"Become bi, then you will find a ton of so called straight guys will pester you...only teasing,.....i do think cam in chat room is best for someone your age..just show yourself and bot your bits.lol..also, check out a load of profiles and take an average of the ages... You wlll find that most peeps are over 30+ as swinging or wife swap in our view tends to be for couples(not single) over a certan age alowing them to find a happy place in there relationship wer e both parties are happy and understand why.. "

lol nice plan

Ok, thanks for the suggestion, I'll be sure to visit them a lot more

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By *GE154 OP   Man
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"I'd suggest keep talking to really sexy women :D"

haha dont worry I will

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd suggest keep talking to really sexy women :D

haha dont worry I will "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People will judge on age, it often features highly in people's preferences.

It's also hard to not offer advice without discussing your profile as that is effectively your shop window with which to sell yourself.

Like I say I have no problem with people not being interested in me because of my age, I cant sit here and say im exactly the same as a 40 year old, I just wish people wouldnt assume because im young im not serious, or polite, or understanding etc.

If you want to look at it and give me some feedback it will be welcomed. The main point of the thread though was to see how difficult people found arranging their first meet OR how many times they get let down, I expect it with the amount of men on here but I thought most of the woman were genuine

Be careful when you generalise, we all don't think that you are not serious, polite or understanding, it really does boil down to your age and that alone

I completely understand, I did mention before that 'most' people do but I have also spoken to a few really nice people who dont, I understand my age isnt for everyone and I respect that sorry to have caused any offence "

No offence seen so no apology necessary

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By *GE154 OP   Man
over a year ago

Basingstoke


"People will judge on age, it often features highly in people's preferences.

It's also hard to not offer advice without discussing your profile as that is effectively your shop window with which to sell yourself.

Like I say I have no problem with people not being interested in me because of my age, I cant sit here and say im exactly the same as a 40 year old, I just wish people wouldnt assume because im young im not serious, or polite, or understanding etc.

If you want to look at it and give me some feedback it will be welcomed. The main point of the thread though was to see how difficult people found arranging their first meet OR how many times they get let down, I expect it with the amount of men on here but I thought most of the woman were genuine

Be careful when you generalise, we all don't think that you are not serious, polite or understanding, it really does boil down to your age and that alone

I completely understand, I did mention before that 'most' people do but I have also spoken to a few really nice people who dont, I understand my age isnt for everyone and I respect that sorry to have caused any offence

No offence seen so no apology necessary "

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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago

Here occasionally, but mostly somewhere else

It's been said in the thread, but bears repeating.

Go to socials.

It worked for me. One social got me further than 6 months of messaging. The other advantage to you is that people are rubbish at guessing ages - they'll ssume you're 22/23 and be more receptive. If they find out later, you've already made the first impression...

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