FabSwingers.com forum: Being a virgin

By *indHeartedPrince OP Man
over a year ago

southend on sea

Hi everyone I’m Ryan I’m 24 I’m from Essex Southend and I been talking to a lot of people but no one want to answer me I don’t know what it is but I think it’s because of me being a virgin and everyone says you need to have experience with sex before someone takes it well how can someone say that and think oh he’s a virgin I guess I avoid him but it is kinda stupid how people say u need to do it because I will help out but how can you do something without helping them first which is kinda stupid in my eyes

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

It may be that or it may be other reasons, but most people on here are here to live out their fantasies, and as much as it is a community, people aren't looking to "help out" each other unless they know each other.

They don't necessarily want to be the one to take someone's virginity so it just is unlikely to be what the majority of people are looking for.

Very few messages that anybody sends get answered, it's not just you.

There are much more men than ladies and couples on here, so there is a lot of choice for people who might be looking to engage with somebody, are you showing your best features and being as descriptive as possible about yourself in your profile?

After lockdown some people might only get one chance every few weeks to meet someone due to other commitments, they are likely to pursue the best chance of getting what they are looking for from that meet.

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By *inkySeeKinkyDoWoman
over a year ago

'tween PontyCarlo & CasVegas in West Yorks

I think that could be a possibility as most people are here for their own enjoyment, and are not here to give experience to those who are inexperienced.

There are however other things that will affect your success on here, such as:

Your young age (nobody in my age group wants to have sex with people the same age as their children)

Your 'shop window' may not be as appealing as it could be.

Your profile text may contain spelling and grammar and language errors which might not give the right impression.

Personally i dont think this is the right site for what you are seeking, but i dont know where would be either

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By *ndtheswingersMan
over a year ago

colchester

I would say that you are an alright looking bloke.

I don't personally find guys attractive but I'm sure plenty would.

You might want to calm yourself a little and try not to make an issue out of it, try and show your personality and in time, things will happen for you I'm sure.

This might not be the best place for you as maybe you're looking to get laid which isn't necessarily what others are here for?

Happy to chat if you want to dm, but I'm really not a sexgod that has all the answers, but happy to help if I can

Good luck on here if you stay, don't make a non problem a problem for yourself mate!

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By *icola2202Couple
over a year ago

Chatham

We’re a couple looking for a woman to join us and it’s the same for us as we have no experience in an extra person

People want a good time not to teach someone along the way it sounds harsh but it is what it is

Be patient lad it will happen for you

Ps they are rare but some women like to be the one to take a virginity

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By *icola2202Couple
over a year ago

Chatham

Your profile says you have a block on content for that go to service provider shop show them ID and tell them to remove

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By *ove3funCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Focus on your plus points not the negatives as you see them. Be kind to yourself

You're not what I'm looking for (ladies only) so your target audience may have different ideas however I would take some good photos of yourself - basically the same ones but with no headset or filter.

Make a selling point out of your virginity, looking for someone to pop my cherry etc.

Good luck!

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By *indHeartedPrince OP Man
over a year ago

southend on sea

Already did that but won’t allow it still as they just don’t want the hassle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why on earth should anybody “help you out” male or female just because you say you are a virgin.

You are entitled to absolutely nothing and in my opinion the more effort you put in the greater rewards you can reap.

Best of luck op.

Sea sea Seasiders!!!

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Like what was said above, nobody has to help you, it's up to you to to try and attract them. There are so many single guys on here so try and do something different with your profile to try and stand out. As it is, it's a bit whingy and that's going to be a turn off for a lot of people.

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By *lackbomberMan
over a year ago

newtownabbey

Lad my advice to you just go on a dating site pof and you will find someone that will give u a good service to pop that cherry or u could find love

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

"Why on earth should anybody “help you out” male or female just because you say you are a virgin.

You are entitled to absolutely nothing and in my opinion the more effort you put in the greater rewards you can reap.

Best of luck op.

Sea sea Seasiders!!!

This.

Your status says that you are annoyed because no one wants to help you.

That sounds like an awful sense of entitlement to be honest.

Maybe you are expecting too much?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m sure you really do find it annoying that people won’t help you out by taking your virginity.

I’m a virgin too now I’ve had reassignment surgery. I’ve been on this site nine years and have had a wealth of experiences.

However, with a new vagina that’s never had the touch of a man, fab is most certainly not the place I’m looking for my first experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hit the bars in the summer or find some parties. That's what the 20s is all about...Enjoy

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By *ocktail22Man
over a year ago

Anywhere you are

Hey there Ryan, hope you are well buddy. Look, if someone doesn't want to message you or chat to you because you are a virgin then it's their loss. I don't think you being a virgin should be any reason not too talk to you, you seem a decent human being and you look like a handsome guy. Don't let that put you off or down. Tried to pm you but you are not taking messages from single males.

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By *luttyLaylaWoman
over a year ago

North West

Your profile is so negative.

Write a bit about what your looking for, or what you think you’ll be interested in rather than a rant, moaning about people we don’t know slating you.

No one is here to “help out” anyone and it seems rude to expect that.

I reply to virgins all the time, but yours looks like a pity party.

Liven it up a bit and let people get to know you!

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Your profile is very negative and your status entitled.

We don't need an explanation of your service provider issues, you don't need to explain everything.

You come across as quite insecure and defensive.

I'm sure you are a funny guy with a personality. Show that in your profile and your messages and you'll probably get a lot further.

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

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"Your profile is very negative and your status entitled.

We don't need an explanation of your service provider issues, you don't need to explain everything.

You come across as quite insecure and defensive.

I'm sure you are a funny guy with a personality. Show that in your profile and your messages and you'll probably get a lot further."

I agree with this....I come on here for fun and to escape. Negativity isn't attractive to me as I try and be quite positive; seeing a profile that's so negative and complainy turns me off them. Good luck OP

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

There are probably women out there who would love to pop your cherry, but you have to make it sound like fun!

Failing that, have you thought about a full service sex worker? There's absolutely no shame in that, they could probably show you a whole host of things and give you an amazing experience.

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

Your pictures need some variety. Maybe some of you doing something active, even smiling.

However, get rid of that pussy cat image asap. They have been discussed on here before and the overwhelming consensus is don't.

Well done, anyway, for having a face pic at all. Tends to imply that you aren't hiding from anybody.

You probably chose the best one for your profile shot as headphones can look nerdy and the other two are badly lit and need binning completely.

Also probably best to keep quiet about the virginity. As someone else suggested, go and get that sorted out. I'm sure you've got £50 in the piggy bank. If it all went on the headphones, re-examine your priorities!

Good luck.

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By *ornucopiaMan
over a year ago

Bexley

I've just re read your profile and noticed that you are bisexual.

The mind boggles that your virginity includes the bisexual element as this site is heaving with offers. Maybe others didn't notice that also!

Oh, and think about getting rid of at least one instance of 'kinda stupid'. Perhaps get rid of that entire musing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bit like ye ole' job conundrum when you're starting a career:

Need a job to get experience, need experience to get a job.

Then one day someone gives you a chance. But getting annoyed and frustrated is going to hinder you more than help you. Hang in there OP

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