FabSwingers.com forum: What would you do?

By *assyBangBang OP Woman
over a year ago

St Helens

Ideally looking for points of view from a male perspective please.

Imagine if you had a FWB that you had previously decided to stop seeing in the benefits way, but still saw regularly for dinners at your place and film nights, went out for the occasional walk, sometimes having a hug on the sofa before she went home. You decided to stop the sexual side because you were feeling a bit guilty about her being married (though she had and still has full knowledge and consent of her husband) and you both had some feelings for each other. You’ve not disclosed to her your feelings, just that you had some, but are aware how she felt/feels.

She has made in clear on a few occasions that she would definitely be up for having naughty fun again, you’re trying to be “good”. You’re single still.

One evening she turns up unannounced in brand new sexy lingerie, a suspender belt, stockings and heels under her coat, which you see after slips it off once she’s asked to step in for a moment. Do you take her upstairs or ask her to go home?

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A few points from me:

I’m in a bit of a predicament and although I have the courage to go and do this, I don’t want to potentially upset him. We get on very well, we’ve known each other for over two years now. The sex was great and only stopped for what’s outlined about. He seems to feel the need to be good for some reason, I’d love for us to occasionally have fun. Yesterday I went for dinner and I caught him on a couple of occasions staring at my cleavage. Husband thinks I should turn up tonight as outlined in the scenario above, whereas I’m cautious. I’ve tried to have the conversation about sex with him before. He reiterates the need to be good. He’s not said no, but he’s not said yes either. Canvassing opinions before I go potentially make an idiot of myself

By *d4ugirlsMan
over a year ago

Green Cove Springs

My thoughts are he has found someone he is dating and is serious about.

Sounds like he enjoys your company and the time you spend together, but becomes conflicted when it turns passionate.

Perhaps he is concerned that if he approaches you about a relationship he is having he feels he might lose what he has.

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My thoughts are he has found someone he is dating and is serious about.

Sounds like he enjoys your company and the time you spend together, but becomes conflicted when it turns passionate.

Perhaps he is concerned that if he approaches you about a relationship he is having he feels he might lose what he has."

Nailed it!

By *ancelot1633Man
over a year ago

weybridge

If it was me I think take the pain now and avoid things getting out of hand and messy down the line. As an attractive female there are so many other fish in the sea and some will be better than the one you already caught. Go fishing and practice catch and release. Have fun, stay safe, don’t mess things up.

Of course that’s only my opinion, good luck xx